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i have a friend who is new to my school.she follows me everywhere and she is annoying ,and tries to hard.i want to find a way to get rid of her without hurting her feelings because i used to be and act like her.

Out of all people, you have got to sympathize with her since you've been in her position. She adores you and although that does get annoying; that is not a reason to give up on her. Teach her about herself, by pointing out her strong points; she'll soon realize she can give you some more space.

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i should be perfectly happy. i have a good family and great friends. i cant stand my mom sometimes because she thinks she knows everything but i guess thats the really only family problem i have.i hate school and i dont know why. i mean i really really hate it. my parents just opened up a buisness..a lazer tag arena. the employees are really nice and the business is doing well. i love to hang out with a few of the guy employees (im a girl) there older than me but we get along really well. i try to go there as much as i can to hang out with them. but of course i dont tell my parents that they keep telling me that i need my sleep and that there trying to be good paretns. i tell them that maybe being good parents to me is something different than the stereotype definition of good paretns. but they dont care. i am trying to lose weight now that the holidays are over adn im determined to do it. i am just really really unhappy. i dont know what to do! im so confused. i feel like im all alone. i dont get it i want to be happy but it just doesnt seem to be working for me what do i do to be more happier in school and in just general life?? im sorry this is so long.

thanks for all who help or try to help!

I'm guessing you feel like you're in a "transition" stage...that things won't get better until you look a certain way or you have a certain object. From time to time, I fall back into those beliefs, yet all you need to adjust is your attitude. Rejoice over EVERYTHING. No matter how simple. You'll begin to notice how much good you've got in your life.
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i'm in a string quartet and i know that spring/summer is a busy time for weddings. we're already booked for one in march, but we really want to play in a lot of weddings. we're all 15/16, sophomores, but very good. how do we get the word out so people know we do weddings? and how much should we charge per person, per songs? thanks!

at my school; a quartet decided to do a Valentine's Day fundraiser:
people would buy their friends or bf/gf a little card and with the card the quartet would visit one of their classes and perform just for them.
It was a really good idea and I totally blushed when someone decided to perform in my honor. I say you give it a try!

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okay i am like so sick of where i live. the people, the things, the places, EVERYTHING. i just hate it. i want to move farrr away from here. i hate winter. i want to move to like florida or cali or something. what can i do? im only fifteen.

We all feel this way at some point.
I have lived in Florida for sixteen years and I'm still here, but yea...
realistically you do not know all the people and you're pretty much just bored of what you already know. Find a way to meet new people. Getting a job helps. Good luck, this is only a phase.

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ok boy boyfriend has a little sister , shes 6 ;
ok just now shes starting to sleep in her rom which is across from her brother [ boyfriend ] & she usualy sleeps with her mom and dad . But now sence she " says " she sleeps in her bed , she always gos to justins room and he lets her , he lets her stay up late and he holds her and everything . But i dont think he should keep doing it because he's going to mess her sleeping up for school and everything & he shouldnt baby her like he does because she's going to get use to it & how is she going to learn to sleep in her 0WN bed if she always crys and sleeps with justin ?


am i right or am i wrong ? beacuse he gets mad when i say he shouldnt do that .

thanks

I don't believe it is your place to put a brother and sister bonding to a hault. She's so young and she will at one point grow out of it. She finds comfort from her brother, so don't insist that it be taken away from her. Just cope with the situation instead of trying to get your point across. I'm sorry if this seems harsh, just look at it from her perspective.

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my (best) friends are annoying. my friends are immature. my friends are despirate. my friends only want to talk about themself. i cant deal with them. i always find myself talking about everyone else and helping them. always. i say something about myself and the conversation immediatly switches back to themself. i like my camp friends, but they live kind of far away to be seeing them a lot. i have one good friend at home, but she can get annoying. yesterday i had plans with all of them. it was a train wreck. when my friends were pissing me off, i stood up to them for like the first time. they dont care. it didnt effect them. i dont know what to do with myself. ive been crying alot lately. i was crying in front of my friends, which like never happens, and they didnt care. i dont want anyone to tell me to get new friends. that doesnt help. these are my best friends and it is way too late in the game to switch friends. all of the cliques are set. i do have other friends outside of my clique, but my school is too cliquey to have people accept other friends into their group fully. i found the people in my grade who i somewhat like. now i feel like im changing and maturing and theyre still the despirate bitchy immature attention-thriving kids that can only talkk about boys and themselves. they dont know how to have fun. the way they handle fun is being stupid. its not funny. i want to move but im not allowed. how do i handle this?

Break free: even if it means being a loner for about a week.
Not everyone in your school is concerned with cliques. There will be some who will prove you wrong.
Just extend your options: take a different route to class,compliment those who are always being put down (sincerly, though), be the one to pick up all the litter at lunch.
People will begin to admire you for your strength, so don't be fearful.

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does anyone know the name of the song on the hills on mtv
at the end of the episode where justin bobby kisses the red head, and audrina breaks up with him.
at the part where they are hugging goodbye i loveeee the song.
does anyone know the name of it?
part of it is:
"so long my reckless romance"
or something like that

Almost Lover by A Fine Frenzy

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I'm 15/f... Two years ago I was cast aside by my best friends for something out of my own control and I also got asked to leave the Christian school. Of course two years later I am going to a public school, have new friends and new life all that. But the people i left back at my old school that screwed me over are living the highschool life i wish I was living, it's all to easy for them. Is it because god just hates me?It doesn't make sense and it irks me to no end... it's two years I should be over this mess.

Sorry for the long question
thanks in advance

Forget about these people.
You can't always see the suffering of others.
You never know how sincerely happy these girls are.
Focus on yourself and you'll find that'll make you appreciate your own life a little more instead of dwelling on what you see in someone else's.
I've been through times like this, also...
trust me on this one.
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This question is about Melissa Etheridge's song "I Want to Come Over."

I was wondering if anyone knew why she wrote this song, or what the meaning of this song is. I really like it, and I would like to know more about it.

If anyone has any ideas, I would love to hear from you!

Thanks! =]

She's pretty much hoping a certain girl would come over because that's her love interest. My dad told me that! =]

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Does anyone have a video or list of steps to the dance to "Crank That" by Soulja Boy?

hey, the video that the other columnist gave you is how I learned...the only thing I would suggest is not to do the movements in the reverse direction like they teach in the second half of the video. I realized that nobody actually takes the time to do the dance the opposite way and it just takes too much time to learn. Good luck, this dance is a lot of fun!

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what song is it in the JC Penny commercial that's like "make magic happen" it sounds a lot like regina spektor.

ahh! I was wondering the same thing until I looked on YouTube =]
You're right it is Regina Spektor...the title is "Music Box".

Here's a link to the commercial: http://youtube.com/watch?v=-aH0qfU6bo8

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whats the name of the song that goes whoo hoo at the beginning like 4 times and a lady sings it i hear it alot but i can never get the name of please tell me the name of the song or the person who sings it

It could be:

KT Tunstall-"Black Horse and The Cherry Tree".

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i need to learn to be more social, i do have friends.. but i get really shy and go blank in my mind and think to much too myself. when im around people i just need a way to be relax so i can be myself, and social.

thanks, 14/f

Always keep busy. Don't ever seem like you've got nothing going for ya. If you are constantly doing something, you'll never have a dull moment and you'll always be active.

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My old best friend and I liked each other we never went out, we wanted to stay just friends but we even still love each other. So we never really talk much we say hi and always give each other high fives or fists. But if we ever flirt its so funny but I hate it we try so hard not to but end up flirting like ten year olds and then our other friends get us to separate we get in silly little arguments like well which kind of doughnut is the best stuff like that. Between all this and so much more there is love hate talking flirting not saying a word I just don’t get it! But I think Im the cause of it all. I can’t get over it we both want to be just friends so we say. Our families used to always go places together but then our parents found out and they don’t like the idea of us in the basement all night or going places or traveling. He watches other guys I hang out with. And hates guys that I flirt with or guys that like me. But we don’t talk about it anymore. We are opposites in every possible way. He accepts me for who I am and always has. He always stares at me in class but just looks so sad. But now he’s trying to hide it all. He refuses to go skating with me or anywhere that could end up flirting or something. Why cant we just be best friends only again but we cant help it. He acts like nothing is wrong but then he gets real jealous and protective. We lost our friendship for a while because of us loving each other and our friends trying to get us together and many other things happen like at parties between us. At the moment he’s in a different state. This never happened to me before with any guy. What could I do or say? Any help please?!? also its causeing me serious physical pain...

Only pursue an emotionally mature relationship if you can see yourself marrying him. Otherwise, it would be a waste of time for the both of you. I'd say he's feeling hopeless because you are the only girl who he could possibly want and you are sending him mixed messages. Take some time to organize your thoughts and let him know if you're willing to take things further or there's just nothing between you two. Confusion is the main issue. Once you know the motives of eachother, your relationship should be less of a strain!
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15/f.

:( I have severe anxiety problems about school. To the point of crying. You have no idea. If I miss an assignment, or get an F on something I will cry for 8 hours nonstop. If I get in trouble by a teacher, I'll cry. If I'm having some sort of trouble in school, I won't stop thinking about it for the next 3 days, and nothing could ever change my mind. I won't even go up to a teacher to ask them about it. I do believe there is something horribly wrong with me. I really want to be like one of those carefree people who don't give a crap about their grades - But I do =( I don't know why. I always strive for the highest grades even though it's killing me. Now - this anxiety thing...It's tearing me up into pieces. If I get a bad grade in Chemistry, for instance, I'll cry over not being able to go to a good college because I'm a failure. I don't know what to do anymore. Any advice? =(

Get an agenda. This way you'll always be aware of what assignments need completition. It's perfectly fine to want to do well on your schoolwork, but if you're having trouble...the only way to rid yourself of confusion is to ask for help. If you didn't ask for help: you'd be making the teacher's job very boring...They are there to educate you, so don't feel like you don't deserve their attention. =]

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15/f
A lot of people think I'm shy and label me as a that.
However, I'm really just quiet rather than shy-- and I'm definitely not shy at home or when I feel strongly about something.

I know this other person (a guy) who is also considered shy-- and he acts super nice, NEVER anything but happy.

Basically, I'm just wondering, if you are "shy", do you act crazy and outspoken when you're comfortable?

Yes, I do...but I've gotten over my shyness. Don't feel like you have to remain shy just because that's what people expect of you. You're missing out by being quiet. I used to be convinced that I was quiet and not shy, but whatever you want to call it-you should try to involve yourself more. Maybe you're not looking to be the center of attention and that's why you choose to be quiet, but begin living your life before it's too late. =]

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At school my friends say everyone knows me and i guess it's just because of my personality but a lot of people don't like me. Don't get me wrong i have a lot of friends but i can't stand the fact that a bunch of people don't like me when they don't even know me! I can be annoying and loud but so can other girls. most boys just think im too good and annoying because that's my rep as well as being too smart. Girls seem to like me better than that and give me a chance but those who dont just tick me off. I am a very different type of person but i love myself and what i believe in. I don't want to change myself but how can I get other people to see me as more than my reputation? If you need more details just ask! Thanks so much! :D
And some of the girls act like they like me but i know they don't and wish they weren't fake. I don't hate anyone and think its stupid unless you have a good reason! PS in my grade their are 800 students and not all of them (by any means) know me but a lot do and kids not even in our school do some how. thanks again

Wow. I feel like you're describing me. So far, my year has been amazing because I stopped caring what people think about me. If people really feel the need to dislike you, then they're not people you'd want in your life anyhow. To show people I'm sane, however...I respond with deep thoughts that are sensible when it comes to classroom discussions. Show people you have depth and always be aware of your surroundings, so that you can always lend a helping hand without someone having to ask you for assistance.

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What are some good father-daughter songs for weddings?

Dance With My Father Again-Luther Vandross

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ok so you guys no that there's a movie coming out called sydney white right. i was wondering wwat her college was called. I need to no by friday the 14th thanx :]

Southern Atlantic University.

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We have to present a song or any song as long as the lyrics have gospel or catholic lyrics included.

I'm having a hell of a problem finding a good song, and even one song!

It's for a project, please help!

Newsboys- You are my King (Amazing Love)

This is a perfect example: enjoy! =]

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