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Girlfriend?
So I've been with this girl for 9 months and
we have fights every now and then. Today I called her to come see me during my lunch period. Well I called her about 30 minutes early to get ready which shouldn't be long because i told her to just dont worry about her make up and just put clothes on, but she told me she couldn't make it after my lunch break was over.It should take her about 5-10 minutes to get to me. I waited 45 minutes outside for her, when i could've just spent my time with my friends during lunch. She said she had to get gas, her dad had to change the light in the car and whatever. And I'm just so mad I waited 45 minutes when I was looking forward to seeing her. I really wanted to see her. And then when school was over I came home and she came to see me, and I told her how mad I was because of that, then she called me SELFISH because when she wakes up she has to finish all her "priorities", which is probably NOTHING. This girl is 18, she's done with all her high school credits and she doesnt have a job. She's been home since she got out of school. She can't find a damn job. And she calls me SELFISH when I offer to buy her food and buy her movie tickets. I don't see how it's selfish of me to call her to come see me because first of all, everytime I call her she's always asleep. It's 11:30 in the morning. I'm not calling to wake her up so she can finish all her chores, I'm calling her to come see me and it makes me so angry that she would think that I should call her to wake her up so she could do her daily chores THEN come see me. I'm not calling her so she can do her daily chores. On top of that, she accuses me of being tired during the weekend when I'm with her. Which I am, but HELLO, I wake up at 6:00 in the morning and go to school until 3:35, I get to my house at 4:00 and I have 30 minutes worth of break before I need to get ready for work at 4:30, then I work from 5-9 depending on my schedule. I have the worse job in that restuarant becauses dishes pile up like hell. She forced me to stay awake with her Sunday because I'm going to see my cousin in massachusetts for summer vacation for two weeks, so I'm not going to spend time with her, and after that I have to work the rest of the summer and go to 3 weeks of prerequisite classes or whatever for my major. At least I'm doing something. She also said that next time she comes visit me she'll just call. And I just told her to don't bother and it's okay because 1. I'm not going to be let down like that again, this happens way too many times and 2. She's never going to because she doesn't even wake up until I call. I can't rely on her to do anything because relying on her would be waiting for a plum to dry up.
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Honestly,
I would break up with her.
Who wants to date someone that doesn't have a job, has no drive in life, and sleeps in half the day?
I wouldn't. There are too many fish in the sea to be worrying about someone who doesn't have a life and obviously doesn't want to improve her current situation. And she's always going for you to be paying for things. I just went through the same thing, except I'm a girl. And this guy would message me everyday and ask what I was doing. It was either school, work, homework, essays, sleeping or cleaning up the house. And his answer everytime? "Nothing." Yeahhh... I'd get rid of her, she's not worth the trouble.
You want someone ambitious. College will definitely treat you well, haha.
Good luck & hope I helped.
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You didn't ask a question, so it seems like you don't need advice, you just want to vent. What you need to do is take this frustration and put it into words that your girlfriend can understand, and calmly discuss it with her. Your different lifestyles and goals may be clashing with each other, and it may not be the best time for a relationship. Or, as a pair, you can both decide if the relationship is worth working for. This will take a change in behavior on both of your parts, and she may not be willing to change. See what works best for you. You're too young to be worrying about relationship problems, just try to have fun and do what makes you happy.
Good luck,
-Abby
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