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unapproachable?
My aunt told me that the reason why guys never seem interested in me is not because I'm unattractive or anything, but because I'm "completely unapproachable" (even though I'm not aware of it) and people don't want to be around me because they're afraid that I'll make fun of them........even though I've never made fun of anyone before.
How can I be more "approachable"? Smile more, stop listening to my iPod in public, what should I do to make myself seem more open?
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hey!
do you know what dating market value is? I was kinda confused by that persons answer... they make dating seem like the stock market...
I'm not really insane with dating, it happens slowly for me and I'm okay with that. I think that what your aunt told you is good because it tells you that yeah you might be doing something wrong, but unless you need to get married in the next few months, I really don't think you have anything to worry about. I think that what you need to do in order to make yourself open for people, not just guys, to talk to you is to look at how you act in public. Are you one of those quiet girls who keeps to herself or are you one of those obnoxious girls who laughs even when no ones making a joke. (or most likely you're something totally different) just look at your attitude towards life. Are you one of those girls who complains 24/7 (I have a bit of a problem with that once in a while :P) or are you way to peppy no one wants to get to close to you (that can be a problem of mine too.) Your aunt says you make fun of people, but you disagree, so look at life the way others would see it and look at the way you stand, talk act (stand= are your arms crossed, and tight or are you loose and inviting talk= do you interupt others or do make others runt he conversation act= are you obnoxious or quiet) and everything. And then see if there are small things you can do (like smile or stop listening to your ipod) in order to tweak it. You have to find the fine line between changing yourself and fixing things to make yourself a better person because sometimes people miss the line and change themselves completely for a guy.
I know you were looking for standard straight forward how do I change this, type of answers, and I dont really know if anyone gave you those, but I think it takes a lot of searching yourself in order to find what you are looking for, and it's really hard for me to tell you oh if you stand this way guys will like you or if you say this word twenty times a guy will magically appear :P I think that its something you can figure out, but if you have any specific questions lay em on me. And one last tip, if you're "unapproachable" then approach others.
Hope I helpped, love ya,
Angie91
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I think your aunt is just making a guess.Young guys usually go out with girls because they have a high dating market value.Guys either pursue a girl because they actually like her or because they want someone with a high dating market value
If there happens to be a guy who cares actually about you,it will increase your dating market value.
If you are labelled "beautiful",for some reason like a modelling job or something,it will increase your dating market value.
If getting you to go out guys is a challenge,your dating market value increases.
If being with you for any reason seems like a challenge your dating market value will increase.
Wait for a guy who likes you for who you are rather than your dating market value.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and may people believe we are made for ourselves and that we are coustom made,that we look just like we would have wanted to look.
Type "unaproachable quiz" in google and see if you find some quizzes you can take.
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SMILE
i have that problem too
people might think youre a bitch
if you dont smile ever
and direct your smile at a certain
guy if you want him to come up
and talk to you
EYE CONTACT
pay attention to people when they
are talking to show your interest
BE NICE
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hey, well listening to your ipod in public doesnt make you unnaproachable if your just with your friends, but if your looking for a guy to come up to you or your at a party, guys wont want to interupt your music listening. your aunt didnt grow up in todays years like we did, so she could be wrong. ask your friends or a guy friend if they find you a bit unnaproachable. if they say yes or you still think that you are, try going to [Link](Mouse over link to see full location) for some flirting tips. also here are some tips from guys about being more approachable. i apologize in advance for the banner aboive the site.
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