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hey ... so i am 14 & i just got my period and i DO NOT WANNA TELL MY MOM! but i only have enough pads and stuff to last me maybey 2 days and i am gonna have to tell her if i want to be able to buy more!?? sooo what do i do? because if i tell her she wil laugh and tell my sister. and if my sister finds out she will tell the WORLD !! sooo embarressing. and i also wanna know what am i supposed to do? am i supposed to wear a pad all day? change it? tampon vs. pad??? HELP PLEASE!
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Relax! :)
This happens to every girl! :)
When your mother is alone (as this IS a private female matter) then approach her as so...
"Mom...I really need to talk about something..."
If she is available at the time then suggest she sit down with you for a moment. This makes for a more relaxed environment for you and your mother. Simply sit down with her and say...
"I went to the bathroom the other day and I, apparently, started my period. I'm really embarrassed and I didn't want to tell you because it's a very private thing, especially for me. I just need to tell you because I don't have many more pads that I can use and I don't have another way to get them. I'm nervous about this whole period thing...maybe you can talk to me a little bit and tell me what I'm suppose to be doing to make sure my body is healthy..."
Your mother is not going to be horrified. She isn't going to treat you any differently other than purchasing new "items" for you every once in awhile. You're completely normal and your mother will even be glad to hear that you're physically maturing too! :)
If your mother laughs and tells your sister then it just goes to show how immature your mother is about adult things. Having your period is not a laughing matter. It's just not funny. If someone laughs at it then they obviously are lacking some maturity in themselves. If she laughs, just hold your head up and say, "That's okay. I know that my period just means I'm becoming more womanly. I know it isn't funny."
Remember, having your period means you can DEFINITELY become pregnant. It's the sign that your fertile and that you're maturing in the physical sense.
I definately recommend pads for your menstrual cycle. Pads can be worn during light days, heavy days, and even simple discharge days. Tampons can only be worn during your actual period or your risk of Toxic Shock Syndrome increases dramatically. You also do not need to worry about waking in the middle of the night to change your pad if you're not a heavy bleeder (and we ALL have days that we're not bleeding so heavily); however, with tampons they MUST be changed every 6 - 8 hours or bacteria will multiply so quickly it can cause some severe problems.
Symptoms of TSS include high fever, vomiting or diarrhea, severe muscle aches, a feeling of extreme weakness or dizziness, and a rash that looks like a sunburn. If you ever have these symptoms while wearing a tampon, remove it and tell an adult immediately. Have someone take you to the nearest emergency room as soon as possible.
When I tried tampons I ended up passing out over and over again within seconds of insertion. My body was obviously screaming at me that something was terribly wrong although nothing was painful at all. I often wonder if some other women have experienced this and thought it was normal because it definately is not okay to experience. I really believe it dramatically shocked my body and that's why I passed out.
My first gynecologist I had actually told me that tampons increased my risk of cancer. My mother had cancer before in her vaginal area and was told to NEVER wear tampons again because if there is any cancerous cells in there it will irritate them and cause them to begin multiplying if they aren't already. My mother was also told to tell her female children this too since we are higher risk for that sort of cancer. I asked my first gynecologist about it and he definately recommended not using tampons because of the increase cancer risk.
The longer you leave a tampon in, the higher risk of TSS you are taking. Bacteria begin to grow in the warm, moist environment of your vagina. These bacteria can grow within the tampon, enter the body from inside the vagina, then invade the bloodstream, releasing toxins that can cause a very severe, life-threatening illness.
Tampons also pull a bit of your vaginal lining out when being removed, believe it or not. This is why many women who use tampons aren't as sensitive as they once were inside of their vaginas and why many tampon-users suffer from yeast infections and bacterial vaginosis. The tampon also can leave particles behind from it, causing bacteria and yeast to grow on it. Another case is that women are frequently needing to purchase personal lubricant for sexual activities because their bodies have stopped producing enough natural lubricant to engage in such activities without problems.
The ripping of your flesh and leaving particles of material behind cannot be avoided when using tampons and could very well be why you may experience discomfort with removal or even insertion. This will not go away until you become somewhat desensitized down there--and what woman truly wants that?! Please reconsider your choice of menstrual products.
Here are some good websites about why women should stay clear of tampon-usage. Theses sites are pretty darn interesting:
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The best kind of pad that I have used has been Seventh Generation pads. They aren't bleached like other pads are so they're gentler on your skin. The website to check them out is here:
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They can be a little harder to find since they're as natural as pads come so your next alternative is something UNSCENTED. Always pads are usually a little more expensive so I used the Wal-Mart Equate brand or other various store-brand available, with wings (to help it keep it's spot on my panties), and unscented. The scents can irritate sensitive areas. Watch out for pads that CLAIM to be fragrance free but have a smell to the packaging. Yes, I smell the package of pads before I decide to actually take them off of the store shelf and put them into my cart. I promise, nobody thinks I'm crazy or anything.
EDITED TO ADD: In regards to changing your pad, you should do it on a schedule, for the most part. Try to change your pad every 2 hours at the most. This just helps you keep track of how much you are bleeding and how often you will need to change your pad when you get used to this whole thing. If you change your pad only once a day then it isn't good for the body because, it being a very warm and moist environment, can grow some bacteria on it--it won't be as harmful as shoving something inside of you but you don't want dirty things on your body. I, personally, also always change my pad--whether I NEED to or not--every single time I go to the bathroom. You'll be different, I'm sure--but you eventually learn when you should change and all of that! :D
I'm sure you can find pads a good alternative to tampons. Relax and go with the flow ;) things will work out just fine. If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me! :)
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1. tell your mom. it's not that big of a deal and if she seems really excited about it, tell her you don't want her telling anyone.
2. pads are the way to go. they're safer to use for your first time. i usually use always - regular.
3. yes you wear the pad all day. change every few hours.
4. tampons are good when you're older. i suggest to only use them when you're swimming.
hope i helped!
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Tell your mom. She went through it, your sister went (or will go) through it.
I would suggest using pads because it's your first time. You are supposed to change it every few hours. Just relax and stay calm, every girl gets her period; it's nothing to be upset about :)
-Laura (17-f)
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just tell your mom, every girl goes through it so it shouldn't be embarrasing at all. why would she laugh? she's gone through it too, i think if she would laugh at anything it would be you trying to keep it a secret from her. if you wear pads i'd change it like 2 or 3 times a day and tampons 6-8 hours. i prefer tampons because you can go swimming and you can't feel them but you might wanna start out with pads til you get the hang of it.
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