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Hey everyone! My name is Kristen, I'm 20 and I'm a college junior studying pharmacy. I've been blessed with a really good life, and part of the reason for that is because I've learned to see GOOD in everything that happens to me.

I love giving advice, and I've been told that I do a good job at it, but I'll let you decide! Feel free to ask me anything... don't be shy, that's why I'm here. I've been through a lot... moving from one country to another, leaving and finding new friends, break ups, boys, middle school, high school, college, self esteem issues... pretty much most things that people need help with.

I usually spend a good amount of time answering your questions, so I would really appreciate it if you leave me an honest rating along with some feedback (good or bad!) It really does help me improve my advice... and in the end, that's good for YOU! Talk to ya soon! :)

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A kind of shy kid who's a grade younger than I am supposedly has a crush on me. BUT, I heard this from someone I don't really know...well, he knew me but I didn't know him. Anyways, he told me that the shy kid told them that he liked me. I thought maybe he was lying, so I asked the shy kid's friend and he said "I'm not going to tell you anything.". Wouldn't he just say no if it wasn't true? So I asked my friend to ask him if he likes me, just b/c I am curious. But he kind of shrugged her off. I'm dying to know. From what you've heard, do you think he does or doesn't? And, what should I do...b/c I don't really want to ask him myself, especially if he says yes,b/c I don't really like him like that, and that would be so mean, hehe!

hey! ok yes from what i hear he probably does like you. you are right, his friend would have said "no he doesn't" if he didn't like you, but since he said he won't tell you, most likely that means yes. i would not try and find out anything more about this, because you are not interested in this kid. if you go up to him and ask him "do you like me" and he says "yes i do"... what are you going to do? nothing, because you don't like him. that will only hurt his feelings because he will know that you don't like him back. so unless you want to persue a relationship with this kid, don't bother finding out from him or his friends if he likes you! :)

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I'm still in love with my exboyfriend but I know he doesn't like me anymore but the thing is i CAN'T get over him! I've been trying for over 6 months and I just burst into tears when we had this conversation on the computer...

him: i hav a question
me: yess?
me: whats your question?
him: i love u but here is my question can we put clip art on our project
me: lmao yeah
him: not love love but u no
me: lmao yeah

WHAT SHOULD i DO!? PLEASE HELP ME!

hey! wow no wonder you can't get over him! why are you still talking to him? he knows you still like him and he likes getting attention from you. as a result he is giving you attention, so that you continue to give it back to him. the only way you will ever get over him completely and stop cying over him is by cutting him out of your life completely! DO NOT TALK TO HIM, not matter how hard it is! in about 2 months of not talking to him at all, you should be over him. after that, you can start talking to him again and you guys can be friends. but for now, you can't keep talking to him and expect to lose feelings for him! trust me, been there done that! good luck! :)

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Okay...so I was on this site and it had like how too's! IT was sooooo weird...they said that you can use an iron (the one you use to iron clothes and smooth out) to straighten your hair. They say u can't use it often (i wouldn't try it) but does it work?

well, yes this actually does work... but it is not a good idea all and i wouldn't advice it, unless you want to completely fry your hair and possibly hurt yourself when trying to iron hair that you can't see because your head is resting on an ironing board. lol... if you really want straight hair, go out and buy remington wet to straight straightening iron. it works sooo soo well and gets rid of friz as well! it's amazing and it's only like 30 bucks at wal mart! not to mention that you can use it on wet hair and dry and straighten it at once (though i don't do it because it takes too long)!! :)

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I ussually do a lot of exercise but whenever i stop my face seems to get fatter and not my body,weird. Well to let you know how fat i'm 78 kg at the moment and my face is like a face of a 90 kg person and my body is like a 70kg person. Its seem like all the fat tends to move toawrd my face.

So is there anyway that i can do to keep my face in proportion with my body? i prefer my face looking skinnier. THX in advance

hey, well i am not sure about this... but what kind of exercises are you doing? running? i know that running is the best exercise to do to loose weight ALL over your body, including your face. a lot of people that i know, that have lost weight by running, have also lost a lot of fat in their face. so if you are not running, try doing that and that should help.

however, if you do run and you still have this problem, then i am not sure what you can do. there are no specific facial exercises or anything lol. are you sure this is actually happening and you are not just seeing things? sometimes people see things in their own bodies that others don't see. ask someone who you trust and would give you an honest opinion if they agree with you.

lastly, i am not sure if this is an option for you because it is very expensive and risky, but plastic surgery could be an answer. liposuction or something along those lines might help... make an appointment with a plastic surgeon and see what they say if you wish. but honestly, like i said i don't think this is as big of a problem as you might think. hope i helped!

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my boyfriend proposed to me last week... and i want to say yes ... but something doesnt seem right...
Like there are times when if we dissagree on a subject he will yell and scream ... even if he's completley wrong ...
Hes alaways accusing me of being unfaithful... and I never would do anything like that ...

if i don't want to have sex somehow he always guilts me into it ...
and he's even hit me a few times ...

I just want to know how i can bring these up to him without making him angry ... because i do love him ... im just sligltly bothered by these things ...

Katie

hey!! well i agree with what everyone else said, so i am not going to repeat it. however, i will add that i don't think you truly love this guy. if you loved him, there would be absolutely no doubt in your mind that this is the guy you want to marry and be with for the rest of your life, no matter what. if you are having any doubts, then this is not what you want to do! listen to your gut feeling!

you are soo young, you have so much more to experience... let me tell you, college changed everything. you need to put yourself and your feelings first, before his, and do what is right for you. don't stay with him and accept to marry him just because you don't want to hurt him. in this case, it's ok to be selfish! talk to him, tell him this is a big step that you are not ready for. if he is ok with it and is understanding, then you guys can stay together and see how things go. if he is not, then it's time to move on and find a man who will meet all your needs! good luck! :)

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this girl i like, i found out she had a boyfriend recently. should i just give up? should i wait maybe they will break up? or should i make a move, maybe she will go for me instead 8*). or should i just be friends and juss in the future maybe it happens it happens. thanks

hey! just be friends with her for now, and if you find that you can't stop liking her, and things are getting harder for you to just be friends with her, then stop talking to her for a month or 2 until you are completely over her! trust me, i really liked this guy once, and he liked me too, but he had a gf! after a couple of months of flirting and this and that he ended up telling me that he will just stay with her because he "thinks he loves her." so it was a waste of my time! we stopped talking for a while, and now he is one of my good friends! but yeah, i don't recommend wasting your time on someone with a bf! :)

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I have an audiovox 8910 cell phone from verizon. It has a cracked LCD screen so verizon won't replace it. It got smashed a few days ago, and now it won't take or place calls, and neither my main screen or lcd screen works, at all. I was wondering if anyone knew of a way to fix this. I've taken the phone apart, and it took and recieved a few calls then quit working again. If you have any sites that can guide me through a step by step process to try and fix it or have any suggestions, please let me know.

Thanks!

hey, well not exactly answering your question because i think it might be impossible to get this fixed on your own! but, if you get a new phone, then maybe you can try and sell this one on ebay! people are crazy... yes, they will more than likely buy a broken phone! lol i don't know what they would do with it, but i've seen broken things being bought on there all the time!

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haha sorry guys! this is soo random! but who ever is good with movies needs to help me! its been stuck in my head all day - this clip from a movie that iv seen. its this blonde girl- i cant remember the actress- sneaking out of her window tip toeing across her roof to get to her boyfriend. i remember her climbing down a tree to meet him and then he was trying to kiss her. but shes hard to get. haha this is so random and i feel like really stupid asking this!
thanks!

yup, it's from the movie "the hot chick" with Rachel McAdams!! I'm obsessed with her, all the movies she's in are so good! :)

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my friend is a really light drinker. well lately she has been drinking alot. for the past 4 nights she has gotten really drunk. well last night, she began puking and got really sick. im really worried about her. she tells me not to let her drink that much but when she is drunk there is no way of taking a beer from her. what should i do?

hi! when she is drunk, you absolutely have to make sure to take it away from her when she has had too much! everyone that is drunk says "no i am not drunk" and "no don't take my beer" but they are drunk... you can take it! just grab it out of her hands and make sure she doesn't get another one! tell her that you are worried that she might be drinking too much, and that you don't want anything bad to happen to her! many people die of alcohol poisoning every year, so i am sure she doesn't want to. google alcohol poisoning or alcohol deaths and show her a few articles you find! it's so sad to see pictures and hear about young people who died from drinking too much... it should get to her and make her think twice!!

and if you ever see her (or anyone else) pass out after drinking a lot, DO NOT LET HER!! that is how many people die from that! make sure to keep her awake, and if she is throwing up a lot, or throwing up while she is passed out, or if her heart beat doesn't seem normal, CALL 911 RIGHT AWAY!

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I think I masturabte tooo much...
Like I just discovered it 2 days ago
and I already did it about 4 times...
Is that normal? And plus after I do it
I feel like a total pervert for doing it
and it's weird, but hwen I'm doing it it feels sooo good. Im confusedddd

lol, don't worry about it it's normal to feel that way about it!! you are not a pervert and you have nothing to worry about... everyone does it! are you skipping classes and staying home on friday night just so you can do it? if the answer is no, then you are not doing it too much!! :) have fuun!

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I'll get to the point. when i was 6 & 11 i was rapped.Im 14 now but whenever im with my boyfriend and were kissing or somthing ill start screaming and hell be all scared that im dieing or somthing...what should i do?

hey!! is this a new boyfriend? if so, then maybe you guys are just taking things a little too fast, considering all that you have gone through. talk to him about it, and tell him what happened. explain to him that you want to take things really slow. once you build your trust for him, and when you feel ready, you will be able to move on and do physical things like kissing with him! but all you can do right now is open up to him and explain to him what happened. if he understands and is supportive, he will be willing to give you as much time as you need! if not, then he just doesn't deserve you and you can go out there and find someone that does, and is willing to give you all the time you need! :)

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Ok, my friend who doesnt have an account on here needs some help and wanted me to ask this for her. She cuts, and she really wants to stop, but she cant. I really want her to stop too, shes a GREAT person, but ya, please tell me so I can tell her, how does she stop?

help her find something that she loves that will occupy her time and make her happy! she cuts because she needs an outlet to let her pain out! by finding something else to help her occupy her time, she will hopefully stop! everyone should encourage her, and be there for her and help her get through this hard time in her life! no one goes through life being completely happy, we all just need to find a good and healthy way of dealing with our problems! cutting is a problem, so altho it may seem like it is helping her, in the end, it's only adding on to her problems!

if she can't stop after a couple of times of trying to stop, then have her seek professional help! talk to a parent or guidance councelor and they will make sure that she gets the help she needs! oh, and tell her to get rid of all things in her room that she uses to cut herself! best of luck! :)

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Okay well if anyone knows what im talking about,you know thw sunspots were if your in the sun too long or something you get a browish dark spot on your skin ? well yeah i have a couple on my skin and its horrible.I use concealer to cover them up but it dosent seem to work,i want to like take them off like reduce the brown i guess but it cost too much money i already talked to my parents about it.So i was wondering if anyone had any other tips or ideas to get rid of them or at least to make them less noticable? thank you!

hey! i am not sure i know what you are talking about, but have you gone to the doctor to get them checked out?? i mean skin cancer can leave skin discolored, so PLEASE before you do anything just go to the doctor and have them looked at, just in case and if you haven't already!!

but about covering them up... use concealer, a shade lighter than your skin tone to cover them up, and blot it in with your finger or a make up sponge. then, apply foundation on top, and blend it in with a make up sponge. lastly, put some powder to help set it in and prevent the make up from smudging!

since you said they happen from the sun, apply sunscreen to the spots ALL THE TIME if you don't apply it all over your body! this will prevent the sun from getting to them and making them even darker! re aply it on them every 2 hours or so just to make sure that it is effective at all times! good luck! :) hope that helps

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ok well i get made fun of almost everyday. . mostly because i am really white. is there anyway i can make them to stop? ive tried standing up for myself and being nice to them and i dont want to tell a teacher because ive done that and they didnt do anything. . so wats a good way for them to stop?
Thanks

hey! first of all, it's april so there is nothing wrong with being really white! second of all, they can make fun of you now, but in a couple of years when you have smooth, wrinkle free skin, and their skin looks like tough, wrinkly leather, you will have the last laugh.

But seriously, in my 20 years of living i've learned that people only make fun of others in order to make themselves feel better about their imperfections. They want to see that you are bothered by their comments, and they want to see you get mad, because that makes them feel better than you... it makes them feel like they have the power and you don't!

So, this is easy! Just ignore them and pretend like you can't hear them, and like their comments mean absolutely nothing to you! They will get mad because then they will see that you, and not them, are the ones in control who have all the power. So sit back, pretend like they don't exist and have the last laugh. I guarantee you that they will stop doing it before you know it! :)

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Dr. Dre FT. Eminem!!
whats the song called?
5s for anything!!
"most people wanna talk like they got somthin to say but nothing comes out when they move their lips just a bunch of jibberish"

WHATS IT CALLED??!

MUCHO LOVE
LILA

Dr. Dre featuring Eminem - "forgot about dre"


in the future, if you want to find out the name of a song or who sings it, just go to google and type in the parts of the song that you know (7 or 8 words should do), followed by the word "LYRICS"


hope that helps!! :)

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i juss got the txting plan with cingular. we got the 1000 txt package for $10.00 a month. i can sign on AIM now since we got txting, but i was wondering if however long you're on for, if that uses up minutes & you pay for each minute, er the only way you pay is from txting??

thanks!!

hey! well i am assuming that you are signing on AIM from your cell phone... I am not sure if that is included in text messaging, but I am willing to bet that it is something separate! I would call and ask asap before getting on again! But there is a way to use AIM and your cell phone and just get charged for text messaging! When I am not on the computer, and I sign off aim, my screen name stays on everyone's buddy list with a little phone icon next to it. if anyone IMs me, it goes straight to my phone, and I can reply to their message from my phone... and it will go straight to their sn. Here is the website if you want to connect your phone to your sn like I did:

http://mobile1.aol.com/mobileaim


just type your phone number on teh right side, then hit GO and follow the easy steps! hope i helped! :)

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hey, i just started using jergens natural glow today. i have the right skin color bottle and everything. So i was wondering does this really work or is it a wast of my time? cait ♥

yeah that stuff works pretty well, but i'm telling you, less goes a long way! don't overdo it and apply huge amounts at a time! if you do, all of it won't absorb into your skin, and it will then end up all over your clothes! not to mention that some of it might even come off when you sweat! but if you just use it in small amounts at a time, to get a little bit of color, you should be good! :)

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I know you're supposed to drink 64 oz. of water a day. Does that help you lose weight? If I drink more than 64 oz. of water will it make me lose more weight?

by drinking water, you keep your metabolism going and going... and water has no fat or calories (obviously), so your metabolism is doing work while you are not gaining any calories! you can't just lose weight by drinking more than 64 oz of water, but you will lose weight if you subsitute it for soda and such! also, they say that a lot of times we mistake our hunger for thurst... so you might think you are hungry, but really you are just thursty! so when that happens, try drinking water! if you still feel hungry after that, then go eat! hope that helps! :)

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I shaved my legs the other day and they were smooth and nothing was wrong. About an hour later, when i was at the pool, i noticed there was razor bump looking things on my legs.

They are red and itchy. I don't know what they are or how i can get rid of them. What dooo i do?

i agree with what the person below me said... do that when you get the razor burn, and it will help get rid of it faster. but in the future, to prevent this, make sure to shave at least a couple of hours before going in the pool or ocean. your legs become sensitive after they have just been shaved, so exposing them to chlorine or salt water right away is bound to make them itchy, red, and painful! hope that helps! :)

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I am 18/m, there is a girl who i really like and want to get closer to her. I met her through high school but we are now at different unis although i still stay in contact with her online and I have her mobile number. To me she is a really nice person, she used to help me out like with studies and give me advice when im down, basically i feel like we are having some sort of connections. However i just realise that im not the only boy she is nice to, there are others -_-.

A week ago she invited me to watch a movie with her at a theatre and i asked who was going and she told me that about 2 more others are coming but on that day there were like 11 people and most of them are guys. What worst is that she didn;t really talk to me much on that day and i kinda feel left out. However she did offer me a ride to the cinema and then drove me home after but she also offer to drive another guy home too even though he doesn;t live near her, i was like wtf.

A few days later when i was online chatting to her, she told me that she gonna go study with 2 guys at a library sometime during this week and 1 of the guy was the same guy that went to the cinema with us.(im not invited to go study with them)

So is this girl just flirting with me? im confused because it looks like she is just a good friend and nothing more. I don't want to ask her anything about this yet because she might feel uncomfortable answering it and start avoiding me and i hate it when people start avoiding me. She may sound like a sl*t because everytime i see her she is with a bunch of guys but she is too nice to be one lol

Plz i need expert advice because im too new to all this crap, should i just get over her and move on? because this is not helping me with my studies

hey!! ok basically the way i see it there are 2 things that could be going on:

1) she could just like you as a friend, and invite you places because she sees you as a friend. or

2) she likes you but it waiting for you to make the first move. by inviting you places and bringing other guys and paying attention to them, she could be trying to make you jealous. she is also doing the same thing when she tells you that she is going to do things like study with other guys, and doesn't invite you to come along.

basically the only way to find out is by asking her to go out with just you. ask her to go to a movie or to go eat or something like that! one on one... just you and her! if she agrees, then you could be on to something, and you can start working towards building a relationship with her. if she says no, then she just wants to be friends, and you can move on and find another girl that will give you as much attention as you're willing to give her!! :) good luck!

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