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I am a young lady that is popular, with books and everything. I want to stand out even more, I want to run track. First is track for everone, and second what do I have to do to prepare for the tryouts in January?
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Track is not for everyone. Sprints aren't good unless you are quick. If you do not have the endurance, it will not be very fun in long distance.

If you really want to, then for distance, start walk/jogging a mile. Every time, jog a bit more. Then jog the whole way. Then jog/run, running more and more untill you can run the whole way.

For sprinting, do just that. Short, quick runs. Repeat them often.


I know there have been alot of kiss questions lately so I'm sorry if this has been asked before. When my boyfriend & I are kissing, we don't use any tongue & I think that's because we haven't been dating for long & we're just getting used to eachother. Is there anything we can do to make the kisses more exciting without tongue?

Thanks,
Elle (link)
A kiss on the forehead is always very sweet as a goodbye kiss.

Eskimo or butterfly kisses?


Hey Everyone!! Well ever since I can remember I've always biten my nails, its a really bad habit. Usually I bite them when I'm nervous about something or when im pondering a serious question. I really need to stop because my hands look like they don't have nails left on them anymore. My ? is How do I stop biting my nails and what can I do to prevent starting up again?? Thanks for your help in advance! (link)
Start by making your nails pretty. You are less likely to bite them cuz they look nice.

Then, stash nail files everywhere. If you feel the need to nibble, just file your nails instead (plus it helps them grow)

Give yourself an incentive not to bite. For example, "If I don't bite my nails for 3 months, I will get a manicure". Something like that. You can also try to get a parent or friend to help by providing the reward. They'll keep you accountable.


I'm 14/f, 5"3, 126 pounds (I dont think that really matters) and I have brown hair, brown eyes. The problem is I look really young for my age, not my body but just my face, I dont know how to explain it but I just look young. I was hoping anyone had some makeup/hair ideas that would make me look older or more edgy? Also if you need to know (because of makeup reasns) i have severe acne. Thanks. (link)
Youthful beauty is to be loved! ^^ You may not appreciate it now, but you will when you are older, and look 10+ years younger.

Spiral curls (ringlets) create a very cute innocent look, so if you want to show off the youthful look, try that.

If you have your hair very textured, it can create an edgier look.

Avoid ponytails.

Use darker make up, but not too dark, and avoid pinkish shades. Use wine/berry colors to look a bit more mature.

If you want to look older, ditch the jeans and tees in favor of nicer clothes. Nothing too revealing though. You want to seem classy, elegant, and mature.

Hope that helps!


OK I like this Boy and hes really nice we used to be boyfriend and girlfriend then someone came up and he didnt like me any more(this was a while ago)then two days a go i found somone else i like and now i cant deside who to like.Well schools starting soon so my qustion is should i like one of the two guys i was talking about befor or wait till school starts to meet new guys?



From,
Big Flirt (link)
Spend some time with the new guy, get to know him. When school starts, then perhaps you can look at guys, if things don't work.


if i call a suicide hotline, can they get my number nd like call the cops or sumthing? (link)
They probably wouldn't. Most places like that will keep it confidential, and try to talk you out of it. The thing you must remember is that those who call are not sure, and want someone to stop them. Thus, there usually isn't a need to call the police.

If they absolutely had to, though, they would.


ok.. i share a room with my sister.. i have limited space but i have the bigger half of the room. my bed takes up most of the room. it is a daybed so it looks like a couch. it also pulls out inot a double bed. bu i only pull it out if someone is staying overnite. what i want is like a new desk, curtains, and a comforters. i am very girly. my room is going to be painted hot pink and brite green. i want stuff like ith those little pom pom fuzz ball thingys and butterflys. everything i want has to be not too pricey like not over 100 bucks each. and not that large well for the desks sake. i need to know like what stores. but like not stores like kmart, target, sears, bed bath and beyond.. different stores. with all the stores in this world. there has to be a good one. and also i know about pbteen and that is too pricey. so please help.

Rissa

p.s. i hate things being so crowded so not that big of stuff (link)
Try looking at domestications.com. They have lots of cute things.


Over the past year I have felt some changes. I notice that I wasn't interested in guys anymore. And after talking to my family and shrink about it, we came to the conclusion.. I'm a lesbian. After admitting this very tough situation to my friends, I sort of lost them. It seems they don't want to be friends b/c they are afraid of the situation, and they don't want to be friends with me. I thought admitting this to my friends was the right thing to do. What should I do.
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Just talk to them. Tell them that this doesn't change who you are. You are still their friend.


I'm Jewish but not religious.I want to become Christian but what exactly does it mean to be Christian.What are their beliefs? Also, does anyone have any words of wisdom to make me feel better when I don't feel that important? (link)
There are many branches of Christianity, so the specific beliefs may change, but here are the basics:

There is one loving God over all, who created the universe.

He gave us free will, hoping we would love him in return.

We didn't. We did bad and stupid things.

God sent his only Son to save us from our stupidity. We were saved throught the life and death of Jesus Christ.

We are saved by faith alone! But with our faith comes a responsibility. Christianity focuses on loving others before yourself, and serving others. Our actions help to spread God's love to others.

If you want to learn more, visit a local church, and talk with the pastor.

Feel free to inbox be if you have any more questions. I am a Christian, more specifically a Catholic.

Words of Wisdom? Whenever you feel insignificant, remember that even a tiny thing can have a huge impact. You may feel unimportant, but you make change someone's life.


Basically I'm sick to death of my family. I really need to get away from them for just a little while. I love them, but for the moment, we aren't getting along too well. None of my friends are around and I'm not allowed to go anywhere without my parents.
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I have 2 younger brothers that constantly fight, and an older brother. My dad is in another state for the next few days, but my mom is here.

help me please! (link)
Try to see if you can sign up for a camp, or classes, or a job or something.


hello, im a guy and im 14. i have always been kind of quiet in school and stuff. i was just wondering, what should i talk about w/ girls? like i don't know what to say in person except like hi, how are you. and on line i just say hey, whats up, and then the conversation kind of goes quiet, i need real help. (link)
Talk like you'd talk with anyone else! Girls aren't that different.


I'm a mysophobiac (germ freak, afraid of things being contaminated) and I hate it because I wash my hands constantly and I go through a bottle of handsanitizer each day, and I don't trust people with my food or drinks (or anything along those lines)...does anybody know how to cure phobias? I'm desperate (link)
If it bothers you, see a pychologist or a psychiatrist. They can help you out.

And if it helps, remember that your body has tons of natural defenses to protect you. And some bacteria are good!


i am going to a new school next year, and although i know four other friends going, they arent my close friends and my best friends are staying at my old school. im going to be a freshman and im really scared. although i have been to four different schools, ive never been to a big public school before. the largest ive ever been to had 87 students. im worried i wont make friends and im hoping you will help me find a way to meet people.
thanks! (link)
Just talk to people!

Joining clubs will help you meet new friends.

And maybe you can get closer to the four friends!


What can a married couple do to find an honest friend when no family lives anywhere near them? And the catch is, one spouse is disabled, early 40s, while the other spouse is in the late 30s. The married couple lives in a bad neighborhood where people are prejudiced against your skin color (i.e. "I don't talk to _____ people.") so making friends with neighbors is impossible. Both have bad credit & can't move at the drop of a hat. They're also not in "the middle class". Due to disability, one spouse ends up feeling jailed at home while the other spouse is at work. The one working spouse is then forced to due all the driving after a long hard day at work, and the same working spouse has to do all the housework. Both spouses don't drink and don't like bars, and the zoo in their city is horrible. With both spouses not sharing the same religion, where is this couple supposed to go to find honest friends without driving the one working spouse to the point of exhaustion? What kinds of clubs is the married couple supposed to go to when the disabled spouse can't sit or stand for a long time? Scrabble clubs require you to sit for a long time. It is socially difficult for one spouse to be in a wheelchair and have the other spouse pushing, and have people give you the time of day. Taking buses with this situation is impossible, as the disabled person is thought of as having less worth than an animal, because "they're holding up the rest of the passengers". With the one disabled spouse being sick, it is difficult for both spouses to be out all day Saturday searching for friends, as the sick spouse will have to usually return home due to illness. There does not seem to be a friendsfornicemarriedpeople.com site, so where does this couple go for honest friends? Being able to go to someone's house and pet their dog would be a blessed gift, as it takes away some pain. The only catch is, the couple cannot have a dog in their apartment. (link)
As Michele said, volunteer work will definitely help out.

Check out the local library. Libraries often have classes or activities where you can have fun and meet people.


when i moved here in 5th grade i met my best friend. and i know i did the first day we talked. and through the years we were so close. like i could talk to this girl about everything and anything. i went through so much with her. in 7th grade her brother died. in 8th grade her parents got divorced. and so much more but i know both of those changed her a lot. last summer my best friend introduced me to her other best friend. lets say her name was ashely. during the summer me and ashely talked a lot and she was EXACTLY like me. and before you knew it me and ashely were together all the time. so the school year went by and me and my old best friend stopped hanging out. we were sitting in study one day.. ( me and my old best friend ) and i found a note to herself in her planner. she was writing how she was afraid she lost me to ashely and that she missed me a lot. i read it without her knowing and it made me feel like shit. i dont think i have ever been so sad. the thing is, ashely is moving in less than 3 weeks 700 miles away from here. and i wish i didnt lose my old best friend for this other girl whos leaving. i feel so alone and i just dont know what to do =/ the last time me and my old best friend hung out was at her party in april and when we were signing happy birthday i cried. cause it just brought back all the other years doing that. and i think i cried for a really long time. i miss her =/ and idk what to do. help me someone =/ (link)
Call your old friend, and tell her all this. Tell her you are sorry you weren't there for her, and that you miss her. She'll probably welcome you back with open arms.


I know this is gross and stuff...but its true....i was raped by my teacher and he swore that if i tell anyones hes going to kill me and I see him all the time...like he is following me or something to make sure I am not telling...and so I dont know how to tell anyone beczuse he said he would kill me...anyone have any ideas...because i am scared to tell someone
plz help!
thanks (link)
Tell an adult. If you don't tell anyone, it may happen again.

If it makes you feel more secure, homeschool or transfer schools for a while. Get away from the situation.


Okay... I know this is kind of early to start, I mean, I have six months until I'm sixteen. But I want everyone to remember this party. i need some ideas of what to do, my birthday is in January. My budget isn't too bad, but it's definately NOT over 1,000 bux. Help me please... any ideas? (link)
A fun idea would be to get a couple close frineds and go on a trip somewhere fun!

Another cool idea is to have a Masquerade Ball.

Or just have a huge sleepover!

Basically, think of the things you enjoy, and take it to the next level!


alright well,to get straight to the point, I'm paranoid and an insomniac.. is there a connection between the two? (link)
Probably.

Maybe you should try a new sleeping place. Lock the door, whatever makes you feel secure. Then, just curl up, and daydream til you fall asleep.


I really am uncomfortable about my weight. I'm only about 106 pounds but im really short. All i can think about is what i'm eating and what i look good in. I don't think im anorexic, but i just want to stop over obsessing about eating but i don't know what to do. I just want to stop.
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You sound like you may be a tad underweight! ^^

If you feel uncomfortable, then just eat healthy. Do normal amounts of exercise. It may help you feel more in control without hurting you.


From Ashley, Age 18 - 7/11/05 - IP#: 128.112.71.xxx Click here to reply
Ht. 5'3.5", Wt. 150 - I have been trying to loose weight and keeping it off ever since I was 11 years old. I dance for 4 days a week for about 2 1/2 to 4 hours long. I try to 2 do at least 25 to 30 sit-ups. I am trying to loose my stomach and some of my thighs, but I have muscles mostly on mah calves (which I don't mind). Someone please help me!

PS: I want other readers to read this and try 2 help me..thanx so much!
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Biking will help tone your thighs.

Sit ups and crunches will help with your stomach.

Aside from that, just eat healthy! It sounds like you are on the right track!




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