I'm a 38 year old psychologist living in Nashville, Tennessee. Until shortly over a year ago, I hosted a radio/tv talk show. At the moment, I'm amid plans to start a new one called, " One Man's Opinion". It's a radio show FOR women, ABOUT men, BY a man.
Seeing that alot of issues are age-related, please state your age when posing a question.
E-mail: cmclinphd@hotmail.com
Gender: Male
Location: Nashville, Tennessee
Occupation: Psychologist
Age: 38
Member Since: November 30, 2003
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what do i do if i by all the clothing i think is really cool...but when i were 'em at school they dont look so cool..... (link)
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Chalk it up to a bad choice and actually pay attention to the teacher. Sorry but I had to touch on this. I can tell you're worried about your clothes in school. Apparently, you're not paying any attention to anything else ( Like spelling ) You don't "by" clothes, you BUY them. You don't were 'em at school, you WEAR them. How about this, spend less time focusing on your attire and more about what's being taught. Then you'll probably learn enough to answer your own question. Sheesh...plug in!
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I want to dye my hair blue... no... I MUST dye my hair blue! bright blue! the problem is that I have dark hair and I've never dyed it before and I think I have to bleach it blonde first then dye it blue for the color to show up. Is that going to ruin my hair and make it all crackly and nasty? (link)
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Hell wouldn't YOU be crackly and nasty if someone did that to YOU? Of course it's going to ruin your hair!
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My period is a few days later than usual...and no I know what you're thinking...Im a virgin so I'm NOT pregnant...I'm just nervous because Ive been sick and I don't know if that has to do with the fact that I am sick...or if its just normal because I'm kind of new to this....please help! (link)
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Illness, stress, fatigue, or an increase in your exercise routine. ALl of these AND MORE can quite often be the culprit behind a period that chooses to be fashionably late. So, fret not. Rest and drink plenty of fluids and you'll be complaining again in no time.
Oh....KUDOS on still being a virgin. Much respect to you!!!
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When you work out and get sore muscles, what helps more, ice or heat? (link)
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Neither, really. Sore muscles are caused aby a buildup of what's called lactic acid. When the muscles are worked more than they're accustomed to, the body produces lactic acid as a by-product. An overabundance can be the cause of alot of symptoms such as : Soreness, cramp ( charly-horses ) and pretty much anything else disagreeable associated with exercise. But fear not. An excellent remedy is to take time off between work outs and let the muscles repair themselves. But, as far as ice or heat. Whichever brings you the most comfort at the time. Go for it.
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What's the worst that could happen if I dont see a doctor about an ingrown toenail? (link)
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The WORST? Hmmmmmm......can you say GANGRENE?
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I have a cold. I've been blowing my nose all day with these awful tissues and now it's all sore and I think i'm going to die. what do I do? stop blowing it? band-aid it so the snot just doesn't run out? sorry this is so gross. (link)
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Wet the tissue before you blow or get some "PUFFS with aloe". Don't PINCH your nose when you blow.....and grow up and stop whining.
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I have a disease of the nervous system and can no longer write with my dominent hand. Should I give up writing? Im in the 8th grade and this is very frustrating! (link)
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Don't ever give up on anything except "giving up". Keep your head up.
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This probably sounds really dumb but oh well. I have dance lessons three times a week(and this is active dance with jumping, not just walking around and moving arms or swaying on the spot) and I have two soccer practices a week and a game. I also have gym class twice a week for an hour and I try my best unlike some people. I walk 3k per day to school and back and according to my friend's mom 'eat like a bird' which I don't think I do. I'm 13 and weigh 110 pounds. I have friends that are my height and weigh about 90 pounds. Their excercise is gym class. That's it. I know for a fact they don't diet and aren't anorexic or bulimic. They eat more than me.
I also know a girl in my dance class who does everything I do plus lacrosse and an extra conditioning practice with her team for soccer. She eats about the same amount as me but is obese. How the hell does that work? I don't really care but I'm just curious! (link)
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The meatbolism is like a person cleaning. If theres a one time mess ( you eat once ), the person cleans it and rests, ( the metabolism slows ). If however, the house has a bad leak, and it's constantly dripping water shortly after it's cleaned up, the person stays in "clean mode". They never sit or stop. Thus it is with the metabolism. If one eats constantly, and I don't mean HUGE meals, just steadily throughout the day, the metabolism realizes that burning energy with that person is a full time job and very seldom shuts down. It stays in a constant state of burn. Got it?
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I've known this boy since the 4th grade. We are two years apart. We were together for 2 years. He was normal but now he is a total freak and disaster! Recently he's been stalking me, and my friends. Like he'll talk to my friends and tell them lies that I don't like. And he almost punched me and grabbed my arm so hard it had red marks on it. Durring our relationship he called me a slut for going to a dance with one of my good friends which is now my boyfriend. But yet, durring our relationship, on his b-day he played spin the bottle with all of my friends and kissed all of them, and my best friend, and my best friends mom. So, all together he's cheated on me, abused me, and stalked me, lied to me, used me, and ruined my life and my dignity. What should I do?
Sincerely,
Tears =( (link)
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What planet do boyfriends actually kiss their best friends' moms during spin the bottle? Sheesh!
Now, to answer your question:
Let's role-play. I am your best friend. One you love more than just about anything. I come to you, in tears, depressed, heart-broken and disgusted. You ask what's wrong and I say,"all together he's cheated on me, abused me, and stalked me, lied to me, used me, and ruined my life and my dignity. What should I do?"
your answer to ME ( and yourself ) is?
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Hello I want to know how you make out. Like what do you do? I know you french kiss by using your tounge but how exactly do you use it? Can you please help me!
PS my friend wanted to know so I told him I knew where to ask and that I would ask for him that is why I am asking. (link)
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( Takes a deep breath and sighs heavily ). Well, if you have to ask....you're not ready.
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First of all I have been dating my girlfrind now for a little over 4 months, she has been divorced for 2 years , I have been divorced for a year now also.
She has 2 kids (boy,4) (girl,11) and I have a (boy13)
Throughout the past four months I have endured doing things with her ex husband and her like skydiving, and going out on Halloween with her and her kids, I really dont approve of the the way her Ex raises her kids ...and he is a alchoholic and doesnt have a job.
They alternate the kids from her house to his every other day and alternating weekends.
Now that the holidays are here it is getting to be a little to wierd for me having him around
She invited him to our Thanksgiving dinner...Then she said she felt sorry for him and asked me if it was OK?
I told her NO...my whole family was going to be there and I would feel uncomfortable with him being there also...now there is another dillema
She wants him to be at her house on Christmas morning to watch the kids open theyr'e presents
I will be there also and so will my son,
I dont feel that he should be there also, correct me if I am wrong but shouldent the kids have Chrismas at they're Fathers house and then theyre Mothers seperately.... I think her youngest child is really confused...I dont think he relizes the mom and dad are divorced....Can anyone give me advice?????
T (link)
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T,
Sometimes, the best thing to do is the hardest. It sounds as if the girlfiend has a problem letting go of the relationship she had with the ex. And in doing so, she's preventing the two of you from being as the army says, "All That You Can Be".
I know it may be difficult, but you have to ask her to make a decision. Does she wish to continue to hold on to what once was with her ex, or does she wish to try and bring what the two of you believe you can have to fruition? Whe can't have both. You can't stress that enough. If she mentions the need for the children to have their father in their lives ( and I for one, will NOT argue that :) ), tell her that you understand an even agree, but that doesn't include him having to invade the relationship you're trying to establish. He can still be instrumental in his children's lives, but you're beyond the formative and post-pubescent years and you just don't need him in yours.
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Why do boys have ask girls out and why cant girls ask boys out. It make it so much more complicated for the boys. And the boys will never have a girlfriend if they are to shy to ask out the girl they like. (link)
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Uhhhh 2003. Girls DO ask. Plug in!
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okay, i asked you guys about a 22 year old minister who loves me, a 14 year old. well, it's gotten worse. he's called me, and he told me that he had a dream about me, and we had sex. yikes! i really don't know what to do about him. i don't want to make him mad, because he knows my phone number and could easily find out where i live. any advice? (link)
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Once again people...there is NO reason for any ADULT to profess love, lust, or otherwise for a minor. NONE! He's a minister...it's immoral. He's an adult...it's ILLEGAL ( should anything physical come of his wanton desires ), and whatever his role....he's sick. trust me on this one...he's a slice of bread short of a loaf.
I understand that you're 14 and that you don't want to anger him, but, the road he's trying to take you down is not a good one, in ANY sense. If you'd like to take a rather easy way out that doesn't make you the "bad guy", tell him the next time he calls that you're grounded because your mom just found your diary and read everything you feel about him, and how much you love each other.
Somehow, I don't think he'll be much of a problem after that. Becuase regardless of what he is, a minister, an adult, a sick, sick man, I don't think he's stupid. PLEASE let me know how this turns out.
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Theres this guy at my school, I REALLY like him and I've told him exactly how I feel. One day we were on the bus, on the way to a football game, and he told me that he liked me too. Now that he told me that, everything is all weird between us. And he alwayz reminds me that he likes me but, he never does anything about it. He also likes this other girl but, IDK. He flirts with me and stuff like that...I don't know what Im supposed to do to find out if he really likes me or if its really gonna go anywheres. I dont wanna talk to him and make myself look like a complete idiot. And I dont want to hold on if theres nothing there and theres never gonna be anything...He got really mad at me for goin to my sis' boyfriends and watchin a movie with his cousin. I mean, my god!! If he wants me so bad, why dont he just take me?? I guess what I want to know is...how do u know if a guy really likes you and do you think i should just let go..and if so, how do i do that? Thanx for your help in advance!! (link)
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This one is simple. He's trying to tell you he likes you by becoming kealous of some of the things you do. BUT, apparently, it's not enough for him to make a commitment. And you know what? I don't think he will. You said he likes another girl, as well. Hmmm, I wonder if she knows how he feels about HER without a doubt. I actually believe he may be holding you in limbo for security, in the event that what he has with her doesn't work the way HE thinks it should. As for when to hold on and when to let go... anytime you find yourself having to ask the question should I leave....it's time.
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Is there a doctor in the house? If so, can you explain to me what acute neurological dysphasia is? I cannot find anything about it on the net, it sounds like something made-up and I really don't want to go to the library and reference it in medical books. Thanks! (link)
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I so desperately wish I could converse with a friend of mine, Tina, on this. I am not a medical doctor and would defer to her expertise as a registered nurse on this one.
Dysphasia is a language problem caused by brain damage, usually in the left side of the brain. It's generally characterized by a complete or partial loss of ability to understand, speak, read,write and I THINK sometimes swallow. The type and severity of the language difficulty will depend on which area of the brain has been affected. Acute is a term used to denote the sevrity of the affliction. Neurological denotes a nerve origin.
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So I was walking this evening and I accidently stepped into some kerosene. I just shrug it off and keep walking with my jazz hands lookin' all cool when this guy runs by and yells "That building is on fire!" So I start running towards it all like "yeah, who's your hero now?" with my jazz hands, looking cool. I get next to the firy part and my shoes are on fire randomly. Now I'm on a laptop someone gave me. What should I do?! (link)
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Try psychotropic medications.
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i normally get my period every 21 days like clock work. I was supposed to have it 4 days ago and haven't gotten it yet. I'm really worried that something is going on. To be possibly pregnant right know would not be good. My parents would not take it well at all. Me either actually. I don't feel any different,except no period. Tell me what you think? (link)
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I know that the female cycle, even a regular one, can be "thrown off" for a number of reasons. I wish you had mentioned what your exercise habits are. If you've changed them lately, and increased your routine, that could EASILY throw your period off. If you've just started to experience an increased amount of stress, that too, could throw it off EASILY. Even the foods you eat can throw it off. Rather than assuming that pregnancy is the only possibility, give it some time, like someone else suggested, and see what happens. Regardless, alot of people gave EXCELLENT advice. In ANY event....USE PROTECTION.
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I keep seeing signs everywhere that read, "You are a brain in a vat." Is this the central computer trying to tell me that the world around me is just an illusion? Or is some philosophy major just messing with my head? (link)
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No, it's just a really complex way of saying that what's on the outside ( the vat ) is not what's important. The real essence of YOU is the brain ( the intellect ) inside.
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i cant spell and im proud of it am i normal? (link)
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No, just ignorant.
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Why in the heck do I still have zits at 31? This is ridiculous! My grandmother promised me they would go away, but now she is the only thing that has gone away. Will they go away after I have children? Is it hopeless? (link)
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Anyone who thinks they can tell you WHY you have zits over the internet is full of it. There can be a number of contributing factors. Fortunately, alot of people on here have hit a few of them on the head. Namely, your homone levels and make-up.
Moreoften though, if it's still affecting you at 31, then chances are it's internal (As most types of acne are ). If that happens to be the case, then you will have to see a dermatolist to find a suitable treatment. He/She may recommend medication ( one of the best happens to be Accutane,but several precautions accompany that as well as blood tests prior to treatment being administered ). Cryo may be another method if they're more annoying than anything. In this procedure, they freeze the postule and remove it. Nevertheless, if it poses a major problem, then seek the assistance of a dermatologist.
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