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liking my BFF's ex and my ex-bf BFF
I need answer ASAP!
Ok so this can get kinda confusing.
My BFF went out with a guy "Mark", and then he broke up with her last year but she has never stopped liking him. And Mark is also my ex's best friend. I didn't think Mark and I would still be friends because, of my ex, but today I ate lunch with him and some of my firends and I had a balst with him, and we were both kind of flirting with each other. I like him but I don't know if I should or not cause of that whole "girl code" thing. What do I do???
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oh I know the code a friend should never date another friends ex boyfriend no matter what.
we both know that in the guy world its every man for him self but in girl world you can't brake that code.
but see some times you can't help who you like, find out how much your friend still likes this guy then go from there.
if she really is a true friend she won't really mind she would just like to see you happy and when you do talk to her tell her you want to her to know because she is your friend and your doing it out of respect but if you know that she still cares for him so much and there is still hope for her you know you must back off.
but think hard and remember guys come and go but friends will always be there
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I didn't know there was a code. I thought that was a myth! It proves what I know being a male ;) All kidding aside the guy is fair game at this point. They broke up a year ago and he has moved on but she hasn't.
That's not his problem nor yours. She has no attachment to him and cannot expect you nor anyone else she knows or doesn't not to date him. If you like him go ahead and date him. If she say anything point out that it's been a year and you thought she would have moved on.
Although it's a harsh statement there really is something wrong with a person who dated someone a year to a year and a half ago who hasn't moved on yet. She needs to get counselling or introduced to other people fast. That's for her to deal with.
Bottom line, you're not doing anything wrong in flirting with him or dating. She cannot expect either of you from dating or stopping yourselves because of her. Let the chips fall where they may and go after this guy if you feel he's worth it.
As a courtesy (you don't need to) tell her that she must move on as it's been a year and that Mark likes you and you like him and you cannot surpress it.
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GIIRRLLL THAT IS KINDA CONFUSING =)
But i would say girl code?
seriously go ask her if it's okaii and screw the girl code be a good friend ask.. if she says yes then wait about 2 weeks then go for it..
two weeks to give her time to think about if and if she disagrees later then she can tell you. If she says no well respect it if she doesent go for him with in like a month or 3 weeks then you get the bate because he isn't hers. Hes available to anyone.
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this is a tough situation. there really isnt a 'girl code', but people wouldnt view you in a nice way if you broke the 'chicks before dicks' rule. i cant tell you not to like him, but i think it would be best if you laid off of him, for now anyway. im sure your ex and bff would be pretty upset with you if anything were to happen between you and mark. if you really like him, and you think he likes you, talk to your bff and maybe your ex about it.
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