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I am 17, and I kind of have my eye on someone. I don't know him well enough to say I like him, but I am definitely interested in getting to know him.
Problem is, he is most definitely older than me. I don't know his age, but I would say he is between 20 and 25.
He is a very good person, smart, worldly, mysterious, funny, etc. I doubt he is in a relationship, but of course, he might be.
Would it be wrong for me to try to get to know him better? Would he even be interested in the company of a 17 year old? Well, no, I know we will have a great time if we were to talk or hang out, but I'm just afraid he won't be receptive because I'm just a 17 year old girl. Or, because he is super friendly, he will be very polite and courteous but deep down he would be thinking "What is this teenager doing around me?"
I just don't know what to do. I'm scared he will reject me now, and screw up any chances we might have for the future because he will remember that day "when a teenager came on to him." And then some 2-3 years later I'll see him and he will be like, "oh no, not you again." What do I do?
He knows my age by the way. (link)
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Well if you don't take a chance you'll never know what will happen and you will always be wondering what could have happened. Whether it was good or bad. So I say go for it. And if he accepts you and if friendly and seems like he is happy then that great and if he seems like ok, this girl is creeping me out. Or is acting like he doesn't care, he isn't worth any of your time. There are plenty of guys out there anyways. But also remember, in my opinion I say that is a pretty big age difference but it does work out sometimes. So go for it but be careful too. Good luck!
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A man who was married lie to me that he is single and said he will marry me and plan to marry me, therefore one night we have intercourse.
Then, due to his personal matters done before, he was jailed for two weeks.
He did lie to me in the very beginning that the case was not a criminal case. In fact it was a criminal case and he was the offender of the case.
When i visit him during his imprisonment, i found that he was married and i met his wife and talk to her for 10 hours, in fact it was his wife helping him to find the victims like me, to "feed" her husband, she provide the account for him to lie that it was his bank account etc..
i loved him so much and he wrote a letter to me that he will marry me immediately if he can be discharged (since the 2 weeks' jail was not a defined time, it depends whether i can get letter of pleading from the person with good social status ). He and his wife both promise me so.
Unexpectedly, after i got five letters of pleading and this guy then discharged from the imprisonment, everything changed , all the promises from the man and his wife gone.
What should i do ? Please help me.... (link)
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This guy lied to you. I know it would be hard to forget about him. But to be honest he doesn't care about you. You should stand high and try your best to forget about this man. There are tons of guys out there that will care about you and will not use you like this man did. Good luck.
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When i was younger, i had so much personality. i would act crazy and i didnt care what anybody thought of me. i would stand up for myself and be myself. However, now (a few years later) i'm in highschool, and i'm almost completely opposite of what i used to be. i never stand up for myself, i'm shy (very) and i feel like i have no personality. i used to have a huge sense of humor, but now its almost nonexistant. i also used to have aLOT of friends :( i dont know what happend, but i'm DYING to just get back to being the person i used to be (which is: not afraid of anything). any ideas on how to start being that person again? at home i'm ok, but at school i just clam up for some reason and start acting really reserved. any ideas? thanks (link)
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I am like that too. But now I am starting to be more open. You need to have confidence and try to be more outgoing. Try meeting new people and talk to people in your class. If you want to be the person you use to be, you need to put your mind to it. Not just sit there and wish you were. You need action. I was like that but when you are more open and you talk to people you will be more outgoing. But people do change so sometimes its like that. But you should talk to people and be more involved. So I hope everything works out for you.
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I got drunk one night over spring break and spent the night with a guy other than my boyfriend(we did NOT have sex, just messed around a little). Well, now my boyfriend doesn't want me seeing ANY of my friends that were at that party. I could understand not seeing the guy I spent the night with, but not all my friends... What should I do? (link)
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You need to talk to him. You friends didn't do anything. You should try to talk to him and see what he says. They are your friends and you can hang out with them if you want, they didn't do anything wrong. By the way try to not go to any parties where you will get drunk and mess around with some guy when you have a boyfriend. Just some advice. But I hope everything works out for you.
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i wear contacts and i've been wearing them for about 2 years. recently, they've been getting really messed up and irritated. I think its from my make-up because when i take them out to wash them, i might see a brown spot (make up?). if there's no dirt in it, i put it back in and it still is irritated. I have disposable contacts but lately i've been throwing out a lot of contacts. 1 case is supposed to last 2 weeks but for me its only been like 1. I'm planning on going shopping soon for new makeup because i think my current makeup is old. (i bought the makeup a little over a year ago)
is makeup the problem or do i need a new brand of contacts? (link)
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Well I think you should first change make up and see if that is the problem. If not you should get different contact solution, sometimes that might irritate your eyes. And even if that doesn't work I suggest you go to your eye doctor and see what they say. You might need a new brand of contacts. Good luck!
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well, in a previous question i asked, i asked how i tell a friend of mine(M) that i heard something about him.
well i told him last night, and everything fell apart. he told me the truth, and the truth was what i heard. i wanted sooo badly for it to be a lie. and i just freaked. and at the same time, another guyfriend of mine (B) was getting pissed at me because i lied to him. he just happened to be next door so M and i walked over to where he was because i needed to talk to him. he totally ignored me. i chased after him and apologized countless times and he stil wouldnt listen. so i got the vibe he hated me and stopped in my tracks, turned around, and walked back to where M was. i was too upset to talk to him, so i left his house and didnt even say bye. he didnt say bye to me and didnt even wanna ride in the car that took me home.
and now M is not calling me (mostly because i told him not to. but he needs to realize that i only said that because i was about to start bawling my eyes out,...which i did when i got home last night) and i have calmed down. right now my emotions are some weird mixture of depressed, hurt, and alone. and i just need to talk to him. i just want to be near him. but he lives so far away and i still cant drive. and besides, hes gone today.
how do i let him know that i dont hate him for what he did, that it just hurt me? and how do i let him know i want him to call me? (link)
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You need to tell him. Ok most the time when you tell a guy that you don't want them to call you most likely they won't call because they think you actually mean it. You should find some way to tell him that you don't hate him, it just hurt you. So the way you could let him know you want him to call you is just to tell him. So good luck and I hope everything works out for you!
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Ok, well Im kind of stuck in a situation. A few months ago i kind of liked one of my good guy friends (Nick) and he "secretly" liked me, but I also liked another guy (Scott) who ended up being my boyfriend for two months. It was during that period that i found Nick to be an amazing friend and now i see him like a brother. Ive been single for about a month and a half now and it turns out somehow my friend Nick likes me again, but now I cant see him that way at all, I just cant. He also goes to a different school and i learned from my past 2 relationships that dating guys from other schools (especially when you live in the country) doesnt work, so I know it wouldnt work if I did like him anywyas. I do like a guy from my school however. He is a bit of a player and we talk quite a bit, hes really senstive adn sweet but he "loves" this one girl who is on an exchange student program. I dont know what to do since this guy (James) wants to make out with me and stuff. He flirts with me alot but im pretty sure all he wants is action, especially since he is really into this otehr girl. The thing is, i cant help but like him. What should I do?? I dont know how to deal with my friend, if i should go for James or what?? Thanks for your time :)
14/f (link)
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Ok you need to tell your friend Nick that you just don't feel the same as he does and that you see him more as a brother. And James, I think all he wants is action and if you give him what he wants he just gonna leave you and you'll regret it. I think you should think around on what guy is right for you. There are tons of guys in the world and you'll find the right one. Just be careful of guys because lots of them always want some action and want to touch you. You got to stay guard. I mean not all guys are like that but a lot of guys are like that. I hope everything works out for you!
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Alright so I have been dating this guy Adam for like a year and a half and we're engaged and have been for a little over 4 months. I love him with all of my heart and I would never hurt him. I also have this other friend Oryan who I don't get see that often. Friday night Adam was busy so I went out to hang out with Oryan. We were sitting in his car having this really intense heart to heart and I was tlaking about all this hard stuff I've been going through and he was talking about his grandfather that just died and then next thing I know he came over and kissed me. I kissed him back, not thinking at all, it ws just a reflex and then I pushed him away. He knew of Adam and said sorry and that was that. Well, my guilt built up and I ended up telling Adam this very story last night and he clearly freaked out. He told me he still loves me and wants to be with me but he has no trust and me and no respect for me. I told Oryan not to talk to me anymore and I need to get Adam's trust back. I don't know how and I don't know how to tell him that it really was nothing. He thinks I have feelings for Oryan and says he doesn't know how many other guys I've done this with. How can I get his trust back and make him see that I love him? Please help, my heart is so broken. (link)
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Well think about it if your guy went and kissed a girl then told you. Wouldn't you feel a little upset? So I think you should give it a little time and show him that he can trust you again. You told him truthfully and hopefully he will respect that. So tell him that you do love him and he is gonna need some time to think about it. So I hope everything works out for you.
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I volunteer at the hospital and there's a new person there wokring at the same time and place as me and same room. It's been pretty akward there since we never talked but i'm hoping that we could so it won't be so akward and lonely like in there? But what can i say? I might ask a quetion like "what school do you go to" but that mihgt be really random and then it'll be silent afterwards and maybe even more akward. (link)
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You can ask them what school they go to. I mean there is nothing wrong with being random. That person might notice that you are trying to be friendly. You can also ask if they volunteer other places or ask them about themselves. Like what interests them and what they like doing like hobbies, sports or something like that. So good luck and I hope it works out for you.
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i love this guy. he's amazing. we've been friends for awhile now and he's good friends with basically all my close friends. in the beginning of the year when i was just meeting him someone got the word out that i liked him, but at that time i didn't like him cause i barely knew him, i just thought he was cute and nice, he found out that i "liked" him and told one of my friends that he wanted to get to know me more and he still had a little something going on with his ex (which he doesnt anymore, he told us that he hates her) 4 months later (now) hes been doing things like jumping out and scaring me and locking me in closets and stuff,kinda in a cute way though, if you know what i mean. i texted him the other night and the topic came up where i said something like "oh lol i thought it was because you hated me" and he said pshh no definetly not. it's my senior year and his too and i want something to happen before we both graduate. thanks so muchh (link)
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You should do something if he isn't going to make the first move. It does sound like he likes you. So should either talk to him and tell him how you feel or you can ask him if he likes you. If all fails then you don't have to give up, there is still another chance and still you both would be friends. But I think you should talk to him and see what happens from there. Also you can flirt a little and see how he takes it. Good luck!
Heres an edit: Ok well I know its hard to tell a guy how you feel. I can totally relate. So I would say try practicing what you could say to him. But also that could be hard just to tell him. You could probably ask him what he thinks of you. Or flirt some more and see if he flirts back.
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okay so my parents wont let me go on the mission trip at my church to build houses for the indian people. my pastor is paying for me ($50) because i dont have the money to go right now. well when i talked to my mom about it she asked my dad who said no. but i really really really want to go because i love helping people like that. its over spring break (5 days) and my pastor and almost all the grown-ups from church are coming (which is A LOT) but she (and he) still wont let me go ! how do i convince them to let me go ?????
any help is GREATLY appreciated ! (link)
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Your parents might have a reason for not having you go. The first thing you should do is talk to them. But before you do, remind yourself that they are your parents and you need to respect their choice whether you go or not. Try not to beg because that usually never helps. So try to sit them down and ask them for a second. Tell the reasons you would like to go and how it would help you and everybody else. But even if they do say no after that you are just going to have to find something else to do over the break and don't stress over it. Just pray for them that they will do good things there and that it will all be safe. So I hope everything works out for you.
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this weekend i went to a party with my bff and i kinda left her alone to go talk to people... and this idiot drunk guy was yelling at her telling her to get out of the house (he wasn't the host). i obviously feel awful about it and i want to like kill the guy. i mean i should have been there for her. i want to do something nice for her to show her how sorry i am and how much i care.. i know i made a big mistake.
any ideas on how to make it up to her? (link)
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Tell her that you are sorry and if she doesn't forgive you then do something for her. Like you can get her something nice and sweet. Some candy? I mean really you can't go wrong with candy. Or something she would like. But hopefully she would forgive. I hope everything works out for you.
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man i love this boy to death im so real n i texted him from my cousin phone n he said he the only reason he kissed me for the first time is bc everybody wanted us to n he will never do it again n i love him oh so much n i dont wana break up wid him but im confused n he confessed bc i just had to ask what should i do well he just texted me so bye (link)
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He isn't worth your time if he just kissed you because everybody wanted him to do. Its called peer pressure and he is giving into it. I think you should break up with him. I think you should talk to him yourself and get it straightened out. So I hope everything works out for you.
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my 1 year is tomorrow and i really need to get my bf a gift!!! HELP! i've done a lot of gifts for him already.. mainly revolving around pictures. i waant something REALLY special. any ideas? (link)
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You guys could go out to eat somewhere nice. But only if you could afford it, don't go over board.
You can get him a cute stuffed animal.
You can get him some candy too.
You can make him something he likes. Like brownies or cookies.
Or you can get a picture of the two of you can put it in a cute picture frame.
I hope these ideas are good for you.
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I'm a senior in highschool and my day is pretty much over at 10:30, because I have early release. English is my last real period of my short day so, expectedly, it's hard to focus. I usually tired and read to go home.
My English teacher, I believe, is seriously worried about me. She's always asking me about life and if every thing's okay. I try to explain that I'm just tired but it doesn't work. She bought me a journal as a gift and in the card she wrote that when life gets you down and is hard to manage, I should "let go" adn write in the journal. She also recommended a book to me...a book on how to take control of life and only focus on the positive things.
I'm quiet puzzled as what to do. There's really nothing wrong, but she doesn't believe me? (link)
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Your teacher really cares so you could try talking to her and explain your schedule to her. But try and a little more awake during class. But besides that be happy she cares. You can't really tell her differently because you act differently in class. So just be happy you have a teacher who cares.
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there is this guy i have been hanging out with/talking to. and he's very nice. he tells me im pretty and that he wants to hang out alot. he seems like he's ACTUALLY interested. and i want him to be, but he's like super femimine and all that stuff. so i dont know if he's interested in me, THAT way. i dont want to straight up ask if he's possibly gay, or just like really feminine and have him not be .. i dont kno how you tell. can i guy have a super feminine voice + stuff and not be gayy.. (link)
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Well sometimes they can have a feminine voice and not be gay but maybe talk to his friends but don't ask them straight up if he is gay. That could ruin your chances with him because they might say something to him. I hope everything works out for you though.
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I have a problem. There is a guy in one of my classes and I really like him. The only problem is that we don't know each other that well, and it's kind of wierd when we talk to each other. I want to talk to him and maybe ask him to hang out sometime, but I get the vibe that he's not interested. I just feel like I'll be making a fool of myself. (I'm not the type of girl that guys usually hit on and I havn't had a bf in a while) I have a lot of confidence, but I'm usually just "friends" when it comes to guys. I need help! (link)
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Oh yeah I have been there. You should talk to him more. Get to be good friends and he might warm up to you. You said you guys don't know each other well then now is the time to get to know him. Just talk to him, be nice and be his friend. If he is the shy type of guy then it usually seems like they aren't interested. If you decide to ask him to hang out, don't be afraid about making a fool out of yourself. Think positive. Even if he doesn't want to it doesn't mean you have to give up. Just because guys don't hit on you doesn't mean you aren't good enough. There might be someone right now who has a crush on you and you don't even know it. So I hope everything works out and if you have anymore questions feel free to ask.
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I am married with two children , I have very deep
feelings for a male friend of mine. He is not
married. He had told me he was attracted to me
and that he wants to be with me. Unfortunately,
I found out that he is moving to North Carolina.
When I found this out I wrote him a letter to let him know my feelings. He never responded to the letter and never contacted me. He recently came back to see his mom for a few weeks, and he is still here. I cannot stop thinking about him. I am unable to think about anything else. I don't know if he has feelings for me or if he was
just saying that stuff to me because he is lonely.
I don't know what to do, the thought of him not
being around anymore is killing me. Please help
me figure out what to do. (link)
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What about your husband? Think about it. If your husband was attracted to some lady and he wanted to go with her over you. How would you feel? In other words if you go for another guy and see him you would be cheating on your husband. It would hurt not only him but your kids too. He is only visiting his mom. He hasn't replied to your letters and hasn't contacted you at all. Whether you do anything with him, he is going to go back to North Carolina and live his life while your would be ruined. You won't have your husband anymore. Your kids would be heartbroken. You need to get over this man. Maybe you should stay close with your husband. Go out once a week. I know all those old feelings might be gone. But you married your husband and you said your vows. What happened to them? When you marry someone. Its not because they are really cute its because you love them. Love isn't just a feeling its an action. You need to stay with your husband. You know how many families are getting divorces? Its terrible. And the kids have to suffer too. And it is a very big impact on their lives. So I hope you think this through. And I hope everything works out for the best.
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can you please help me? i want to tell my boyfriend or should i say try to get to him and let him know i love him and i dont want him to throw his life away. you see my boyfriend smokes alot and i just want him to stop and it seems every time i try to tell him he gets mad and tells me that if he dies from it thats just gonna be how it goes and stuff like that i need advice can you help me? (link)
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You need to talk to him. You would probably one of the biggest things in his life that means so much to him. You need to tell him that you care about him and that you would really like it if he tried to stop. You would be one of the people he will listen to. Tell him you love him and tell him you care. Show him all the stuff that can happen to him if he smokes. I know its a really tough thing to stop but ask him to try. Because he would be throwing his life away.
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There is this guy named bob...ive liked him for a month adn wanted to know if he liked me, we hang out with different groups (14/f, hes 14/m) and so i asked him who do you like and then he describes me, then says 'michelle' and i was stunned. He always flirts with me and stuff and is always looking at me, and never at michelle, so whats up? does he like me and doesnt want to tell me? or am i just too in 'like' to give him up? (link)
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Talk to him some more. You could tell him how you feel or you can try to talk to him and maybe he will come to you. I don't know if he really likes you or not. I mean there is a possibility but alot of guys give mixed signs. So I hope everything works out for you. If you have anymore questions feel free to ask me.
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