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I am 16 years old, and I am sure you are on here for advice, not to learn about my life.

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Why do you like your boyfriend/girlfriend?
Just your honest opinion :]

Something more than looks, please.

I like my boyfriend because whenever i see him everything else seems to disappear.

He is easy to talk to, and i can trust him
with my whole heart.

He makes me smile.

He has the personality of an angel.

He says things that make me melt.

Everything he is and everything he is not
makes him seem so perfect in my eyes.

i can pretty much go one forever.

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hii my friend used to be bulimic and seh used t oeat a lot then throw up the day after i talked to her she told me she had stopped i didnt belive her its been about a month now and i havent said anything but i still think shes doing it she complains about her throat and her cheeks are very big and her glands are swollen i still thinks shes doing it but she doesnt eat alot she barley eats at all now but when she does eat she goes to the bathroom how do i know for sure if sehs still doing it because i know she wont addmit it to me uness i catch her.

thanks

Hello there.

Wow, this is a pretty big problem. Most people who are bulimic deffinately won't admit it. The signs of bulimia are sore throats, bad breath/teeth rotting, swollen cheets and glands, sensitivity to hot and cold foods, dehydration, and difference in heart rate. Since your friend has some of those signs, it is most likely she is still doing it. Though you haven't said anything because you care about her feelings, remember that bulimia can lead to death. I think that you really need to tell someone about it. Even though you aren't positive, it is better safe than sorry.

I have a friend who we think does not eat. He eats only healthy things and lost a TRAMENDIS amount of weight like you wouldn't believe. And he refuses to eat infront of people. We are scared of course, but we are trying to just get him to eat. Don't do that with your friend though, because our friend gets a little ticked off, and i don't know how your friend is.

Basically what i am trying to say is tell someone, imediately. Your friend might get mad, but at least you will know that she will get help and you pretty much saved her life. Hopefully i help, good luck.

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after my boy friend dumped my i started to over eat, i gained 10 pounds and now all of my sister are makeing fun of me cuz they are all skiny and pretty.I can't seem to lose eny weight though even though i am diety and working out,what should i do?

Hey there!

Yeah it's hard to measure up to sisters, i have the same problem.

But, you know what you can do? Start running. It is a great stress reliever and you shed pounds so easily. When i started Cross Country, my clothes loosened very quickly, and i was in a much happier mood.

You can start off by just running your neighborhood. Do a little at a time, don't just jump into a long distance. It could lead to injury. Just start small, and when that gets too easy, work up to a longer distance. Gradually you will loose weight, and be able to run long distances.

Don't worry about your sister's for now. Just keep working at what you are doing, and if they say something, ignore it. Or give them a snotty comeback. That's always fun (=


Have fun and good luck!.

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ok. i liked this kid named john and he knew i liked him and stuff. and i went out with this kid last yaer. and john and my ex boyfriend knows i used to like john. then like a couple weeks ago my ex boyfriend kept on telling john that i liked my ex boyfriend and that i want to go out with him again. which i dont becuz my ex boyfriend is a gay fag. becuz he talks all this crap about me. so now i dont like john and he knows that now but now john is being really rude to me and stuff. so what should i do?

Wow, you seem to have two very annoying boys on your hand!

I think first you should straighten things out with your ex. Tell him to stop telling John that you still like him (your ex) because you don't, and you would apperitiate it if he would stop being an ass about it. He is most likely jealous that you liked John.


And tell John that you don't like your ex boyfriend and to not listen to him. And even though you don't like your ex, make sure to tell John you don't like him either, just so he doesn't think you do.

Boys are dumb, even if this doesn't work, don't worry about it. Just act like nothing is happening. You don't like either of them so they shouldn't matter really. Just be nice and act fine, and eventually they will get bored and forget about the whole thing.

Hope i help (=

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okay, where to start. well i was going out with this boy named Alex. and i liked him alot and everything but he liked me like a thousand times more. well like every night this boy Lane would call me tryin to get with me, but i never thought anything of it. well about two months passed and me and Alex had already broken up. Then Lane was going out with my friend Addair who can't keep a boyfriend at all. Well she was grounded and me and Lane and all my other friends were all friends so we were goin out together and Lane started liking me that night again. me and Lane have kind of like always had a thing for eachother. well the next Addair brok up with Lane cause like i said, she doesn't like keeping a boyfriend. then Lane asked me out. so i said yes. i have never had a boyfriend like Lane before. it was so much fun with him, like we experienced so many new things together. we went out for 3 1/2 months and then at this fair thing we have in my town, his friends from his school were there [we go to different schools] and he started acting like a COMPLETE JERK. like it was so weird, he was never that bad. so then i couldnt take it and i broke up with him. then i found out he acted like that so i would break up with him. that hurt. i was sitting there crying so hard and all he could say to me was stop shaking. so then we went a caouple days without talking, and then i called him. i was like, Lane, what happened? and he basically told me he was just tired of having a girlfriend and he wanted to be single. i never wanted to break up with him. so then the first weekend after we broke up we were hanging out at the mall with all our friends and he was acting like we were like, "together" you know. and it made me so mad. but i couldnt help but like it cause i like him. then the next day me him, my best friend Taylor, and her boyfriend which is Lane's bestfriend, Kyle all went to the movies. well Lane likes kind of "simple" girls in a way. and well, i dress kind of not simple sometimes. i like acessories and style and stuff. well at the movies that night he decided that he wasnt gonna hang out with us because of what i was wearing. i mean how frickin low is that. i was so mad. cause then i was stuck with Taylor and her boyfriend and oh my gosh that was like hell. well then i had people over at my house the next monday and he was one of them. we flirted like crazy and like, i can tell there's chemistry there. but i just don't know how much. well then last night we went to the movies again, me Taylor, Kyle, and Lane. well me and Lane used to always go to the movies together when we went out, alot of stuff happened at the movies. so it was hard. cause you don't know how bad i just wanted to start making out with him. well then he started trying to kiss me and he held my hand and i resisted for a while but uhhh i just cant resist that boy. so then we were like all together and it was just so confusing and he was like i still like you and i shouldn't have ever broken up with you. my friend Taylor doesn't think i should go back out with him anytime soon. my friend Caela thinks i deff. should. my friend Addair is in the middle. so i am so completely confused. i dont know what he wants, i dont know what i want, i dont know what my friends want. so can you help, please? sorry its so long, lol.

thankss

Oh WOW, well first off this kid sounds like a big jerk!

He wouldn't have out with you because of what you were wearing? that is VERY low you are right. Sure you and Lane will probbaly always have a little something, but going out with him again.. if he is going to treat you like this and play with your feelings? I don't think you deserve that one least. You guys have tried it and as you can tell it's not working out. You and Lane might just need sometime away from eachother by the looks of it. You need time to gather your feelings and see if you really do like him or not. I can control your feelings or tell you what to do, these are your feelings and your heart. If you think it's love, go ahead. But to me i think you and him need to not see eachother for a while. Then you can really think and see if you miss him, or your life is easier without him.

Hope this helps, and good luck (=

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whats the song writer who sings the song i think its called concerete angel

Concerete Angel? amazing song. by Martina McBride.

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I just got asked out today and I said yes. This is my first time to be going out with someone and im pretty scared. I dont know what to talk about with him or what to do with him. Im a pretty shy person so I get pretty nervous when im around people I dont know to well. I really need some advice!!!!

Hey there (=

Let's seee, talk about what he is into. Like his favorites and his hobbies, or if he does any sports. It's a great way to get to know someone. And you will probably find out you have alot in common. I think shy people are cute lol, talk to him online, if not, on the phone. Then the next day you can go up to him in confidence because you will know stuff about him.


Hope i helped (= good luck.

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I wanted to send an e-mail to one of my best friends have always been there for me no matter what and that I can tell anything to and let her know how much I appreciate her. I've been best friends with her since third grade and I am now in seventh. I was going to put all of our good times in the e-mail, but I don't know what else to put. Does anyone know of something else that I can put in the e-mail?


Hello (=

Wow, you are such a good friend. And being told that you are appretiated really means alot. Putting in the good times you've had would be amazing, also you can put the things that she has helped you with, all of your firsts together (if you have any, like first rollercoaster or something) and how if you didn't have her you wouldn't be the same person you are today. Just really nice things that pop into your head. When you start writing it will be hard to stop. Trust me. lol

Good luck and keep being a good friend (=

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i have curly hair, when i ever scrunch it and put moose in it it gets very curly at like end and all the way up to my ears its very curly, but above that the hair is pretty much just stuck to my head flat, how can i get more volume near my scalp

Hello!

I can't really relate because my hair isn't super curly. But if you flip your head upside down and get deep into your hair, you will probably get volume into it.

Hope it helps (=

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hello...
I'm entering the 8th grade and my school is only 7th and 8th grade. I was there last year so I already know the school. but... the thing is that in summer I traveled places so I pretty much forgot about what the school looked like. Tomorrow is the first day of school and I'm sooo nervous! Can somebody give me advice on how to relax and tonight make me sleep?? Always on the night before the first day of school, I get nightmares and only get about 4 hours of sleep. So can somebody help me get relaxed... the 7th graders will be more scared than me but i'm sooo nervous. agh
please and thank you!

Hey there (=

Probably once you get back into the school you will remember everything. It will all come back to you. But i'm guessing you are still going to be nervous, so listen to some music and concentrate on the lyrics and nothing else. Close your eyes and breath really deap. Or like the other girl said, take a hot bath with epson salt (if you don't have it that's ok), but it helps relax your muscles and will make your calm.

hope i helped, and good luck !

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hellooo caseyyy!!! [its kellyn]

so.. what should i wear tomorrow? any advice lol.

hahah i have no clue. i don't even know what i'm wearing. lol

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hi,14/mif it helps. well yesterday my friend accidently told me that she liked this guy that she used to go out with. the thing is, he treated her really bad, as in cheating, and makin her cry. and after that i never really liked him much, until a lesson we were made to work together. and we were kind of talking and then a couple days later(yesterday) she tells me that she likes him again. the thing is, im just so frustrated about the fact that she still likes him after how he treated her. Im really angry at her, even though i know she cant help her feeling. what do i do?

hey there (=

welp, i'm 14/f and i have a friend doing the EXACT same thing. she is going out with this kid who already has a bad rep. the first time he cheated on her, same with the second time. after the second time he told her to cut herself to death and die. BUT she STILL went back out wtih him! third time he cheated on her twice and she finally realized he was a dick and broke up with him. hmm i think you should just let her do what she wants and have her learn herself that he is an asshole. then you can be the shoulder to cry on. telling her might just make her mad.

hope i helped (=

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soo.. My friend announced that she uses TWO tampons at a time because her flow was so strong.. i thought that was pretty obsurd.. i told her that there is different size tampons for your flow if its heavier.. and she looked at me like IM WEIRD for not using two at a time! Whos right? me, right?

wtf? how the hell do you use 2 tampons at once? you are right deffinately. that girl umm, is kinda weird?

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well im 13/f and i haven't gotten my period yet. i guess i have big boobs i'm almost a B. ALL my friends have got theres but i dont know when i'm going to get mine, i hope soon. help me...

consider yourself lucky. you may want to get your period but it is not fun at all. it doesn't matter if all your friends have it and you don't, everyones body is different. you might even get it at 15. just be patient and let nature take it's course (that was corny i know lol)

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I'm 14/f if that helps.

I've lost about 5lbs in 2 weeks. I'm getting happy with the results (exercising and eating correctly)

But I keep exact count of my calories everyday nowadays. I usually have about 900calories for breakfast and lunch and less than 1000 calories for dinner. But if I feel like I've ate too much during dinner and wasn't able to know how much calories I've consumed, I make myself throw up. I've done that several times. I mean I'm not aiming to be pro ana or anything. I just feel disgusted whenever I'm not able to know how much I ate. (Calorie wise and such)

Do I have a problem?

eek, you might be heading down the road to bulimea, when a girl binges then perges. meaning they eat alot of food then throw it up. you on the other hand eat normal. but throwing up after you eat is not a good thing at all. if it becomes a habit you will become VERY ill. i sugest instead of that, maybe exercise what you ate off. though i don't seem to see a reason why for this. talk to your mom or your doctor, i think that owuld be a better choice.

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Hello. ok my ex-boyfriend is really bugging me. i broke-up with him over the summer becuase he didnt call me enough,he didnt take me anywhere and cusses to be cool. now he is like talking all this crap about me and he said to my guy friend dont date her shes a physco. and then he gets on his friends screenname and says to me i love you so much i want to marry you. and im like GET A LIFE I DUMPED YOU. becuz it is really mean talking crap about me then saying i love you so what should i do

reminds me of this asshole i went out with. we were all close and then out of the blue he HATED me. and now talks all this crap about me. guys are losers and need to learn to grow up. hmmm either ignore him or talk (or yell) at him. usually yelling isn't a good thing to do to help but this guy seems like he needs it. just be like if you are gunna be this way then leave me alone, don't talk to me i don't want to be with someone like this. tell your guy friends that he is just being a dick because you dumped him. he's probably just still really mad that you did. he will probably get over it. if not just ignore him and pretend it doesn't bother you, make it seem like a big joke. laugh about it and stuff. like when he goes on your friends screename and says that stuff be like "haha yeahh i love you too" go along with it. eventually he will probably get bored and leave you alone.


hope i helped (= good luck!

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I have a life. You get one you dirty grandma....i love my granny!! are you a hot granny? do you rap? call me!!!

wtf is your problem? seriously. if you aren't gunna ask for advice or anything then leave me alone.

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I WANT TO BET YOUR AFGHANS!!! YOU OLD GRANNY!! I also want to bet your bunyons, AND YOUR GRANDCHILDREN!!!

sell me their souls

get a life.

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mkay this is going to be long hehe. So i liked this guy for a week and i thought he liked me back but my friend talked to him and stuff and it turned out that he didnt even know me when i was in 2 of his classes. so i moved on to another guy. and my best friend told my best guy friend that i like to many guys and stuff and that i'm ending up like my other friend. becuz my other friend goes out with anyguy and i've only had 1 boyfriend in my life and i am 12 in 7th grade. Because most of my friends tell me i shouldnt wear make-up because i have natural beauty. But i like so many guys and i am not popular.And my best friend told me i'm rolling in guys. becuz everyday i find a new crush and stuff. But right now i like this one guy and he kinda knows me but he doesnt know my name and stuff. i'm asking you for boy problems because my older sister is way older than me and it seems awkward talking to her. so what should i do about liking so many guys.

hey there (=

ok let's see. you seem like a very sweet girl. guys in your grade are pretty much immature and weird (no offence to any of them) you are 12, you don't need a guy to make you happy. it's hard because when you like someone, you start to talk to someone else and start to like them. i'm currently going through that myself. i just started highschool and making new friends and i am changing who i like constantly. what i think you should try to do is stick to one guy. even if he doesn't like you. get to know him and become good friends with him. even if he doesn't end up liking you, you will have a good friend from the experience and probably more friends from him, which will also help. again, take it step by step. try and keep your mind on one person. also, it might help if you don't tell someone you like someone until you are absolutely sure that you do. if someone asks you who you like, you can say you are still debating or say no one until you are sure.

hopefully i helped a little (= good luck.

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OK FINE, you old man!!! gosh, go burn your bunyons!!!

hahahaa! damn kid, want to bet money on this? i'm a 14 year old GIRL. get a life.

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