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I'm Jaz. I'm 17. I love photography and writing. and I've gone through a lot with self-injury, depression, and guys. I hope I can help you ask much as possible. I will give the most honest answer.

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how everyones mean to me and i rate them 5 because i think its funny when there mad lol!!! like.. people who said im ugly. i didnt mean it like im think im pretty i was being carcastic.

FREE 5S!

that isn't a sex question. go away insecure whore.

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I know downloading music is wrong, but I'm sorry okay. I use winmx and I love it. But I'm trying to download the new all-american rejects CD, and THOUSANDS of results come up for all the songs, and every single one of them fail. NONE of them work. They'll turn yellow and say "Waiting for network reply..." for like 2 minutes and then they'll fail. Not one single song works. WHY?!

winmx like died. it doesn't work for me anymore.

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ok, my bf thinks that i dont like him very much...but i dont know y. i mean i told him that that isnt the deal but he wont listen. he even asked advice on here that said "i think my gf is going to break up with me...but i dont know. i dont think she likes me that much. what should i do?"
can you belive that. i dont know how to get it through to him that i really really like him. how? any advice?

break up with him. seriously. he thinks you're lying, and he seems to need constant reassurance. not worth your time. (i've dealt with guys like this before. easy not to deal with them in the first place.)

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i have a bf that i like very much. but, we don't talk often. its the summer now so we don't get to see eachother very often and he doesn't come on instant messaging often either. he isn't really considerate, but he is very nice and funny. um, i guess i'm just worried if he really likes me or if he is just using me. i could call him, but he isn't usually home. i cant exactly tell him how i feel because i'm kind of shy. should i break up with him? or should i try to stay in this relationship and make it better?

call him and ask him if he likes you. I do that if I think a guy doesn't like me. And make him swear his life (or balls...always works) on his answer.
or break up with him.

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there are these two guys who attenda summer camp i go to. i think i make both of them nervous because they both seem to shudder or their hands shake so obviously. well i really want to impress them, and i was wondering how can i?

be yourself. that's the best you can do. guys don't like fake girls.

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this is for my bff, im trying to help him through this...14/m. well my gf & i have been together for almost 6 months. we rarely see each other because we are so busy & when we do, she ignores me or hangs out with everyone but me even if its my party. she doesnt hug me a whole lot either & we've never kissed. i was away from her & during that time i saw & hung out with my gal pal that i hadnt seen in about a year. she likes me a lot & she does more things than my gf does (she hugs me, thats it!) & gives me attention & really cares about me so i got to like her as more than a friend now. i was planning on breaking up with my gf but after i saw her again yesterday, i fell in love with her all over again. i had loved this girl for several years & this was my chance but then she doesnt treat me right & there are other girls out there who really do care about me. what should i do? my gf i have loved for a long time & the girl that likes me gave me a heart that can be easily broken.

*info on the ladies: the gf is a bit of a tease & needs the attitude adjustment thats long over-due but she can be ok at times.
the other girl is a lot like a gf the guy had that ended up being a huge mistake...shes a bit older, more experienced & she knows he's vunerable. she also likes almost every guy i can think of.
*parents view: mom used to be FOR the breaking up but since the other girl showed up (which she doesnt want him to get involved with) she wants them to stay together.
dad doesnt want him to do anything until school starts so no one knows why he broke up with his gf.
*the bffs view: the other girl isnt my favorite (i agree with the parents) & i dont want to be responsible for the break up...i got them together & i didnt know it would end up like this. the gf was my friend but now not only does he treat him like crap but shes mean to me too.

*PLEASE, ANYTHING WILL HELP! WE REALLY NEED YOU!*

he needs to talk to the girl, or break up with her. she obviously doesn't like him.
sorry to be blunt, but it's true. =/ sorry I'm not much help.

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okay well this guy i really like is going out with the prettiest girl in my grade. He isn't a hottie or anything, but I've liked him since 6th grade, and I'm in 8th. The night she asked him out (at a school dance) I was going to work up enough nerve to ask him. I feel like, if I asked before her, he would have said yes; only because we are so close. I was up practically everynight i saw or even talked to him, thinking about him. I started cutting myself i liked him so much. I cut myself only to make myself stop thinking about him. But eventually it just got worse. I want to stop cutting myself, and start taking it like a normal person

You need to get some help to stop cutting. I'm a former cutter, and trust me, help actually helps. Talk to your parents.
And I know your situation, I started cutting over a guy too. But there were other things in my life going wrong too.
Just talk to your parents or school couselor.

If you need any more advice or info on cutting IM me on AIM: fatalxhaerts

-jaz

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ok this is a dif. guy but i was wondering the same thing. I read all the answers of the last guy and i'm confused-some people say weird-some people say cute

i need to know this too pleez cause me and my gf are going to the movies 2 weeks from now!!!!!!!!

If it seems to be perfect timing, yes. And if it's a first kiss, yes. Don't ask after the first kiss though, it's annoying. Just don't ask randomly, ask when it seems perfect.

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August 5th will be my one year anniversary im so excited.. well i wanted to get him something and my mom gave me an idea but i wanted to know if people thhought it was corny or stupid.. well there is this store place near my house kinda called Build A Bear.. and i was going to make him a Monkey cause its his favorite animal and this i was going to get a San Antonio Spurs shirt or something and put it on it cause thats his favorite basketball team.. well i wanted to know does that sound childish and stupid.. or does it sound okay.. i just dont want to feel stupid givin it to him.. By the way he's 15 almost 16 and im 16 almost 17.. thanks in advance an if you think its stupid and childish give me some ideas on what to get him THANKS!!

That's a really cute idea and I'm sure he'll love it. Especially since it's a 1 year anniversary. I personally would feel stupid doing it because that's the way I am. But that's a cool idea.
btw, congrats on the 1 year anniversary!

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well lets figure this out. what kind of god would send ppl to hell. well sit back and let me tell you . the kind of God that over 2000 years ago sent his son to the cross to die. the kind of God who wants you to kno him and love him and he wants to do the same to you. he wants to save you. but if all you have ever done is reject him then why should you get to go to heaven i mean please give me one good reason.
so that my friend is the kind of God ,and you kno what thats my kind of God. nope not even that is God not mine not yours not anyones that is GOD the first the last the beginning and the end the alpha and the omega. just to let you kno he wants you he wants to kno you. he wants to talk you he wants to let you into heaven and its not hard its amazing how easy it is.
and just to let you kno. no its not somethin to hold onto when you world starts to fall apart it is the reason your world falls apart because ppl like you make it hard ,and then the only person that can understand is God . its hard to believe sometiems it really really is. but he is always there to remind you just to tap you on the shoulder and say dont forget about me becuse im still here is you need to talk

Thankyou for the lecture when you maybe didn't even think of the fact that maybe I'm not Christain in any way. I have reasons for not liking the Christian faith, but I do still respect it and people's views on it. Now would please keep to yourself and think before you speak? Thankyou.

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Lately whenevr i eat pizza i get an upset stomach. I just ate some cereal with milk and my stomach is upset. I don't think i'm lactose.. but is this normal??? the pain is like squeezing and bloating. or like twisting.. (if that makes sense) thanks

lactose intolorent. tell your parent to take to you to the doctors. they'll tell you what to get for that.
i'm lactose intolorent too, but you get used to it.

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Why should people become Christains? Like what iss the purpose in it?

To have a false sense of security when their life is falling apart.
I mean what God would send people to "Hell" for wrong doings?

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What is the differnece between Catholic, Lutheren and Christian religions? I want to know about the differences befor i pick one.

Christian is a faith that Catholic and Lutheren are under. Do research.

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Hi. im not writing this question for people to tell me im unique and crap, but lately, ive just been feeling bad. I think im ugly. People always tell me that im ugly. its just my face..i mean my nose is just so weird that i feel so self conscious and whenever im with my friends it hurts me so much always seeing guys all flirting with them and stuff. ive never been asked out, and people always tell me that im ugly. i know its mean, and only sometimes i feel pretty. i know that if i feel beautiful, i am beautiful, and being confident is bueatiful, but i dont want that crap. i need some way to make me feel better about myself....any suggestions?

ignore them. really. just have confidence in yourself because what they say doesn't matter. everyone has flaws. my teeth are the worst (getting braces soon though) yet i still find confidence in myself.
good luck hun.

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my boyfriend of a few months says that whenever he tries to get 'close' to me... i back away, or .. idk, i just seem like i dont want to. Ill admit that i do that sometimes.. and i have no idea why.. hes so amazing and i dont want him to think i dont appreciate and like him because of my insecurities or whatever's wrong with me... i need advice on how to fix the way i do things... and not be so unafectionate.. thanks

I do the same thing. Just explain to him that maybe your afraid to "get close". Tell him just to slow down a little bit. Or maybe you're not comfortable with him.
good luck hun! if you need any more advice on this you can email me: brokendreams447@yahoo.com

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hi
i am 16/f/uk
i used to cut last yr then i stopped cos things got a bit better in my life
but since about feb this yr i ave bn really depressed i cry my self to sleep every nite i ave started to cut again over the most stupid things. i cant find another way to let it all out. its like an addiction, when i get angry or upset i have an urge to cut.
my parents ave split up n i wanna be with my best boy mate hu is leavin to live in aussie and i wanna tell him how i feel i also hate the way i look i am over weight i have spots and i am just so low at the moment i dont want to see any doctors i just want some one to listen and not judge me
can some one tell me why im feeling and doing these things?
sorry its so long

writing helps A LOT. really it does. And someone mentioned something about rubber bands, those help too. Sometimes "wrist banging" (hitting your wrist on a wall or something) helps me too when I have the urge (I don't suggest you do this for a long time though, it's still a form of self injury).

I hope things turn out all right. good luck. :)

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Hello. I am 14 years old, and have secretly been cutting for 3 years. I have never told anybody before, but I am wondering if I should. Would it be in my best interest to get help?
I have a lot of trouble trusting people,though.
Any advice would be appreciated.
Thanks

Ok I know you have 38 replies to this, but I will tell you from personal experience with cutting, getting help, actually helps. I don't trust a lot of people either and it's hard for me. But you need to get help. You have no idea how much it helps. Tell your parent(s) or a school guidence couselor. You'll feel so much better once you get help. Really.

Good luck, hun! :)

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Its Summer 2005 and I am a 13 year old girl entering 8th grade. I have hair that is a couple inches past my shoulder when its strait but its usaly wavy inless i straiten it which takes a max of 10 minutes. I have medium thicknes so that doesnt realy stop me from doing things with my hair. I usaly pull it half up and half down with a clip or pony tail, I almost never wear it down, or I will poll it all up becuase i have to for cheerleading ( I am a cheerleader if that helps any) I need somthing diffrent! School starts in 6 weeks and i want somthing diffrent that is nice. My hair looks best when i have half of it clipped up and half down if that helps any too? Could someone give me some pictures or ideas? That would be greatly apperiated!!!!
Maybe you guys could tell me what you like a girls hair most? Like what styles do you love? That would help also!




♥ --Lotza Love-- ♥

Signed,
Hating Hair

highlights and layers. layers especially, because when you straighten your hair, it will look better.

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ok i have a really big problem. i wear a training bra and any tank tops, short sleeve shirts, or really light fabriced shirts i wear, my bra shows ALOT. and also the even bigger problem is on tank tops, my bra has a higher up arm hole so you can like see the bra alot on the arms. this has stopped me from buying new clothes, and i always try to look for the clothes that cover me up the most!! im so mad cauuse I just want to be confident and free about myself and not worry about this! its all i think about. yes, dont say ask my mom cause she always asks "well why are you being so mad, whats the problem" whenever i pass the opportunity to buy a perfectly nice shirt!its cause im too embarresed to tell her about it. the only reason i have a bra is cause my mom bought me 2 old navy ones like a long time ago and they like hardly fit me.please dont make fun of me, i really want to feel good about myself and not have me bra practically in full view. HOW CAN I SOLVE THIS ANNOING PROBLEM??????

Get a real bra, or don't wear a bra if you don't really need one. Kmart usually sells some "regular" bras for cheap in the kids clothing (yeah I know, kiddish). And I don't normal wear light colors, but I suggest a white bra if you wear light colors.

hope this helps.
and don't be so insecure. :)

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ok so last summer i got a haircut rite? it came out HORRIBLE, too WAY TOO short! i was so embaressed. so i went to a professional place and it got even worse. i was ALWAYS getting made fun of and i hated it. well the past school year i whore my hair up every single day! now i want my hair to grow really long but since the last haircut i got was a year ago, i dont think my hair will grow. i dont want to "get a trim" cause i want it to grow! should i just snip a tiny bit of hair off myself? please help!

There's vitamins you can take to make your hair grow. And I think eating healthy helps too. When I eat healthy my hair seems to grow quickly.
But anyways, I do suggest a trim to get rid of the split ends. Split ends are gross anyways.

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