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ok so iam a 16/f and i recently broke up with my boyfriend because he couldn't believe that i trusted him... so i told him its over.. and then i told one of our friends that i wanted to go back out with him and she told me that he said he doesn't date his exes... o yah and also he started being mean t o me in class and like he was calling me stupid and i was like your just saying that because i broke up with you.. well why is he mean to me now? and i still like him and he doesn't want me back so what should i do?
hey, well he probably feels stupid because you broke up with for a stupid reason. sorry if you got offended by that, but its what i think and im sure he does too. he doesnt want to look "stupid" for taking you back after you broke up with him a few days ago. guys are like that for some weird reason. its all about there egos. give it some time and just explain to him that what you did was a mistake. talk to him about it, not your friends.
[i'm a 15/f.] me and my ex were hanging out yesterday night and we were flirting and stuff. [nothing graphic::my mom and sister were in the room] but later when he was texting me, he told me he still kind of liked me. but i don't know what to do about him. he said that nothing was going to change between us but i don't know. please help me.
hey, well he probably just said that nothing was going to change because he thought that you didnt want it to, that you didnt like him, or he didnt want to ruin the friendship. do you like him back? if you do, dont jump into things right away. keep the flirting up. if all goes well, maybe think about starting a relationship. its always good to go through the just friends and flirting stage before actually getting involved in a relationship with someone. exes sometimes dont work out again tho, so dont get too upset if things dont. good luck.
heyyy, well, i need a just a plain white hoodie, but i have no idea where to find one! i've looked at pacsun,ae,hot topic, delias, almost everywhere! does anyone know where they are? =[. also , a plain black hoodie? thanks people :D
hey, you should try deb or rave.
i'm in love with a guy that i've only had 1 date with... he's my soulmate i can tell already. like omg.
well, he's about 2 1/2 feet taller than i am... so I don't know how I can kiss him...
I'm going to ask him to go bowling for our 2nd date... but when is the best time to kiss him?
and how am I going to accomplish it when he's so much taller?????
thx
hey, well guys are usually taller than girls, so its not that akward. kiss him when your sitting down. my boyfriends taller than me like that to. we kiss while sitting like i said before, but also he bends down a bit to kiss me. he always picks me up sometimes to kiss me to. dont sweat it, im sure he has had some short girlfriends before.
this weekend brought a really big shock for me. i found out that a couple of my friends that i think very highly of have gone as far as 3rd base (theyre 14-15) and then my best friend ever whom i look up to has tried pot (didnt like it) and got drunk at a party (shes 18)
now i'm not trying to force them to stop doing these things, its their life and their body, but it deeply disturbs and saddens me. i understand that this is very common behavior in high school (i'm homeschooled) but like the most smartest people i know have done that.
how do i deal with this? i just really have a hard time imagining them doing these things, its almost like its their alter egos. idk.
oh ya ps they arent lying about it... trust me on this.
any feedback would be mucho appreciated. if it helps the furthest i've gone was making out
hey, well your right on the part that you cant force them to stop. im actually really glad that you understand that because it would be bad if you tried controlling there lives by telling that what to do and what not to do. the most i would do is to tell them to be careful. dont act like a parent to them though. they need to learn from there mistakes and what they do in life all by themselves. i know how sad it is to see your friends like this and picture them in this bad behavior, but its best just to do what i said above and lay low. hopefully they will realize on there own that what there doing is so wrong. just please dont ever let them peer pressure you into doing anything of those things if you dont want to. i wish you luck.
My aunt told me that the reason why guys never seem interested in me is not because I'm unattractive or anything, but because I'm "completely unapproachable" (even though I'm not aware of it) and people don't want to be around me because they're afraid that I'll make fun of them........even though I've never made fun of anyone before.
How can I be more "approachable"? Smile more, stop listening to my iPod in public, what should I do to make myself seem more open?
hey, well listening to your ipod in public doesnt make you unnaproachable if your just with your friends, but if your looking for a guy to come up to you or your at a party, guys wont want to interupt your music listening. your aunt didnt grow up in todays years like we did, so she could be wrong. ask your friends or a guy friend if they find you a bit unnaproachable. if they say yes or you still think that you are, try going to http://www.links2love.com for some flirting tips. also here are some tips from guys about being more approachable. i apologize in advance for the banner aboive the site.
http://www.seductioninsider.com/women/approachable.shtml
okay so i have a couple questions about discharge :]
1. about how long should you have it. like ive had mine since like..6th grade and im in 8th now.
2. okay so do you have to wear a pantyliner thing when you have discharge. like me i ussaully just wear my underwear because i have discharge EVERY SINGLE DAY. and like its kinda a waste to get pads and shioot. so yeah. i just thro it in the wash.
3. okay this kinda has to due with the question up there. like.. since i have discharge every day. is that like normal? i mean like i dont get it when i get my period obvouisly but like.. i have it any other time. just like always. so yeah. is that normal or what?
thankkkkkkkkkkkkkkyou. :]
hey, thats completely normal. you will have discharge everyday along with every other girl in america. its the vaginas way of cleaning itself out. if wearing pantyliners makes you feel better, go for it. discharge doesnt ruin your undies or anything if thats what your worried about, but if you just dont like the feeling of discharge, i get you.
okay i like this guy and he is my ex's bestfriend
me and my ex broke up LAST YEAR and now he has a new gf who he has been dating for like 8 months
and now i like his bestfriend.... and me and his bestfriend talk on the phone like for 55mins to an hour.. but i call him most the time.. b.c he's the shy type.. but yah.. and when Dj (my ex's bestfriend) was going out with Kayla he never called her..and when she called him he talked to her for like 10 mins tops.. not even that.. most the time.. and me and him can talk about anything .. its just like when we talk we end up talking about girls he think is hot.. and there asses so I KNOW im in the FRIEND ZONE!! and my quesiton is how do i get out?..what can do besides flirtingg..?
btw.. im kinda scared of rejection.
hey, alright well it justs that he sees you as more of a friend and basically just like one of the guys. he probably thinks that that is so cool that he can talk to you about that kind of stuff without freaking out. thats an awesome quality to have according to guys. but like you said, he sees you as just a friend. i wouldnt want to ruin that if i were you. to be on the safe side, i would just stay friends with him for now. if you completely didnt want to do that, you could go on a group date. tell him that your friend asked you to come out with her on a group date (you can say like get together if thats more comfortable for you) and that you thought it would be cool if he came with you guys. as for the rejection part, rejection is a part of dating, life, and relationships. yeah, its risky to ask someone out, but what the worse that could happen? a no. but at least you know that you tried and your not left wondering what could of, would of, and should of happened. i wish you luck.
can someone like/love your personaity? and when they met someone they are just like you. likes what you like and act sort of the same. its hard to tell if they like you or telling you who they met. i'm in love with my friends(Jeanie)personatliy. and she told me she met her sisters friend jack on IM and they chat once in a while. she told me his personaitly it was just short of like mind.and she has a crush on him, which i think its stupid. its odd.
whats the deal?
hey, well in my opinion "being in love with someones personality" is basically saying that that person in "your type". if she likes that kid jack and his personality, hes obviously her type. if she said that your sort of like him, she was complimenting you and saying "hey, your my type".
I'm trying to lose weight or at least become more lean and muscular. and i'm trying to eat better but i've been eating what i think is alot. like i'll eat an 2 gonola bars and i'll be like oh i'll work it off later. its not that much only 90 calroies for such a good taste. so normally i eat it. but then later sometimes i'm like ahh why did i eat tha ti'm so stupid. and i just wanna like go back and not eat it. and then i usually end up never working it off. so what can i do to not eat that extra gonola bar or whatever. or what are some tips to help me eat healither.
thanks.
hey, 90 calories is not a lot at all. you shouldnt be worried about those kind of calories. there fine. also 100 calorie packs are great. they have oreos and chocolate chip cookies etc. for just 100 calories. weight watcher diet dinners are also awesome. just buy only healthy foods instead of the usual junk food that you buy. that way you will get hungry and have to eat the healthy food because there wont be any junk food. ask the rest of the family to join you in your healthy eating or to keep there junk food somewhere else. you could always keep your healthy food somewhere else. maybe get a mini fridge in your room etc. here are some healthy eating tips i got for you also.
http://www.primusweb.com/fitnesspartner/library/nutrition/10eattips.htm
Im going to the movies with a bunch of my friends, and my boyfriend's friends. Everyone has a date they're going with and my friend Ali is totally flipping out because I told her I can't sit by her at the movies. I promised my other friend, Beth, that I would sit by her. My boyfriend Dane is sitting on the other side of me so I can't sit by both Ali and Beth.
I really think it's totally stupid that Ali is making a big deal over who I sit by, but she's one of my best friends and she feels like I like Beth more than her and she thinks she'll be so left out at the movies.
I need some way to make Ali happy, because I don't want everything at the movies ruined.
hey, well maybe ali is more insecure than beth is. i know that you promised beth that you would sit by her, but maybe you should ask beth if it would be okay if you sat by ali instead because she is totally freaking out. tell her that your not forcing her to say yes, but since shes stronger than ali, you figured that you would just ask her if she would mind.
ahh so i dont know what to do. theres this [white] guy who recently got transferred to my school from a rather, mind you, 'ghetto' school in another county. hes like one of them skater guys but talks like a gangster kinda and is the total quiet but hard bad boy, but is a sweetheart when you talk to him.. kinda like eminems character in 8 mile. i dont know why, but recently ive become super attracted to guys like that. i guess its because he reminds me of my cousins ex, but i never liked my cousins ex like that?? so i dont know. anyway, ive talked to him once for like 5 minutes, so really i dont him at all, but im falling for him just because of his "type". and i have a boyfriend that im crazy about and no i dont wanna leave him. i just gotta snap myself out of likin this other guy, but i dont know how.. ahh annoying right? any help is appreciated! oh and hes in my class & lunch soo yeah kinda hard to avoid him because im obviously aware of his presence..
hey, well maybe you are attracted to this guy. maybe you like him a tiny bit and its not just because of his type. if that is the case and your crazy about your boyfriend, picture your life without your boyfriend. if you just cant seem to picture life without him or picture it misserable, you know your deeply in love. if you and that skater guy kind of talk flirty, end it now. explain to him that you do have a boyfriend and you would like to stay faithful to him. yes, this might make the skater guy back off a bit and you might not talk to him as friends as much, but its better off this way. good luck.
ok so my style is a punk/emo
16f by the way
and i want some new hair styles i can wear im tired of having the same one. i prefer hairstyles with like my hair out or something like that. any ideas of what hair styles i could do? any links? thanks! i rate!!
hey, here are some styles that a lot of punk girls wear.
http://gimps.de/wettbewerb/albums/userpics/10001/short-emo-hairstyles-hair-cuts.jpg
http://img.timeinc.net/people/i/2006/stylechannel/blog/060911/pink_kelis_400x300.jpg
http://www.beautifulhairstyles.com/short/pictures/shorthairstyles06.jpg
http://gimps.de/wettbewerb/albums/userpics/10001/short-hair-cuts-styles.jpg
http://www.beauty-and-the-bath.com/image-files/emo-hairstyle-6.jpg
so if your catching my drift by now, most of the punk hairstyles of today are short and choppy.
does anyone have any song ideas for a high school talent show? i want something to showcase my voice and either be something i can play piano with or dance to...
any ideas are appreciated
thanks!
hey, well i think that the right kind of wrong by leann rimes is a great song to dance to. that is, if your talking about like dance class dancing. if your talking about more freestyle/hiphop dancing i suggest something by rihana. maybe pon de replay.
My love handles are HUGE
any way i can reduce the fat on them, or make them look slimmer?
I can not wear tight shirts because of that!
My stomach isnt even big...its only my sides!
Thanks...im deperate :/
hey, well love handles are pretty tough to get rid of. ill give you a link and i hope that it helps you out.
http://www.flat-stomach-exercises.com/love-handles.html
This guy has been going out with his girlfriend for a long time. I just moved to a different city a couple months ago,and i made a lot of friends, including him. he's like one of my best friends, nad i hug him like everyday. i'm not the one who'd mess around with another girl's boyfriend, ecspecially when she's one of my friends. that's against my morals. but recently, his hands have been wandering around where i feel is inappropriate since he has a girlfriend. he'll try to touch my butt, or he'll hug me a little too close(i can feel some things that i shouldn't if you know what i mean...). i tell him to stop or will push him away, but he keeps doing it. he even asked me out when he's still going out with his girlfriend! should i tell his girlfriend that she needs to watch him a little more closely? i don't want her to think that i'm trying to break them up, because she's knows that we're real close friends, and i don't want to seem jealous.
hey, well i agree with you, she might just think your jealous. i would just mention to her that her boyfriend has been known for messing around with other girls and that you just dont want her to get hurt, so tell her to be careful. i think its best that she finds out on her own, that way you can avoid the whole jealousy issue. just warn her like i said.
so whats a good "going away" party theme or some ideas? for 14 year olds. mabye a huge scavenger hunt or dj and dancing? i just have noo idea what to do. it will be with boys and girls and about 20-30 people. it can be a surprise or not. thanks for your help, i really need it.
hey, well if you have it at like a hall with a dj and dancing, its going to be kind of obvious if your making it a surprise party. i can see if your having it at a friends house and then you bring the person who is going away there and say its just to hangout, than have it be a surprise, but at the hall, that just gives it away. if you want to go for the hall and dj theme, let the person know about it. its just as good. they will still know that your thinking about them and that you care enough to host a party for them. have cameras in the center of each table and have them turn the cameras into you at the end. get the pictures developed for the person, then give them to them in a scrapbook. i think thats a great idea. then maybe for the color theme, pick one or two of the persons favorite colors. pretty themes are pink and silver and aqua, silver, and black. good luck for hosting the party!
15/m last year one of my friends told me that she loved me. i told her we'd be better off as friends and i pretended not to like her...cause i really do i dont know why i did it i guess i was just scared of her leaving me cause all the friends i've had broke up with me and i didnt want to go through it again but i really regret not letting her know how i really feel cause i really do love her and she's a really good friend to me and a fun person to hang out with we talk and everything but i dont know what to do? help please
hey, alright well theres no really telling if shes over you yet or not. it really depends on how much you meant to her and how she is with getting over people. bring it up in one of your next convos. explain to her what you explained to us. hopefully things work out. it will feel good getting it off your chest also.
Hey world.
I've just been packing on pounds for a while, I've got this big awful belly begining to form, my pants are getting tight, and I'm feeling real fat/ugly.
So what can I do to lose ten pounds quick.
I mean, I can grab my fat tummy in my hands now.
I need quick results.
hey, well fat isnt always a bad thing. just remember that. would you rather have your rib sticking out or have a little extra flab? i understand where your coming from though. crunches are a good way to tone your stomach muscles up and get you stronger. theres a lot of gym equiptment that would help you amazingly right now. i recommend joining a gym with a friend. that way, youll be motivated to go and afterward you can hangout with her. as for eating so much, you dont have to give up your favorite foods, just cut down a bit and down size. there are these great things called 100 calorie backs. they have chocolate chip cookies and oreos etc. for 100 calories! there awesome. try those.
are their any good tanning lotions that really help your tan when you're outside? and where to get them? thank youu.
hey, there is tanning oil put out by banana boat. there is spf`s in some of them, but in others theres not. i would definately get the ones with spf, so you dont cook. it can happen and you will get a huge sun blister like i did on my shoulder. thats the one without the spf, so dont worry. ill show you a picture of the sun blister i got, just to make you aware, and the tanning oil.
http://z.about.com/d/firstaid/1/2/I/-/-/-/burn_blister.jpg
http://www.sacks.com.br/filesupload/%7B8A1FB5FF-B4A5-45ED-AB0E-F26524FED2A8%7D_darktanningoilspf401.jpg
that ones an spf of 4. im only using google real quick to show you. i would definately recommend using a way higher spf. you can get these at cvs, walgreens, or places like that.