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My name is "Lucy" Of course that isn't my real name.
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When I wiped my bottom this morning there was blood on the tissue and it isn't from my period! I checked really good and it is coming from my backside! I am very scared! Why in the world would I poop blood? Can anybody help me? (link)
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It could be a number of reasons why however not to scare you but it COULD be prostate cancer.
Get it checked out
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what exactly does 69 mean, sexually speaking? I hear people talk about it all the time and I know it is related to sex and I have no idea what they are talking about. So, what does 69 mean sexually? Can anybody tell me without making fun of me for not already knowing? :-) (link)
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69 is a sexual position, It's when two people give oral sex at the same time. (Male and Female)
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I need to know what it means when you are a slut? How many guys do you have to sleep with to be a slut? Is there like a test or something you can take that tells you if you are being slutty or whatever?
I slept with tree guys in the same night. I feel like the worst person! I didn't tell any of them that I had slept with any of the others, I just wanted to see who was best. Now I feel really stupid. You can tell me the truth when you answer my question, I won't be mad or rate you low.
Is there anything that I can do to make this better? Should I tell the guys? What if one of them has a disease and I gave it to all of them? (link)
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I'm not going to say you are slutty, but I will say you might want to be careful who you sleep with and how many guys you decide to have sex with also.
It is not about who is best, It's about safety, Self respect, Love, and Trust. Sex is so much more than what people presume it to be. Many people especially young teens and adults think sex is just a competition a wham bam type of thing. This is how many end up pregnant or STD. Some people don't even think about the consequences. However, Do I think you are slutty? No. I think you really should take what you did as a lesson though and be more careful in the future.
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hi well this is hard for me but im 16 and have had sex with 14 mabe 15 people how high is my risk for an std. is is possible to me addicted to ask everytime i get mad or sad i always feel the need to have sex like its almost like i have to to feel better what do i do how i make my addiction go away. and also how high is my risk please i need help. (link)
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Okay whoa..
First of all, You really might want to slow down. There is ALWAYS a risk for STD and honestly the more people you have sex with the higher your chances could be to STD.
Honestly, That is a lot of people could you be addicted? Probably, I would maybe talk to a doctor. That certainly isn't nothing to brag about...
EDIT: Rate me a 1 all you want, You are the one posting on the internet about how you get around then actually asked how high your risk was. Don't have sex if you aren't educated
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How do I hack a facebook profile? (link)
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We are not going to provide information on hacking someone's information. If you lost a password and can't access your account I suggest you try the "Lost Password" at the log in.
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My boyfriend and i broke up less than 3 weeks ago.He was my first bf,and i was his first REAL gf.We were great,had so much fun all the time and he randomly broke up with me because he was "getting sick of me","wanted to be free in highschool",etc.etc.but said he wanted to stay friends.We've basically been talking again,hanging out (less than we used to) and trying to be "friends". When we hungout yesterday, we were a little drunk and he came out to me and said he likes me still and thinks about me all the time and swore that im the most amazing girl ever,but he wants to experiment with other girls and crap..which ofcourse made me mad.He kissed me and all that and held my hand ,made sure i didnt get wet out in the rain,etc.etc. but ofcourse he was kind of "drunk". We made plans to hangout today too,and ofcourse he was sober this time.We got up early and me and him just went on a cute little adventure and went to all these places.He wanted to show me his old town so we visited there and he took me to this beach he used to go to and we chilled and ate and all that.And we had to sneak into one part of the beach and he held my hand and said "lets pretend like we're a couple so we don't get caught" blah blah but after a few seconds he stopped.Then we went back to my house and watched a movie,but didn't cuddle or kiss or anything..but still had a good time.I am trying to not talk about our relationship when im with him and just be happy and have fun and just see how things go.I didn't think he'd hangout with me all day today alone if he didn't like me...and same with yesterday and i felt as though the alcohol brought out his "true " feelings (as sad as that sounds).I just like him so much and I don't know how often i should hangout with him,or what i should and shouldn't say when im with him..or what!? help! (link)
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For someone who told you that he was getting sick of you, It sure sounds like he still likes you. I would ask him flat out what he wants, It's nice you two had a great time but don't let him lead you on either or get your hopes up. If he wants to be your friend then their should be boundaries such no holding hands, cuddling, kissing etc. "Friends" do not do that type of stuff unless it's a friends with benefits type of thing but even then there really is no different than being a relationship. If I were in your shoes, I might be slightly annoyed with the fact that I was told one thing and then it seems like another, I would confront him because I don't know about you but I certainly do not like being lead on. Ask him exactly what his motives are, What he wants out of you. Don't let him play your feelings
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I've been in a long distance relationship for 9 months. We're recently broken up, and I showed my boyfriend fake pictures, and only JUST showed him my actual self a few days ago. I was terrified to tell him, but he actually took it MUCH better than I thought he would. He was a little upset at what I did, but said he still loved me, and if I 'work with him a little bit' by showing him more pics of my real self & maybe getting a webcam, then we could get back together.
We both have strong feelings for eachother, & I (stupidly) ended the relationship because I knew I could never meet him since I sent fake pics. But now, he knows what I really look like, and accepted me, so a relationship is possible again.
This is my only problem. I've only showed him shoulders up pics of me. I'm not fat..but curvy. He's a tall, lanky guy, VERY skinny, he only weighs 120 lbs! But, I weigh more than that, & I'm scared to show him pics of my whole body. He's been asking for 'bikini'/full body pics & for me to get a webcam, but I honestly don't have any bikini pics, because I hate my body. I think it's too curvy, and it's my #1 insecurity.
Anyway, I do love him, & I realize if he can get over me faking pics, & he does like my face..then can my body really be a cause for him to stop loving me? I'm just scared he'll be unattracted to me, and won't want to tell me because he's too nice.
Basically what I'm asking is: 1. How should I go about showing him pics of my full body? Just send him a bunch then say I have to leave quickly? (I don't want to be there when he sees them, hahah) 2. Should I get a webcam if he accepts the pics the way they are? It's not really like I'd be showing my body on there anyway, he'd really only see my face. Thank you. (link)
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If the guy is focused on seeing what you look like and that is all he seems to want to talk about, Then maybe that is all he is for.
Remember, Never give a picture away if you don't want it seen again. Although you too have a relationship and an understanding you never truly know who's eyes are going to see your pictures. It's just like that old saying "Never say what you don't want repeated"
If you do decide to show him a picture of your body remember that if he doesn't like it then simply he is NOT worth it, A guy should love you for who you are and not for your body. It's about personality who you are as a person not about having a model body and looking similar to Gisele Bundchen. You are who you are, Nobody is perfect and a man should respect you for who you are. If you don't want to show him a picture of your body then DON'T never ever feel pressured into doing so and if the guy doesn't like your choice of not showing a picture then the hell with him you now know that it's all he was in for. Good for you for having self respect
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if a guy asks if you masturbate, will he think its like "hot" if you say you do. i do, but like i dont want to say so if its like a turn off lol. idk. this is a weird question but its anonymous. do i answer yes or no ? (link)
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I agree with the post below me, If you don't know this person well then don't tell him.
Someone who would flat out ask "Hey! do you masturbate?" when you hardly know then is not only a complete pervert but is obviously rude as hell.
If you do know this person and have for a good long time and you feel comfortable with sharing this information then I guess I would say go for it...
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My mac has been shutting down randomly, even if it has more than 50% left on the battery. It won't give me a warning like it used to ('You are now running on reserve power.' telling me my battery is at 2%)
What do I do? (link)
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Do you have a charger for it? If not then you should probably look into getting one.
Also, If you don't already have one get a fan for it because the main reasons for laptops, Macbooks, notepads etc. dying most of the time are reasons due to heat damage to the hard drive
I had the same problem, I bought a fan and had no problem I even had the battery problem also. The fan did the trick
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I just broke up with my long-distance boyfriend 2 days ago because I couldn't handle the distance. I really do still love him, and I'm not handling the break up well.
We decided mutually to be friends, but it's not really working. He's being unusually mean to me (which is to be expected I guess, since it's only been 2 days). This is too hard on me, and every time I end a call with him I end up crying. My feelings for him are still strong, but I do want to stick with my decision. Today we planned to chat at a certain time, and it's about 2 hours past & he's nowhere to be found.
My question is: should I cut off all contact? I really would like to be friends, but I can tell it is clearly going to take me some time. Also, if I do decide to cut all contact..should I tell him or just do it?
Btw, I'm leaning more towards the 'just doing it' option, without telling him, because after I talk to him it usually leaves me wanting to talk to him again. If I just stop contact, I won't have a chance to talk to him first. My only concern with this option is that when I am ready to be friends (maybe a month or so down the line), he won't want to speak with me/be my friend because I did the no contact thing without telling him. Ahh, please any advice would help!! I just want to be happy again. Thank you.
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Honestly, Is he worth the heartbreak? Look where keeping contact has gotten you. The biggest thing a breakup comes with is sometimes not knowing the real reason why. If he is being mean to you, making you cry and ignoring you then you need to use that as a focus towards moving forward. Should you cut contact? Yes. Show him you are stronger than this, You can take care of yourself and most of all show him what he is missing. Cutting contact is the first big step to moving on. Your main focus right now is you and only you. Spend time with friends and family show him he doesn't deserve you because he doesn't. Also, If he can't be a good boyfriend to you then he sure as hell doesn't deserve your friendship either.
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okay so me and my bf were having sex and we changed to doggy style.. it felt really good till i queefed.. that just kinda killed the mood and he at first thought it was a fart! lol so after that kinda settled down and he fount out what it really was we did it some more and went to bed. the next day we hung out, went back to his place and chilled. the thing was neither of us had had a shower cause we were gone all day (i felt pretty gross cause i take a shower every morning and night). so he talked me into doin it that night too. but my vag smelt like a frekin dead animal! it was so gross we just stopped.. im so not used to this cause i always smell good especially infront of my bf.. i feel like this killed all the fun we had over break and the awesome sex we had the night before(minus the queef issue). ha this is like one of those fml moments. but what should i do? please i need some advice so bad its not even funny. (link)
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LOL!!
I am sooo sorry but it's kinda funny.. Well maybe this will make you feel better you are NOT the only one to ever queef during sex. (lol) Personally, I never have sex unless I am sure I have showered first. Next time just try to make sure the time and the mood is right
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Hey there advicenators!
I was just wondering if anyone had been 2 marmaris and stayed at the Baris aparthotel? I just wanna know what you thought!
All help much appreciated!
lxxx (link)
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I just googled some reviews for you and out of curiosity I read some of them. I'm going to have to say probably NOT a good idea
http://www.holidaywatchdog.com/850-Marmaris-Baris_Aparthotel-Holiday-Review.html
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14/f
i dated this guy for around 3 months on and off.
he broke up with me via text, when we saw each other again from the break up he tryed so hard for me to forgive him, that eventually i did. Were friends now, yet i still have feelings for him. People say he likes me to but im really not sure. How do i know if feelings are still there on his part? (link)
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If a man doesn't have enough courage to break off a relationship in person then what makes you think he is mature enough to communication and be in a relationship?
There is your answer
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this isn't really an advice question, more of an opinionated question. this question is about hell. anyone, everyone; tell me about your views on hell. do you think its a big, flaming pit? are there different levels? is it based on our greatest fears? tell me what you think, i'm doing a project for school. (link)
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I don't know if this would really be much of help but...
I believe
"God forgives his children thou bad deeds done shall rest with a soul"
(Those who kill, rape, etc. are forgiven but rest with the soul instead of moving onto heaven"
However, Everyone has their beliefs but this is my own.
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nice way of letting someone know you're not interested in them? besides saying that they're like a brother (link)
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Be straight forward and tell it like it is, This saying doesn't mean "Well you are kind of ugly or short and not really my type" Simply say, I am not interested in having a romantic relationship with you. That is just about as nice as it's going to get. Beating around bush, Is only going to think that maybe somewhere down the line there might be hope for them and that you will think about it or take it into consideration. Hey if someone isn't your type just tell them you'd rather remain friends.
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okay, so the whole theory of the world ending in 2012... my opinion is that it's not gonna get completely swallowed into a black hole or explode or anything. but i do believe that something BIG is gonna happen.
i want your opinion . what do you think about it? i'm getting really curious about this stuff & why they even say it's gonna end. (link)
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The world is NOT going to end in 2012, This is just a predicament from the Mayan calendar.
Will something big happen? Maybe nobody can predict what the future holds.
Will that BIG thing be that the world blows up into bits and there is no more life? NO, That seems a little ridiculous.
Don't keep worrying over something that isn't worth worrying about, The world is not going to end in 2012 this is just some silly crap people are talking about but lets get real it ain't gonna blow up.
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I noticed a bumb under my eye (like a little less then an inch from my eye) and its gotten bigger over the course of when I first noticed it (two days ago) and it's tender when I touch it. My aunt is a retired nurse and when she looked at it she said it may be a sinus infection. I have had a headache recently. Is a bump in this area normal for a sinus infection? Has anyone had this before?
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If it is what I think it is, Then it is called a Stye.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stye
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So ive recently decided to let my boyfriend have anal sex with me. This will be the first time that ive EVER done ANTYHING like this. Nothing has ever gone inside my butt. (lol).
So i was just wondering, what should i be worried about? Any horror storys?
Anything i can do to prepare for this?
Im a little worried so any advice would be great.
We already have lube btw. (link)
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Well I'm gonna be blunt
Anal sex can be very painful, It also can come out disgusting too
Why? because there is a great chance that you can end up with some nasty results (If you know what I mean) Poo. You can clean up but even that isn't always guaranteed to be spiffy clean!
but hey! if you want to go along with it anyway make sure you use lubricant and a nice good amount with a condom
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We'll call this guy.. Nate. So Nate and have dated a few times, it all adds up to around 6 - 8 months. I'm 15, he just turned 16. We dated this summer for a month or 2, and well, I took his virginity. He wasn't my first, but I had my first real like, moment with him, like it actually felt special. So, shit happened, this guy kissed me, roumours spread, he broke up with me. We got back together a couple times within the next month, but it never lasted more than a month because the trust wasn't there. So, in Janurary, he msged me and said 'i miss us' and we got into a long conversation, and he told me he still loved me still had feelings for me and everything. I was over joyed. So, from there.. we started dating in March. It lasted a week, and he broke up with me. Saying that it wasnt the same and he didnt like me like he did before.. but still wanted to be friends. So, we are. But then, like a week ago, he msgs me again, and says i miss you, i regret breaking up with you, so on and so fourth. Then he says but don't break up with your boyfriend.. things happen for a reason. So, I told him straight up, that I wasn't planning on breaking up with him, because I wasn't going to run to him again, to have him break up with me in a week, and that didnt seem to bother him. The next day, the guy i was dating broke up with me, nd Nate thought I broke up with him, and i said i didnt. that was when he told me that he was staying single for a month to figure his shit out. Then I posted a picture and tagged a bunch of people, including him. the picture says I _ _ _ _ you. with a) hate b) love c) miss d) like e) want f) lust . So he commented and deleted it, so i asked him what he posted he said "None of them.. I cant miss you, i saw you yeasterday, i dont know what lust means.. and none of the other ones." I pretended like it didnt bother me, but it really does, because he says he regrets breaking up with me last week, now suddenly he doesnt even like me? i dout it. So, today it says on his wall " (link)
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Well to be honest with you, It sounded like he may have had some trust issues from the start of the relationship. Bluntly put, He stroked your ego had sex with you and then it didn't work out. This guy is playing mind games, One minute he misses you and then the next he just doesn't know what he wants? Sounds like he might just be missing the sex part of it. I'm not going to lecture you but the guy is only 16 years old. The thing with getting "back together" is more than likely it just work out. Why? because if a relationship didn't work out the first time then there is a high chance it won't work out the second time. A relationship can't work if there is trust issues, Trust is a huge part of a relationship. I honestly think you should move on, You have a life to live rather than waste your time with someones mind games.
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I have a simple question that could have a lot of answers. What is a girl's favorite scent on a guy? Specifically, please. (link)
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AXE (Red)
I also love it when my husband wears Adidas
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