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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.



I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.





Much love, Teza


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i was trying to make this really short because its really long, so the comma's seperate something that happened that day.

i was hanging out with kayla, went to zachs, zach likes me, i said i liked him, heard he liked GANIRUS, i liked his 15 yr old cousin brett, brett likes me, me&brett hook up in zachs basement, (JUST MADE OUT), zach gets mad, find out zachs crying, meet a hott kid that i heard called me ugly and gay and that he hates me (jon), later find out he liked me and thought i was absolutely gorgeous, find out zach was crying in his room while i was in the basement with kayla.brandon.brett.and myself., kayla & some fat kid brandon hook up, me and brett start making out, kalieigh some girl from the sullivan that i used to know comes down the stairs and i find out that everytime brett and her hare together he tryed to get with her, she pulls me aside, tells me that he trys to hook up with her all the time and that im fucked up cuz i did that to zach, i say that he liked ganirus she tells me thats a lie and that hes like in love with me, i still dont like zach, i go back and start making out with brett again, when i leave i find out brett and zach are in a fight..LITERALLY FIST FIGHTING. , i start crying, and leave. , now i think that brett hates me, then i go to the courts, and find out brett has a basketball game there and zachs there with him with that other hott kid and brandon., i ask zach to talk, he says fuck that no., then i look at brett and looks like he hates me, so i walk away and kayla is still tlaking to them , walk by and i se matt martin and eric and as i say hello to matt matt pushes me joking around, pushed me into eric, eric pushed me i fall, i push eric saying hes fucked up, he tells me he doesnt like me and to go away and i say uhm k bye bye, and i leave i see george, talk to him, then i see devan (flips me off) im like OK? n then i see kayla walk over to her she tells me brett lives in chelmsford and that im probly never going to see him again, then later that nite, i find out that every time brett makes out with a girl he thinks they are automatically going out, so now i have a boyfriend?, and then i find out that brett ACTAULLY, called me a hoe and mad ugly earlier that day,and then also, everyone knows about me and brett even the parents and they are all mad at brett. but brett makes me seem like the slut who was all over him. and then i found out that i was going out wit PAT the whole time, but nvm that, he likes stephanie, and also just broke up with me.

all in all, i really liked pat, but i can live without him, and i really like brett like you dont understand but he lives somewhere else and the only way i could see him posssibly is if i went to zachs. which is most likely not possible.

this all happened in one day. yes i know horrible day.

Okay look, I really don't mind if you rate me a 1 for this but I think it would of been easier if you just wrote the whole story then using allSRC the commas. It makes it even more confusing. I honestlly don't care how long you write it but I would like to answer your question.

Anyways, I'll answer what I understood. I really don't see your question here.

I think that you should of told Zach that you didn't like him. I mean if you did, his feelings wouldn't of got so hurt. all though all of that has happened, I think that you should apologize to him and everyone else who is mad. Even if something wasn't your fault. How can you JUST find out that you are going out with Pat? & how can you not know that you had a boyfriend? Thats so odd, and it doesn't really happen but oh well. Even though you like Brett, I think you should forget about him. To me it seemed like he sort of used you. I mean he made out with you and thought you guys were going out. You should of told him you were'nt. He is being very immature and disrespectful by calling you a hoe and ugly. I don't think you are, so don't worry about what he says.

Edit-Yeah you can write the whole thing. Just leave it in my inbox.

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what prepii stores sell thongs?

American Eagle, Hollister, Aeropostale, Charlotte Russe. They also sell some at Rave & Forever 21.

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i started cuttin in 6 th grade.. im now goin into 8th .. i stopped for 8 months but then my mom and this lady she knows got into a verbal fight and i hate fighting so i cut again.. [between the 8 months i only cut 2 but not bad] i got so upset that i cut and i left like 19 deep cuts... my mom and her best friend patti dont know i cut but patti knows what is going on so i have kind of been living with her a couple nights during the week because she doesnt want me to be around the enviroment.. well the lady moved out and everything is normal but now i still get really mad and cut.. is there anyway to stop cutting other than rubber bands and the red marker because it doesnt work.

[ i have told one adult who is 20 and she is talking to me when i go to work with her monday wednesday and friday but i still cut ] .. sorry it was so long. * thanks

Cutting isn't something you can just stop. You have to really want to. I'm just going to be honest. I don't think you really want to stop. Now, I've been throguh the same thing that you are going through and it was hard for me. No one ever found out and I never told anyone. Well, then my friends started to find out and they made me relize how dumb I was for doing it and that it is defenetlly not worth it. I stopped because I REALLY wanted to and I set my mind to it and I stopped. It's one of those bad habits though. I personally think that the rubberbands don't work. The way that helped me was to find something else to do when you are upset. I would usually just lay down and listen to music and write in my notebook. I think if you tried that it would help you. You just let all your anger and feelings out without harming yourself. You also have to relize that by cutting yourself doesn't help! It leaves scars and its pointless & at the end your problems still are'nt solved and fixed. Talking to one of your close friends is also a good thing. Just understand that there is a lot of people that care about you and that wouldn't want you to do that yourself. Good luck though and please try to do stop. It's not worth it.

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two months or so ago, my bf broke up with me :( ever since i have been to scared to ask anyone out because i figure they're going to say no..

Can Someone help??¿¿

Aww, after break ups rejection is always scary. You will always be afraid of "no" if you don't take risks. Find someone you like, and flirt with them. If you guys seem to like each other go for it! Everyone goes through it, & everyone is afraid of being rejected but you just have to learn to get over it. If you don't, you'll never be okay with it. For me, I don't really care if I get rejected in anything though. It just means you should move on. No biggy. You might feel a little hurt but just remember you are'nt the only one hun. Good luck!

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My grandfather is a very old, sick, frail man. He is 93 years old, a cancer surviver, a husband, a father... He hasn't been doing so good lately. Last week he called the funeral parlour to make arrangements for himself, he told my grandmother what song he wanted to be played at the funeral, where he wanted to be burried, where he wanted the wake to be. I'm really upset, because I love my grandfather dearly, he's such a great man. When my other grandfather died when I was eight, I went to his funeral and I couldn't keep myself together at all, it was so scary for me to be there seeing him in a casket completely lifeless when he used to be this happy man who would joke around with my brother and me when we were younger, who would take us down to the corner store to get candy since my dad wouldn't take us.. I don't want to have to go through that again. I know it's the right thing to pay my respects, but I'm just so scared. How can I get over my fear of going to his funeral? I do want to be there to pay my respects, but I'm so so scared. Can anyone help?

Babe, it's okay to be scared and everything. I think you should go anyways. I mean after all he is your grandfather and he would defenetlly apriciate you going. You have to understand it will be his time to go. It's gods will. He is old and you have to understand that its the best for him. Being upset, scared, and confused is all normal but don't worry you will be okay. Look around you, your whole family is going through the same thing, maybe even worse. Just keep telling yourself that you will be strong through this. Your grandfather would want you to go. He will always love you no matter what, and if you truely love him you would go. I'm sorry if this doesn't help much, but you will understand. I hope you're okay. Best of luck babe!

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I've been going out with this guy for a month now. I like him a lot. But lately I don't really wanna hang out with him, like the other day he asked me out on a date and I told him I'd talk to him that day. I dunno, but I just don't want to be around him. I am fine talking to him online somtimes, just hanging out in person, I don't really wanna see him. Why is that?

Ahh, I had the same problem before and I figured out it was because I started to loose interest in him. I just didn't want to be around my ex or anything. So, my opinion on your situation is that you don't have strong feelings for him as much. You would rather be friends. If you still feel the same toward him just break up with him. I mean you don't have to break up with him, but I think it would be for the best. You would keep hurting his feelings by not hanging out with him and not wanting to be around him so it would be better if one of you broke it off. Good luck babe!

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what do you think about white nail polish? is it cute, ugly, trashy, anything!! and please hurry!!! easy 5's for fast answers!

I love white nail polish! I usually use it when I get a french manicure but I painted my nails in all while before! It looks cute!

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why are all the good people on the site being banned? anyone know?

If they were "good" people they wouldn't of gotten banned. They might of got banned because they just love to give crappy advice and be funny and have couple of accounts to harass people. Some people got banned because they were too young and got caught. I hope everyone by now knows you have to be 13 and older! You can also get banned for typing in all CAPS. But still, the good people are still here. =)

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im a 13/m
and i have a lot of pubic hair. is it normal to shave it?

It is normal but most guys dont "shave". They tend to trim it but eather way is fine.

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i wanna look really good on the first day of school...i have an outfit picked out...but im wondering wat to do with my hair..

I have thin brown hair...and i can do basically ANYTHING with it

so please help

What do you usually do with your hair? Do you always have it straight or what? Well you could eather have it straight. I think curly and wavy hair looks the best. Its super cute and it can go with any outfit. You can have it half way up. But I think you should go with the curly hair. It doesn't take a long time to do and its very cute. Hope you have a good first day!

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My uniform for school is either a white or jean blue color and a gray skirt or khaki pants.. what kind of jewelry and make up would look cute with that?

For jewerly you should always use brigheter colors and bigger peaces. You could maybe wear a cute sparkly silver belt or braclet. Those are very in right now. The color gold, green , would also work good. For make up, you can wear anything. Eyeliner, mascara are usually the important things. You can use any eyeshadow you want as long as its not like yellow or something. Lol but whatever you like will def. look good! =)

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okay .. like i know how to put music on my xanga... i just cant find xanga sites with the music URLS on em` can you help me ? thanks

I don't know how to put music on xanga but if I find a website I'll let you know.

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okay .. like im fat ... but all my friends say im not .. im 13 and i weigh like 140 lbs ... yes i know this is fat .. , but do you think i am .. please be completley brutaly ((sp)) honest ... and like everyone gets mad at me b/c i wear a hoodie everyday b/c like my love handles and my stomach are huge.. ! and they say i look better with out my hoodie but i dont think so ... do you think their right.. or am i

How tall are you? If you are tall then you are not fat. If you think you are and you want to loose weight for yourself just go on a healthy diet. Your friends are probablly just telling you the truth or they are just trying ot be nice. But anyways, I am being honest.

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Zacks lying you dont look older than thirteen you look like your 11 or somethin haha you definately dont look older you wish...

Alright, I acually don't wish I looked older.

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how do u do it?

Yeah, I really can't tell you how to make out. It just comes natrually. Follow the other persons lead and don't go fast. Keep your eyes closed and enjoy it.

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what is making out?

Kissing. It can involve tongue but not always.

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i know this is a stupid queston but,what would happen if someone put someone else in the dryier and turned it on. i'll rate a five nomatter what.

Haha! Wow, this is halarious. Yeah, most people can't really fit in a dryer but if someone acually did it wouldn't be too good. They would get over-heated and it would hurt because it spins in circles!

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I've been going out with this really nice kid for almost 3 months. I just turned 15, and he'll be 14 in a month or so. So we're over a year apart. He lives a half hour or so away, and I only see him once or twice a month. It was recently my birthday so he bought me a cute necklace, and a picture frame, and a shirt frmo when he was on vacation. Then there's this other REALLY HOT, shy but nice kid that I sort of know. We talked once or twice, and our parents are friends because our younger sisters play on the same softball team. His dad thinks he needs to be more outgoing and is trying to hook us up. My mom agrees that he's REALLY cute! He's a year older than me but goes to the asme school. I'm probably closer in age with him because I'm born before most people in my grade. What should I do? My mom says it's rude to dump Vince, but I really want to. He's not all that good-looking and he can be sometimes annoying. I feel terrible though because of the gift he just gave me! I also LOVE his family! What do I tell him? Do I give the gift back if we break up? How long should it be after he's given me the gift?

No, you don't have to give the gift back and just keep it. It was his choice to get you that gift and it was just something nice of him. If you don't like him that much don't even waste your time on him. I mean it's bad. If he finds out he will be crushed so just break it off with him and just tell him you don't even get to see him that often and it's hard for you. I think you will like this other guy more and more so flirt with him and maybe you guys will end up going out! It doesn't matter when you break up with him, just whenever you are ready too.

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ok this is COMPLETLYdisgusting but when you "eat a girl out" what are the people actually eating & doing? LOL eww im soryr if this grosses you out but ive been wondering for the longest time. thanks !

Lol it's okay. It means a guy is just sucking the girls vagina. It involves using your mouth a lot.

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My best friend Taylor talks to this kid Mike on the phone all the time. Like, he calls her every night 4 or 5 times. He goes places with us, just like he's one of the girls. He tells her she's beautiful and he drops hints, but she has NO idea. We had a long talk last nite, and she said she doesn't like him back. He talks about other girls to make her jealous, he even admits to some of it. We both are DYING to know if he likes her, but we know he'll either lie about it or he just wont tell us.

To me, it def. seems like he likes her! He is probablly embarassed to admit it because he is scared of rejection. So, I don't think he will admit it and he will just lie about it. He might tell you guys after a while though. Lol.

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