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Liking a Shy Guy
14/f
I just started 9th grade and my friend Emma met a new kid from band camp that goes to our school. His name is Jake. He's really cool but really shy. He dosen't like to talk to lots of people.
I like him alot. I have told my friends that I do so they are totally aware of it. The only problem is that I'm pretty shy as well. I can't go up to random people and strike up conversations.
It took me almost 2 months to make friends with the ones I have now.
I do get to see Jake some during the school day we talk in the morning with our friends and he is in my gym class.
My queston is how do I over come this shyness and talk to him? Is there anyways I can flirt with him that wouldn't be to akward for either of us. I really don't know what to say to him when it's just the two of us. If I have some friends around then I'm a little more talkative but still not very.
Any help would be greatly appriciated.
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He feels the same way and may be eyeing you as well. The best thing you can do is introduce yourself and tell him that he "seems nice" and that you "want to get to know him better." Give him a slip of paper with your number and IM info.
You should also tell him "My friends and I are hanging out at blah blah this weekend you could come if you like." This helps you guage whether he has interest in you or not. You avoid embarassment this way by not asking him out directly.
You might also want to throw a party and invite him and get to know him in that setting. As far as flirting goes aside from complimenting him, smiling, glances, twirling your hair etc. etc. there's not much else to get him to notice.
I would just treat this guy like talking to a family member or friend. Talk to him about his likes/dislikes sports, music etc. It's no different. JUST TALK without thinking about it. The only thing that is different here is that you may get a date out of it.
He's just as shy as you are but until someone makes a move nothing at all happens. He's probably hoping someone will talk to him so he doesn't have to approach people himself. he won't bite you as long as you follow the advice above. It will work.
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Becoming less shy is easy. Mostly it has to do with confronting or talking with people i'm assuming? Either they like you or they don't. Say what you want to say, and do what you want to do. Shyness is a self issue. Don't be quiet, if you want to do something, go for it. Try something like going someweres, like a mountain or such, and scream as loud as you can. Deffinitly try doing this the next time you see him, put your hand on his shoulder and tell him that his shirts really nice. Dont be scared either, its just a nice, semi flirtatious compliment. Dont be shy, if he's wearing a nice shirt, wouldnt you want to be like , wow, awesome shirt. Ask him if he wants to hang out sometime, its not asking will he go out with you, its not asking him to be your boyfriend, its just aksing him to hang out some day. Get your friend to invite him over to her house, and have her invite a few more people including you! Good Luck! Hope I helped.
-Brina
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You need to build more confidence in yourself. I used to be shy when I was younger, but I've overcome that. You have to tell yourself to just .. DO it. If you don't feel like doing something, tell yourself you will do it and just go for it. You have to be more outgoing and fun. You'll meet tons more people that way. When you see Jake, say heyy. That's no reason to be shy. It's not like he'll think you're a freak or something. Get enough confidence to talk to him. It doesn't matter what you talk about as long as you talk. You could ask him what he's doing this weekend or tell him you guys should all get together and hang out. Once you start talking to him, you'll realize you've been shy for no reason :]
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