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ok. my hands get very sweaty. and its annoying. im very like self consious about it or whatever because i hold my boyfriends hand so before im always drying it on my pants. but its really annoying. how do i stop this?

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hello my name is marialuisa, about six months ago my husband and I were having some problems i tought he was cheating on me so i freaked out and decided to do the same thing...Thing that i'm not very proud of.
A month and a half later i found out that i was pregnant, my last menstrual period was on july 1 2006, usually doctors say that my conception date was on the between 15 and 19 of july... but i didn't have sex in those dates.
I had sex after the 26 of july wich seems impossible to get pregnant, i dont understand, doctors keep changuing my due date, and the ultrasounds are very confusing.
My husband knows what is going on because i told him, as soon as all this hapened. He thinks is his baby at least he hopes...But im not sure.
How do i know if this baby is my husband's or this other man?
I'm not sure what i am going to do after i find out.
I told my husband that if this is not his baby i will go back to my country (ecuador-South America) because i dont want him taking somebody else responsabilities, i love my husband very much i dont want to leave him but i dont really know what to do...
How can i find out who is my baby's father????
Please i need and advice

It's possible to have a DNA test done, but I think those are $150-$500. Those show with almost 100% certainty if someone is related.
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I searched the Advicenators FAQ's and I haven't been able to locate anything about forums. How do I get one on my advice column?

The URL of your personal forum is(notice the last part):
www.advicenators.com/talkaboutme.php?userboard_id=your_id_number
you find your ID # by going to the "ask a question page" for you and getting the ID number in the URL. So for me, you'd go to my column and then click "ask a question". the URL is:
http://www.advicenators.com/question.php?u=38985
so my personal forum is:
http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutme.php?userboard_id=38985
because my id is 38985(as seen at the end of the "ask a question" URL

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I was thinking of widening my wardrobe. I thought of wearing lower cut tops. But my question is, if let's say a girl reveals her cleavage, will the guy wanna bang her or something? Will he lose respect for her?Because I definitely won't want guys to think of me that way. So, maybe the guys can answer this?

They'll think you look hot. They'll have the same amount of respect for you, though. Just because you look hot doesn't mean guys will think of you as an object.

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I can’t help but feel as though I’m not headed anywhere good.

I have not one, not two, but three mental disorders, one of which they discovered in me. Lucky, no? The first one, depression, was discovered when I was in seventh grade (I’m in ninth now) and pushed me to attempt suicide several times. I got over that and moved straight on to anxiety, which proceeded to generally be a bitch to me in all areas. Then, my doctor managed to identify the third one, which I’d had for years. That’s the unidentified one, which I like to call “Emotionless Bastard Syndrome”. Basically, my emotions turn off, sometimes when provoked and sometimes for no particular reason. I’ll be somewhere and I’ll just go completely numb.

Over the past few years, I’ve started to feel more and more… Distant. I’ve read very heavy books and graphic novels, and grow more and more disgusted by my own species. I wrote this, which is probably not a good sign:

***

Dear Humanity,

What the fuck happened?
I mean this in all seriousness. You were doing so well. Genuinely, I think everyone expected you would turn out great. You certainly had an excellent start…. You discovered the wheel, fire, electricity, and a whole lot of complicated nuclear stuff. I was always able to overlook your shortcomings because of your promising future, but now this shit has gone too far. You’ve pushed your luck, folks.

Where to start? I guess the first thing I should mention is this little consumer ideal thing you’ve got going for you. You just can’t stop buying shit… And not even shit you need, stupid shit. There’s also bullshit, but I’ll get to that later. So anyway, you kicked off with all this capitalism and free enterprise stuff and that seemed like it was working out, better than communism in any event. But then you got your second addiction, and this addiction was to buying. Didn’t matter what, you would buy pretty much anything and everything regardless of whether you needed it or not. Once again, began pretty innocent. You had free enterprise, you could buy or sell whatever shit you needed, and it was good. But Jesus Christ. How many brands of vacuum cleaners need to fucking exist in the first place? Humanity, I sentence you to watch the movie Fight Club about eight hundred times.

Next, how about we talk about ignorance. This is another strong one, particularly amongst the young. Now, for fuck’s sake, you guys are inheriting the future, and this is the kind of mindset you’ve got? There’s other people starving all over the world, there are kids with dads who rape them every night, and the best complaint you have is about the color of your god damn iPod? Also, if there’s a country that represents the human mindset, it’s America. You use up 80% of the world’s resources, ignore the counsel of other countries, invade smaller nations whilst trying to force your system of government upon them, and have the balls to call yourself leader of the fucking free world? Christ, Teddy Roosevelt would be rolling over in his grave.

And while we get to the subject of invasion and wars, I would like to politely ask the lot of you to sit and wait for five fucking minutes before blowing each other up for once. Come the fuck on. It seems like as soon as everybody has their conflicts resolved and they don’t give a shit about their differences, someone gets greedy or stupid or pissed and decides to find another reason to kill people. And before you know it, BAM! War. Another fucking war. Who’d have guessed? Whether it be for revenge or land or money or resources or women or honor or stupidity, it seems vital to you that you kill a whole bunch of each other in order to satisfy you for a short period of time. Come on guys, at least be original.

Moving on, I’d like to point out the royally shitty job you’ve done of taking care of the place you got handed to you. It was classy, too: Millions of other species, vast geological wonders, and natural occurrences that could only be described as miracles, and you had to move in and burn all the forests and kill all the whales and destroy your fucking ozone. An ozone, I have to give you credit for that one. That’s impressive. I mean, it’s one thing to go out and be completely selfish bastards to all the other beings your sharing the planet with, but to destroy something that existed only for your protection in the god damn first place? Humanity, your incredible selfishness and short-sightedness remains unmatched. I can’t imagine. I just can’t imagine.

Now, lets move on to our most pressing matter, which would be bullshit. By this, I would mean the bullshit that you’ve clouded your worlds with. It’s on your news, in your books, filling up your churches… No fucking surprise it’s in your minds. Still not clear what bullshit is? You believing a woman who tells you that the 9/11 widows are all profiting from their husbands deaths, that’s bullshit. A politician who tells you that the rights of a lump of cells outrank those of a crippled man or a grandmother with Alzheimer’s, that’s bullshit. A Texan who tells you that someone else’s happiness detracts from his happiness, that’s bullshit. Every dinner table manner you’ve ever had to learn, every polite lie you’ve ever had to tell, every useless algebra fact they ever drilled into your brain, that’s all prime BS. And a clergy member who tells you that god is amidst all the burning bodies and screaming children? What you have here is real bullshit.

In the bullshit department, religion is the undisputed champion, and always has been. As usual, an innocent start: A bunch of people decide that life sucks and they don’t know what comes after it, so there’s some big guy in the sky who’s taking care of all that for them. I repeat: Come the fuck on. I really would think you would have gotten over this shit by now. This primitive idea has been defended in so many ways for so many years it grows sickening. “Why did god burn my house down?” He works in mysterious ways. “Why did he give me cancer?” We are all a part of his plan. “Why does he murder the children?” Their time on earth was done. Has it ever occurred to you that right now, and I mean right now, there are people who are living lives that will consist of more misery and less happiness than you could ever imagine? There comes a time where you just have to stop rationalizing and admit the blindingly obvious: You are alone in your sad little existence.

Humanity, your being has been a downward spiral for thousands of years, and I believe that you are now beyond redemption or any kind of savior. Buy your last clothes, kill your last enemies, suck your last drops of oil from the earth, and pray to whatever gods or myths you may wish. You were so promising… But your time has finally come. Like all species, you will fade into the past, where perhaps others will learn from your failure. But for now, all you can do is hope for the best.

Truly,
Me

***

I began to feel as though the weight of the world was on my shoulders. Now, it seems as though I’m so inside myself that no one knows my true face… I hide behind a wall of atheism and skepticism, which is probably more curiosity gone wrong than a genuine staunch opinion. Every day I’d look up more and more reasons why God doesn’t exist… And boy did I find them. But I recently realized that what I’m looking for is not disproof: It’s proof. I want to believe so badly that someone out there more competent than humans handling this, but I just can’t bring myself to. I recently got a girlfriend, which helped a lot.

And now, I feel like I’m chasing a dream or a ghost of some sort. I’ll go onto Google and search for words like “meaning” or “answers”. I don’t know what I want, I don’t know why I want it, but I can’t stop wanting it… I just don’t know what’s going on. It’s like I’m slipping out of reality or falling out of the world. Thanks for reading this far. I guess I was hoping maybe somebody had answers.

There is no meaning in life. If the sun exploded right now, it would not affect the cosmos; time and space would continue to stretch endlessly in all directions, no one but us would notice. Your actions mean nothing, devote yourself to good or bad, no one will remember in time. If there is an afterlife, there's no point thinking about it; you'll know what it is when you're dead. If there is a god, it's nothing like any man has ever made up. It might sound like I'm saying there is no reason to live. I'm not. I'm saying that you should do whatever makes you happy, there will be no galactic consequences. If it makes you happy to read, read more; if it makes you depressed to ponder the meaning of life, then don't. If you want to believe in god/magic/unicorns, then go ahead. Also, for some reason your question reminded me of http://alllla.com , maybe you'll enjoy that site; the creator of that site likes talking about the kind of things in your question(email available on the site), but I haven't heard from him in months and he might not be available.

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this sounds really crazy but i dont know what to belive in ! i have been baptized etc but i dont belive in god, jesus , any of it my mum baptised me so i didnt have a say my step sister belives in 14th century witch craft and im interested as my sister told me that there first rule is " do what u please aslong as it does not hurt a soul" and that makes soo much scence to me ! i no this sounds different wicht craft etc.... but i want to learn what the do and how to become 1 i cant ask my sister as she and i dont talk etc ... does it mean that because im baptised i cant take another religion where could i find advice on this 14th century witch craft and advice will help xxxx

here's some info on wicca:
http://www.religioustolerance.org/witchcra.htm

If you like wicca after reading all of the religious tolerance article, read "maiden moon", one of the best introductory wicca ebooks(PDF):
zrcadlo.mysteria.cz/MaidenMoon1.1.pdf

The religious tolerance site has a lot of info on other religions, too. If you want proof that Christianity isn't the "one true religion", take a look at the skeptic's annotated bible, to see all the contradictions:
http://www.skepticsannotatedbible.com/

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Can someone tell me more about the religion, Wicca? I just recently found out about it and it sounds so much like me even though I never heard of that religion before

It's a new form of witchcraft, here's an unbiased article: http://www.religioustolerance.org/witchcra.htm
A couple things to note when researching:
-practicing witchcraft will not allow you to make things fly, set things on fire, or curse people.
-wicca in it's current form was started in the last 100 years or so, it's not thousands of years old, as many sources will tell you

If you like wicca after reading all of the religious tolerance article, read "maiden moon", one of the best introductory wicca ebooks(PDF):
zrcadlo.mysteria.cz/MaidenMoon1.1.pdf

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My question is about the rule of underage users on the Advicenators website. No need to say that it's for insurance purposes or what-not because I have researched the site for that. What I would like to know, that since you have to be 13, is it allowed to get someone who IS of age to ask the question for you. Everybody has problems, at any age, so I don't get why this would be faulty. Any aditional information is welcomed.
(In case you're all wondering, I am 16.)

The reason for that rule is that the US Federal Trade Commission has a law called the Children's Online Privacy Protection Act(COPPA). This law requires that sites not collect any personal information from children under 13 without their parent's permission. This includes name, email address, phone number, and any other contact information. This website would probobly have to get an actual mail(not email) signiture from the child's parents. That would take a lot of time the people that run this site probobly don't have. It should be fine for an older person to ask the question for the person under 13, but you can't include any personally identifying information.

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at my school, we go back to on monday because we were on winter break for 2 weeks. well as most of you ive been staying up really late.. from 1-4 a.m. and i have to go to bed for school at 9:30 because i have to wake up early. the problem is that im not gonna be able to fall asleep that early! any tips? please dont say go to bed early for the last couple of nights because i cant.. i babysit basically from 8 PM-2 AM tomorrow and so thats not a posibility.. also me and my cousins are having a sleepover on saturday and we go to bed really late. any tips on falling asleep quickly on sunday night? (i definitely cant cancel any of the plans) thanks bunches!

take some NyQuil, it'll knock you out instantly.

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I am doing my HW right now and i have a question that asks "name the five parts of a lever" and i cant find that anywhere in my book??? Can somebody please help me out? Please dont complain and be all, "urg i hate these stupid kids that are always asking us to do their HW for them" because i'm not asking for you to do it for me i'm just confused.

there's only 3 parts. Fulcrum, input force, output force.

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What does fetish mean? I asked my friends but they left me confused.. and I don't think i was finding the right definition in the book. It said an object believed to be magic ?


Like.. "I have a neck fetish"


Does it mean that an object (fetish) is used for arousal?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_fetishism

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what is that story, i think it is by edgar alan poe, about a man killing someone, then going crazy saying he hears the heartbeat under his floor?

-greatly appreciated

the tell-tale heart

"No doubt I now grew very pale; --but I talked more fluently, and with a heightened voice. Yet the sound increased --and what could I do? It was a low, dull, quick sound --much such a sound as a watch makes when enveloped in cotton. I gasped for breath -- and yet the officers heard it not. I talked more quickly --more vehemently; but the noise steadily increased. I arose and argued about trifles, in a high key and with violent gesticulations; but the noise steadily increased. Why would they not be gone? I paced the floor to and fro with heavy strides, as if excited to fury by the observations of the men -- but the noise steadily increased. Oh God! what could I do? I foamed --I raved --I swore! I swung the chair upon which I had been sitting, and grated it upon the boards, but the noise arose over all and continually increased. It grew louder --louder --louder! And still the men chatted pleasantly, and smiled. Was it possible they heard not? Almighty God! --no, no! They heard! --they suspected! --they knew! --they were making a mockery of my horror! --this I thought, and this I think. But anything was better than this agony! Anything was more tolerable than this derision! I could bear those hypocritical smiles no longer! I felt that I must scream or die! --and now --again! --hark! louder! louder! louder! louder!"

(that was the end, not the whole thing)

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could the doctors take a blood test and see i smoke pot? i know they can with urian. but with blood? even when they are not even looking for it?
also friday i have to go to the doctors for my pyshical. when they take my urian can they tell i smoke? or do they just not even look at that?

they will only notice it if they look for it. If they see that you have been smoking, they will give you another test in 2 weeks or so to verify before doing anything about it. If you stop till then, it's more likely you won't get caught.

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okay so i hate school becuz i dont get anything! and so most of the time my friends just give me there papers to copy off of and whenever i read a book or something i always dooze off and daydream and so then ive got no idea wat i just read and i can never get myself to do my homework like idk if im just reallly lazy or something but i just get frusterated when im doing it and have to take a break but then i never go back to doing it i just tell myself ill do it tomarow. is there anyway to change my habits since im already farrr behind. and how do i confront my parents about this?

Many schools offer tutoring, that would get you caught up. Or you could ask your friends to teach you the stuff. I'm 15, and if you are younger or the same age as me I could help you learn what you need, leave your email in the feedback if you want my help. You could have ADD, but a decision to talk to a doctor about that shouldn't be taken lightly. The drugs they give you for that are mind-changing, it could entirely change your personality; and they almost always give them out for even mild ADD.

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What do you think of this? I had to interview my dad for a 7th grade literacy project. umm do you think its good and what number grade would you give it? THANKS! and sorry its long but like.. its a graded assignment, heh. Also, for the sake of confediality I didnt reveal personal stuff..

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The world cannot survive without them. Who does one think creates the food, drinks, clothing, and fuels we’ve all grown accustomed to living with? These specially trained workers are called chemical engineers. Chemical engineers find out better ways to extract, purify, package, and preserve the food and drinks that wait for us at our supermarkets. Without doing so, the products may spoil before we ever get a chance to buy them. They can also make new chemicals and materials from simple molecules. In addition to that, they make clothing and fuels. To create fuel, they separate crude oil mined from the ground. However, chemical engineers don’t actually make the clothing. They make the fibers clothing is made of. Some fibers are natural, while others are man made or synthetic. To make a synthetic fiber, a chemical engineer dissolves paper in an acid, depending on the fiber they want to make. The last step is to spin a fiber out of the solution. Chemical engineers are involved in all these activities to keep mankind alive.

Luckily, I managed to get an interview of a gifted chemical engineer by the name of [my dad]. During the course of the interview, I noticed that [my dad] seemed very proud of his job. He was a pleasure to work with, and was quite professional with responding to my elaborate questions. What he shared with me you will find in reading this article. Enjoy.

[my dad] chose his career at the tender age of eighteen, shortly after finishing high school. He only really wanted to be a chemical engineer, allowing him to pursue the career of his dreams without second thoughts. As a child, [my dad] had always been dedicated to his studies. He was born in a very poor family, and as he trudges shoeless through the dusty roads to get to school, all he could wish for was a better life for him and his precious family. This dream kept him determined, and years later his hard work paid off with a scholarship for a university in England. There, he still studied hard, read science, and learned from people who were already chemical engineers. He was successful, and also managed to get a PHD and Masters Degree as well. [my dad] loves his job because he makes things people and he like, and gets paid for it.

Since [my dad] chose his job, he’s earned a living, married [my mom], had a family, and lives well. Two of his three children, [me and my sister], were conceived in London, England. Living in England was tough, [my dad] says. Things were way more expensive there than here in America. Eventually, the [my surname] family happily bid farewell to their previous home in a 1 bed roomed flat, and sang aloha to their bigger, better, current home in [my location]. [my dad’s] paycheck was very important, especially since at the time, his wife’s job wasn’t bringing in all the cash the family needed. Currently, [my dad] is even working on building his own company, and so far everything is running smoothly. [my dad] would recommend being a chemical engineer to all science students, because chemical engineers are useful to practically everyone, unlike some other jobs. Also, they may prefer a challenging career where their skills are really put up to the test.

Overall, we truly have to thank chemical engineers for doing their job. Hopefully, all of them will be as hard-working as [my dad] is. People really don’t want to get sick from digesting spoiled food and drink, or have their cars fail to run from bad petrol. Or have no clothes, from there being no thread to sew them with. When one brings up the topic of careers, usually they’ll automatically think of being a teacher, vet, actress, singer, doctor, janitor, etc. Most people wouldn’t think of being a chemical engineer, or even know what it is. However, we have to realize that there are many jobs out there, and most of them contribute to our lives in a positive way. Being a chemical engineer probably isn’t the funnest thing in the world, but we should be grateful for what these talented people do for us.


It'll probably get a C or low B. You try too hard to use fancy vocabulary, it's like you're trying to sound like a news man. Use the most casual tone you can in a report, while still being formal. For example, instead of

Luckily, I managed to get an interview of a gifted chemical engineer by the name of [my dad].

Write:

[your dad's name] agreed to be interviewed for this paper. He is notable for [accomplishments] and works in the field of chemical engineering.

In the first bit, Luckily, gifted, and 'by the name of' are unnecessary. I removed them and tried to convey the same meaning, while stretching it out and simplifying it.

The paragraphs aren't well organized, either, each should be about a specific topic, yours jump around.

Overall, just remove any language you think is "fancy" and reorganize the paragraphs, and you'll get a high B/low A. To be truly interesting, it would need to be rewritten.

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under approved public styles where it says YOUR SPACE ; does anyone know the font of that font and size? because i really wanna use it on aim. thanks

I don't know what site you are talking about. You can find out that info on any site by right clicking the page and clicking "view source". Then press ctrl+F and enter the text with the font you want. Look around the text, it should look like the text or the text or the text. If the text is in between or then you need to go to the top of the source and look for either (if it's class=) .whatever_the_class_equaled{font:font_size font_type} or (if it's id=) #whatever_the_class_equaled{font:font_size font_type}.
If there was no tag, or that wasn't in it, look for take whatever SOMETHING is and put in in the url, in the same directory as the current HTML file. For example, if something is 28.css, and you're at advicenators.com, put advicenators.com/28.css if the URL is advicenators.com/stuff/thing, put advicenators.com/stuff/28.css. This will give you a text file with the .stuff or #stuff. If neither are those are true, look to see if the text you want is surrounded by tags, if so . If the text was written by javascript, then it's more complex and I can't *tell* you how to do it. Give me a personal question with the exact URL. If you have to have an account for something, get the source and copy/paste the entire source in the question. Don't ask me questions in the feedback, I have no way to respond.

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ok well ima a girl and a couple days ago i went to my aunts house and she has a son and he's my cousin.were both 14. well we kinda like each other alot and i guess we just set aside that we were cousins. well we ended up sleeping next to each other and he was touching me, like my boobs and butt and all that stuff. and well the next day we ended up making out like the whole day..and the thing is i liked it alot and i know it's wrong to like your cousin but i can't help it. why does it have to be so wrong? we both love each other and we have ever since we were little kids, we practically grew up together. i just don't know what to do, he kept asking me things like are you a virgin, do you wanna live with me when you grow up? and im just so confused on what to do, i don't want to end up having sex with my cousin, but then again, what if i do?, and what if i like it??! please help me. i need all the advice i can get.

You can have sex with whoever you want, it's not illegal. But you can't marry under current US laws. The closer parents are related, the greater the chance that the offspring has defects; humans have evolved to look down upon such relations, families that have children together die off, it's natural selection. If you still have feelings for each other in 2-4 years(depending on the state), go ahead and have protected sex, the worst that could happen is you have a kid, and the chances that it has defects is only slightly higher.

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15/f.

My friend and I are watching Moulin Rouge and he said he was thinking of Satine and he was like "I wonder if she's thinking of me too," do guys actually think that?

i'd prefer answers from guys guys but I'll appreciate any answer:]

thanks in advance

They say it, and some part of them believes it, but they don't mean it. They don't actually think that.

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Latley I haven't been eating as much as I should, actually I haven't been eating anything, except bread.
But I'm NOT hungry. Like, not at all. It's weird, because I'll go to get something to eat and feel completley full.
And I think my parents think somethings wrong with me, because we went out to eat and I was like 'wow i'm so full' after I ate my dinner, they were like 'finally, your eating'
And they keep on asking me to eat and such.
But I'm not balemic or anoerexic.
I'm 114 pounds, 5'4. Fourteen years old.
Help!

Make sure you're eating at least the minimum this site says:

http://www.mypyramid.gov/

If you eat less than that you could get a vitamin-deficiency disease. The diet it gives you is a very minimal diet, one McDonald's meal will probably be more calories than it recommends; you shouldn't have a problem with it.

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You answered my question about Sims 2 and I was just wondering about the utorrent and azueras or whatever.. I have Limewire and it pretty much does the same thing as those programs. Can I just use limewire or will it not work? Thank you!

Limewire does support bittorrent, but the programs I mentioned will download it faster.

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