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whenever i sing or act in a large group of ppl i dont, i get so scared i wanna cry. how do i get over being scared?

Hi. i understand if you get nervous but realize that your not the only one that is scared...other ppl that also dont kno you might feel the same way so just think that if you have to do it so will others and if you mess up they mess up too...well at least have a chance you kno? so the next time you do just do it...i mean you seen britney spears and JLo and all them. they get nervous too but as long as you kno you got the talent then it doesnt matter. so girl you go out there and show them what your made of! lol Take Care..I hope I helped! x3 SweetStar

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does anyone have any good makeup tips?

Hi. it depends wut color you like and what matches you. if you like light colors try of pastal colors like baby pink [my fave!!!] baby blue...light purple like that...for eye shadow [Maybelline Cool Liner $5] and if you have white you can add white as eyeliner[Wet'N Wild $1.50]..just a line if you want. if you want to have a more darker effect try smokey eyes... midnight blue and bronze colors too...and the botton you can just use black eyeliner...and what i like to do is to use other colors besides black on my bottom like silver with pink. you can do mix and match until you really like that match. Take Care..I hope I helped! x3 SweetStar

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my neighbor is a 13 year old female and im a 14 year old male. she stalks me and she likes but id ont like her like she likes me wat do i do?

Hi. ohh wow thats scary...let her kno that you dont like her *gently*...if you see her walking by or something call her over and be like see...i noticed that you've been stalking me kinda...i'm not trying to be mean and all but i dont really like you like that yah kno...so maybe can you stop and we be friends (if you want to) and see what she saids...and if she runs away crying then the next time you see her tell her your sorry and that you didnt mean to hurt her but you think that her stalking you is just crazy and scares you. Take Care..I hope I helped! x3 SweetStar

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you see, i am a female brunette and i have hair on my legs/arms. I would like to lighten my hair so it is less visible because i don't like to wax/shave because hair grows back even darker/thicker. So what products can i use to lighten my hair? Are there any home remedies so I wont have to go to the store?

Hi. i kno what u mean...you can always run to Wal*Mart and get some hair bleach...i never used it before cuz i dont need it so i'm not sure how well it works...try Nairs Raspberry Scent Hair Bleach ($4 at Wal*Mart, maybe $5 at drugstores) its in a darkish pink bottle. i saw it once and it's bleach...i think it should work. Take Care..I hope I helped! x3 SweetStar

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i love my bf a lot hes a very good person hes never done anything to hurt me but sumtimes i just get really paranoid and i feel like i cant trust him i think too much and im like what if this what if that even tho i have no reason to not trust him how can i stop being so paranoid?

Hi. it's okay if you feel that way...because you are just trying to protect yourself and not get hurt...it's okay...it's normal and just think that you kno that he would never do that to you like you said and then you will be find. talk to him too if you need so you guys can talk about it and everything... Take Care..I hope I helped! x3 SweetStar

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For the past few months, I have had a very uncomfortable pain around my tailbone.

It's mostly when I'm sitting a certain way. And I'm not entirely sure why and when it started but it bothers me.

I'm afraid this could mean something awful. My uncle told me that it could be cancer and, although he was 'joking', I was scared. What if it is?

Anyways. I'm afraid to go to a Doctor because I'm very uncomfortable with people touching me and, of course, he'll have to see my...butt. (Yes, I said butt...XD) Anyways...It makes me really uncomfortable to have someone, even a professional, touch me. But I'm afraid that if I don't go to the doctor, and it's something serious, I'll end up getting really sick and/or dying.

Thank you, in advance, for your help. This may seem silly, I know. I understand that I will get a lot of 'Just go to the freaken doctor, dumbass' but...it's really not quite that simple.

Thanks, again.

Hey. Hun i get back pain sometimes from sitting infront of the computer alot. trying walking around more and a little less sitting. i kno it could be hard for being in school but have your mom write a note that once in a while for a week or so that you need to stand up and see how it goes...if the pain goes away then you are fine but stop sitting that certain way that makes it hurt and see how it goes. drink a lot of milk cuz it boosts ur bones and should help. (it worked for my back) and if it still hurts then have it checked out. it's better being touched then to kno that you are dying yah kno? if u need anything else just drop in the inbox. Take Care..Hope I Helped! x3 SweetStar.

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ok. well i live here in a town called fresno. fresno is a town of really down to earth, cool people. most people aren't really wealthy, which means theres hardly any stuck up snobby people etc.

well.. now im moving to the town next to fresno, called clovis. and clovis is a really nice town. home to people living in MILLION dollar homes. a lot of wealthy people living in that town. so.. theres definetly gonna be snobby rich b**tches there.. and i dont mix well with those kinds of people. meaning, i dont like them lol.

i dont totally have anything aginst them tho, thats just not the type of people i like to hang with or be around..

so of coarse. im going to the school there called buchanan. so like.. im really worried that im not going to make friends because i dont care for rich snobbs which is mainly what the school is made of.

WHAT DO I DO??? how do i make friends..

love, manda

Hi. hun it's okay that you dont like them but i'm sure not all richies arint snobs and everything. try to make a few friends...opick a few ppl in your class and find out how they are like and if they are snobs and forget them but try to find ppl that are more like your friends and talk to them and ask them about themselves and i dont kno..find things to say to them that if they act a certain way to it then maybe they are or not snobs. i sure do hope you find the right ppl there. Take Care..Hope I Helped! x3 SweetStar.

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i have this one friend... lets call her Liz.. Liz always used to come over my house, we always used to hang out.. there wasnt a day where we werent together.. cuz she lives rite down tha road.. but all of a sudden.. this summer.. she never comes over..she never calls.. n i never hear from her.. then i found out she was hangin w/ another girl that was a few years younger \than us.. I TOTALLY DONT MIND THAT but i mean i never see her any more.. the girl she hangs out with doesnt like me so i dont bother hangin out with them wen they r together.. but i feel like mah 2nd half has been torn away!

alwaiiz,
Ali

p.s. i rate

HI. i understand what you mean. why dont you call Liz up and be like Liz can we talk because i really need to talk to someone about this and your the perfect person...can you come over please...[[alone]]...and when she does tell her that you feel left out (if you feel that way) and ask her why she didnt let you kno that she was hanging out with a different person...you kno things that you wanna clear up on ask her! and see what she says..i'm sure since you guys are so close that she would tell you. and maybe you can get to kno the younger girl a little more besides that the fact that she hates you...she probably just doesnt kno you...i think she doesnt hate you.. =) and get to kno her and then you guys can all hang out...you never kno you might be the new girsl best friend..need anything else contact me...Take Care..Hope I Helped! x3 SweetStar.

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okay i'm 14 years old and occasionally i get these little pimples on my forehead and sometimes on my nose and around my mouth. i don't have acne or anything and to be honest i have pretty good skin but i'm trying to keep my skin really clear. i've used proactive and that didn't work at all it just made it worse! i ordered it twice i used it for 2 months and nothing worked on my skin! when i get a big pimple it's BIG like i swear it looked like i had a miniature tumor growing somewhere... okay maybe not THAT big but they get big and they bother me. does anyone have any products that i could use that aren't that expensive that would help clear up my skin a little bit more? except for proactive because i used that already and it didn't work (as i mentioned before) if you have any just let me know!!!

Hi. i use Oxy Pads (around $2-$3.50 at Wal*Mart...maybe $4 at drugstores)...you kno that redish color kind...yes well i use that everyday about 3 times a day and it works very well and i guess it also depends on your skin too. or you can try pHisoderm's snap q-tip thing that comes in a mini box...you cant miss it on the cleanser section (around $3-$4 at Wal*Mart and $4 at drugstores)...OMG that stuff works the best! even the cleansers or you can get this acne gel by Clean and Clear that is silver and i believe with a purple top. you can get the lotion or gel. i perfer the gel (about $6 at Wal*Mart and maybe $7 at drugstores) apply it on your zip and it was keep it under control and wont swell. also the prices are just my estimates...i'm not sure tho..when i bought it, it was somewhere sround that price. Take Care..Hope I Helped! x3 SweetStar.

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i just found out that one of my best friends has been telling people that i was pregnant and had a miscarriage before, it really hurt when i found out, especially when i found out that this was why my boyfriend broke up with me, i want to tell her how i feel but i have no clue what to say, any ides on what i should do?

Hi. hun just march right up to her and tell her how you feel. it was wrong for her to do wut she didnt and cruel. ask her why she did it and wut you do to her i guess. but just tell her straight up that ur upset and want her to say sorry and promise not to do it again. and tell her that you would never say something like that about her. so just tell her everything how you feel. Take Care..hope I helped! x3 SweetStar.

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i had/have a sister.. she is either 3 or about 15... if you havent guessed.she died.. and now almost everytime i hear tha name Abby, or "aww my precious baby girl" or "Ali you're so lucky" i get all upset how can i overcome this?

-Ali

Hi. i'm soo sorry about your sister. well since it's your sister i'm guessing you where REALLY close to her. it will take him for you to overcome it...u wont kno how long but it just takes time to heal that part of your heart and actually face the fact that shes gone and that no matter what she will always be the best in your heart and always be with you. i kno you probably heard this already from other ppl too but like i said before it just takes time...and slowly you will be able to not get upset again. also that it's not ur fault that shes gone...Take Care..hope I helped! x3 SweetStar.

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I am the tallest girl(13) in our grade... and i feel like no guys wanna go out with me because im taller then them i dunno what to do i am afraid to ask guys out because of rejection and i sometimes feel akward in school what should i do?

HI. it's okay that your tall and just go ahead and ask the guy out that you like. it's doesnt matter who's tall it's the matter that you like that person and you wanna be with them. just put away ur tallness and just ask him. and it's okay to be tall. just be tall and be positive yah kno. and in a few years you find that all the guys will be way taller so dont stress and have fun. Take Care..hope I helped! x3 SweetStar.

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ok im 16 and i was best friends with this girl and it always seemed like she liked every guy i liked.. i really liked this kid and of course she liked him too and he liked me but he didnt think i liked him so he asked her out instead.. she started to ignore all her friends for him and now she has no one but him practically... they have been dating for almost 8 months and he isnt "allowed" to hang out with any other girls because she will get mad but lately he has been hanging out with me again behind her back and he says he likes me and he always talks about "us" (me and him) and when he breaks up with his girlfriend how he wants to be with me.. i like him but i dont know what i should do because i think that it looks really bad on my part... if he breaks up with her should i go out with him or no? whoever he picks- me or her someone will get hurt in the end.. so i just dont know what to do.. please help sorry its so long and confusing

Hi. i understnad wut you mean...it hurts alot. have you talked to your friend about how you notice her like whoever you like? i kno it's tough since you guys are friends and everything if he really likes you i'm sure he can wait a while when he breaks up with her and then ask you out. so it hurts less yah kno? like just be like you kno after you break up with her can you wait a while or so before we go out because if you truely like me you can wait for little. and since she's my friend too i dont want her to hate me and get really really hurt. ohh yeah and the part tah she ignores her friends is not a good think...i mean i kno if you have a bf you should always stay froends with you gals because you always have ur friends but guys come and go. if you need anything else mail me im me inbox okay? Take Care..I hope I helped! x3 SweetStar.

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ok heres how it is i like this guy a whole bunch and we hung out and all the begining of this summer ..well i went on vacation the past 3 weeks and came back and school had started for them .. this other girl i know really likes him too but him and her have never met so i dont really have to worry about her, but on the other hand this girl that lookwise is about the same as me has started to like him and is tryin to get him .. well i dont go to school with him but she does and i really thought he liked me but then all of a sudden we just basicly stopped talkin.. i dont know wat happened.. anyways my question is do u think there is a chance he likes me or do u think the other girl basicly already has him since she spends all this time at school with him now? please help me

Hi. how far do you live from him? call him and ask him to hang out cuz if you really like him i'm sure it wont be wierd or nothing if you asked himo ut to chill and hang out and stuff yah kno. and as friends ask him some questions like wut kind of girls are you looking for and all that stuff. ONLY if you are comforable to asking him that. if not then you can ask him to chill one weekend and see how it goes and then maybe ask him. i'm sure you have nothing to worry about. just keep in contact with him so you can be up to date on whats going on. ask him like so what you do ins chool today...something like that...Take Care..I hope I helped x3 SweetStar.

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On Friday I was with this boy it was our first time hanging out we've been friends for almost a year. We made out and stuff and he went up my shirt. He kept asking to finger me and I said no and then he would ask again and again. I dunno I think this is a little werid don't you? We're not going out like bf and gf but I can see us doing that. I really do like him but should I let him?? and please don't tell me o0o wait until ur comforable bc I don't want him doing it then never talking to me again. sry if this is long

Hi. wow well it's your decision if you want him to or not but personally i wouldnt let him because you guys arint going out so there might be a chance that he will do it and then never talk to you again so let him kno that your not ready for it and that you guys arint going out and everything. and if he asks you out and is only for that then i wont let him tho cuz it's just wrong to use someone for that. Take Care..I hope I helped x3 SweetStar.

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Hi my name is jessica my friend and i have known each other since 2nd grade now she thinks i called her a jerk so now its a big fight between us i tld her sorry but she said that it didnt cut it so i really want to be friends again what should i do

Hi. if she thinks that you called her a jerk then why dont you talk to her and tell her that you didnt do it? tell her even if you have to scream or get in front of the class wutever and tell her that you guys need to talk and that we need to get some things straighten out. and then tell her that since you guys have been friends so for soo long why would you call her a jerk and see what she says. she should understnad if you explain to her and talk to her. Take Care..I hope I helped x3 SweetStar.

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i recently signed up for 7th grade.YEAH! i get to go to a new skool! but i got the shitty pod. and my "friend" got it too. she made me promise not to transfer, but i know i can. should i? i really hate the teachers. i will rate good!

Hi. i kno wut u mean...do whats best and wut you think is best for you. i kno you guys are friends and all but it's not always up to her to make the decision for you, so you go and make your own if you want to or not. Take Care..I hope I helped x3 SweetStar.

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Hey I was wondering if anyone had any ideas or tips on puttin on eye shadow. I wear it all the time but I always do it the same way: white eye shadow, black eye liner, and masquara! If you have any ideas lemme know!!

Hey. experiment with colors...try using eyeliner with it and then dont. you can use the new creame shadows and apply then to both top and bottom. in seventeen it said that if you want a flirty look try using some bronzish color creame shadow for top and replace that same color for the bottom. see is that works. Take Care..I hoped I helped! x3 SweetStar

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im not in any of my friends classes and i feel depressed ive had such a bad day.. and im really starting too get back at the "im ugly" stage

[its not really about advicenators]

HI. your not ugly...okay i kno there are pretty gross things out there in the world but hunn let me tell u...ur NOT ugly...i kno i haven't seen you but every person is unique in their own special way...you heard of that i'm sure. i mean i hate the way i look but hey life goes on... and i kno wut you mean about not having any classes with your friends. i recently just moved and i only kno this one person from being in this ms for 2 weeks and i dont have any classes with her and i dont kno anyone. but rememeber if you get to kno the ppl in ur classes i'm sure they airnt that bad and everyone has bad days not just you so your not alone. so why not just be happy! lol =D Take Care..I hoped I helped! x3 SweetStar

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My best friend and i are practically sisters and now my mom mite have to move into another state because of her job in the next 2 years. I kinda want to move because where we live- everything is boring and nothing ever happens it seems like- and our house is teenie tiny and i wish we had a new one- and we can afford one- but i really don't want to leave her. We grew up together and we are like all each other ever had!! My parents are asking me about my opinion on this and i don't know what to tell them. I know i'll have friends there but i will never find one like her. I could probly visit her a lot too. Just i dunno how i will be if we do move- i am scared.

Hey. I just recently moved so i understand how you feel. just from now on keep the close friendship you have with ur friend and let it stay that way until you finally have to move. i mean if you want to move and explore a new places it's a great way for life but leaving a friend is definitly hard. so tell your parents how you feel and your friend and like you said if you really want to move you guys can always visit eachother and of corse no one can replace your friend since you grew up together. and as long as you guys keep in touch and have a friendship as close as the one you got...distance is no bid deal for you! Take Care..I hoped I helped! x3 SweetStar

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