Hello, call me Abby =] I'm eighteen and a senior in high school this year. I've always had great advice, I'm just not so great at following it =P Feel free to ask me anything, I'll do my best to give you an answer.
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I need some creative ideas on how to store my purses. I just moved and went from a huge walk-in closet to now a regular closet. It's the master bedroom so it's kind of big I guess but it's definitely less than before. It's full of clothes and I had no room to store my purses so that they are easily accessible.
In my walk-in I had installed these hooks that were meant to be coat racks on the closet wall, which worked really well because it was out of sight. Unfortunately there's not enough room in my new closet to do the same thing. I need something that obviously can be outside of the closet in my bedroom. I don't really want them on a hook on my bedroom wall so don't suggest that. I want it to look uncluttered so I don't want them on display.
Keep in mind that I don't have any really small purses the smallest is like a medium tote, so I need to accommodate for larger bags.
Any ideas would be great, thanks! (link)
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You could put them in storage containers under your bed or get a purse hanger like this: http://www.organize.com/scmoutho.html
I have one that goes vertically and is made of cloth that just has straps that you snap open and slide the purse handle on to like this:
http://www.organize.com/lavender-handbag-holder.html
If you have more room you could use 'cubbies' like this one:
http://www.organize.com/parkapurse.html
Go to your local target or ikea, they usually have really creative (and cute too!) storage items.
Good luck!
-Abby
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okay im 16/f n im a virigin
ive have known ma man for 3 1/2 years and he really wants to do it and so do i.but im so scared b/c its my 1st time and im so scared of gettin pregnant. he told me that we will use a condom and everything but still im not 100% sure.can anyone tell me how can i be 100% sure that i will not get pregnant. (link)
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The only 100% way is abstinence. Birth control can come very close, like 99%, but nothing other than abstinence gives you full protection.
If you are going to have sex, I suggest having him wear a condom. If used properly, you should be fine. If sex becomes a regular thing, you may want to look into birth control pills (and still have him wear a condom to protect from STDs). There are other methods such as the patch, shots, intrauterine devices, but the pill is the least invasive but requires responsibility. Make sure you are prepared for the consequences of sex, emotionally and physically. Remember, you won't regret waiting a little longer but you may regret doing it when you weren't ready.
Good luck and be safe,
-Abby
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So I've been with this girl for 9 months and
we have fights every now and then. Today I called her to come see me during my lunch period. Well I called her about 30 minutes early to get ready which shouldn't be long because i told her to just dont worry about her make up and just put clothes on, but she told me she couldn't make it after my lunch break was over.It should take her about 5-10 minutes to get to me. I waited 45 minutes outside for her, when i could've just spent my time with my friends during lunch. She said she had to get gas, her dad had to change the light in the car and whatever. And I'm just so mad I waited 45 minutes when I was looking forward to seeing her. I really wanted to see her. And then when school was over I came home and she came to see me, and I told her how mad I was because of that, then she called me SELFISH because when she wakes up she has to finish all her "priorities", which is probably NOTHING. This girl is 18, she's done with all her high school credits and she doesnt have a job. She's been home since she got out of school. She can't find a damn job. And she calls me SELFISH when I offer to buy her food and buy her movie tickets. I don't see how it's selfish of me to call her to come see me because first of all, everytime I call her she's always asleep. It's 11:30 in the morning. I'm not calling to wake her up so she can finish all her chores, I'm calling her to come see me and it makes me so angry that she would think that I should call her to wake her up so she could do her daily chores THEN come see me. I'm not calling her so she can do her daily chores. On top of that, she accuses me of being tired during the weekend when I'm with her. Which I am, but HELLO, I wake up at 6:00 in the morning and go to school until 3:35, I get to my house at 4:00 and I have 30 minutes worth of break before I need to get ready for work at 4:30, then I work from 5-9 depending on my schedule. I have the worse job in that restuarant becauses dishes pile up like hell. She forced me to stay awake with her Sunday because I'm going to see my cousin in massachusetts for summer vacation for two weeks, so I'm not going to spend time with her, and after that I have to work the rest of the summer and go to 3 weeks of prerequisite classes or whatever for my major. At least I'm doing something. She also said that next time she comes visit me she'll just call. And I just told her to don't bother and it's okay because 1. I'm not going to be let down like that again, this happens way too many times and 2. She's never going to because she doesn't even wake up until I call. I can't rely on her to do anything because relying on her would be waiting for a plum to dry up. (link)
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You didn't ask a question, so it seems like you don't need advice, you just want to vent. What you need to do is take this frustration and put it into words that your girlfriend can understand, and calmly discuss it with her. Your different lifestyles and goals may be clashing with each other, and it may not be the best time for a relationship. Or, as a pair, you can both decide if the relationship is worth working for. This will take a change in behavior on both of your parts, and she may not be willing to change. See what works best for you. You're too young to be worrying about relationship problems, just try to have fun and do what makes you happy.
Good luck,
-Abby
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im male 16 and im gay i have a boyfriend hes 17 we have a great relationship we really love each other and we havent told anyone yet my parents keep asking me when im gonna get a girlfriend you should bring a girl home it bugs me a bit i just make up something im not ready yet to tell anyone that im gay im not sure how to bring it up how do i get them from bugging me? what should i do? (link)
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First off, I'd like to congratulate you on having a great relationship with your boyfriend. Good relationships are hard to come by and it would be wonderful if people could appreciate it, whether its between a girl and a boy or a boy and a boy.
If you don't want to tell them yet, it's your choice. If you feel like they are the type of parents that would overreact and do something as drastic as kicking you out of the house, telling them now could be a bad idea. Sometimes the best time to admit it is when you are independent and their influence on you isn't quite so heavy.
If they bug you, you could say that you want to keep your relationships private, or you're to busy to date with schoolwork/sports etc. But parents are nosey and will probably continue to bug you about it. If you are considering "coming out", let me know and I'll try to help you find ways of talking to your parents about it.
Good luck,
-Abby
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I've been getting staph infections a few times over the past 6 months, Once on my leg, then another one popped up around my butt... then after those went down, I got another one on my stomach a couple months later... I have horrible scarring. I have two purple dots on my legs, then a purple dot on my stomach... it's just gross looking and it makes me self-concious...
But anyways... I have another one.. that I just got... on the side of my lip... and now I'm really starting to get nervous about the scarring. I need to figure out where the staph is coming from, it's probably living around my room somewhere, but in the meantime I'm worried about how I'm going to get this scar to go away once the welt goes down. I know I'm going to have a purple dot on my lip and I'm getting really paranoid.
Is there any way to prevent this sort of scarring form the scar tissue that's going to form afterwards? Any home remedies, any antibiotic/scar treatments? Tea-Tree Oil, hot compresses? ANYTHING. please help. (link)
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You need to see a doctor. A staph infection is just that, an infection. It needs anti-botics, possibly a topical or in pill form. It's not coming from your room, usually you catch it in public places (like a public pool). If you really think its a cause in your house, get lysol disinfectant spray and go over surfaces. Besides that, make sure you go to the doctor.
-Abby
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16 year old male and ive realised for awhile that i really like guys and i havent told anyone about it yet im a bit nervous and ive become really close to this guy we hang out a lot and weve become real close the other day we were talking and he told me that hes gay and he really likes me im got a bit nervous i wasnt really sure how i felt about him ive been thinking about it the last couple of days and we have a good connection he makes me happy when im around him i feel comfortable when im with him so i think thats a sign i want to be with him what do you think?
im a bit nervous about it getting out i havent told anyone about my sexuality but should i still go for it? (link)
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Coming in to your own is hard, especially if it's something that makes you different then others. If your just realizing these feelings, don't jump into anything too fast. Get to know him more and you'll feel it if you like him. If you two are happy when your with each other thats a sign that it's a good relationship. Take it slow. Coming out isn't an easy thing to do. Do it when it feels right.
If being with him, or any guy, will make you happy, then go for it.
Good luck,
-Abby
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I have an odd, flaky rash around my nose. The doctor said it was just irrated skin, and that I should use cortizone on it, but it's still there!! Anyone know any fast remedies for dry, irrated skin? I'll appreciate any ideas :]
-M:] (link)
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You should use a medicated moisturizer and try soothing products like aloe vera (keep it in the fridge!) If it's inflamed, I've read that you can crush an advil/ibuprofel tablet and mix it with a little moisturizer and put it on your nose to reduce inflamation.
When you aren't moisturizing it, don't touch it! That will only irritate it more. You could also try products like oat meal baths or check out your local drug store and see what they have over the counter.
If the problem doesn't clear up in a week or so, I would see a dermatologist.
Good luck!
-Abby
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19/f well on Friday i went to this auto shop, and the owner there started flirting with me, and i asked him if he could fix my car since it had some scratches and dents on it, he told me about this place across the street so i went there and got an estimate. I came back to the shop with that male manager who was hitting on me, and he started telling me how i had nice tits, and legs, and saying he wanted to buff me out. This was in his office and he's married (I saw the pictures) Well anyways i got offended and started yelling at him. Then i went home and looked up his number, and then we started talking on the phone and he said he wanted to have sex with me and for some reason i agreed. Well on Saturday i called him and told him i didn't want to have sex with him, and then he said that's fine but not to call him after 6. Well the next day i did on accident because i didn't recognize the number on my phone and then i got scared and yesterday i got a call from him and he was asking me why i called him. I told him it was on accident, and then we started talking, and then he said to hold on but my arm got tired, so i hung up on him. HE called me back and started yelling at me telling me that we needed to keep a professional relationship and then i told him off, and he said he was going to file a police report. i got scared and called him again and told him not, but he said he already did. About 10 minutes later i get a call from Harris County police department and the lady was asking me why i was calling him. And i told her kind of what happened, and then she said she was going to send a police officer over, but i left my house and went to school. There i go t another call from a deputy saying that the manager of that auto shop filed police report and wasn't going to press charges because he doesn't want me to get into trouble, but he is serious about it. And that was my warning, so after that i never called him. Well my question is could i get into more trouble? i am very frightened because if my parents found out i would get kicked out. And also how long will this police report stay on file? I know that guy did this be cause he's mad just cause i wouldn't have sex with him. So yeah i don't know what to do and i am very scared please help! (link)
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It's ridiculous that he would file a police report on YOU. People like that disgust me. He was probably afraid you would spill his secret to his wife and wanted to scare you into not calling. If no charges are pressed I don't think a police report will harm you, most employers won't see that.
You could file a sexual harrassment report or report his business for unproffesional behavior. Honestly, I think you would be better off letting this go. I don't think he will bother you anymore.
Good luck,
-Abby
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i know what your thinking... "is this chick stupid?" but hear me out. me & this boy were messing around & he was fingering me. then he started rubbing his "head" on my vagina. he told me i was too tight to even go in ,but through out the time i guess i kinda got a little loosened up or whatever. he said that "only the head was there." no idea what that meant. i just kept telling him to please not go in whatever he did. i don't wanna lose my virginity at 15. so did i just have sex? :/ i wasn't meaning to go that far. OH & he was cumming while rubbing it on my clit. so could i get pregnant? he told me no. idk.
please help . :( (link)
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Being a virgin is identified by different things by different people. It is not identified by breaking your hymen scientifically, because not all women even have hymens. For homosexual people, they can't even have penis to vagina penetration but they still can lose their virginity. Typically its qualified as penetration. Did his penis go in you? Then you may consider yourself to not be a virgin. Some people don't consider it sex if he doesn't ejaculate. I think you would have felt him going in you, so you probably are a virgin.
If his penis was in your vagina and he ejaculated, you could be pregnant. Don't let a boy give you sexual advice. They can mislead you and take advantage of you. Go to your doctor or local free clinic and get the advice you need, and possibly a pregnancy test.
-Abby
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I told my pastor that i' ve been attracted to him for a while.
Every time I see him at church were very friendly with eac other and we even flirt with eye contact. He told me to email him during the week. I now have stronger feelings for him than before. I feel like I'm in love with him. How do I cope
with these feelings. I'm afraid to tell him that the attraction grew to love. I don't want to loose him as a friend. Help!!! Thanks!!! (link)
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What you are feeling is lust, or just a general crush. It is much too soon to be love, even though it feels so great. Don't tell him of these feelings and let the relationship progress naturally. You may find that you are in love with the idea of him and you together and not him for who he is, or just excited at the prospect of a new relationship. Telling him you love him will scare him off. Just enjoy the ride and don't make any aggressive moves just yet.
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19/f this is going to sound kind of dumb but what are some unique things i could do to my guitar to make it look like it's mine? I mean like what are some ways i could decorate it? It's an acoustic guitar, and i named it cinnamon lol i know its kind of cheesy, but just go along with it. (link)
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You could put stickers on it, stick on gems, use colored plastic wrap and glue it down for a crinkled/color effect, sequins, ribbons, you could paint it, you can get a strap for it (maybe with your name or nick name on it) etc. You could peel the wrapper that says "cinnamon" on the cinnamon you find on your kitchen and glue it on, or even get a lot and make a collage out of wrappers.
Good luck,
-Abby
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I have been in a friendship with another lady
for ten years. At first it went well, then
I identified her as controlling. When we
got together, what we did, whose house we
would go to etc WAS ALWAYS her decision.
We had a few tiffs and split for 6 months.
Then I called her and we got together very
infrequently. Now as I write this it has
gotten worse when I thought everything was
fine. We were at a social function a month
ago (Her with her husband of course) and I
had a male friend I introduced her to. She
told him I was a good friend to her- always
there for her and we are also email buddies.
Personally that hurt and I thought " There
it is I am more email buddy that close
friend. Anyway another social event was
the end of Feb and she slipped by my table
and said she'd be back in a few min.....an
hour later she came over to the table
at barely spoke a word to me and kept
telling her husband she wanted to go home.
I feel bad but I have lost interest now,
no time for me to spend time with, so I
have stopped calling and she has not advanced
me even through email. Years ago when I
came back to town after my twin grandaughters
were born, her husband was busy one nite
and I asked her lets go for coffee and I
will show you pics of the babies and she
said soon as we got in her car ' Here we
go caught in THIS TRAP AGAIN' I was hurt
but stayed in the car......and this has
been my history with her. I am through
being talked down to and disrespected.
Do you think I am doing the right thing
by walking away??? (link)
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I've been in friendships where the person is controlling and only seems to care about themself, and it truly is a drain on other person. I also had another friendship where the things she said to me and how she treated me were ridiculous and I couldn't tolerate it. We used to be best friends but now she is someone I say hi to and will chat with occasionally, but it's not where we depend on each other. It's reduced the drama in my life and it may be for the better. The first relationship I mentioned I still deal with. I know my friend cares about me and that it's communication that I need to break through with her to make things better. If you think your friend does care about you enough to change and work on the friendship, then try. If she isn't dependable or caring or concerned with the relationship, then it isn't worth it. Only devote your time to someone who is willing to reciprocate. It may be painful but it will save you future pain and regret.
Good luck,
-Abby
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oh so you think its there but deeppp really deep in there . because i only feel something when i see something "private" sorry. (link)
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It's really hard to describe...Maybe this link can help:
http://www.queendom.com/advices/advice.htm?advice=610
Honestly, just explore til you find it. It is 100% there, I promise!
-Abby
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Ok... I confronted my pastor he actually told me to email
him so I did a few times. I also had the guts to ask
him on a coffee date for friendship mostly. he only wrote me once this whole week and ever since I asked him out he seems distant in communication he is shy like me I'm so lost. But he's usually very kind to me everytime I see him at church. I hate these mixed signals he's giving me. Any advice??? (link)
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If he seems distant, then he may think you're coming on too strong or he isn't interested. You asked him out so the ball is in his court. If he's interested he'll pursue you. Maybe seeming a little coy and uninterested yourself will make him want you more. Just don't push him any further and see what happens. You haven't done anything wrong so don't feel bad if it doesn't work out the way you want it to.
Good luck,
-Abby
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I know people will get their makeup professionally done for prom or whatever. But, I wanted to get mine done before I take my senior portraits, what is the cheapest it would cost? Who/where would I call the schedule an appointment? (link)
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I can't tell you the rates because different artists have different costs.
Usually you can get it done at your mall if they have make up counters. That's cheaper then getting an artist to come to your house.
If you have an Ulta near you, they usually do your make up free but require you to buy at least two of the products they use on you.
Good luck,
-Abby
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I usually have very clear skin I only get the occasional zit but sometimes I get those very big painful ones...
OF COURSE....I now have one right on the tip of my nose. I have a required class field trip this Saturday and I'm really attracted to this guy in my class it's gonna suck if I'm self conscious about my nose all day long.
It was still in the red stage, like before it turns into the kind that obviously can be popped...or so it looked....but just now I sort of squeezed it and it popped even though it didn't look ready.... So now I need help
Whats the best way to shrink it down by Saturday??? (It's Wednesday night) It doesn't have to be completely gone just gone enough to cover it up with make up and not be able to see it.
So I guess this is a two part question how do I get rid of the redness quickly??
And whats the best way to cover it up with make up?? (link)
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There are overnight spot treatments that won't completely get rid of it but may help (Clearasil has one). Put a spoon in the freezer and use it to calm down the redness.
For make up, get a green colored concealer. It cancels out the redness of the pimple. Use a natural color over that and a powder to set it and keep it from rubbing off. Don't put on too much or it will be obvious you're hiding something.
Guys are a lot less critical and detail oriented than girls are, so he may not even notice your zit. Have a flirty smile to distract from it and try to have fun.
Good luck,
-Abby
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thats what i do , but i just cant see it. i only see the uretha and tahst it. my doctor said she saw it and that its there . i touch ym vagina but i dont feel nothing. (link)
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Frankly you just have to feel around a lot. It's hidden by a lot of tissue and if you sort of "dig" I promise you will find it. It's in there deep but its there.
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Recently I've been getting a lot of (I guess you could probably call them flyaways?) Little peices of hair near the top and around the sides of my face that are like broken? Anyways, what can I do to get rid of these? I've tried just about everything. Thank you in advance =] (link)
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You can use products like anti-freeze serum or smoothing cream. You could use gell but typically that gives a slicked back look you might not want. It's hard to eliminate the fly aways until they grow longer. Go to your drug store and try some products, or ask your hair stylist about one he/she reccomends. I find that wearing a headband really hides the fly-aways.
Good luck!
-Abby
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do guys date women who dont drive because they are too scared and they are unemployed due to being laid off of their job. im 29 by the way. (link)
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We all know it's a recession and everyone's in tough times. A guy will understand that you've been laid off, I'm sure the majority of young guys in the workforce have had some trouble getting a job.
Not driving is your personal decision and I don't think it would affect your dating life, unless it made it really hard for you to get around. If it's hard for you to go on dates because of transportation, a guy may see that as a hassle. Otherwise I don't think it would be a problem.
I'm 17 and I've been driving for a year, and when I first started I was incredibly afraid. My heart would pound, I would shake, it would be hard to breathe sometimes. It gave me so much anixety and no one seemed to understand how hard it was for me to even drive to school every day. The best thing was to face my fears and now it doesn't worry me. If you want to overcome it and drive, I know you can. It takes strength that you already have. If I could do it at 16 you can do it at 29.
Good luck,
-Abby
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hey i been wondering where my clit is at. they tell me is at the top of my vagina and is a little circle but i really dont see nothing there. the only thing i see is my uretha. i think this is why i kinda dont feel nothing down there. am confused my doctor checked down there and told em i did have one , just to check and see but i dont see no circle . am scared because when my boyfriend touches me down there i dont feel too good. can you please tell me whats wrong :( ?? (link)
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You most deffinitely have a clitoris. It is hidden by skin called a "hood", so sometimes you have to do some searching to find it. Move your skin around towards the top of your vagina and you'll feel a ball/circular type shape thats your clitoris, and usually it's very sensitive so you will feel pleasure when you find it. You can take a hand held mirror and look for it that way if its easier.
-Abby
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