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FRIEND ZONE!!!
okay i like this guy and he is my ex's bestfriend
me and my ex broke up LAST YEAR and now he has a new gf who he has been dating for like 8 months
and now i like his bestfriend.... and me and his bestfriend talk on the phone like for 55mins to an hour.. but i call him most the time.. b.c he's the shy type.. but yah.. and when Dj (my ex's bestfriend) was going out with Kayla he never called her..and when she called him he talked to her for like 10 mins tops.. not even that.. most the time.. and me and him can talk about anything .. its just like when we talk we end up talking about girls he think is hot.. and there asses so I KNOW im in the FRIEND ZONE!! and my quesiton is how do i get out?..what can do besides flirtingg..?
btw.. im kinda scared of rejection.
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hey!
Friendzones are like Iraq eh (according to the person before me)? Well then not too sure what that answer means...
You are right, you have to get out of this fast before he thinks of you as his buddy, and I think that the best way to do that is to tell him right away that you like him. I know you're scared of rejection, but the only way to get over a fear is to just go at it without any regrets. Think positively worst case senario, he says he doesnt feel the same way about you right? Thats not scary is it? Getting over a fear of rejection is exactly the same as getting over a fear of hieghts or a fear of rollercoasters. You cant do it unless you put yourself out there and arent afraid to get hurt, because if you don't then you'll live a sheltered life and it will prevent you from experiencing the things you want most.
So heres what I would do, to make this easier on you, I would say when you're talking abotu girls he likes say: "You know the type of guy I like..." and put in obvious clues that its him like his hair colour and his name starts with...
then once he should get the jist of it say, "So you know these types of guys I like, they're a lot like you eh? so if I were to ask a guy liek you out do you think that a guy like you would say yes to a guy like me?" and then he should get the clue. If he says something like I dunno, then maybe he doesnt get it, and try asking him out a little while later. Thats just one way to do it, but if you need a few more ideas, let me know, I've got ya covered. Hope I helped, love ya.
Angie91
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common misconception. guys have no friend zone. however. guys know that girls do have a friend zone. a friend zone thats like iraq. no good exit strategy. so, you will most likely need to make the first move.
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hey, alright well it justs that he sees you as more of a friend and basically just like one of the guys. he probably thinks that that is so cool that he can talk to you about that kind of stuff without freaking out. thats an awesome quality to have according to guys. but like you said, he sees you as just a friend. i wouldnt want to ruin that if i were you. to be on the safe side, i would just stay friends with him for now. if you completely didnt want to do that, you could go on a group date. tell him that your friend asked you to come out with her on a group date (you can say like get together if thats more comfortable for you) and that you thought it would be cool if he came with you guys. as for the rejection part, rejection is a part of dating, life, and relationships. yeah, its risky to ask someone out, but what the worse that could happen? a no. but at least you know that you tried and your not left wondering what could of, would of, and should of happened. i wish you luck.
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If he considers you a good friend then you are part of the way there. The best way to get to know someone is to talk to them and be their friend since it seems, at least from everything I've seen since joining Advicenators, most guys/girls go for friends when it ocmes to wanting a relationship.
To take things a little further try asking about meeting up. Maybe go out in a little group as friends and then from there you could always invite him out to hang out or chill out together. That way you can get to know him better as well as develop a more closer relationship and hopefully things will take off from there. :]
As for rejection - that's something that comes with the whole relationship territory I'm afraid. :[ If you want to risk giving your heart away you have to take the risk that it might get broken. Only real protection against that is to never give it away but that would equal for a very lonely and dull life. We all have to face rejection at one point or another but the idea is to pick yourself up and get right back in there. It will either work out, or it won't but either way at least you will know for certain instead of asking yourself what if further down the line and regretting never knowing Good luck. :]
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