Being a teenager is the toughest thing any of you will go through..well except for a divorce or death of a loved one.
Adults just do not remember how hard this time of life is for you.
They forget how important all of these things that you ask questions about are.
Parent do not have all the answers either..they just muddle through life..just like you.
I am as old as dirt..and still have some of the things that happen to you..happen to me.
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hey i have a problem with cutting and i dunno how to controll it and today 10/22/04 i wound up cutting my self agian because my b.f broke up with me and im like in love with him and ahh...hard to explain and well i need some advice on how to stop or atleast trying to controll it please help me!! ill rate you high and i would like some advice from ppl who actualy do it or used to thanks soo much and if you wanna takl to me more about it im me on
babi beautifulx3 or email me at babii_thug_699@yahoo.com
thanks so much!! ill rate ya a five if ya get at me
love always courtney (link)
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oh man..breaking up with the b/f/some people drink..or sleep around..you are dealing with it by cutting..
cutting will not bring him back...
However if you cut all the time or not just when somethig horrible happens..there are meds that can control that impulse.
It is like anything bad for you drugs, drink..etc...yu have to replace this behavior with a new one.
call a friend when you feel like it, get some exercsie..watch your favoite movie..only please please do not cut yourself...
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I have a pretty hard life, it's not easy in this town. I always have alot on my mind, but since last year I've been counting on beer to clear my mind...I wanted to know why a little alcohol makes me think about nothing...even when I'm not drunk? (link)
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ok...this is something..been there done that.
my mother is an alcoholic..hated it unitl I went to college..then found out that not only was a lot more fun when i was drunk..I was NUMB to my problems.
But here is the deal..alochol is a depressant and the next day..the feelings are even worse.
So to me..after wasting what 9 years of my life...so much money that i could have had a house on the beach...
I would suggest..put down the beer..and ask yourself..what am i trying to forget.
what is making me so unahppy.
Why must I self medicate myself with this stuff..
I know how you feel about where you live..I hate where I do..but the beer will not make it go away..in fact after the buzz is gone...it is still thee.
so again I ask you..waht are you escaping ..from?
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OK Well, I am depressed, like i know i am... my mom does too (which is who i live with) and i dunno if i should be put on meds, because i heard that they can make u randomly want to kill yourself and stuff like that. and i've been seeing counslers all my life, and as a matter of fact they are more wacked out than me, its totall crap, i mean they get me to answer questions, which i can't do without crying, because its yearss and yearsss of crap in my life, i mean most of the tim ei just say i don't remebr what happened and stuff, because i start crying and i hate that because then they are like oh i ahve to keep another appt. and so i leave. i mean its not my choice to be there its part of the court order, frum the my parents divorce and stuff. I mean one counsler i saw actually started crying, after tlaking with me...but i sleep way to much, i mean i don't see the harm in that really, its just its gotten so bad that i can't sleep at night and i sit there for 2 hours looking at the ceiling. I mean i questioning everything, io don't really care what happens to me really. what do u do whne u realize your friends and most people are fake. So what the hell should I do. So many people go on meds for being depressed, honestly i can't see how my mind would just change about everything. I mean i am depressed but i don't think i am wrong bout things, I just finally came to the realaity bout people, and life, and how things freakin suck. (link)
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ok..first of all not all meds make you want to kill yourself..in fact they can turn you around in no time.
They have to be used in tandom with a therapist..as you have to also address what triggers the depression.
Tragic events in your life have to be taken care of and a counselor who cries after she hear it well..is not very professional no matter how horrible it is..see she is THEIR to help you..not get comfort.
Your mind or the past will not change..but how you deal with it will.
Please get help..do see a therapist as in DOCTOR.
They will find the right combination of drugs that will elevate you to a state that you can deal with your problems..now it will take time..as they have to find the right chemicals to fight the chemicals in your body.
Oh by the way...75 percent of my family has been on meds...it is a genetic chemical inbalance...Please feel free to ask me about any in dealing with this...ok...not a doctor but I do know a lot about depression.
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I really need your help so please do not delete this.
Ok, I have been dancing for 8 years. I am known for dancing by friends, family, and neighbors. This year, I hate it! I dread it. I mean I whine to try and stay home. ONce I get there it isn't that bad, but I still hate it. Well, I costs my family ALOT of money so I can dance. They have to pay like 100 dollars a week practically. My mom thinks I should quit and she said I could, I mean I don't like dance so I am bascially wasting all our money. There are reasons why I wnat to stick with it, one of them being my friends there and I'm almost all the way down to my split, and you obviously know why I may quit. I am on the Field Hockey Team at school and love it. Please help me, should I quit? Would you quit? Thanks a million!
Sorry it was a bit long. (link)
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You know..you have changed as a person..you used to love to dance..now you do not. So unless you were thinking of being a prima ballerina which needs to practice a million hours or a rockette...do what YOUR heart wants.
your mom supports you no matter what.
How do you feel when you go play hockey..do you love to go...
If you think those girls are only your friends because of the dance team..then that will have to be one of your decisions.
Again listen to your heart...anything that is not given your full attention too..well will not be your best.
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My younger sister will be 18 soon, but she has a crush on a boy who is 15. He's a nice kid and they're good friends, but her self esteem is really low because he doesn't talk to her a lot and won't ask her out. I told her it was because he would be intimidated by her being older, and he doesn't seem interested in dating yet anyway so she should stop taking it personally and go find a guy her own age. She also displays some odd behaviors like buying a baby bottle to drink out of, and eating baby food. Am I being a stiff or should she grow up and move on? (link)
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ok..your sister needs some help but not for dating the younger guy..however if things were to get serious she could get in some trouble.
I think she is depressed..she need some help especially about the baby bottle.
What do your parents say about that.
that to me really shows that she is needing something if she is reverting to a baby state.
The guy things does not trouble me as much as the bottle does.
She nees some help. But you are good sister for wanting to help her.
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I am 14 yrs old Im in a relationship and I love it!! We have been going out for 3 weeks and its been going great I dumped my other b/f for him and he seems to like me alot now! But theres a problem whenever I spend the night with his sister I hang out with him when she falls asleep and I dont seem to like him as much as I think! Whats going on ?? Please Help and PLEASE dont delete this!! (link)
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Maybe ths sister is the reason you like him. If she is your friend he must have some of the qualitites you like.
After 3 months you should know what you want to do.
However..be careful..you could lose the sister as a freinds..if something should go wrong.
I think in your heart you know what to do. good luck!
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I like this guy named Matt and we just recently started talking but ive known him for about 2 mounths in 5th period we always talk to eachother over the internet ( the class is keyboarding) and he always says stuff like I love you and Will U marry me and stuff like that Im trying to figure out what this means
Also in 1st and 3rd he sits accross the room and he stares at me alot PLEASE dont delete this I am really confused! (link)
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ok..you have never gone out on a date..and this guy is saying I love you? But he will not ask you out??
Is he firting with you or just being weird?
I would be like ok..and you are staring why? Just aks him what the deal is?
To me if he says I love you w/o a date..i would be a wee bit wary of the guy.
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i meen i really want a boyfriend but i guess im can be picky about who i like , some of my friends will go out with sum 1 that they have very little feelings for but i want to go out with some i really lik e but i dont liek anyone in my shcool and theres jsut no one thats i liek yet i jsut wish i would find him is this ok should i look harder be less picky or will i find him (link)
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why NOt be picky?? I mean it is not like a law that you have to date. Why not pick the best if you are going to go out with someone.
Only good thing about dating around a bit is that you get some practive with datin and being comfortable with guys.
think about what you are really interested in and then join an activity that might have some guys in it with similiar views.
But again...don' worry..they guy who you really like will come along..and tust me..it will be a geat thing as you KNW what YOU like!
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Okay, so I'm 14 and a female. My boyfriend broke up with me a couple weeks ago because he 'wanted to stop dating for awhile'. I pretended not to care and all this. My friends ended up getting all up in it and now he knows I still love him and he said he loved me, but I think he was lying. I still haven't directly told him I still love him because he said he didn't want to go out with anyone for awhile and I totally respect his wishes. My friends just don't get this. What should I do? Because I mean, I'd do anything to get my boyfriend back, I just don't think he's really in to me anymore. (link)
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You know..maybe he was getting flack from his freinds about this. Do they..his friends have g/f"s. they might have been easing him and he just wanted to ahng out wiht the guys.
As for your freinds..anytime a g/f of a guys g/f asks him about the realationship..guys RUN the other way. Tell the friends nciely to butt out!
You know to me you are very mature..you get your friends and are really a great person. Way to go for respecting your guys's space!
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one of my best friends keeps on ignoring me and hanging out with somoene else not that its a problem or anything, but whenever she hangs out with the girl she acts all b****y to me, am i just jelous of her or has she changed, and if she has changed would there be anyway she wont be as b****y to me if i talk to her (link)
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ok..she is a different person around another friend. hat tells me her new friend is a royal witch.
I would ask her what is up with the new tude and if she does it again...wriie her off until she gets a clue and loses the new friend.
A good friend is the ame person wiht everyone.
Ps had one just like this..found out she was talking behind my back...dropped her like the load she was.
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Okay well I went out with this guy and he was great i mean i loved him so much and i have trust issues with guys i always have i just never feel comfortable with them you know? And well i was with the guy and his ex wanted to get back together with him so he totally blew me off and stuff and he was really nice about it actually but he still cheated on me and said some really horrible stuff about how stupid he was for ever likeing me. Well for some reason I cant get over the guy I mean we dont even talk i just miss him so much and his girlfriend and him have been going out for like a year but they're having relationship problems and a lot of people say they may break up soon. I really like him still but I don't want to at all. I do want to go back out with him though. How can I even talk to this guy though I mean he totally ripped my heart out and stuff. I really need someone to talk to about it all because Im too scared to tell any of my friends about it. What should I do?
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ok..a wee bt of harshness here.
he cheated on you..told you he regreted being with you..then dumped you the minute the ex wanted him back.
No offense but he is the LOSER of all guys and should be made to stand in the hallway in girls underwear with a sign that says i am a HUGE loser.
you know why you cannot stop thinking about him..for he dumped you.
If you had dumped him..not a thought would be going on in your head.
Of course the new thing with his ex will fail..she is an idiot for taking HIM back.
So do the exorcism on the brain and find a new guy who is WORTHY of you love!
Ps we ALL think about the ones who dumped us..it is natural
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ok im 18 years old and im a guy. my question is ... when am i gonna start to grow a beard? my beard hasnt come in at all and ive never shaved ever in my life. Its kinda sad really, shouldnt it be in by now? All my friends shave all the time. any ideas? (link)
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if your are blonde it might always be light.
Some men have heavy beards some have hardly any,
But if you ask any old man right now after a million years of RAZOR burn and irritation..they would totally switch places with you.
But do not worry...my husbands was just like you..not very hairy at your age. Now..um he is..it will come in..and get heavier as you age!
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Okay, so i was going out with this boy for a 2 months. i loved him so much and i still do! but my friends were really mean to him and stuff and so i dumped him because i thought it would just be better for him and everyone else since they like hated him. but then i found out that they didn't really hate him they just like him. But i dumped him before that and then he got really mad at me. Was it right to dump him in the first place? sorry this is long and i hope that made sense! (link)
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you dumped a guy you loved cause your friends hated him??
I mean what kind of friends make people do that?
Of course they liked him..they were JEALOUS!
All you can do is apologize and wait and see. It is up to him to forgive you.
Lesson learned...any friend who is NOT happy for you..is not a friend.
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is this bad?? OK i was playing basketball today because we had a game and i got pushed down and landed on my hand and got it pulled back and now it wurts to move it i cna but not in one drection!
is this bad? (link)
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fracture, sprain or broken..needs to be looked at..for if you do not..you could actually hurt the area around it trying to compensate for the pain.
If you cannot go to the doctor ice ice ice and advil..but as you are an athlete..i would not mess around wiht this. Se a doc!
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okay, i've done out with this boy lets say.. *mike* 2 times. once one year, and once the next. i've liked him for like 3 years. the first time he asked me out, it lasted 3 months, and i dumped him for reasons that werent his fault. the 2nd time i asked him out and he dumped me for my friend but he totally like hates it now. so now this year we both like eachother and i still really like him but should i just give up on going out with him or what?? i dont know what to do? this may sound dumb and i dont really know how to explain it but if you get it then please help me! lol thanx sorry its so long (link)
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ok..so you dumped him..after one date..and then he did the same...are you sure you guys want to try again..but actually it takes a while to see if you guys really mesh.
If you still think he is hot...ok..but do not be surprised if it does not work out..something made boht of you say um NO ticie..but then what can it hurt to try one more time!
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I have a problem wit mi boyfriend.we have been goin out for like a month or 2 now. we dont talk or kall each other n wen we hang out we always talk o one of or other friends that r there.we go to the same skool n always see each other in the hall n everything.n i think dat he doesnt like at all.wut should i do. plz help me.......
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so you guys are playing it cool whenothers are around?/ Is that it?/ it may be that he wants to kkep your thing between the two of you. Lots of men are not affectionate in public.
But if he is not calling you..then you need to ask him..what is goiong on..he may have a different view of your relationship.
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hi.my names jaylene and i my parents recently just got divoreced and ever since that ive been getting into drugs and cutting myself and my parents(mom mostly) abuse me and call me stuff like a whore all the time. my brother hurts me and does the same as my parents. everyone i no thinks im so happy and i just want to let it all out and tell all of them that im not! and i want to get out of my life and start a new one but thats not goin to happen...theres one good part i love my boyfriend weve been goiing out for 6 months and hes the only one that keeps me going everyday or else who knows whered id be but yeah i dont no wut to do about drugs and abuse and my parents so please HELP me!!! ps i love shawn!! (link)
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woah...
If your Mom abuses you..you need to tell someone. You need to tell your dad...can he take you?Or is that not a good thing?
If you cannot tell him..tell an adult..you have rights...
And if your brother hurts you you need to get the Heck out of there..
Mothers and siblings DO not HURT their daughters or siblings!! Ok..that is NOT normal..in FACT that is against the law!
Do not do the drugs...if you want an adult or your father to take YOU seriously on this..you have to be clean. If you are not clean..your loser MOM and sicko brother can use the drugs as THEIR excuse.
Start documenting when they hurt you and you will have proof.
Man..am thinking and praying for you...but you have to be clean and tell someone....
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Hey, i'm a 15 year old girl turning 16 n a few months. I'v never had confidence in myself and to be conpletely honest i kinda hate myself. I think im fat and ugly and i try to lose weight but nothings good enough.I'v never had a boyfriend in my life let alone had a guy tell me im pretty. My friends are pretty and they always have guys asking them out but i juss feel stupid hangin with them sometimes, like i dont belong. For the past few years i have resorted to cuttig myself. I'v only done it 3 times but i dont wanna go to counscling or anything cuz my parents and every1 will think im crazy i dunno what to do can you help me? (link)
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dont cut..please dont cut..everyone feels fat and ugly. I mean ask any Hollywood actress and I bet they would tell you that they do NOT think they are pretty. And they all have FAT days.
can you do something right now to improve you looks to help you feel better...a new haircut or color..
Some girls date during HS some do not...NOT always about looks...
I found out later that some guys wanted to ask me out but they were afraid I would turn them down...
What do your friends say?? if you can take it..ask them what you could do to be more availabe to boys?
I feel for you...this age is so hard..(but how cool that you will be able to drive soon!!)
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This year i took honors science. It's hard as hell, i dont understand anything and i have to do a stupid science fair project! Last year i got all "A's" now Im getting a "C" in science. I've tried to get out of it but it wont work! Any suggestions for science fair, grade pull ups, or even to get out of it??? PLZ I'LL rate a 5 if u try- Except spike cause he dont help at all. (link)
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it is goong to be way harder..but I would get a tutor..if i was trying my best and still pulling down C's. Ask the teacher if he know of someone that would help you.
How very cool that you care so much about your grades..Way to go!
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Hi everyone! I wanna be an actress so bad! I'm 13/f. I live in Grafton, WI. I love making my own movies and acting in them and I'd like to be a famous actress. How could I get a start? (link)
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Acting lessons..trying our for school plays and local theatre. Modeling starts a lot of actress..or signing up wiht a local talent place is a good start.
Do some research on the net as to what to do!
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