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Q: all right, i'm going to this wedding today and i'm bringing my best guy friend and now i'm feeling nervous. see i have this huge family and i'm worried they will bug him or make him feel uncomfortable. i can't cancel because he seems to really want to go an i'm just worried my family will scare him away or something. what would you guys do in this situation? i already warned him but he just laughed and said he was sure it would be fine... but still i'm nervous. help?

if he seems ok with it i wouldnt worry about it. if things do start to get weird try and go away from the people that are making yall feel uncomfortable.

Q: Ok, i'm going to a soccer camp, and it allows u an hour ansd a half for free time. since were not allowed to bring electronicts, i'm going to be so bored. I'm new on the soccer team that's hosting the camp, so what should i bring or do that can include some of the girls at the camp?

you could bring a deck of cards and play a group games or you could bring UNO.

Q: This guy I know and I have had a really weird relationship...
When he met me, he told me I was fit and was flirting with me for a few weeks. Then he got a girlfriend and forgot that I existed.
The day that he split up with his girlfriend,he came and was talking to me...but I just got a boyfriend so I didn't exist again.
Then, a while after I became single again, his friend asked me out. I said yes, but during the VERY short "relationship", this guy paid more attention to me than my boyfriend did. Got dumped by said boyfriend...
Then this guy started flirting like hell with me again. I got off with him once (drunk), and now I don't exist again.
What is WITH this guy?

he is just trying to use you. he only wants to be your frend when its available to him. you should just tell this guy to just drop dead or leave you alone.

Q: ((( PLEASE ANSWER THIS QUESTION--- ANYONE WHO ANSWERS DECENTLY RATES A 5 )))13/f Ok so heres the deal----i got out of school on wednesday (it's Friday)and i'm already bored. My dad gave my PS2 away to my stepbrother (not fair), I only have one DVD to watch and I've already watched it about a million times (Save The Last Dance), my bike is at my dads house (i live at my strict mother's house), and i'm not allowed to use the computer because my mom thinks i download too much. I'm also not allowed to go to my friends house on weekdays (its summer anyway---but she wants me to go on weekends only)and most of all, I'm not even allowed to leave the house to play with my friends in the neighborhood. (if i wanted to go outside, my mom would know, because she calls me every hour to make sure i'm home and make sure i'm ok. she works every day from 9:00 to 5:45. Is there anything i can do????? There are so many rules living with my mom, but my dad is going on 5 buisiness trips this summer, so he dosn't have time for a teenager (i only see him on weekends.)

i dont really know your personality but you could read a book, draw a pic, or call frends. i babysit all summer so i cant leave the house either.

Q: I'm having this b-day party on saturday (bowling) and they're will be about 15-16 ppl there. and 2 of my friends HATE each other..i mean HATE...and i love them both to death and i hate choosing between the both of them, i'm afraid that they will start fighting and stuff like that. question is, what do i do if this happens (i've already tried talking to them both) and second question is, how do i choose between the 2? b/c i love hangin out w/ both of them i just can't do it at the same time. thanks in advance!

if they are really your frends they will stop fighting for the day so you can have a good b-day party. if not they arent true frends.

Q: ok i want to put highlights in my hair with the lemon juice.... could i just get a lemon and put juice on my fingers and streak that on my hair and lay in the sun? im confused!!! help!!!
ill rate

i did this when i was little. buy lemon juice in a squeeze bottle and squeeze it in your hair where you want the highlites. it should work. hope i helped!

Q: how do you tell if something is real diamonds or not?

if you dont mind sparing a mirror, you can take the "diamond" and scrath it on the morrior. If the "diamond" scratches the mirror badly, then it is real.

Q:
Is 13 old enough to wear makeup? I mean like light makeup, not really heavy makeup cuz I'm 13 and I want to, but I'm not sure if it would look weird on a 13-year-old?

I got make-up at the age of 12 and i'm 13 now. I think it's ok to wear make-up. I wear the light make-up like you said you wanted to. Most of my frends wear make-up. hope I helped.

Q: I always seem to ask my self this question..

Why is it that im only visible when people need something to do?

Its seems to always be true that people are really nice and stuff to me only when they actually need something to do..why is this?
thanks a bunch! ill rate you for a good answer!

I have the exact same problem. Around exams, everyone wanted to be my partner for finding answers for the study guide. I had no choice but to work with them b/c they blocked me into my desk. So after we finished they went back to ignoring me. I didnt care b/c they have been doing this for my whole life. If you arent as shy as me ou mite want to take action: like telling them how you feel, refusing to work with them, or even just ignoring them totally. I hope I helped. Look at it this way, you have all summer to practice your method.

Q: I had a friend sleepover last night, and now she wont get up!!!!!! I've tried everything, and i'm absolutly starving! What should I do?!

pour ice cold water over her head. it works for my bro when we need to get him up

Q: Thirteen/ Female.
I want to be an author, is there an age requirement to be one? Also how can I publish my book?
Thanks,
~K.C~

im studying about that too. so far i have not found out that you have to be a certain ag. specific publishing companies might require you to be a certain age, but im not sure. As for publishing, im not entirely sure.If you need to know now, you can probably search it on google. The link below is some tips on how to write a book. Scroll down the interview of Meg Cabot until you see wat your lookin for.
http://www.megcabot.com/faq.html

Q: i was wondering if VEET bladless shaving actually works?? and if so how long do your legs stay smooth?

Veet does work. it depends on your legs and whether or not you care if you see stuble.

Q: Does anyone know a good website to find cute cursors for my advice column? Thank you! I'll rate anyone well who knows one.

starlightmks.com or neodragonriders.com

Q: I have really curly hair. I want to be a straightening iron around $100 since the last straightening iron I got (wet2set $30) leaves my hair looking really dried out & fried. Does anyone know of a flat iron around my price range that we'll leave my hair looking healthier than the cheap one? Thanks!

I kno just how you feel. My hair is exactly the same. i have a Revlon straightener. It works really well. I blow dry my hair some first. If your hair gets really fried then use a sdtraightening serum.

Q: Last night I felt a small, solid lump under my skin just behind my left ear, it only hurts slightly when I press it. I showed it to my Mum and she said it was nothing to worry about and that if it was still there by Monday then she would take me to the doctors. I am slightly worried about it as I have also been having headaches a lot in the past five days. I have also been feeling slightly nauseous. Could these be linked? What is wrong?

this could just be a case of swollen glands. It is very common. My mom and I get it all the time. Jut take some headache medicine and take naps.

Q: Who are some famous Jazz singers/bands? Im doing a project and I need people! Thanks a ton in Advanced. Same rating as number of people you give me!

loius armstrong of New Orleans, Louisiana.

Q: there is a guy that i like but his friend keeps saying stuff to him about me but that isnt wat i am mainly worried about see there is another guy that i like but ive been liking since 5th grade but im scared that he doesnt like me wat do i do

ps
im 13 the first guy is 13 but the second is 14

For the first guy, if you really truly like this guy then what his friends say shouldn't matter. Hav you shown signs to the guy that you've been liking since 5th grade. Maybe you could flirt with him like complimenting him or trying to get to know him.

Q: Oh my gosh!! I am like IN LOVE with this boy at school and like i think he is going out with MY COUSIN. I don't want to tell anyone i like him because then they will tell him, and I don't want him to find out again. I think he is wrong for like going out with her and I think it is wrong for her going out with him when she new i liked him. I also like this other boy and like NO ONE will tell him I like him and I've been asking them for weeks to tell them. Can you give me a way to tell the first boy about how I feel and something else to tell my friends to maybe get them to tell the boy I like?

For the first boy: Come rite out and tell him that you like him. If u cant say it to his face, than tell him over the fone, send him an e-mail, or send him an anonymous note.

For the second boy and your frends: Tell your frends that you really need them rite now and if they told the guy you like him, it would mean a whole to u. If they still dont tell him. Consider telling him yourself through a note or e-mail.

Q: i want to break up with this girl.But i don't know how to break up with her without getting her upset.

you should be nice to her while telling her you dont want to go out with her anymore. do not try to make her mad or somthing by calling hr bad things or lying to her about somthing you did. make sure to clearly explain yourself and why you are doing this. i hope i helped.

Q: im goin out w/ this gy n i really lyk him but i wanna make out w/ other guys

thats a hard one. maybe you should talk to your boyfrend about taking a break or sumthing and you could see if u like making out wit other guys. it mite feel weird. if it does try to get bak together wit your boyfrend.