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My grandfather is a very old, sick, frail man. He is 93 years old, a cancer surviver, a husband, a father... He hasn't been doing so good lately. Last week he called the funeral parlour to make arrangements for himself, he told my grandmother what song he wanted to be played at the funeral, where he wanted to be burried, where he wanted the wake to be. I'm really upset, because I love my grandfather dearly, he's such a great man. When my other grandfather died when I was eight, I went to his funeral and I couldn't keep myself together at all, it was so scary for me to be there seeing him in a casket completely lifeless when he used to be this happy man who would joke around with my brother and me when we were younger, who would take us down to the corner store to get candy since my dad wouldn't take us.. I don't want to have to go through that again. I know it's the right thing to pay my respects, but I'm just so scared. How can I get over my fear of going to his funeral? I do want to be there to pay my respects, but I'm so so scared. Can anyone help?
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Remember that you wont be alone when your grandfather passes. In the room with you will be your whole family and all his friends too. They will probably spend the whole funeral telling great stories about your grandpa, what kind and funny things he did and what a wonderful person he was.
Yes, you'll probably be sad and scared and have trouble holding yourself togeather, you wont be alone in that. If you feel uncomfortable aproaching the body don't feel you absolutely have to (in my family, any one below eighteen is discouraged from it). But going to the funeral isn't just the right thing to do for the your grandfathers sake, but for your own too. Take it as an oppertunity to talk about your grandfather, to share your stories and your love for him.
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look, i know what your going through. i had to go through the same thing with the man who raised me(not my dad), but thats another story. look, just think to yourself, your grandpa would have wanted you to be there. just tell him you love him everyday, trust me, it hurts to know you forgot to say i love you to someone after they are gone. if you dont go then your really gonna regreat it later on in life. i know its hard but your family and friends are a suport group so talk to them. or if you want you can drop somthing in my inbox and ill try to help you and stuff. rember this...there are holes in the floor of heaven so he is watching over you all the time. i hope it helped you.
♥ leah
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ok,i know how you feel. my granny just died bout 2 weeks ago and she raised. it is really tough but you just have to keep reminding your self that he is always going to be with you and he wont be in anymore pain. i know it is really tough but that is part of life and you will get to see him again when you die. but when my granny died it felt like i dint have anything to live for anymore but just think when he dies he wants you to be happy. i hope i helped you and good luck.
~*Brandi*~
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Ok well thimgs might not be as bad as it seems. I am a christian so i believe that THINGS HAPPEN FOR A REASON AND IT MIGHT SEEM BAD NOW BUT THINGS WILL WORK OUT FOR THE BETTTER!!! Right now spend as much time as you can with him. and when he should die go to the funeral its ok to be upset and scared!! Its a burden everyone has to go thru sometime or other!! just think, your granfather would want you to go to his funeral, and you owe it too him!! it WILL be hard, but YOU CAN DO IT!! I KNO YOU CAN!! and when you are there do yourself a favor and do not look in the casket no matter what!! and do not do anything dramatic to help you get thru the pain!! its perfectly normal to cry anytime you feel sad right now, and do not try and hold it in or you will feel worse. I would suggest writing in a diary! I hope everything works out!! LOVE YOU
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Babe, it's okay to be scared and everything. I think you should go anyways. I mean after all he is your grandfather and he would defenetlly apriciate you going. You have to understand it will be his time to go. It's gods will. He is old and you have to understand that its the best for him. Being upset, scared, and confused is all normal but don't worry you will be okay. Look around you, your whole family is going through the same thing, maybe even worse. Just keep telling yourself that you will be strong through this. Your grandfather would want you to go. He will always love you no matter what, and if you truely love him you would go. I'm sorry if this doesn't help much, but you will understand. I hope you're okay. Best of luck babe!
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