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Ok heres the deal....I like this boy and I thought he liked me. It turns out he likes my best friend and is going out with her. Well today me,my best friend,her boyfriend(the one I like),and my other friend were at my friends house. We were in the dark in her room for some reason and her bf got up and so did all of us and he started saying "hugs" and started hugging all of us with his eyes closed. One time when he hugged me his hands went a little lower (not my butt but my hips.)He hugged me like 50 times more then he hugged his own girlfriend.He hugged me all the time and I know he could see who he was hugging. Then I said sumthin to him while I was sitting on my friends bed and he came over and like tackled me so I was laying down on her bed. He also tackled me alot through the rest of the night.I used to think he likes me and now I dont kno wat to think. Everything is so confusing.It seems like he likes me but if he did why does he go out with my best friend and tell her he loves her and stuff?It drives me crazy because I REALLY REALLY like him but I guess im happy for them because she is my best friend. Does he like me or not?¿ If he doesnt then how come he always flirts with me and if you just met him and his gf(my best friend) you wouldnt even be able to tell they were boyfriend+girlfriend. You have to like make him just put his arm around her.
-lost and confused
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Talk to him and explain to him what's going on. Tell him that it seems like he likes you and if he doesn't then he needs to stop sending the wrong signals and flirting with you. Make sure he knows that you don't want him to hurt your friend and that he needs to get his mind straight. Don't tell your friend about the whole thing until you have talked to him because you don't want to hurt her. If he doesn't like your friend, then he needs to break up with her because it is wrong for him to lead her on. Then, before you two go out (if that is what you both want) you need to talk to her about how she feels about the situation. Friendships are more important than boys so you need to get that straight. Just talk to the guy and everything should fix itself.
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Well, I'm usually one of the people to give advice, but now I need it. Ok, there is 2 boys involved. I'll call them One and Two. One- my boyfriend who I like, but isn't suppostive enough, and is kinda shy around me. Two- my ex-crush who ended up being a jerk by flirting with me one day, and leading me on, and then going and asking some girl out the next day. And then he was rude enough to mention it to me. One is sweet and stuff, and I like him, but sometimes I don't like going out with him. I've already gone out with him, and this is the second time. My best friend was going out with his best friend, but she broke up with him. The next day, her ex-boyfriend started yelling at me, because I couldn't give him a reason why she did it that he thought was good enough. He was literally yelling at me, and One didn't do anything! He just sat and watched. Now Two just annoys me all the time. He brought his girlfriend to youth group, and started flirting with me right in front of her! I got soo mad!!! Who does that?!? But then, when I'm upset, he knows it. I don't have to say anything, he'll just ask me what's wrong. One just ignores this, or is just totally oblivious to it. It's like he doesn't care! Sorry it was so long, but can anybody tell me what they think I should do?
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I think you should dump one and move on from two. I think two is a good friend, but he's just not boyfriend material. He's a flirter and I think it's in his nature. One is just not want you want as you have made it seem. There is no reason to settle you can find someone else. I think you should be friends with both of them and move on to a new love interest.
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well theres this kid i like.... and ive known him for a lonng time.... but i only see him once a year for a week.... and that makes me mad cause hes real cool to chill with... anyways... my best friend knows i like him and she talks to him online... and i guess he likes this other girl and she told him to go out with her... and like she knows i like him and i know i shouldnt be mad at her cause i know me and him will never work.... but i was mad... is this bad? (link)
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No, it's ok to be upset because you feel betrayed, but you need to get over it. Something else could have been said in the conversation and she was trying to protect you. Who knows what goes on. She probably didn't want to give you false hope either. Just don't ruin a friendship over a boy. In the end, it won't be worth it.
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i have this thing where i cry alot... i just constantly feel sad and the need to cry.... i cut myself now too.... i also burn myself with salt and ice and i know none of this is good... but i cant help being sad and crying and stuff... whats wrong with me ? (link)
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You're depressed and you need help. A lot of people are dealing with this problem so you are not alone. Talk to your teacher or counsler or even a parent about it.
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my mom hits me... she tells me she hates me a lott.... i dont know how to be good enough... please help me now (link)
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You can't be good enough with those kind of parents. Tell a teacher or call the police. No one should deal with that kind of abuse. You need to get help soon. You can not handle it all by yourself. It's not your fault. You are probably perfect. She just has some issues that she is taking out on you.
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Okay I am a female an I am 15 yrs old. I have always been rather skinny but I moved over a yr ago and since I moved I have gained a few pounds. I am still rather skinny, but now I have hips and I dont like it. I am about 5'6-5'7 and I way about 130lbs. My stomach is flat, and I have long legs, its just my hips. I am not comfortable with my body right now.I try and do sit ups and I walk and run alot but it doesnt seem to be helping much. I am really pretty, but I just want to lose a few pounds to feel better about myself. What is a good way to lose my hips and a few pounds? Does anyone kno of a good diet I could go on that does not involve too many calories. What do I do to lose weight? (link)
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Real women have curves!!! Hips are normal. Your probably won't ever lose them no matter what you do. I think your skinny truthfully. You don't need to lose weight it's not needed. Understand that not everyone needs to look like a stick. Guys like variety and want a different kind of guy. I mean for the girls that are sticks more power to them, but don't worry about what you look like. As long as you eat right and take care of yourself, you'll be fine.
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i use to be really good friends with this gurl. but we dont talk anymore. we both said some really bad things about eachother. she wrote a note to when we were friends saying that we would be friends forever no matter what. I feel like she wants to fix things with me but im not sure. Should i talk to her. If i do what should i say? (link)
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You should talk to her and you just need to be like hey I'm sorry for what I said. I didn't mean it and I want to be friends with you again because I loved it when we were friends. Just be real with her.
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okay, the guy i really like just asked me out. yay. but the down side is hes punk. and im prep. i kno i kno it shouldnt matter. but if i go out with him i kno pplz are gonna look at me different, think im different and treat me different. i cant stand it. i really like this guy help me, should i or shouldnt i go out with him??? (link)
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Well, I guess it is do you like him enough to not care about what people say. At the end of high school, it's not going to matter if you were a prep or punk. Get over the whole clique thing and just go for it. Your real friends and the people that matter will be there for you and will understand that it doesn't matter that he is a punk.
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dear advice giver,
I am 13 years old and I do not like my body. I am young for my grade and I am considered rather small in my grade. But what bothers me the most is that I have no breats. I can't even fit into a size A yet. All my friends have breasts but I am as flat as a cardboard. Consider this, I am a size 34 in sports bras but not the size A to go with it. My mom is a 34B and she says that she grew at a slow rate. Please help.
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You can't help your body. If your mom grew at a slow rate, you probably will too. You are only 13, give yourself some time to grow and mature. If you don't get any breasts, then thats what was intended for you. Embrace that and show off some of your other features or wear shirts that don't try to show something you don't have. Just work with what you can.
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my bf and me have been going out for 2 weeks now. and it just weird. he has already told me that he loves me and everything. i can't stand that and when i told him not to say that, he got kinda upset. so then he told his friend that i said i love you first, and then his friend wants me and him to break up with him. and today when i wrote him a letter about it i was kinda mad. and during the passing period he came right up to me in the big lunch room and started yelling at me infront of god and everybody. i walked away trying not to cry, but when i walked into 3rd period i was balling. he told me later that i started it. and that he is tired of my prissy attitude. what do i do? what would you do? would you stay with him? should i dump him? i like him a lot (link)
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Dump him! He is treating you badly and no one deserves that. It is a sign of a bad relationship when he is lying about the what is really going on. You need to break up with him and move on. He doesn't respect you or your feelings and it is obvious. You deserve better than him.
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I think that something wants me and my ex to be together. I want to tell him that I do want us to try again because I can't live with the fact of "what if". I have to find out because if I don't, it's just going to stay in the back of my head and I won't be able to move on with anyone else. So how should I tell my ex that I really care and that we should try again? (link)
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You just need to tell him straight out. Make sure he doesn't feel uncomfortable about the conversation though. Just explain the whole what if thing and if he doesn't like you then that ends it. If he does, then he might want to risk trying it again with you or he might not. It's kind of all up to him.
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two guys at school like me and i like them ones funny and nice and the other is cute and nice! who shoud i choose? (link)
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You should choose the one you like the most. We are not you so we really can't tell you who to choose. Most of the time people really know the answer they just are looking for people to agree with them. Think about who you wanted everyone to choose and that is the one you should probably go with. I don't know if this helped, but I tried.
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I have a good friend named Nick. And I've always had some feelings for him but i could never persue anything with him because he always had a gf or if he didnt i had a bf. Well now he has a gf and i am single. But i have been liking him a lot more lately. And i think he likes me too. He has been giving a lot of signs and he pays more attention to me than his gf. He also Grabbed me and wrapped his arms around me and stayed like that for awhile. What should i do? I want to tell him but i dont want to ruin anything between him and his gf.
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I don't know. The whole situation looks like potential drama to me. He needs to break up with his girlfriend before anything happens. For right now, don't pursue anything, but if things start to seem like he's really feeling you, then talk to him. Ask him what's going on and tell him that he is sending out signs that he likes you. The best thing to do right now is to not break up his girlfriend and him. Let them do that on their own.
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well theres this one dude i know.. and i really really REALLY liked him like 2 years ago and i finally got over him like last year.. see now the whole time i like him he only liked me as a friend..and last year he finally found out that i liked him.. well for some reason when he found out i didnt like him anymore.. not only becauz i just got over him also i liked bein just his friend and my BEST BEST friend in the whole world went out wit him when she TOTALLY knew i was obsessed with him.(he totally liked her, but her not as much him) so the whole thing just made no sense. but now i feel like he likes me and i cant really tell but he'll like come to me at lunch and talk or give me those weird staring smiles or sometimes when he passes he rub my shoulder.. now im startin to find myself like him again. but i dont wanna go wit him.. what should i do? (link)
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He seems kind of shady. If he just started liking you after finding out that you don't like him, then there is something off. Maybe he likes the challenge of getting you to like him. If he really liked you, then you would know and you wouldnt have to guess. I think you should just stay away from him for awhile and continue to ge over him. It seems like he'll bring you nothing but drama.
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ok thnight we had a dance at school and my boyfriend danced with a nother girl. usally that would be ok but this girl hates me and i hate her and she talked about me to him and it was gossip and yeahso now he think stuff about me thats trus what should i do?
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Well, your boyfriend should believe you over her. Explain the situation to him and that the girl hates you so could lie about you. If he still doesn't believe you, then dump him because he obviously doesn't trust you and there is no use in having a relationship without trust.
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What do you do if you think someone is really annoying and she is at your house all the time..she thinks that i am her friend but im not..what should i do? (link)
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You just need to slowly back away from the situation. Maybe she is annoying because she tries to hard. Whenever she does something that is annoying, maybe you should just kind of hint to her. Not in a mean way, but just in a friendly way. I think telling her what her annoying habits are (in a nice way) benefits her because she won't do it again and she could get more friends. If you just don't like her period, then you just need to get her some other friends.
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I can put a tampon in just fine, it just hurts *really* bad whenever I pull it out, is it maybe because I let it get too full before I changed it? Please help! (link)
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It could be that you didn't wait long enough before you pulled it out.
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At the school dance the other night, i danced with one of my good friends who i found out liked me..and he's going to ask me out. I like him a lot as a friend and i think that I would like to give dating him a shot. Trouble is, my best friend really likes him. He doesn't like her in that way, and my best friend is a great friend to me and everybody else...now people are telling me that i shouldn't have danced with him because it was a mean thing to do to my best friend.What do i do about this whole situation? (link)
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Since you didn't know that he liked you and it was an innocent dance, you really are't at fault. You should talk to your friend about dating the guy though because you don't want to hurt her. If you talk everything out with her and explain to the guy that you like him but so does one of your friends and it would be difficult, then everything could work out. It all depends on how your friend feels.
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i have a boy that i dated. i'm so hurt by the break up i don't no wnat to do.I'm a 13 year old . as soon as we broke up he went straight to this little nobody that i hate i wish i could break her arm but it shouldn't be her i'm mad at the boy.what should i do to get back at him?
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I'm sorry, but you are obviously jealous of this other girl and you just need to get over it. You are only 13. There will be so many more boys in your life that it's not even funny. Get over it, it is a nothing relationship. You probably couldn't even call it a relationship. This might be harsh advice, but it's the truth. Don't get catty with the girl or your ex just because you are jealous.Don't even bother with getting back at him. It's useless because he probably won't even care. Once again, I'm sorry if this is mean, but you need to hear it.
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okay im a girl and there is this guy 2 years older than me and we are in hs... he wont leave me alone... and ive been tryin to ignore him because he gets attached to people and started saying i love you on our fone conversations... when i really dont like him at all... now i dont want ne thing to do with him.. how do i tell him to leave me alone and stay out of my life? without hurting his feelings... because i dont want to be hurtful.. (link)
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You need to tell him that you just want to be friends and that you don't like him that way. I mean he needs to know that you don't feel comfortable with him saying all that crap. Sometimes peoples feelings get hurt, but they would have gotten hurt no matter what. He would have found out eventually that you didn't like him.
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