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Q: well my bestfriend pressures me. she wanted me to spend the night last night but i was tired from a trip and did not get back till midnight. She is always getting mad at me for that stuff what should i do?

tell her everything you just said. if she was really your best friend she wouldn't pressure you to do things that you don't wanna do. and maybe to make her feel better when you don't agree wit hher on something say that you'll make it up to her. Good luck!

Q: Ok me and my boyfriend have bene dating 3 weeks and we hug intimately and stuff and I lvoe him..adn I get urges to kiss him..I really want to..but the teachers cant see...cause my parents will know..and only my mom knows about the guy and my dad is not clued in at all...and i really love him and i want to kiss him..but im also afraid..i mean im a very pessimistic, paranoid, frightened, depressed type person...i know he wants to kiss me..so what should we do

My opinion is that you should just kiss him whenever you feel comfortable and no one is around. you just need to find the right moment to kiss him.plus there are are always risks in life so just take the chance or you'll regret it. you may just wonder what if i did kiss him or why didn't i? and i think that you should like go for the kiss after school when no one is really around or caring.

Q: I'm totally in love with boyfriend. We've been togher for over 9 months. hes made me cry when i'm happy. i've made him cry when hes happy. Hes says he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. i feel the same way. he also says hes lucky to have me , he stays up at night cause he can't get me out of his head , that i'm the only girl he really cares for and stuff like that. It seems to good to be true. Do u think hes telling me the truth? He doesn't pressure me into doing anything sexual that i don't want 2 and when we do have sex he says he want it to be speical . I feel the same way. But hes been doing horrible things. Hes cut himself before. The reason he did is because his dad wouldn't let him call and other times because he couldn't get me out of his head. He also admited to takeing phills. He has promised to stop for me. what should I do? Its scares me i don't want to lose him. Why do u think hes doing this? How can I help him. Please give me some advice. And please don't think hes a freak because honestly no one would ever think of him to ever do anything like that hes a good guy. Please help and thank you

To me it sounds like hes a lil bit too obsessed with you and hes itz just that hes in love with you. If you told him to stop and that you don't want to lose him i'm sure he'll listen to you and stop. and be there to support him. maybe tell him that when he is hurting himself itz scaring you and just to stop for you. hope things go well for you.

Q: How do you get your husband away from the t.v. and spend time with the children?

unplug the television and get rid of the cord then have the kids jump and surround him yelling daddy! play with me! then you suggest that he should spend time with the children because they need him. or tell your husband how you feel about him spending too much time with the televison.or if itz really that bad break the television on purpose. Good luck!!!

Q: is it okay to wear a black hat (like the french type of hats) when you're wearing a black dress, black sandals, and nude tights? and the dress is like 3 inches above the knee...

yea, it sounds okay to me and the whole outfit sounds really cute.

Q: ok well i have a major prob and i knt stopp cutting my self i mean i go to therapy and it doesnt help whut should i do i want to stop but i knt!!

~ a giirl who needs help :-(

put the object that you cut yourself with away or just throw it away and if u have access to anything that u can use to cut yourself have your parents or sumone put it somewhere else that you won't be able to find it. when you get the urge to cut yourself snap your wrists and other areas with a rubber band. that may be better than cutting yourself. and at the same time get something else to do that will keep you busy and maybe talk on the phone with your friend. so just don't think about cutting yourself. and maybe write down how you feel on an xanga or myspace if you cut yourself when you are angry or upset. Hope things go well for you!!!

Q: ok... i am a little overweight and I like this guy who is really cute. and my parents own a pizza joint so everytime we get in a fight (which is like everyday), he says that i get loaded from my parents shitty pizza... and i get really offended and i still really like him... should i still be his friend? should i block him from my screen name? help please

I think that you shouldn't be his friend if he is gonna be a jerk so just move on,ignore him and go ahead and block him. i mean a true friend would never say something like this.

Q: I want to know what is the best picture album out there? I've heard of picturetrail..and fotki..and stuff but I want a really good one!

try photobucket.com or go to yahoo

Q: Most of my friends are gettin pregnat and getting herpes it is scaring me ... All my friends I thought were so much smarter than me are stupid and having sex already . I know you want to but you need to hold back .... I am scared that in a way I am gonna be forced into it .... Can you help ?

Just don't give in and remind yourself that once you do something like have sex and get pregnant or get a std you will regret it and there is no turning back or a redo. also it will mess up your future. so don't follow in your friends footsteps and itz ure decision and your choice.

Q: I just started at this new school, although i;ve been there about 2 yrs ago. I met up with an old friend and we feelin eachother. But me..i aint the type of girl who haves boyfriends in school cuz they be acting immature. He's a year older then me....But im trying to see if i should give this a chance. holla back

Just give him a chance who knows he could really be really sumthin.

Q: this guy i kno i thought he hated me but evry1s saying that he doesnt i think i like him but i dunno if he likes me?
HELP
~Dani~

maybe you should just start talking to him and ask people and your friends for some info on him. good luck!

Q: i bought this libgloss thing... and well it's labeled TEN as the brand... does that mean it stays on for 10 hours???
plz help! i rate high!

i think that itz just the brand name and there isn't a lipgloss that will stay on for ten hours.

Q: okayy well i was going out with this kid for 2 months and 3 weeks and then one day he dumps me because he said hes friends think hes whipped and he sed he kind of was too ..he says he still likes me but he really never talks to me and yesterday he hugged another girl ..do you think he still likes me ?..should i keep trying to get him back ?..i dont wanna chase after him ..

I think that you should just move on and find someone else. also you shouldn't waste your time trying to get him back. But if you really like him that much then try to get him back. but itz your choice.... also think about this... is he really worth it? Good Luck!!!!

Q: A few days ago i wrote about likin this kid austin i took the advice everyone gave me so thanks!:) but he said no, ok neways this kid john likes me and i have known him since kindergartin but he not that cute and kinda heavy. but hes a really nice guy. problem is HE REALLY LIKES ME but i feel no way about him like that, anyways i can tell him nicely that i dont like him, and dont say its not you its me. and plz no rude comments

You should say sorry, your a nice guy and all but i don't like you in that way and maybe we could be just friends. I hope everything goes well for you.

Q: hey does anyone know any good websites were you can make your own quizzes? thanks!

quizilla.com is a great site for quizzes

Q: mY best firend likes this guy and she thinks he likes her. but i kno that he really likes me. I dont care about the guy that much, but i dont want him to come up to me when im with my friend and break her heart... and he dosent kno she likes him WHAT DO I DO!! help PLzZ!!!

My opinion is that you should tell your best friend about this(make sure that u tell her about the part about u not liking him), and even though she'll be angry and upset it would be best if she hears it from you first than if she found out by the other way which would be worse. if her heart breaks and she is upset be there for her and comfort her through that time. hopefully your friendship is strong enough to handle the problem. Good luck!!!!!

Q: does anyone know any really good shampoo and/or conditioner that works well and is good for oily hair?

Thanks!

try herbal essences,pantene pro-v or garnier fructis

Q: OK, I am so pissed off right now, I had a crush on these guys and they dared me to wear my short pink lavender skirt to school and wear a thong under it, and bend over while throwing away a piece of paper, so I did it, and when I bent over I let out a huge toot and now they keeping making fun of me! I am embaressed, but now they pobably don't like me, huh?

help please.

my opinion is that you should of tried to laugh at yourself and don't care. i mean we are all human and we all make mistakes. anywayz those guys are immature jerks so don't worry what goes around comes around...

Q: I am 14 and a female. There is a guy at school that I think is really cute. We both have history together and I will sometimes see him looking at me. I want to talk to him so bad, but I have never said anything to him before. What should I do?

just start talking to him like about an assignment or project in history. a simple hello or hey will start a conversation or compliment him. also don't be scared to talk to him and be confident. good luck!

Q: 13/m....i went to a dance alone cuz my mom made me go -.- so i was sitting down and this girl came up to me and started to talk to me. i never met her before but i danced with her and even bought her candy. we walked around and talked most the time......what do i say to her tommorrow at school?

a simple hello or a hey! whats up? will start a conversation and keep talking to her. Good luck!

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