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Losing my virginity at 21
I'm a 21 y/o virgin, which I realize nowadays is rare. I guess it's somethig I'm proud of, too. I originally wanted to wait till marriage. But, as I got older, I realized that it wasn't as important to me to wait till marriage as it was to wait till I was in a relationship where I felt comfortable with someone. My first very serious relationship was when I was 16. It was so bitter/sweet because this guy stayed in my life for about four years, not always good because of the way he was with me and the things that happened. We were also a lot younger and at that, we didn't really drive or have privacy to ourselves. In between one of our quarrels, there was a rebound guy. This guy tried to push sex on me constantly and almost forced himself on me. One day, I was studying for a final, already in college, and a guy who was studying with me pulled out his penis and ejaculates on the garbage can, cleaning his hands in the walls. It was gross. And obviously, he got in trouble. But, my views of sex have been a little screwed up and I've been kind of scared. But, with my boyfriend now, it's different. I feel so comfortable and i want to be with him. I wanna share this special moment with him. But part of me is scared about Ehat to expect, how it's gonna feel. What it's like. Period. Advice is appreciated please and thank u! :)
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I was 18 and had a few on off boyfriends were I just didn't feel like I could give it up. We aren't together anymore but I know that I do not regret it but I will never forget it as we were both first timers so we were both trying to relax each other which is quite important (plus contraception use).
Eventually we got there and it was a little uncomfortable at first. If I am honest around the first three times it was with a little light bleeding (nothing to rush to the doctor over).
I am almost 21 and onto my second sexual partner. I wanted to wait until marriage as I attended 2 catholic schools and assumed it was the way of the world until I got into it.
Every girl and guy is different though, what affects one won't another and what gives pleasure to one might be uncomfortable to another. Its all about trial and error, there is no textbook answer to what to expect.
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Having intercourse for the first time is always scary.. Mainly for the woman. Since this is your first time, be sure to tell your possible partner, as well as having him be gentle. Too rough the first time can cause more pain than is needed. But when you do, it may or may not hurt, as when he inserts his member, it'll be tearing your hymen, also causing you to bleed. It may be very little it may be a lot, every female is different. As I have stated earlier though, be sure to let him know, should you go through with it, and tell him to be gentle, as being rough may make it very painful. If it begins to hurt too much, best advice is to tell him to either stop, you don't want your first time to be a bad experience. Also, always use protection. Just because it's your first time does not guarantee it is his first time (many guys lie about it being so) and you also don't want the possibility of gaining an STD. As to how it feels, like I said, every woman is different. After the first time, (after you've healed) sex typically begins to become very enjoyable. If you want more information, look on google. I'm sure there are plenty of sites on there that can give you all the information you wish to know about losing, and afterwards. Such as these sites-
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Also, as a suggestion, I would suggest having him do some foreplay, work slowly into it, as this may reduce any possible complications. I don't know how athletic you are, but you always want to take precautions. Sex is not only enjoyable, but without precautions, can be very dangerous. And previously stated, be sure that he wears protection! (Condoms) Better safe than sorry. Even if he has no std's, I am sure you are not yet ready to be pregnant and have a child. Especially since you are still in school.
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