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my boyfriend of a few months says that whenever he tries to get 'close' to me... i back away, or .. idk, i just seem like i dont want to. Ill admit that i do that sometimes.. and i have no idea why.. hes so amazing and i dont want him to think i dont appreciate and like him because of my insecurities or whatever's wrong with me... i need advice on how to fix the way i do things... and not be so unafectionate.. thanks
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tell him EXACTLY how you feel, nothing less=)
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it really all depends. if you refer to him "getting close" to you, you mean physicly, and you back away, that's not really a bad thing.
for exaple-im a 16 year old guy, and i'll say, i love being close to my girlfriend. but to be honest, before i was with her (all the people i used to date) they gave me what i wanted, easily. and that's unheathy, because it makes the guy want more and more, then he winds up not liking you anymore. my current girlfriend limited her self with me(physicly), and i figured out that i truely love her.
all in all, what your doing is a good thing. if he breaks up with you for this (you backing away), then he doesnt really like you. but, if you've been going out 4 a ferw months...start lightning up a lil bit. let him hold you. dont really start...well...giving in, unless you REALLY know that he loves you, and you love him. i hope you understand what im saying.
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I do the same thing. Just explain to him that maybe your afraid to "get close". Tell him just to slow down a little bit. Or maybe you're not comfortable with him.
good luck hun! if you need any more advice on this you can email me: brokendreams447@yahoo.com
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There is probably nothing wrong with you, you just don't want affection the same as he does. So ask yourself, is there a reason I'm backing away? Is there something I don't like about the way he is asking for affection?
Maybe you don't this making out in public is aceptable and he does, maybe you are afriad of what people think about being affectionate towards him or maybe you just find your friends or classes more interesting then him some of the time. All of that would be okay.
Don't just suck it up and be more afectionate because he wants you too. Decide what you think is the appropraite level and talk to your boy about your feelings, he'll probably be jumping up and down happy to help you feel more comfortable.
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do you talk or get physical more? i hope its talk because if you are more physical then he might not actually like you, he may just be using you. This probably isnt the case, but you should still make sure he loves you for you and not how you look or any of that crap. Is it just in public? it may not be something you did wrong, it may be him! hope i helped!
anne givings <3
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