Website:
My ForumMember Since:
January 24, 2007Answers:
533Last Update:
October 2, 2007Visitors:
42383Main Categories:
Mental health
Personal Finance
Home Decorating
View All
about
advice
i'm pretty tall & i have a hard time findingg good jeans.
all my jeans end up getting pretty baggy & stretch out. i want them to be tight & long & sorta flare [ but not be like totally hippy bellbottoms haha ]. but i really cant find any jeans that are like.. under 40$ maybe? that fit this description.
i'm 14/f, 5'6'' inches tall, jean size: [ i think ] juniors 3Long
where can i find good jeanss? =/
thanks!
I am one of those people who has a hard time finding jeans that fit well everywhere. But I finally tried jeans from Wet Seal & that's probably the only place I can buy a decent pair from. They're fairly cheap - $20-$30 on average & they last a pretty long time. :)
Ok.Well i have a bf and We've been going out since last year and I LOVE HIM TO DEATH. But we just started talking abt after are graduation of 8th grade. What we should do after? If we should stay together or just leave each other. We are going to different high schools and i dont know wht to do?????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????
Major help needed..................
I suggest trying things out before calling everything off with him. If you truly love him, you'll work around eachother's schedules to make it work. It's possible it may not be as big of a conflict as you thought it may have been. Agree to see eachother certain days & still talk on those days you can't. Be understanding & I'm sure everything will be fine. If not, then make your decision from there. Good luck! :)
I am very shy about my body.
I never get in a bathing suit even around my friends because i dont have big boobs, and like they all do. I always feel so insecure. I don't like it. I was invited to a pool party and i'm mainly going because of the reason
but thats not the fool reason.
any help I can get on being comfortable with my body ?
Every teenage girl has atleast one thing they'd change about their body or appearance, so you're really not alone. Believe it or not, just about every one of your friends will probably worried about their own flaws rather than focusing on everyone else's flaws. If you aren't confident with what you were born with, then atleast there are ways to enhance what you already have. In this case - find a bathing suit that'll compliment your chest. Choose a halter styled top for more support or anything with extra padding & push up for cleavage. Eventually, you have to accept not everyone develops at the same rate & not everyone is born with the same features. Instead of focusing on everything you don't like about yourself, focus on the things you love (that you're lucky to have, example: a flat stomach or blue eyes.) Remember that just because someone was born with big boobs, does not mean they are better than the next person. Who knows - maybe you're more friendlier & outgoing than her. As cliche as it sounds, the only thing that matters is your personality & character. & you should learn to focus more on the person you are inside, than what is developing on the outside. Have fun @ your pool party. :)
what does sex with no strings attached mean? and please don't give me a link...
It's basically having sex with someone without commitment or having a relationship with the other guy/girl. In other words, it's "friends with benefits." I do not recommend getting involved in this kind of situation because, most likely, one person will end up having feelings & getting hurt in the end. Plus, it's disgusting to do something so casual (& out of a relationship) without any respect for your body/self.
k, so i'm 16/f. my friends never call me to hang out, and when i do, they say they'll hang out w/ me and they ditch me. it's pretty much because i'm not dating someone within their clique of friends. my bf and i have been dating for 3 years, and he lives with me. he tells me that going out should be a top priority for me, and he never lets me hear the end of it. i don't go out with anyone on weekends, because they all ignore me. i'm hanging out with a new group of friends, but i feel left out w/ them too because i never know what they're talking about half of the time. my boyfriend feels obligated to be with me, and he's sick of it, so he's trying really hard to push me away, and it's really making me upset, because he never wants to be around me. so saying all of this, i have 2 questions.
1) what should i do about the friends thing? this new group of ppl that i hang out with like to get drunk every weekend and stuff, and that's not me. how should i approach making new friends?
2) what should i do about my boyfriend? i've tried telling him how i feel, and he doesn't care. he makes it sound like i'm not letting him hang out with his friends, and i get mad when he does, and i don't. he's not being forced to stay w/ me. i tell him to go have fun, and he pretty much yells at me because i don't go out, and makes me feel like a loser? what should i say to him?
any help is okay with me, as long as i'm not being made fun of. i apologize for the length, and thank you in advance.
1.) If that's not your thing (which it shouldn't be, you're not 21), then find some new friends. Join a club or sport @ school or approach people yourself. You can't always expect people to come to you & be friends. Sometimes you have to be a little outgoing & be the one to initiate conversations with your peers/classmates. I moved out of state after my sophomore year & didn't know a single person @ my new school. I'm a shy person & thought people would come to me, but after my first week of school, I figured I had to be the one to randomly go up to someone. It's not as bad as you think it'll be. Since you're in school, you have more opportunities to meet someone new - so take them!
2.) You should not be going out with a guy who does not care about your feelings & makes you feel like a "loser." Going out with someone should NOT be your number one priority; & you should NEVER let someone tell you what YOUR priorities are in life. In my opinion, school, family, work & friends should be at the top of your priorities. A boyfriend should be somewhere below that. If you've made some kind of effort to work things out with him & he's not willing to help or change... find someone who respects you & doesn't try to make you feel worse about yourself. Find someone who is there for you, cares how you are feeling & will do whatever it takes to make you happy. I was your age once (not too long ago) & I had a boyfriend who didn't care about anything, but I grew up & realized I should have never wasted my time with someone so pathetic. My point is - you need to respect yourself by finding someone who appreciates you. :)
i want a new style i dress very plain i want a new style to be in style ya know. I wear jeans and hoodies almost everyday and i want to go spring shopping tommorow so if anyone had any ideas of where to shop or a site to see new styles that would help a whole lot! Thanks
Well I must say that accessories can make the outfit. So if you're on a low budget, go shopping for some new cute belts, bracelets, earrings, neckalaces, handbags, rings & shoes to go along with some of the clothes you have now. If you have more to spend, put more money towards camis/tanks & tees that you can mix & match with a few bottoms. Some trendy stores you can find at your mall: Wet Seal, Forever 21, Charlotte Russe & Melrose. Hope that helps! :)
P.S. Nothing about Hollister & Abercrombie is in style unless you're 13 & follow what "everyone else is wearing." Go to a place you can have some originality & create your own style. :)
im 13/f. okay so firstly dont say any of these things:
-you still are going to develop
-give it time
-boob job
-push up/padded bra
-pills
-stuffing
alright so i recently got my period in feb. so i guess that means i'll get boobs over time. ha. kay so i really need some boobs im like speed bumps. i know im still developing but seriously. is there anything i can do to have them actually get bigger. im a 30A and recently went looking for some really good push up bras to make me look bigger at walmart but they didnt fit properly or they didn't really look right (no padding ect). i have a bra now and its like padded and kinda push up, but i need a really good one.
so pretty much..here my questionnss:
-any way i can get my boobs larger not huge but atleast a little bigger
-any good bra places that will have push up/padded bras for the size 30A
-anything else. =]
thanksss.!!!!!!!!!!!!1
What exactly do you WANT us to tell you if you forbid us to give you ALL possible solutions?
Here's one not on your list: You can't make your boobs grow faster.
You're 13, so calm down. You have PLENTY of time to develop. & have other options you can choose from in the meantime (i.e. finding a push up & padded bra.) Just because Walmart may not have the bras for you, doesn't mean other stores don't either. Have yourself measured at Victoria's Secret (for your correct bra size) & look around before you give up.
There are other things to worry about at your age other than your boob size. You WILL grow; you just have to give it time. & if you can't accept that advice, then tough luck.
do you have to be a certain age to buy diet pills at like cvs, brookes, walgreens and such?
also, what are the cons of taking diet pills?
thanks!
Where I live, you have to be 18+ to purchase any diet pills.
Instead of copying & pasting, visit this website for information, the history, & side effects of diet pills:
http://health.howstuffworks.com/diet-pill3.htm
My boyfriend told me he loved me the other day.
And I froze because I don't love him back.
What should I have said, and what should I say in the future when I still don't love him and he says it again?
If you don't love him, let him know you really care about him & won't use those words until you are 100% ready to. He should understand! Just whatever you say, don't respond with a "thanks." I know a guy who used to do that & to me, that's more rude than saying nothing at all.
whats some good long lasting, fairly cheap. eyeliner?
i want it to last the entire school day and come in black.
links would be greatly appreciated.
or stores where to buyyyy.
I use Cover Girl Perfect Point (black pencil.) It's about $4-$5 at any drugstore. To make it last longer, apply a tad bit of vaseline over the eyeliner. :)
what are some websites/stores that have like really cool purses,like roxy and like brand name stuff.
thanx!
p.s.-not more than $30.
PacSun, Tillys, Zumiez & Anchorblue.
my name is ren and i am 14/f and i go to a very very small school- there are only 18 kids including me. i am in 8th grade. i have only about 5 girls in that class who are my "friends". lately none of them has been acting like friends to me though- and dont get me wrong i do not have any social problems at all, i have been to 4 other schools and i have 3 older very popular sisters. i get spacey sometimes but not that much at all i just have those 'times' everyone gets. well two of my friends have been talin about me behind my back and constantly teasing me in front of me and my other friends are starting to join in. and now everyone says things like "this is easy i mean ren got it" and "ren got it- its a miracle' or "omg you dont get it and ren did thats just sad". the boys taunt me all the time and my friends laugh and start to encourage them. i could hang out with the other girls- the class biothes who decide who cool or not and all they do is gossip. have any advice?
I'm sorry you go to school with a bunch of immature girls. If this taunting/teasing is taking place during class, I'd suggest taking it up with your teacher. After class, tell her the other girls' comments are getting to you & you'd appreciate it if she could step in & do something about it. If nothing changes, then you should go to your principal. You're in school to get an education - not to worry about cliques or other girls' opinions. I think it'd be mature of you to just ignore their comments. Focus on your school work & don't give them the time of your day. All they want is a reaction & rise out of you, so don't give it to them. Don't associate yourself with anyone who has no respect or who judges who's "cool" or not. When you get out of high school, you'll realize none of that stuff ever mattered & it was completely immature to begin with. Try to make friends out of school! Don't settle for less than you deserve!
i wanted to get my boyfriend a necklace for his birthday. not one that is girl-ish, but one that guys wear. if any-one knows where i can get one that isnt above 100$ that would be awesome.& the mall im going to this weekend is Boardman Mall.. thanks!!
I am not sure what style you're looking for, but these are a few stores I know that have decent necklaces for guys: PacSun, American Eagle, Buckle, Anchorblue & Hollister. :)
Sometime last week me and my bf were talking about having sex and he didnt think i was being serious about it..i told him that i would have sex with him but he thought i was joking and i really would and i want to..he says he wants to but i dont know if hes just saying that or what. i dont know how to make him see that i am serious. how do i do it? im really shy about these things too.
If you truly believe you are ready for sex, you need to sit down with him. Avoid bringing it up in a place or time where he might not take you seriously. (For example: After a joke or at a time when you/him can't have the other's full attention.) When you sit down with him, tell him you are serious about your decision & you need his serious opinion/response. Once you know his answer, just go from there. You say you're shy about "these things." If you're too shy to talk about sex with your boyfriend, then you're clearly not ready to go ahead with it. So just wait till you're completely comfortable & ready before making such a big decision. Good luck! :)
well my boyfriend is really sweet the best boyfriend i have ever had.=D i am really happy with him. Im in love with him. But suddenly he seems kinda like wanting to have sex with me like when he comes over he takes off his shirt n my. like were about to do it but im not sure if i want to yet. Is not that i dont love him i do a WHOLE LOT. What should i do. just stop him all the time. should i just do it. i kinda want to sometimes but im scarde im still a virgen. pleasee help.
Should you just do it? Absolutely not. Respect your body & yourself & wait until you're ready before going through with anything. It's completely fine to be in love with someone & not be ready for sex. When you are ready, you will know. Until then, enjoy the other things like making out & make it clear to him that you are waiting. He should respect you & your decision. & if not, he's not the guy for you. That is my opinion in a nutshell. :)
why do girls shake their legs?
im sitting in class and im looking around and five of he girls in my class arre shaking their legs really fast
why do they do this?
I was actually shaking my leg while I read your question, ha. But I think it's just involuntary, they're bored, or it's just a habit. No real specific reason, atlest there is none when I do it.
I want a halter tankini bathing suit this summer. The only thing is, they never have cute patterns. I guess designers usually assume tankini=middle aged women. Stores that I shop at only have bikinis such as PacSun and local surf shops. And other places I know of have ugly patterns. Are there any online websits that have cute patterns? Thanks a lot (:
I think Victoria's Secret has some cute ones. & since there sizes run smaller than most places, in my opinion, you shouldn't have a problem finding a size. :)
http://www.victoriassecret.com
You can also try: Tillys, Charlotte Russe, Wet Seal & Zumiez. Or any department store. I don't think they have any on their websites, but I have seen them on their racks.
I've been with my boyfriend for awhile and its amazing how we can have such a strong relationship without having sex. Most couples our age don't wait this long and I think we're unique because of it. I wasn't ready up until now. I'm ready to have that connection with him and I think he's the one for me. The thing is, I don't know anything about sex. I didn't get educated by my friends spilling their sexual life, I don't read magazines and I don't watch videos. Pretty much, I wouldn't know what to do and thats a tad embarrassing. My question is, how do you go about having it especially your first time? Am I expected to know "positions" or do I just lay there?
*Your help would mean a lot to me*
First off, congratulations for making such a good choice to wait this long. Very proud of you. :) Onto your question: not much is expected the first time. If it's first time as well, then that's great because you are both on the same boat! If not, just have a talk with him. If you're ready to have sex with him, then you should be able to be comfortable enough to discuss these worries with him. He should be very understandable &, under no circumstances, should he expect you to be a pro at first. To be a little more informed about the risks, precautions & other health information regarding sex, visit: plannedparenthood.org. But if you want tips, positions & other things you can do, I suggest going to sex-project.com or renting a porn (IF you're 18+.) I know you may think porn is disgusting & something you have no desire to watch, but it's very educational for those who don't know too much. If you're not old enough for those things, talk to a friend or grab an issue of Cosmopolitan off the shelf. When the time comes, everything will probably come naturally. The more comfortable you are with him, the more better it will be. If you're not 100% comfortable, then maybe it's a sign that you should wait. Just remember, you should never feel embarassed with him & if you're not great, then so what? Sex shouldn't be a number one priority in your relationship. There's always time to improve! & as long as you communicate & share eachothers favorite positions/moves, etc, then next time can always be better. Good luck, be safe & stay protected! :)
i think that i'm finally getting an ipod fro my birthday because i'm sick of cd players breaking. so i was wondering the general price of a nano. i know they're usually around $200 but is there a store where they're a little bit cheaper, or another ipod that's not as much? because my mom's pretty cheap, lol but it's not like we don't have money.
I got my nano for $190 awhile back, but I've seen them down to $120-$140 depending on where you get them. I think the cheapest I've seen them is @ Target. But if you're concerned about it breaking, don't get an ipod. They're finding out they are breaking down shortly after one year is up (because of the 1 year warranty.) I have 3 friends who had there's barely over a year & they just stopped working. But if you're willing to take the chance & buy a new one in a year, go for it.
how do you tell if your bra is too small?
like if it rides up when you lift your arms does that meen its too small or too big?
detailed answers are welcome
Suprisingly 80% of women wear the wrong bra size. When I worked at Victoria's Secret, we were trained to find your correct bra size.:
1. Take a tape measure and measure around your rib cage (right beneath your bust line.) Take that number & add 5. Write that number down.
2. Measure your bust at it's fullest point & write that down.
3. Subtract that number (from step 2) FROM
the number (from step 1).
4. If your answer is, this is your CUP size:
0=A cup
1=B cup
2=C cup
3=D cup
4=DD cup
5=E cup
5. Your number from step 1 (after adding the 5) is your BAND size.
To answer your question: If your band size is riding up, your bra size is too loose. So adjust the band with a tighter hook. If that doesn't work, you'll need to find a small band size bra (ex: If you're at a 36B, switch to a 34B.)