so i joined a gym but I don't really know what to do. I'm trying to loose 20 pounds and tone up a bit. i hate my arms, stomach, and legs. i usually do like 30 minutes of cardio (bike, treadmill, steps) then 3 sets of sit-ups (20 in each set), 3 sets of a glute workout, and 3 sets of arm press. any advice? also i'm 19/f 150 lbs 5'5" thank you!
Those sound like good things your doing so far. One thing to remember is not work the same muscles 2 days in a row. So work on the tummy one day, then legs, arms and then repeat. Make sure you stretch really well before you start each time, so you don't pull a muscle. The next thing to do is change your diet. Don't do it so drastic that you want to quit but make subtle changes that you thing you can live with. Eating a good breakfast is a great start to avoid snacking through the day. I hope this helps and good luck.
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Age 16 Female
Hi :) I have really strong feelings for this girl, and i beleive she feels the same. We talk at times but not alot. But the thing is im alwayz so nervous to go up to her and talk. So i wanna know how do i build the confidence to talk to her no matter if she's with her friends or not , and not to be afraid to flirt with her a bit ?
Thnx Dolls :D
Try to chat with one of her friends and find out what her likes and interests are. So when you come up to the group, you can join in on the conversation a little easier. Or when you walk up, just tell her that you wanted her advice on something in private and pick something that you know she'll be able to help with. After you've got her alone, invite her out to lunch, coffee or just to hang out at the mall sometime. If she seems interested then you can move on to hanging out at home to watch a movie or something else. When she's with you, you can get a sense of how she feels about you by her actions. If she laughs at your little jokes or gently touches your arm, she's probably interested. If not, you may have to settle for just being friends. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask. I hope this helps and good luck.
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if a women has hair on her upper lip should u shave it off or wax?
Waxing is more painful but it only hurts for a short time and you don't have to touch it again for at least 3 weeks. If you shave, you'll be doing it every few days and it comes back rougher and stubbly. Go for the waxing.
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me and this kid are kinda lke together and like idk if i should "touch him" because i want him to "touch me". im not trying to sound skanky but idk who to talk to because it kinda gets me uncomfortable talking about this kind of situation in front of people. so anywayss please help! :) thankss
I know your body is telling you to go for it but there is nothing wrong with being patient and waiting for the right time. He may be a nice kid who respects you, which is a good thing now a days. Be very careful if you do decide to make the first move because if you break up, he'll tell his buddies how aggressive you are and the next thing you know, you'll be the slutty girl in school. Just let things run it's course and he'll make his move when the time is right. I hope this helps and good luck.
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I am looking for some sexy lingerie advice for myself, but as a size 36A, I am somewhat limited (and inhibited). any advice an what to wear, and where to shop would be greatly appreciated!
thankl you, Karen
If you're afraid to go to the store, you can find some great stuff on e-bay or amazon. The only little problem is that you can't try it on and you may have a hard time returning it. So make sure you ask questions before you buy from those places. Another place to look besides VS or fredericks of hollywood, is a higher end department store like Macy's, Nordstroms or Neiman Marcus. I hope this helps and good luck.
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My parents have been heavily involved in anti-pornography movements and legislature since I was a teenager. I felt that they were somewhat obsessive and refused to talk about anything but "pro-family" issues-all day, every day. I became pregnant as a teen and was condemned and verbally abused by my father for this. I never really forgave him. Fast forward over 10 years-I walked in on my father masturbating and watching pornography in our home. He ran away and hid and I never mentioned it to anyone. It made me feel rageful. I wanted to tell my mom because I feel it is hypocritical for them to continue to condemn others while there is a dirty little secret going on. But I never did. I dont want to hurt her. Also, my father helps a lot with my children. He'd probably get mad and stop helping me. He would probably never talk to me again if I did such a thing. Not that it would really hurt my feelings. Most importantly, I have such conflicting views now on everything. Is everything my parents told me in life a lie? I am searching for truth...any advice?
I'm pretty sure your parents had the best intentions when they taught you what they thought was right and wrong. No one is perfect but they've been through life and wanted to protect you from some of the bad things and bad people that are out there. That being said, they're reaction to your pregnancy was way out of line. When you love someone, you forgive them and help them when they make mistakes. I hope someday when you can move out, you can let your parents know how much they hurt you. I'm a firm believer that no one should judge you for your actions. I'm the one that will have to answer for my actions at the pearly gates and hopefully my good actions have outweighed the bad ones. So if you think you've messed up by getting pregnant so early or you decide to watch porn, don't let anyone condemn you...it's your life and you should live it how ever you see fit. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask me. I hope this helps and good luck.
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Thank you Julie, for a really helpful response. Are you suggesting this "trial person" should know my intentions? If so I wouldn't know where (and how) to begin to find someone to start this experiment with. certainly can't use any of my existing friends
I totally understand your need for discresion. You should find someone that you've seen casually at the grocery store or some other place you frequent. It should be someone you get the vibe from that might have been checking you out or have an attraction to. Your other option is to go on craigslist and give a detailed description of what your intentions are. After you've found someone you think is real, you can friend them on facebook and let your husband know about your new friend. That way when you want to go out on your date with her, he won't be suspicious about your true intentions. Any other help, please let me know what I can do for you. Julie
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Although happily married to a man, for 5 years, I find myself increasingly more attracted to women. How do I find out for sure without conducting an "experiment"?
thanks,
Karen
I can understand your situation because if you're honest, your husband will want to join in and that would ruin everything you want to achieve. The best thing to do would be to try a little friend date. Find a woman that your attracted to and go on a few lunch, coffee. movie or mall dates. See how you feel when you're with her. If you get a little more brave, go out for drinks and let yourself get a little loose and give her a kiss goodnight. I've been married for almost 5 yrs myself but I still get the urge to be with a woman. I think it's perfectly normal to love your husband but want to have sex with a woman. There are things that a woman can do that a man can't fulfill and of course, it works both ways. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask me. I hope this helps and good luck.
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18/f
Next Tuesday I will probably be found guilty for lar-2337-m1.
Larceny-2337-misdemeanor class 1
First offense.
35$ shirt.
The person I was with who was caught also got away & was banned from the store & will have to pay for the items...yet not arrested & will not have a criminal record for it. (that person is 27)
I was also banned & will have to pay for the item.
Yet I was arrested & am being charged. I will plea guilty.
I want to try to fight it some how because this is going to be on my record forever & I find it unfair that the other person is not having the same punishment I am..
I'm a senior in high school..
& I regret every bit of it.
& I want to go to college & get a good job.. & i know that will messed up if I am found guilty of this charge. . .
does any one know if I can get this misdemeanor expunged in a couple of years? I heard that misdemeanors sometimes go away but I don't think thats true..but I have heard of expungement, & I was wondering if you are found guilty of a charge can it still be expunged from my record?
Any help is greatful thanks !
misdemeanors do not go away on their own. Depending on your state, it's typically 6 months to a year before you can file for an expungement. Then you have to pay for the filing/court fees which can range from $75 to $200. It's fairly easy to go to the local municipal court and get the papers you need to file. After you've filed the papers, it takes 1-2 months before it comes off. I hope this helps and good luck.
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I am a 17 year old girl, I have been in relationships with guys, but I don't know if I have ever been in love with them.. I think, I have been in relationships with girls too. Here is the difference between the two, when I am with a girl, I feel I need to protect them, I never get enough of talking to them, Kissing them makes my heart melt, so on and so forth, When I am with a guy,like I am now, I don't care if they talk to me or not, even if people say he is so hot and can't find myself attrached to them, I almost get disgusted with myself when I kiss him and don't know why, I just don't know what to do, I can't take this confusion. People tell me that I am happier with girls. But I just don't know what to do, ever sience I was little I was attrachted to both guys and girls, as I got older I started having dreams of girls, but then I "fall in love" with a guy, or is it lust? am I bisexual or lesbian?
It may be a little early to decide if you're a full out lesbian. You may have just been with guys that weren't right for you. I definitely felt more passion when I was with a woman and probably a lot of the same feelings you have. It was like girls just understood more, cared more and just felt better all around. But, I still had feelings for men that never went away. If anyone tells you to choose a side or it's just wrong to be with the same sex, just ignore them and do what makes you feel good. Truth is, you can have your heart broken by a girl just as easily as you can by a boy. So the decision lies in what your heart tells you is right. If you have any other concerns, please feel free to ask me. I hope this helps and good luck.
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i'm 18 year old girl
i wouldn't categorize myself as a "sexually active" person.. but my boyfriend and i have talked about it and he really likes to get horny and mess around. I told him i'm willing to do some things with him because i want this relationship to work. i really want this relationship to work. i think i'm in love with him.. i think he's the one.
we have been dating for about 7 months now and we recently had another discussion/argument/kinda fight about oral sex. he said he really wants me to give him head and wants to give me head. I've done it before. i'm no virgin mary. but i'm not crazy about it either. I just don't really "get off" when i do oral sex. can someone help me?
when he gives me head, it tickles. like sometimes i will start laughing because it will tickle. it doesn't really get me horny, but its not like uncomfortable. its just like enjoyable i guess. but i dont get off from it. does anyone know why i don't get off of it? and how i could?
when i give him head, i tend to gag a lot. I don't like the taste of cum or pre cum. i tried licking it and it just made me gag even more. there was a point when it felt like i needed to throw up.. so then i tried just sucking it without tongue and that was ok but he wasn't too crazy about it. so any advice on how i can get past the gagging? we tried putting a condom on him but it just tasted like latex :/ blech.
please help!!!!
thank you!!!
I'm guessing that you don't enjoy it because you're not very relaxed and he's not really good at it. Plus you need to be a little more turned on before he just goes down on you. If you have more foreplay, it may help out. Try kissing a little longer, more touching, caressing and have him lick a little harder and slower when he's down there. Don't have him lick on your clit the whole time as it will become irritated. Let him finger you while he's licking as that tends to feel better. I understand about not liking the taste of cum but I've found that every man has a different taste, so don't give up hope all together. I like to kneel in front of him and use both hands. I use one to caress his testicles and the other to jerk him off while I'm sucking. So when your mouth goes up and down, use your hand to cover the rest of his penis. That way you don't have to go so far down with your mouth. I would recommend eating a few york peppermint patties or some other type of mint before you suck him. Then when he's ready to cum, let him cum in your mouth but let it run down the side of his penis and you don't have to swallow any. The mint will help with the taste but I would suggest going to the bathroom right afterward and rinsing with mouthwash. He won't mind what you do after because you will have just given a great orgasm. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask. I hope this helps and good luck.
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I'm a 17 year old female living in South Africa. I have a boyfriend who I have been with for 1 amazing year and an ex boyfriend who I was with for 2 years . I'm all about boyfriends. But I have some girl issues .!! Here's some things :: 1) when I masturbate I watch lesbian porn or I think about a girl. 2) sometimes when I see a girl I'm attracted to I get so turned on and I dono what to do with myself. 3) there is 1 girl in particular I want to be with sexually and emotionally but I don't know what to do . Should I go out there and try it or contain myself? Biggest problem is I love my boyfriend more than my own life ! Please advise me on what to do !!
There is nothing wrong with being attracted to both sexes. I've been with both many times in the past, finally got married to a man but I still want to have sex with women. My advice would be to go on a few "friend" dates with this girl you're attracted to. Have lunch, go to a movie, have dinner or just hang out at a store for the day. See how she reacts to you and you'll see how you're feelings are for her. If you do have sex with her but still love your boyfriend, then she is probably just an infatuation and you'll have a lot of those in your life. The best thing to do after you've experimented, is to talk to your boyfriend about your feelings toward girls. Like most boys, he will more than likely want to join in but you'll have to make that determination if you want to go that route or make it exclusive when you're with a girl. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask me. I hope this helps and good luck.
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i get turned on when my boyfreind is mad at me and i like when he man-handles me agressively, it excites me more when he takes dirty. like calling me whore, slut, tramp.. etc. why do i like it?
Trust me you're not the only one who likes it a little rough. Of course I only get into it once in a while but there are a lot of people that get into bondage and domination type sex. There are a lot of books you can read up on the subject. Just Google BDSM or search on Amazon for the subject matter. If you're interested in talking with others about it, I would suggest collarme.com or alt.com. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask me. I hope this helps and good luck.
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thanks. its because i was with a guy for 2 years. he cheeted on me with another girl. this is just a pain :(
That's a pain that can only be cured by getting even. Sleep with one of his good friends. But I totally understand about the pain. There's no explanation or excuse, why a guy could cheat after being together for 2 years. If he wasn't happy, he should have just ended it and not hurt you that way. You'll find someone that will treat you right and I'm sure he'll probably cheat on his new girlfriend too. Good luck sweetie.
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thanks. i just don't want to make a big mistake. hey if you would to get your heart broken..how would you feel?? & what will you do..? specially if its from a person who you really love.
I only feel really hard for one guy when I was younger and I cried for about 3 days and didn't eat well and didn't want to be around anyone. But I finally left the apartment to go to work and tried not to let anyone know what I was going through because I didn't feel like I needed a bunch of advice or to be set up on some dumb blind dates. So my best advice is let time heal the hurt. If he's truly the one you're supposed to be with, fate will bring you back together but if he's not, it'll bring you someone else you're supposed to be with. I hope this helps and good luck.
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ok am drinking birth control pills. if i have my period do i still need to drink them??
No do not take your regular birth control. Start taking it on the last day of your period.
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i'm 14 years old and my nipples have been itchy for almost a month now, but i didn't really do anything about it because it wasn't horrible. and then today when i took off my bra there was a amber colored stain on the right cup and i guess it came from my nipples. my nipples had been feeling weird and itchy all day, and there's a red lump on my right nipple. what should i do? it would be so embarassing to go to the doctor with my mom.
There's a chance you're alergic to the laundry detergent or the fabric the bra's made of. Try switching bras for now and use some aloe on your breasts, that will reduce the itching. If it gets worse, use some hydrocortizone, that you can buy at any grocery or drug store. I hope this helps and good luck.
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I am a 13 year old girl, and I have a lot of hair in a certain area "down there." It's very long, coarse and bushy and it makes me feel disgusting all day. I don't want to shave it because it'll come back twice as fast, but it always makes me uncomfortable and sometimes even itchy! What should I do?
Get a nice set of barber clippers and don't use the guard on it. It will make it close enough to not make it hairy and you won't have the itch. If you do decide you want to start shaving regularly, make sure you use a new razor that you don't use on any other part of your body. Shave in the shower, use soap first and then apply the shaving cream. That seems to cut down on the stubble and the itchy feeling. I hope this helps and good luck.
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thanks. and not am not bleeding. today there is no discharged. am so confused.
Let me know if there's anything else I can help with.
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how to practice kissing
It sounds a little corny now, but I would use my big teddy bear on the bed to practice my kissing. One other option is to find a close girlfriend that's in the same boat as you and practice on each other. But, nothing beats just being patient and going slow with a boy. Usually a boy will take the lead and you can do what feels good. I hope this helps and good luck.
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