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12/F Ok well I've asked a question about this before about me not wanting to have sex with my boyfriend and well I kinda took the advise until a few weeks ago:(it was his birthday and we were at his house in his bedroom and then we were playing truth or dare I got dared to have sex with him...infront of everyone!so well I said no at first but then everyone got mad so I said yes and well we did! And now I have missed my period and I'm gettin symptoms of pregnancy and I don't know what to do! Help please! I hate myself for doing it!I feel like such a slut! (link)
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It is truly a shame that you decided to not fully take the advice. I am also very sorry that you caved into peer pressure and allowed such a thing to happen, especially in front of others, because making love to someone shouldn't be shared (unless it's ones fetish) with others. But now the thing you should do is remain calm. There are such things as phantom pregnancies, (Phantom Pregnancy, also known as psuedopregnancy : the occurrence of signs of pregnancy, such as enlarged abdomen and absence of menstruation, when no embryo is present). If you believe to be pregnant, it is entirely possible that you may show these signs.
The best way to know whether or not you are pregnant is to undergo a pregnancy test. First, go to your local dollar store, they have pregnancy tests for 1 dollar, and are quite accurate. I've bought mine from there and I've never had an incorrect reading, and buy several of them. Best bet would be to buy at least 3. This way you can properly monitor yourself. Such as taking 1 pregnancy test, once a week. And if you are still worried, you may have to speak with one of your parents about going to planned parenthood for a blood test to check your system for the hormone HGC, which is present in pregnancy, as well as an ultrasound. If it should prove that you are pregnant, then you and your parents will have to decide on what to do. Especially since you are so young. But I believe if you believe you are grown up enough to get intimate with someone, you are also grown up enough to deal with the consequences of your decisions.
Replying - I can understand why you would be afraid of telling your parents. It's no laughing joke. In the end you'll just have to get new friends, because real friends wouldn't make you do something you do NOT want to do. If you do turn out to be pregnant, I'm afraid you will have no choice but to tell your parents what happened, though in the end, it is probably best that you do whether or not you were pregnant. You don't want to end up hating yourself, and later spiraling into depression, as sometimes the end result of that is far worse. You could have gotten up and left whether they said they would never talk to you again, but I'm assuming that due to your fear, you did not, and you did what you did not wish to do. Which in essence is rape. What's even worse, your so called "friends" were accomplices in this as well. If it turns out you are not pregnant, and that's fine, but they try to do it again? Telling you to do something you don't want to do, or else they won't talk to you anymore.. That is not a life to live. You are too young to be destroying yourself physically and emotionally, especially with all the beautiful things still has yet to offer you. I've given you my advice, but it is up to you whether or not to take it or not. I'd just hate to see another girl go off degrading herself just to keep her "friends" happy. Do what makes you happy and safe.
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i am from PAKISTAN,
I AM 28 YEAR old & got married 3 weeks ago,
my wife is 25 years old,
she have Big breasts with big Aerola's,
she use's 40 inches Bra size according in our country sizes,
to b very frankly i am worried about her Character before Our Marriage,
If some body can
then please Help & Advice me
i am very tens n upset,
i am sorry if my English is not very correct. (link)
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It is truly understandable that you are tense and upset, especially since you may not know exactly how your wife was previously before marriage, but you must remember, not all women are sleazy tramps because they have large breasts. Even with large breasts, women can still be reluctant about intimacy or anything involving men in that matter. Especially since now-a-days most men (I'm not saying all men) are superficial. The best way to ease your tension and hopefully ease your upset, is to ask her about it. Ask her for her honesty and to be truthful about her character before you two got married. If it is not to your liking, then only you will know what to do. I understand that your English is not very correct, but I do hope my explanation is clear enough for you to understand, and I wish you the best of luck.
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My school picture day is tomorrow and I've started to panic because I just found out today. I'm in the 8th grade and every one of my school pictures has been ugly except the ones from 1st grade down. I am in no way saying that I myself am ugly because I know that I'm a very beautiful girl. I just really want one nice picture before I leave my school. Usually my eye twitches involuntarilly or my hair tries to go afro on me. You can probably tell why I didn't like those pictures. Am I making too big a deal of the situation? I'm very sorry this was so long. (link)
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For many young girls, school photos is a very stressful time. The best thing you can do is relax. If you wish to keep your hair from getting frizzy, shower the day before, and ensure that it dries fully before going to bed. Get up an hour or so early, and fix your hair. Hair straightener, curling iron, however you wish, and use a hair product that can maintain this. Usually hair mousse works best, as it is light weight, and can properly maintain control. As for your eye-twitching, just remain calm. When it comes close to your turn, inhale deeply and slowly through your nose, exhale slowly through your mouth, all the while imagining you are somewhere or with someone, or goodness, both, that relaxes you. Repeat until you feel calm. Do not over do it, and do not go too fast, so you do not get light headed and/or possibly faint.
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I have been in a relasionship with this guy since i met him.And i have been the one to dump him 3x in between but we always get back together, untill one day he dumped me because he thought i was cheating on him which i wasnt.He ended up beliving me that i didnt cheat but he said he dosent want a girlfriend anymore but he still loves me so we have been living as friends with benifits, it feels like we are in a reasionship but without the title of going out,because he gets mad if i get of with another guy and i get jealous if he gets with another girl is he using me i dont know? i want to be despratly together with him agian but i just dont see him agreeing. (link)
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If you are FWB, it is usually best not to live together, as it usually never works out. As you have witnessed first-hand. You dislike him being with other women, and he dislikes you being with other men. In my opinion, it just seems like a really strange open-relationship. I believe it would be best, that if you were to be fwb, you are better off living separately. Is he using you? It may very well be so. The best thing to do, is talk to him, let him know how you are feeling. If he doesn't agree with it, then it would be best if you let him go and tried to be just friends, with nothing else. But truly, the decision is entirely up to you. You can continue with this circle and stay fwb, with no real attachment, or you can say something and do something if he should agree or disagree. I mean, think about it, you are still living with him, and then someday he decides he wants to actually date with someone else, or vice versa, you find someone that you wish to date with. You must consider all of the possibilities, especially if you yourself do not wish to be hurt.
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do guys like it when their girlfriends lay on their stomachs? when their girlfriends rub their stomachs? (link)
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Really, it depends on the guy. I've heard from some of my friends that their man doesn't like to cuddle, and then from others that they are so tired of how much their man does cuddle. If you'd really like to know whether yours likes cuddling or not, the best thing to do is ask him. It's always best to really get to know your mate, and asking questions about their likes and dislikes is always the best way to go.
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We can't have spikes, and i found a really good pair of shoes online and i'll just take the spikes out. Can I have some advice on what I need to know for track? Like tips? I'm in middle school, so nothing major but any reccomendations for events? (link)
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I was in track in middle and high school. The best tips I can give you, stretch before a run, eat healthy, drink plenty of fluids, and get plenty of rest, and give it your best. Running for at least 30 minutes a day can also really help improve speed and endurance in running. You can even swim to help with that as well. Also, don't go on a diet, because food is very important for cardio. When doing cardio *running, bike riding, anything really that involves a faster heart-rate in exercise* Food is needed for energy, energy is most needed in running. But yeah, as I stated previously, running even on days you don't have practice will help in speed and endurance with running. It's nothing to major, but it's something to help you. Besides, running is very healthy! You'll be making your heart stronger, and you'll also keep yourself in shape.
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I recently got to second base with my girlfriend, what can i do to make her enjoy it the most?
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If by second base you mean fondling of her breasts, (which I am assuming) it can very much vary from female to female. Though you also do not wish to rush it and make her feel uncomfortable in anyway, as this could cause difficulties in the relationship. Anyway, for most women, the breasts are quite sensitive. Some girls may just enjoy the typical rubbing of the whole breast, while others prefer the rubbing, gently pinching of her nipples. (Some females may even orgasm just by nipple play) But as I have previously stated, every female is different. I suppose experiment. See how she reacts to both ways. When rubbing just her breast, it is always best to go gently, unless somehow she insinuates otherwise. Same goes with the nipples. The nipples, gently hold it between your thumb and pointer finger gently pinching and twisting like your rolling a small paper ball, but as I said previously, gently unless she states otherwise. I'm sure if something makes her uncomfortable, she will tell you. If you worry she may not, be sure to let her know to tell you if anything you do makes her feel uncomfortable. Pushing a girl to do something she doesn't feel ready to do can cause problems in the relationship.
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It's been a long time since the last time I really slept well,I'm a university student so you can imagine how stressful my days can be,I just feel like I'm going insane,please,if you know a method or something,anything that can help someone to get some sleep,I'd be really happy to read it,thanks! (link)
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There are many reasons and causes for insomnia. Here is a site that may be of service to you. I hope it helps you regain the rest you need.
http://www.helpguide.org/life/insomnia_treatment.htm
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what should i do if my boyfriend is meannt to be having a child with another girl i know? but this girl tells lies alot and has pretended to be pregnant before with him but she says this time it is true? would you believe her? im confused and dont know what to do? advice please? (link)
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If you and your boyfriend are still together, and she does end up having a child, talk your boyfriend into getting a paternity test. Because regardless you never know if it is actually his or not, and I doubt he would want to care for a child that is not his, despite what she may say. If she really is the type that lies often, then talking to your boyfriend about getting a paternity test would be the best way to go. Just in case you aren't sure what a paternity test is, it is a DNA test, to ensure the child is in fact his or not. Besides, if she has told lies many times before, and pretended pregnancy as well, seriously he should consider a paternity test either way. Because she just might have gotten pregnant (that is if she is actually telling the truth about being so) by some other man, and is trying to push it on him.
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So ther is this guy that I never thought I would like because He is one of the popular guys and I am not into those guys. But I had a dream a while ago about him and I've been kinda watching him and I'm friends with his two best friends but I have barely ever talked to him. I don't even know him that well and I can't get him off of my mind! I'm just too scared to walk up and say hi because he always has friends around him. Please Help! Thanks. (link)
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Life is short, you don't want to hold yourself back from all the possibilities that life has to offer. Think of life as a pool, if you dip your toe in, find that the waters cold, you typically back away, and won't be capable of having the fun you wish, until it's too late. Jump into the water head first enjoy the time you have much sooner and with more time. If you have feelings for someone, it can be quite a confusing predicament. But since you are friends with his best friends, this may be of some assistance. When they are around him, go up and talk with them. Introduce yourself to him, and see how it goes from there.
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About how long does sex hurt the first time? How long after you have sex does it hurt? Is there alot of blood when your hymen brakes? What can I wear, what can I not wear? What position should I be in? Should I rap my legs around him? I need help becuase I'm really nervous about it. Please give me advice! (link)
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Losing your virginity is a very sensitive topic. The best advice I can give you is to take it slowly. Going too fast too soon can be a painful experience. As for the pain, it really varies from person to person, it can hurt a lot to where you beg them to stop, and it could hurt minimal, to the point you don't really notice it. You may be sore down there for a little while, but so long as you take care of yourself, you will get over the pain quickly. When the hymen breaks, the blood loss can range from a few drops to a couple of table spoons. As for positions, when losing your virginity, him being on top is typically the most comfortable, that way you can maneuver your legs to suit your comfort needs. As for wrapping your legs around him, it really depends if it is comfortable for you. As I have previously stated, take it slowly, and ensure to let him know whether you wish for him to go slower and more gently. You don't want your first experience to be an awful one. Don't be afraid to let him know if it hurts too much. Take it slow, and let him know.
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I'm the last person who people would ever think would look for something sexual on craigslist but i recently answered an add and I'm not sure why i did. should i do it? i don't know why I'm being so strange (link)
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Everyone does things they don't know understand why. Whether you do it or not, is entirely up to you. Perhaps the reason you are doing it is for the excitement. Perhaps with your daily routine you've grown bored and wish to add something different to your life/daily routine. If you do decide to go through with this, the best advice I can give you is always use protection. You do not know whether this person has an std or vd, and it's better safe than sorry. Before doing anything, if you have not yet decided, think to yourself if it is something you feel as though you could truly live with. You don't want to do something that will only make you hate yourself, but we all also learn from our mistakes. No one can tell you whether to go through it or not, because that is entirely up to you. And as I have stated previously, there may be personal reasons as to why you are doing this. Boredom, past experiences, etc. Just ask yourself what may have caused this and make your decision from there. Whatever decision you make, it will be up to you to truly decide whether it was the right one or the wrong one.
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Okay so my friend's are saying two thing at one time. There saying I'm acting as if I'm with my old boy friend and what i did with him. Then there also saying how was I to know? I just want to make thing alright again. Okay so with my old boy friend he was always cheating on me. But when I ask him about he'd so no i'm not. So I start going around getting photo's of him and his lover. So when I had a lot I went up to him and showed him then he'd have to say okay i did cheat on you. So when I saw my new boy friend kissing this girl and he's hand on her butt with a lot of other teen's I thought why ask him about. Let me just get photo's so I don't have to go in to the I saw and and no bab you must have seen some one that look like me.(whatever)So I got photo's and pull him aside. Then I showed him and ask what was going on. He said that he was on a dare to kiss the same girl and as they kiss he or her had something gross on there lips. And he was going to ask me to do it with him soon as the girl he was with found some one. Asking around and his story cheek out. He said he was really mad about me spying on him. I had never thought about it that why. So I ask that girl he was kissing for help. when she tried he got made and said how dare I tell her and try to get her to help with our trouble's. So now she making it up to him. And now I look like that bad guy and she look's like the the good one. And she just had I break up with her (ex) boy friend so now she making moves on mine.Help!! (link)
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Considering your boyfriend kissed another girl, I would suggest dumping him. It seems as though he is trying to place all the guilt on you so he doesn't feel any. In either way, you both were wrong, you following and spying, and him for being with another girl, though what he did was worse. I'm assuming you are young, so breaking up shouldn't be difficult. You'll find another partner later. I would suggest dropping him, because you don't need someone who cheats on you. Yes kissing another female that isn't family, is cheating. And chances are he'll end up going further with this girl. You did do a little wrong, but not enough to really cause harm. If anything though, next time you catch your boyfriend with another female, forget the pictures, go up to him and dump him on the spot. Because once they do it, they are going to do it again.
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I had a root canal and my gum was cut. After a week it still hurts and a chunk of my gum hangs from the roof of near the tooth from the roof of my mouth. Although in pain, should I have it removed or will it heal and grow back on its'own? (link)
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Getting a root canal is never fun. (I know. Had one a few years back) It is normal for the pain to last up to two weeks, but if the pain is severe, like you are downing tons of pain killers and or relievers, then I would suggest going back to the dentist and having them look at it, as it could be an air pocket or whatever they called it. As for the dangling piece, leave it alone. It'll heal on it's own. Mine did. You just have to give it some time.
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My boyfriend and I broke up about a month ago. I was feeling unsure about the relationship, and honestly (even though he cared about me) he wasn't showing his love for me at all. I felt like I was doing everything possible for him to be happy, and he never did the same to me. So we broke up.
In the following weeks, guys have started to become interested in me. Some are weird, some are funny, but there is really only one guy I am interested in. We went out for ice cream a couple nights ago, then dinner a day or so ago, and already have plans for another night out. I dont really know how serious he is about me or if we are just friends, but regardless, he always takes the time to give me such nice compliments and notes just to show he cares.
Well, its been about 3 weeks since I officially ended my first relationship and I am confused. I still love him and care about him so much. The thought of him being with someone else bugs me, but at the same time, I am not ready to commit. He was my first boyfriend, and we started dating 3 years ago. Now that I am getting older though, I want to KNOW I have found the right guy for me. I care about him, but I want to be IN LOVE. It's hard to move on with this new guy though, because I still care so deeply for guy #1.
Is this normal for break ups? What would you recommend? Does it make me slutty to have feelings for multiple guys? I am such a jumble!
Sorry this post was so long! Thx for the help :)
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It is normal. It happens in many relationships. In order to find the "right guy", you need to date around. Breaking up after a long term relationship, and later dating someone new, does not make you slutty, and neither does having feelings for multiple guys, just as long as you keep faithful. A woman is typically never labeled a "slut" until she has cheated and what not. Or slept with too many men.
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I always have dark circles under my eyes. Whenever i go to sleep, and wake up in the morning, my eyes are always swollen. Is there any way i can help prevent swollen eyes in the morning? I am tired of it! Thank you :) (link)
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http://www.eyecarebasics.com/eye-care-articles/cure-for-puffy-eyes.htm
This site is pretty descriptive. So it should be of help. But I use to wake up with puffy eyes, and my boyfriend told me that while I slept, my head was not elevated enough. Perhaps add an extra pillow and try that out. If it doesn't work, read the site.
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where and how i can get tested for hiv? (link)
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There are many places you can go for HIV testing. Planned parenthood, your local doctors clinic, woman's health center, they see men too, you never stated M/F, so yeah. But all these places do std/vd testings) When going in (or calling) you MUST ask/tell them that you want a specific test. Also this site may be of service to you.
http://www.hivtest.org/
It finds places near you that preforms these tests.
Remember, if you do turn up to have any form of std, I believe you are, by law, required to tell any future/potential partners.
I wish you the best of luck that all tests come back negative.
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I'm a 21 y/o virgin, which I realize nowadays is rare. I guess it's somethig I'm proud of, too. I originally wanted to wait till marriage. But, as I got older, I realized that it wasn't as important to me to wait till marriage as it was to wait till I was in a relationship where I felt comfortable with someone. My first very serious relationship was when I was 16. It was so bitter/sweet because this guy stayed in my life for about four years, not always good because of the way he was with me and the things that happened. We were also a lot younger and at that, we didn't really drive or have privacy to ourselves. In between one of our quarrels, there was a rebound guy. This guy tried to push sex on me constantly and almost forced himself on me. One day, I was studying for a final, already in college, and a guy who was studying with me pulled out his penis and ejaculates on the garbage can, cleaning his hands in the walls. It was gross. And obviously, he got in trouble. But, my views of sex have been a little screwed up and I've been kind of scared. But, with my boyfriend now, it's different. I feel so comfortable and i want to be with him. I wanna share this special moment with him. But part of me is scared about Ehat to expect, how it's gonna feel. What it's like. Period. Advice is appreciated please and thank u! :) (link)
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Having intercourse for the first time is always scary.. Mainly for the woman. Since this is your first time, be sure to tell your possible partner, as well as having him be gentle. Too rough the first time can cause more pain than is needed. But when you do, it may or may not hurt, as when he inserts his member, it'll be tearing your hymen, also causing you to bleed. It may be very little it may be a lot, every female is different. As I have stated earlier though, be sure to let him know, should you go through with it, and tell him to be gentle, as being rough may make it very painful. If it begins to hurt too much, best advice is to tell him to either stop, you don't want your first time to be a bad experience. Also, always use protection. Just because it's your first time does not guarantee it is his first time (many guys lie about it being so) and you also don't want the possibility of gaining an STD. As to how it feels, like I said, every woman is different. After the first time, (after you've healed) sex typically begins to become very enjoyable. If you want more information, look on google. I'm sure there are plenty of sites on there that can give you all the information you wish to know about losing, and afterwards. Such as these sites-
http://www.avert.org/sexual-intercourse.htm
http://www.wikihow.com/Lose-Your-Virginity-Without-Pain-(Girls)
http://abcnews.go.com/Health/Sex/story?id=3932047&page=1
Also, as a suggestion, I would suggest having him do some foreplay, work slowly into it, as this may reduce any possible complications. I don't know how athletic you are, but you always want to take precautions. Sex is not only enjoyable, but without precautions, can be very dangerous. And previously stated, be sure that he wears protection! (Condoms) Better safe than sorry. Even if he has no std's, I am sure you are not yet ready to be pregnant and have a child. Especially since you are still in school.
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Just yesterday I started getting a rash that looks like hives I had a bunch and I was taken to the hospital but my the time I was taken in the hives had gone away and I was just told I had an ear infection. Is there any clue what these are and why are they appearing? As far as I know I'm not allergic to anything. Does the hives have anything to do with the ear infection? Please and thank you. I'm really scared. (link)
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It doesn't happen all the time, but hives can be a sign of an ear infection. I've seen it happen several times, in my child, my niece, my nephew, my 7 year old sister, as well as many of the other kids I've baby sat and the lot. It's nothing to be worried about. Everyone reacts differently at different times when their body is ill in any way. Hope this has put your mind at ease.
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There is this girl, and she thought that I didn't like her.
So our boyfriends are bestfriends, and her boyfriend is my bestfriend as well. We went to play bingo together, and her boyfriend told me that she was worried that I didn't like her.
So when she was sitting down, I went over and explained to her that I didn't have a problem with her at all, I had NO reason not to like her.
Than all of a sudden, her chest got bright red with like white dots in it.
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Typically when someone gets red blotches or red in general, it could be a slight trigger of anxiety. It's nothing against you, as she may have been either over worried, or extremely embarrassed. Many people are not good with confrontation, and react in many different ways. Even if you meant no ill will, she may have just been afraid, and typically when someone gets scared anxiety hits them. It's not a medical condition, unlike what doctors like to say, anxiety happens to all of us. So there is no worry on your part, as I'm sure it happens to her often. Chances are though, she was more likely embarrassed, and everyone blushes, and not everyone's face turns red when they blush. I had a friend who would blush and her ears would turn red.. and that was all ;p Hope this put you at some ease.
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