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hi, 17/m
my friend had a party yesterday at a hotel room. At this party, my two friends (who are cousins) were invited. They are amazingly good looking blondes. At this party, alcohol got to everyone- the blonde cosuing started making out, and i was getting rather excited, and amused. My girlfriend saw this and felt uncomfortable and left the hotel room for fresh air.
I talked to her, and she told me that she wasnt comfortable watching them make out, and then we were fine. Also, i kissed both of the blondes. Some of the people saw it, but my girlfriend was not in the room. What do i do? My girlfriend doesnt know. Should i tell her? Or keep it a secret? Obviousely it was a stupid decision on my part, but i was very drunk!
thanks a bunch folks!
yeah you need to tell her before someone else does, which sooner or later they will. it sucks for the person cheated on either way but any girl/guy would rather hear it from their boy/girlfriend then finding out by someone else.
ive been having these weird thoughts latley that i just want to make out with this one guy.
he wants to hang out with me and id think thatd be a great oppurtunity. lol.
but the problem is... im gunna feel like a slut.
or something like that.. you know?
ive never kissed anyone.
but he just seems like the type to kiss.
should i forget about it or just straight up tell him i wanna make out?
nothing slutty tho.
thanks in advance!
i hope its not confusing.
when you hang out with him just flirt alot and smile...i wouldn't tell him straight up that you wanna makeout, that might come on a bit slutty and it will make him feel used, even if he likes it lol...you can try a test, lean in a little bit without making it obvious that you're gonna kiss him, if he leans in a little too make your move, if not then you know he's not ready ...trust me it always works and it saves the rejection ;)
17/f my friend really wants a car any kind of car if it runs it's good. And her mom said msybe how can she talk her into getting one??
you can tell her that she won't have to drive you around anymore, if you have siblings you can say that you can help her pick them up so she can have more time to herself. and you can help her run errands if she's busy.
16/f
This is a little embarrasingg but I have a heavy flow..my period is extremely heavy when ever its that time of the month..its so heavy that it'll fill up a large pad in an hour or less...its so embarrasing because it sometimes leaks out and gets on my jeans..and ill walk around with a big period stain till someone says something to me..I don't know how to control it. How can I slow down my period without taking any birth control..and how can I fix my leaking problem..
the only thing i can think of would be wearing a super tampon and a big pad and try not to go out for long periods of time when you're on your period =/
me and my bf have been having problems lately...this female girl has been texting him and i dont like it at all.....yesterday she randomly text him and i told him to tell her to stop texting you..So my bf reply back and said "Please dont text me". and she said ok.....those this mean that he really care about me & love me..& theres nothing going on with his female friend? is he a keeper?
as long as hes not texting things like "babe" to her and showing interest theres really nothing wrong with texting someone of the opposite sex thats not your bf/gf. i text my guy friends all the time and my bf does the same to his girl friends...if it really bothers you talk to him, which it looks like you did and he listened...so yeah he most likely cares about you by listening to you. theres nothing wrong with him and i doubt they have anything going on. haha you didn't mention anything wrong he did so yes i believe he's a keeper.
First of all sorry for the gross subject.
I got my navel pierced a couple months ago on vacation in Florida. I don't remember which day but it was around June 1st of this year. I know I was supposed to wait probably longer than I did but about 3 weeks after that I switched out the jewelry. It's a curved barbell, not a ring, if that makes any difference.
Now when I switched the piercing the first time I didn't have any problems, so I assumed it was fine even though I did it a little early. It went on being the same way it had been before I switched it. Now every couple of days since I got it pierced I notice a little build up of something around the piercing holes and on the ends of the barbell. Most of the time it's kind of hard sometimes I have to pick at it for it to come off. And sometimes if I move the jewelry a little out of the way it will push a little "goo" (for lack of a better term) out of the piercing hole. It's off white almost cream in color. I clean it almost every day before I shower using a Q-tip with Band-Aid brand antiseptic wound wash as directed by the piercing professional. My boyfriend was worried that this build-up meant it was infected, even though I thought it was fine...so he asked around and apparently every one he asked also said this is normal.
Then just now, I changed my jewelry again. I figured it was no big deal since it was fine the first time and the piercing has had even more time to heal since then. When I took the old jewelry out I cleaned the piercing, then cleaned the new jewelry and put it in. Now I'm pretty sure it was just because I moved it the wrong way or pushed something too hard but it started bleeding. Not a lot just a teeny bit but then I moved it like how I do when I clean it and the goo came out with some diluted blood color.
I'm not really worried that much that the bleeding area wont heal but I just have a couple questions for anyone that has their belly button pierced.
Is it really normal for the build up stuff to be there? and what about the occasional goo?
Now that I've somehow reopened the piercing, should I kind of start over in the piercing process and start cleaning it several times a day?
Should I be worried that the bloody goo stuff is some sort of infection? Or was it just the combination of the goo and reopening the piercing?
as long as your not in pain, and its only a little bit of it, the bloody goo is normal...like you said, you probably just pushed it in the wrong way or something. i would definetly start cleaning it so it goes away quicker though. i still get the goo only its not bloody but you should always clean it in the shower. oh and another tip to reduce the hurting is if you change it right when you get out of the shower so its all wet and it will just slide right in with no pain.
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All my life, I've had straight / wavy hair (never "curly"). Because I love wearing my hair straight as opposed to wavy, I always blowdry / airdry and flat iron it, but I realize this can cause damage to my hair. (I do occasionally put products in my hair to make it look good wavy, which is a different question.)
I read in Seventeen magazine that the supposed Best Straightener is Pantenne Pro-V Style Extra Straight Comb-in Cream. Because I have naturally straight-ish hair, if i were to buy and use this product, would it be necessary for me to flat iron or would it just make my hair less wavy? I like the smooth, sleek look that I get with flat ironing, so will I get that with this product?
i've never tried that before but if you wanna give it a try it won't hurt anything. i know theres sprays out there that you put in your hair before blowdrying/straightening/curling your hair and it keeps it from damaging it. i use dove moisture therapy replenishing mist...it does a pretty good job of keeping hair nice.
what if i never get a peroid?
then you should probably go to the doctor.
but you will, some take longer than others.
you should get it anywhere from 9-18
well i have a boyfriend tht i like alot but hten theres is this other guy tht i like too..i just dont know wat to do..im 16 yrs old...gettin ready to turn 17..my boyfriend is 19 and the other guys is 22....
i would just stay with your boyfriend..you say you like him alot so don't take the risk of losing something good for something else. and 22 is kinda old and i'm sure he's a good guy, but that age difference will only cause you problems.
my boyfriend and i have been going out for almost a year. we're both 15. recently he's told me that he likes other girls, but would never cheat. he says he only likes them based on looks and anytime he sees them, he always compares them to me in the back of his mind and they always lose. but when i found out about this, i was upset. i feel uncomfortable that he likes other girls besides for me. is that selfish? he loves me and i love him but i don't want other girls to be on his mind. it hurts...should i try to be ok with him liking other girls or should i break up with him? i mean, people can't help who they like, right?
most guys do look at other girls at this age...if they find their girlfriend better and are happy with them, they're most likely not going to tell them. it actually seems like he trusts you enough to tell this to you. as long as he doesn't cheat or flirt or do anything ridiculous to the point where you feel he's treating you badly, i wouldn't break up with him.
i really want a cartilage piercing but im really scared of a couple things ...
1. does it hurt when they put the needle through??
and does it hurt ALOT after wards
2. does it get caught in your hair or clothes?
3. how long does it take to heal and how long b4 i can change it ..some ppl say it take 1 year to fully heal is that true?
thankss in advance :)
julia
1. it hurts more if they do it with a gun, so get it done with a needle (you probably would have to go to a tattoo shop)..it hurts a little more than an earlobe piercing because its cartlidge but its not too bad. it doesn't really hurt afterwards but if you sleep on it, it will hurt in the morning. so try not to sleep on it.
2. just like any other piercing it could get caught on your hair of clothes but it hasn't really been a problem for me, just be careful.
3. i changed it after 3 months and it was fine. but yeah it probably takes 6 mos-yr to be fully healed so you can change it before then but make sure you leave something in because it will close easily.
can i be pregnant from pregnant...what are the chances?... me and my bf did the pull out method..and iam afraid to do the preg test cause iam scared what results i will get
yes you can get pregnant from precum. without a condom the chances are pretty good. the pull out method isn't that effective because guys don't know when they're going to precum so they wouldn't know when to pull out. take the pregnancy test, the sooner you find out the better.
why shouldn't a 14 year old get her nose pierced
there's no reason except if the parents are against it since a 14 year old is considered a minor.
so i'm going to get my belly button pierced soon but i'm really not good with pain and needles... iv gotten my ear pierced and that wasn't too bad but how much more does it hurt to get your belly button pierced than your ear??
and is there anything i can take (painkillers) before i get it pierced so that it won't hurt as much?
well they clamp it first and that hurts a little bit but the good thing about it is it kinda numbs the pain so you can't really feel the needle as much. its really not bad, just like an earlobe piercing but on your bellybutton. oh and don't get it done with a gun! make sure you use a needle, which most tattoo/piercing places will do.
So there's this guy that I was "talking" to for about maybe 4 weeks.I went on vacation for two of them and he talked to me every single day,for the majority of the day on texts.I came back and we were good for maybe like 4 days and then I noticed he was talking to another girl too,but they weren't going out so i figured i maybe still had a chance.
He hangs out with me and my friends a lot and on the 4th or 5th day after I came back and after him hanging around my friends he said that he just wanted to be friends because it would be "awkward" around our friends if we dated.So that kind of made me feel like crap because I'm wondering what I did.He stopped talking to me on texts and IM's but he still calls to hangout but we are always with people.Should I talk to him about it? I still kind of like him and I want to know what i did wrong or what the deal is? Or will he think i'm weird or what....
help!
there wouldn't be any harm in talking to him, communication is key. but it already sounds like he told you the reason: "he said that he just wanted to be friends because it would be "awkward" around our friends if we dated". if you want him to explain that more then sure, talk to him about it. i'm sure if you guys are friends he won't think you're weird, just curious.
theres this guy, but we would only talk online. i feel uncomfortable talking on the phone. know what i mean?
and we never have anything to say.
he asked me out, i said yes.
and it's the summer.
what am i supposed to do!!
help me please!
its okay to feel uncomfortable talking on the phone until you really get to know him. i've been there, haha. when you guys are talking online, ask to make plans to hangout or go on a date or something, just get to know him and what he likes, it will make things alot more comfortable for you and you will soon have plenty of things to talk about. i'm almost positive he won't say no since he asked you out already. alls i can really tell you is to just keep hanging out with him and soon enough you will get more comfortable with him and talking on the phone and texting and all that other relationship talk will just come as it does :)
I need to be in love. I have waited for so long, dreamed so many times, sometimes I even prayed. I am still too young, but I long for a true kiss. I have just longed for a man I can love! What shall I do?
go out and have fun with friends. go on dates, just have fun and love yourself, not like a conceited bitch lol but you know what i mean ;) guys will see that and will think its a turn-on. if you look for love, you're probably not going to find it. in pretty much all cases it comes when you least expect it :)
My 16 year old feamle best friend is, and has been for 3 years, dating my 17 year old male cousin. My cousin just recently moved in with her because his family is definitely falling apart. I am okay with that because we still all spend time away and toghether, But my problem is that they have been having sex for over a year now. I know they are too young for it and so do they. Now my best friend is in a hole; she hasn't had her monthly since May! She wants to find out for sureif she is pregnant before she talks with her parents. Should we keep it a secret and buy a test or should I convince her to tell her parents? Also; I know she is not ready for it... should she out it up for adoption or have an abortion, or keep it if she is!?
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you can only keep it a secret until she finds out that she is pregnant, if she is. then she'll probably have to tell her parents.
alright well a 16 year old definetly isn't ready to raise a child by herself, unless her parent(s) are willing to help raise it, but thats obviously between her and her parents. about the whole adoption/abortion thing, i would definetly go with adoption. there are alot of couples out there that are unable, but ready to have a baby and would love to adopt one. as for abortion, its a proven fact that it effects the girls/women who have abortions for the rest of their lives. its a terrible thing to do to the living baby inside of you and to yourself, in which you can damage your uterus and possibly never be able to have children again. if you want to see how depressing abortions really are, youtube "abortions".
Hello, I am a 16 year old Female and I like someone at my school, but I am dating someone and I dont know what to do. Could you please help?
well which one do you like better? if you have to, make a list of pros and cons for both of them...if you're seeing this other guy you're not dating, it wouldn't be fair to continue dating your current boyfriend.
Do people with braces on their teeth normally kiss? If so, is there any difference from those who don't have braces? Especially French kissing.
My ex girl and I are likely to make up in a few days from now. She recently got braces, and I wonder if it will be normal for us to be kissing, now that she has braces :-)
i was dating a guy when i had braces and he said he didn't know the difference. when you kiss you don't use your teeth so if she knows how to kiss it won't be any different.