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Letting the past... stay there.
I always feel the need to rectify and straighten out ( or I guess reiterate) every little problem, situation, or misunderstanding.
For example: This boy, at my school, about a year ago he told everyone I was stalking him and although everything is cleared up now every time I see him I still feel the need to go up to him and talk to him about it.
When is it best to just let things go?
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Let me tell you a couple stories from high school.
There was this guy my friend really liked, so she points him out to me one day and he catches me staring at him. For some reason I started accidently running into him EVERYWHERE after that, and it's not like he didn't notice. About 3 months after the staring incident I called him (thank you student directory) and told him it was unintentional stalking. He didn't really believe me until he realized that I ignored him each time we showed up at the same place. We aren't really friends now but he tends to smile at me instead of freak (for some reason we still run into each other a lot).
That took maybe 6 months to clear out.
From 6th grade to 12th grade there was this girl that made my life hell. We had gotten into a couple fights... which meant I'd cracked her in the face a few times, not really a fight, more like an assault... but we hadn't settled things. So I spread a rumour my senior year of high school that she had syphillis. It was childish and stupid, but I felt better about the situation and don't really care anymore.
That took 7 years to clear out.
The point is, you have to decide the severity of the situation. I'd love to tell you that you should let things go immediately, but let's face it: some things you just can't always let go of. This doesn't sound like too bad of a circumstance, really. I'd just let it go if I were you. I'm sure he's tired of talking about it, because it was a year ago.
If you can force yourself to stop talking about it you'll stop caring about it, but if you can't do that, then you need to find some closure for it, though if you're still talking to him all the time about it, I'm not sure what that closure would be... I'd just let it go. You'll have other things to worry about... Soonly, I'm sure. ^_^
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when you see him, instead of going up to him to talk about that, talk to him about something else. develop a new relationship with him and eventually the whole stalking thing will fade.
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