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14/f
I just started 9th grade and my friend Emma met a new kid from band camp that goes to our school. His name is Jake. He's really cool but really shy. He dosen't like to talk to lots of people.
I like him alot. I have told my friends that I do so they are totally aware of it. The only problem is that I'm pretty shy as well. I can't go up to random people and strike up conversations.
It took me almost 2 months to make friends with the ones I have now.
I do get to see Jake some during the school day we talk in the morning with our friends and he is in my gym class.
My queston is how do I over come this shyness and talk to him? Is there anyways I can flirt with him that wouldn't be to akward for either of us. I really don't know what to say to him when it's just the two of us. If I have some friends around then I'm a little more talkative but still not very.
Any help would be greatly appriciated. (link)
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He feels the same way and may be eyeing you as well. The best thing you can do is introduce yourself and tell him that he "seems nice" and that you "want to get to know him better." Give him a slip of paper with your number and IM info.
You should also tell him "My friends and I are hanging out at blah blah this weekend you could come if you like." This helps you guage whether he has interest in you or not. You avoid embarassment this way by not asking him out directly.
You might also want to throw a party and invite him and get to know him in that setting. As far as flirting goes aside from complimenting him, smiling, glances, twirling your hair etc. etc. there's not much else to get him to notice.
I would just treat this guy like talking to a family member or friend. Talk to him about his likes/dislikes sports, music etc. It's no different. JUST TALK without thinking about it. The only thing that is different here is that you may get a date out of it.
He's just as shy as you are but until someone makes a move nothing at all happens. He's probably hoping someone will talk to him so he doesn't have to approach people himself. he won't bite you as long as you follow the advice above. It will work.
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I'm thinking about planting some bulbs soon and starting a small "garden". I don't really know anything about how to do it & all the sites I've tried are too complicated for me. Can anyone give me a step-by-step for beginners? thanks. (link)
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You should visit your local nursery and talk to one of their employees about the size graden you want, which bulbs are best and tips on how to do it properly for beginners.
They would be more than happy to help you and go around the place choosing with you what would work. Tell them you find information online too complex. They'll make sure you understand it by the time you leave.
That's what I would do as you would see these plants in person, become educated on the spot about them and would have the support of their staff to fall back on.
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15/f
I have some really strange things that I do.
I'm constantly talking to myself (but not really talking out loud, just sort of just mouthing what i would say if i were talking to another person.)
And If I've just walked away from having a convo with someone, I keep repeating what i've said to myself for like 20 minutes after.
I can't focus on ANYTHING no matter how hard I try and I'm always oblivious to everything.
I always isolate myself in social situations because it's the only thing I feel safe doing. I never say anything to anyone because I know that they won't want to talk to me.
I feel like people are watching me when I'm alone and I worry that people can hear my thoughts. I know that's irrational but it doesn't make it go away.
I'm also in some kind of negative mood all the time- be it sad, mad, upset, lonely, etc. I never feel happy and when I smile it's fake unless I'm laughing at something.
I'm always horny and I can't stop my sexual behavior even in public.
so just tell me what you think is wrong. am I schitzophrenic? (sp?) (link)
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It's not stress. It could be signs of a mental health issue and that shouldn't be taken lightly at all.
What has me concerned is that you think others have the ability to read your thoughts or influence them telepathically. Also if your moods are going from sad, angry, upset, lonely and you are never happy it may be signs of manic depression.
You'll have huge highs and then lows and up/down moods that may be accompanied by delusions. Right now you may be hypomanic which is the non-dangerous side of bipolar disorder and about to have a problem as the reading of thoughts issue would indicate.
The non dangerous side also means people are impulsive and make bad financial and sexual decisions.
You need to see a mental health professional (NOT a family doctor) A.S.A.P. This is a problem where you should visit an emergency room and be assessed.
If you are hearing things, talking to yourself constantly and thinking people can read or influence your thoughts you've got a series medical problem. Don't take it lightly and let a psychiatrist diagnose you.
You might be fine but not based on what you said. You need medical attention regardless. I know, I've been there myself before.
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i think hes in a movie that i dont know the name to but i remember one line from ..
"my mother died before i was born"
"thats impossible that she died before you were born cos then you would have never been born"
"well, i didnt get the chance to meet her"
or something like that .. what movie is this from? (link)
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The quotes you gave are not 100% verbatim therefore Google didn't come up with anything. This does sound familiar but I too was unable to figure out which film it was.
The best thing you could do is go to Hayley Joel Osment's IMDB.COM profile at http://imdb.com/name/nm0005286/ and look at different film titles and synopsis to try and jog your memory and pinpoint the quotes.
I would also Google Hayley Joel Osment fan pages and see what comes up in terms of lines from movies. I tried for you but didn't come up with anything.
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miss bad luckok i have this boy who i realy like but every time im around him my oldest brothers enbares me in front of his face but tthey dont no i like him do you think if they find out tell stop and oyeah should i tell the boy i like him please i need ur help anyone (link)
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I think if your brothers found out you liked him the teasing would intensify. It's best to keep this to yourself until you decide whether to try and get a date with the person or not.
Instead of asking the guy out and possibly being taunted if he said no tell him you want to get to know him better. invite him to hang out when you're in a group and see if he will come. If he doesn't it shows he's just not in to you. It saves you embarassment.
If you really like him get to know him better and then go after him if you still have feelings for him. In the meantime find something you can taunt your brothers about in front of him so they know what it feels like and that sis can't be messed around with.
Don't do anything too hurtful but if they won't stop harassing you you need to stand up for yourself. Once you get to know this guy and gets to know you start flirting and go for broke. you haven't a thing to lose and you shouldn't deny your true feelings. Your gut's always right when it tells you something.
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I need answer ASAP!
Ok so this can get kinda confusing.
My BFF went out with a guy "Mark", and then he broke up with her last year but she has never stopped liking him. And Mark is also my ex's best friend. I didn't think Mark and I would still be friends because, of my ex, but today I ate lunch with him and some of my firends and I had a balst with him, and we were both kind of flirting with each other. I like him but I don't know if I should or not cause of that whole "girl code" thing. What do I do??? (link)
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I didn't know there was a code. I thought that was a myth! It proves what I know being a male ;) All kidding aside the guy is fair game at this point. They broke up a year ago and he has moved on but she hasn't.
That's not his problem nor yours. She has no attachment to him and cannot expect you nor anyone else she knows or doesn't not to date him. If you like him go ahead and date him. If she say anything point out that it's been a year and you thought she would have moved on.
Although it's a harsh statement there really is something wrong with a person who dated someone a year to a year and a half ago who hasn't moved on yet. She needs to get counselling or introduced to other people fast. That's for her to deal with.
Bottom line, you're not doing anything wrong in flirting with him or dating. She cannot expect either of you from dating or stopping yourselves because of her. Let the chips fall where they may and go after this guy if you feel he's worth it.
As a courtesy (you don't need to) tell her that she must move on as it's been a year and that Mark likes you and you like him and you cannot surpress it.
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how do i tell him that it does not feel good? i love him a lot and love having sex but the oral is just horrible. what should i say? (link)
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See this thread: http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=513612 Someone asked the same sort of question you just did. This could be helpful.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating a long time. I love the man dearly. Now, we have been having sex quite a while, and at first I wasn't really into the whole oral sex thing. Now I am, I like it. Now my boyfriend has had sex with 6 girls but only eaten me out. So I guess he is new at this. But I keep hearing that if it doesn't feel really good then he is doing it wrong. Now, I am not going to lie, it doesn't feel that good. I am usually just doing it because he wants to. How should I tell him to change what he is doing because it just doesn't feel good. And I want to be suttle. Should I just suggest different things? And if so what? I have never had anyone else eat me out, so I'm not sure what feels good. (link)
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Nobody likes to hear they ae lousy at something. This is quadroupled when it comes to sexually pleasing one's partner. All you need to do is tell him "You know, that feel's good but I really like it when you focus on this or that spot."
This way he's not offended. You need to guide him when you engage in this activity or he'll remain clueless. He's likely never seen female genitals before nor knows his way around.
I doubt he's slept with anyone before you. It's possible he has however, he never engaged in oral sex with the previous partners. You need to educate him and talk before, during, after about what you like and dislike. He cannot be expected to figure it out alone.
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I started taking paxil for social anxiety disorder. It made my heart beat too fast and made me shaky and it also made my face swell.. weird, i know. I'm so disappointed that it isn't going to work for me.. i was really hoping it would help and be good. Does anyone know what some of the other good ones are for social anxiety disorder? (link)
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You obviously have no idea how lucky you are not to be having severe problems right now. Paxil can be bloody dangerous and was in my experience.
If it was causing your face to swell, heart race and to be shaky it's a very bad thing. You are lucky you didn't need hospitalization or die from it. The drug triggered delusions in me a few years back.
I wouldn't advise anyone to use or prescribe it. Did you get it from a family doctor? General practitioners seldom know when and when not to prescribe such drugs to patients.
I'm not an expert on your disorder but I advise you to stop seeing your family doctor as he/she doesn't know what they are doing and get a referral to a psychiatrist.
A psychiatrist if you aren't already seeing one can help you with your disorder and assess you and your needs and be the only person who really knows what anti-depressants if any to prescribe.
Leave that up to the expert and not your family doctor who often has no experience with the anti-depressant he's giving you. You don't need to be exposed by him/her to any more drugs that can cause such a dangerous reaction.
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15/f
you see i have red hair......down there.....and i really want to have sex w/ my boyfriend but idk if he would be offended, or turned off, cuz i have pubic hair..... should i shave it off? (link)
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It's your body not his. Whether you shave it partially or completely is your personal decision. Pubic hair is normal and so is no pubic hair these days.
If he can't handle the presence of hair than he's not mature enough to be down there to begin with. Mature men know both is normal and it doesn't matter whether or nt their partners shaves it.
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ugh! this is really embarressing to ask but here goes you see im a 15yr old chic and ive been masturbating since i was like 8 but i have no idea what an orgasm is....
i get so many ?s like "have you even had an orgasm thats lasted like longer than a min?" and i have a pretty perverted mind so im soooo not askin one of my friends what the heck is an orgasm they'd all be like what the fuck you dont know what that is lol....
so can someone fill me in (link)
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You should never feel embarrased for not knowing what something is and or does. The embarassment should only come from not asking.
If your friends laugh at you over it just say "we all have to learn things on our own." That will kill their taunts. An orgasm is a series of ripples that build up during sexual stimulation. Al of your muscles and body especially in your pubic region tense up and release. Trust me, you'll know you had one.
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Ok so my favourite television show has tapings every Tuesday night for free. I'd gladly go to a lot except it's in Sydney and I live in Victoria (The state next to it) and this will probably be the last season. Heaps of people I know from that show's official forums are flying there on October 2 and I'd kill to go.
I was thinking of asking my mum if we fly on a super cheap air service, arrive in the morning and go after the taping therefore she doesn't have to pay for accomodation. I was also thinking of this being a super early Christmas present. It'll cost about $230 dollars in Australian money for the airfares and this can be my dad's present to me too. Usually they pay about 200 each so they're saving money.
Also the October 2 taping is during School Holidays so I won't miss any school.
So how should I ask my mum about this? (link)
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Even though the tickets are free it is still a once in a liftime opportunity. Few people ever get to step onto a movie or television show set. It's quite educational and special to see the production process in front of you for your favorite show.
I would try to line up tickets first. Just because they are free does not mean that they are at all easy to get. It's quite the opposite. I would approach your mother with the information you have about the tapings, how far it is etc. and see what she thinks.
Offer to pay your own way but I have a hunch she might like the idea of a mother-daughter trip provided it can be afforded. Be careful not to ask for this for Christmas now as you may want to bite your tongue later.
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im a 17 year old female and i cannot handle an interview at all i went to two refering to wroking in retail and some questions i found i couldnt answer or they were very delayed. I need a job so bad because my dad wont buy me the car i want until i am able to get one. I applied at Bon Ton and they called me back for an interview and i am so nervous because i feel that i just dont do interviews well. Any one who has applied in retail can u please list some questions they might have or have even asked and what are some good well thought out repsonses? thank you so much! (link)
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It's perfectly natural to feel nervous about a job interview. They can be intimidating but here's a few tips. First of all Bon-Ton is considered upscale offering clothing, bedding, jewelery, fragences etc.
You'll need to dress as if you knew about fashion and be well put together that way and especially with hair. They are going to ask you what you know about their company.
Also be prepared to talk about your goals, school, plans for university and how you will deal with customers including extremely annoying types.
Be hgonest and don't give them what they WANT to hear. They'll weed you out for doing that. They want honest answers from you but use your common sense in answering them. They'll ask about previous job experience and what qualifies you to work for them for sure.
I would go in and tell them that you are nervous. They'll help you relax. Don't volunteer any info about yourself unless asked a direct question. Tey also want to see what your personality is like so be upbeat.
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My school picture day is next monday, and i was wondering if you had any tips.
Its my senior year, so my pictures going in the yearbook and its how im going to be remembered so i want to look good. Our rule is we have to wear either a blue or white collared shirt. We can wear any undershirt and do our hair however we want.
Which color would show up better? Blue or white?
What shirt should i wear under?
What looks better on film? Curly or straight hair?
About makeup, whats the best way to go? Eyeliner or not? Red lipstick maybe? Ihave no clue.
Any ideas would be appreciated so much!!
Thanks for reading!!
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1) Blue stands out better and is the best choice. Do not wear solid red or white. It tends to look a bit blurred or different than other colors in a photograph and especially on TV. Sometimes it looks even a bit distorted.
2) Wear what you would like underneath. It's not going to show up in the photo so it's not that big a decision.
3) Either curly or straight hair will look fine. I would recommend straight hair though. You want something that won't block the view of your face or be in your eyes or that would make people see your hair first and you second when looking at the photo.
4) With make-up you need to look natural and not all done up. Use what you usually do as that's how you look best. It's your choice basically as long as you don't stick out like a sore thumb you're okay.
That's my point of view. The other tip: Don't look at the camera lens. Focus on a spot straight ahead or where someone's hand would be at if they held it up. This makes you look natural and stops you from blinking at the flash resulting in a closed eye class picture.
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16/f
for about two weeks i masturbated every night. i had just ended a friends with benefits relationship but now after those two weeks i have no sex drive. at all! well i think about having sex but i don't get horny. what's wrong?! (link)
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Too much of a good thing let alone a great thing after awhile is boring or too much. Try not to masturbate every night and then return to it several days later.
You'll find that your sex drive is just fine and the normal feelings taken from it will return. You have to give your body and genitals a bit of a rest.
If you're constantly doing the same activity your body won't respond the same after awhile to it. So, relax and take a break from it for a bit.
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me and my boyfrend had sex and with no condom and it was only in onces like in out and i was wondering if i'm goin gto get pergent. (link)
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The short answer is you better believe you can. Are you pregnant? I wouldn't jump to conclusions yet until you take a test. It's never about how long sex is or if it's just a few seconds.
You can get pregnant if not using condoms and or birth control because pre-cum contains enough sperm to get a girl pregnant. Many girls/women have become pregnant for thinking that the withdrawal method before ejaculation works. It doesn't.
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My mom and I were going at it about the Baldwin brothers. And a question arose, "What movie has the most Baldwins in it?"
So, I suppose I'll ask you guys, since you're all so knowledgable and such.
What movie has the most Baldwins? (link)
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The best way to find that out easily is to use IMDB.COM It lists the complete bio and credits for each actor if you search by name.
There's also a way to run a search on their where you take for example Alex Baldwin and then another actor's name to see all the films they were in together. That's how I would go about arriving at the answer.
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ok well im turning 16 in april.. i know thats like awhile from now. but like my dad is like against having a car when youre 16 and where i live like every kid gets a car when theyre 16 and its like essential to like get around and stuff. i mean it wouldnt be THAT big of a deal to me except for the fact that my parents are like you cant drive in cars w/ ur friends that just got their license. what do they expect? that theyre gonna drive me around for the rest of my life? any ways to convince them that i should be able to get a car (not neccesarily for my birthday just like sometime soon). also what are some ways to make money? i cant really get like a good job right now bc of school but i want to get one this summer. how much do like used cars cost? (link)
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Not every 16-year-old has a car or are fully licensed to operate one without an adult with decades of experience in the passenger seat.
In some cities, provinces and maybe states there is a thing called graduated licensing where you spend 2-3 years driving with an adult and then must advance to level 2 and then a full license.
The reason your parents don't want you driving with a newly licensed 16-year-old is that they are more susceptible to accidents and that's especially true if friends are in the car and there is music.
The 16-year-old doesn't have as much experience to be able to control a car the way someone with 20+ years like your parents can.
A car at your age is non-essential. You can go to the mall, park, concerts or wherever else using a bus pass or the subway if needed be relatively easily and cheapily.
You wouldn't want to own a car at your age anyway because of gas prices, huge insurance bills for a new time driver and lease and or monumental bills for repairs on any used car.
In order to get a car be it used or new you need to have a job to pay for it and all the things mentioned above and you must have a line of credit and great credit at that for a loan or even to lease a vehicle.
Mom and dad can always put a car in their name and let you drive it but you have to do a lot more than being their daughter to deserve that as it's a tough sell with any parent.
I recommend that you use public transit for now as it's sensible and get your learner's liscene and really progress as a driver before getting your own car. Your parents can always let you borrow the car when you work up their trust by showing you are responsible behind the wheel.
Right now I would worry about getting your learner's permit and shelling out roughly $1,000.00 U.S. for solid defensive driving instruction with at least 25-30 in car sessions/in class as well. It's hefty but go for the best driver's ed school. Complete that and you'll have leverage about a car.
Just remember not every kid comes from a background where their parents can afford a car for themselves let alone their kid(s). Asking to borrow the car or taking transit to get places is more what you should be looking to do right now.
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13/f
My scanner has been screwed up for like ever, just like my printer. Anybody know somebody cheap who can fix a Hewlett Packard ScanJet 4100C scanner and Hewlett Packard DeskJet 722C printer?I mean, I've been trying to fix it, but it won't work! And, if any of you know how to fix it, please explain for me what to do! THANK YOU!!!!!
Izzy Uchiha! ^/_\^ (link)
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Go to this page: http://h10025.www1.hp.com/ewfrf/wc/softwareCategory?lc=en&cc=us&dlc=en&product=58707&lang=en&
Download the updated driver for the printer. If you recently installed somehting like Windows Vista or did any kind of upgrade or updating your operating system etc. your drivers won't match tp make things work.
In my case it meant getting a new printer that was compatible with the latest software update. Mine was a HP too. if installing new drivers doesn't work getting a new printer that is compatible with your computer will. It's a great investment with school just starting as the prices are really low.
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I saw that you answered a girls question that has a similar problem to mine. I smell "down there" and I can like smell it when i'm just sitting in class. The discharge doesn't smell so I don't know what could be wrong. And once I was walking to my seat and this guy whispered to his friend "it stinks in here" and his friend pointed to me. It was so embarrasing. Is this abnormal? I don't know how to tell my mom... I don't just want to flat out say "i stink down there" any advice? thanks (link)
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It's not "abnormal" It just means you need to see a gynocologist and have it seen to. Although you don't want to approach your mom you need to.
She's dealt with this before as almost all women have had to. Just book the appointment and you will be fine. It's plain dumb to keep this going on for months.
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