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Hello, my name is Sarah and I'm a sophmore in highschool. I've been through many exhausting and depressing trials with friendship and drama and know my fair share of heartbreak. If you have a problem I'll be here to answer so don't be hesitant. :]advice
I just bought this really cute long sleeved, navy blue, button down shirt. It's adorable... but I do not know what pants to wear with it. I was thinking jeans, but then I thought that might be too much blue/ too dark. What would be the best color pants to wear with the shirt (I don't have khaki's). Thanks!
hmm.. I think cargos are best.. yes, cargos.. They are o so comfy and work well with EVERYTHING! :D
Well, my 14th birthday is coming up and I am thinking of a camp out. See this is gonna be totally different bc/ this year i'm goin to have the guyz sleep ova as well of th gurlz. We r goin to be sleeping in tents together and....with that i know something is going to go naughty..haha. Well, i can't wait for this party and i'm rele excite there are going to be 5 guyz and 7 gurls. How am i going to have a cool party wiht out my parents checkin up on us every hour. I mean it's not like anyone of us would "do it" but we might get close and i don't want my parents to find out cuz they're rele strict. How can i do this with out 'm knowing? also, do u kno where i can find tnet heaters and coolers. thanks so much roxy
dude, you're fourteen. Chill down the hormones, you've got forever to do things like that. And I don't blame your parents for wanting to check on you.. geezus...
Well ok im going out with someone but i like a lot of other people alot, and is this bad, does this mean im cheating or watever if i like other guys a lot?
Thanx I'll rate!!
well, if you like other guys, that must mean you aren't THAT attached to the first one. I think you need to meet the people, and take it slow.. it's like a whole bag of truffles with different fillings. If you eat to much you'll get a stomach ache. It's better to savor them one at a time.. You have time, so don't rush.
All of a sudden, I've become EXTREMELY emotional. I just watched Titanic, and I cried and cried and cried. I watched Homeward Bound the Incredible Journey with a kid I babysat with, and when the animals came home I was choked up. What's wrong with me? 13/F
It's called hormones.. and mood swings.. fun eh? yea.. they come with peuberty, and you should talk to your mom or parent about this, they will probably be more helpful about this kind of thing.
hey,
well ok i am 18 years old and i have a boyfriend that i really like but lately i cant stop thinking of my good friend and its weird cuz shez a girl but i think i might really like her but then when i think of what would happen if i did go out with her well i'd be scared because how would my family take to me liking someone of my own sex? i really need to know what i should do plz help and fast
Did you ever consider that maybe you are bisexual? This is nothing you should be ashamed of, and don't let anyone make you think you should. This is something you can't necessarily control and it's wrong for anyone to tell you you are wrong for that. It's like telling someone they are wrong for having athsma.. they can't really help it. If your parents are good respectful people, and love you.. they will except you for who you are.. and they should know about this sooner than later.. but, you don't have to tell them sooner.. you can take your time, sometimes when people are more proned to be discriminatory like that it's harder for them to accept. Don't rush anything, take it slow, and see if this is what you really want.
Theres this girl whos my age and stuff. I'm 14/f. And my best friends grandmother just died today so she wasn't in school, and this girl actually told people she was glad her gram died. and I FLIPPED. One of her friends was like, you shouldn't flip out, it's not like it's your grandmother. & I'm like dude wtf I know, but she's my best friend, its not like I'm just going to let her say that. I'm doing the right thing, right? I'm not going to tell my best friend what happened because I don't want to get her upset. But, yeah. Thanks
Hell yea your doing the right thing.. next time that girl makes a crack beat her face in with a bat for me. It's people like that that should be beat to a bloody pulp. If that was my friend I would be all over her and I would tell the other friend to fuck off because friends are like sisters.. or at least to me..
Make it short and sweet. Met the girl at the gym,talked for awhile. Gave me her number,then when I call it she tells me she's got a bf. I think it's a lie and she would really want me to rot in hell. What does anybody else think in here? Was she lying, or if she wasn't, why'd she waste my time in the first place? I'm an 18 year old guy. I want RussianMailman to answer my question,too. I need a good laugh.
maybe she got horny at the gym? I don't know.. xD made it as short as I could.
At my old school i had so many boy friends and now at my new school, i doubt that any of the boys even like me!...how can i get that to change? i want boys to like me more than a friend and i miss having a boy friend...
you don't need a boyfriend to complete you... first. and second.. please don't become a slut, there are enough of those around, you know.. the ones that where skirts that are short enough to be a small hat.. and shirts that are tight enough to be a choker.. If you want guys to like you why don't you just try and be nice? Interact a little more.. You don't have to be flashy to get a guy, and you don't have to have millions of boyfriends to feel good.
Everytime im around people i get nervous and i worry to much about what to say. Do i have some kind of disorder
no, you don't have a disorder.. you may be overactively shy.. or maybe you're autistic? but I highly doubt it. There are many people that are shy. Look out for another one of um and I'm sure you guys will make good friends because you will be equally as nervous when meeting eachother and end up laughing about it later.
hey i have a b/f that i love and my best friend has b/f to and whenever she is not around him he flirts with me if i tell my friend she'll take it out on me but i told her anyeay and she did i try telling her that it wasn't my fault she doesn't belive me what should i do?
Tell the guy to back off. You obviously have no interest in him and he is just making things worse. Let your friend find out he is a player on her own, maybe warn her again, she might thank you and say sorry later. But mostly tell the guy that you don't like him, and that he shouldn't be hitting on you because he has a girlfriend already..
my friend, lets call her anna. well anyway anna has a lot of problems. she is depressed.she has eating problems. she used to cut herself and drink. she told me that she stopped, but im really not sure if shes telling me the truth.im so scared for her. shes my best friend in the world!if she dies i sware i will kill myself. any way shes been telling my other friend, lets call her amy, about all of these things. i am sad, scared and mad.i told her that if she doesnt stop this ill do what shes doing, i told her that i love her and if she dies i will too.i call her pretty much everyday to mak sure shes not cutting herself or sumtin! im still not sure if this will help. please tell me a way i can get her to stop. ill rate you five for even reading this!Thank you thank you thank you!
Ok first. Trust her, I know it may seem hard but if you keep acting like her mom she might not see you as much of a friend anymore, and might not seek you as a source of comfort. Maybe you should try getting her to talk to you about why she is depressed. Don't say anything, just listen.. nod your head say "mhm.." every once in a while. Say "I'm sorry.." Give hugs.. all she probably needs is what you keep giving her except for all of the over excessive calling. You probably should try and convince her to go to a counciler because it is probably best for her rather than just her friends trying to do a professionals job. It's the only way she will most likely be completely better, if ever.
I like 2 different guys but when I told my friend she got really mad at me. She told me when I like a guy just to stick with him and not find 5 different guys to like all at once. I am so fustrated but I don't know what to do. the one guy I asked out and he said no. and the other guy I just think is really really hott. Please help me I don't know what to do!
ok, you are being very very shallow. I have a friend like this *cough* that sometimes gets very swept up in her hormones and forgets that she can't have THEM ALL.. you are being very superficial with the one you think is hot.. If I may suggest, I think that you should at least get to know him before you fall "madly in love". I think friendship is the best foundation for a lasting relationship and that's always where you should start. Second, please do not tell your friend these things.. she will not want to know about the 20 guys you are obsessing over, just like I didn't want to hear that. It makes you sound very immature and it is completely annoying. If you must tell something or someone write it in a journal.
I never know what to say when im talking to my crush. Sometimes, its akward because i would have nothing to say then it would turn out to be dead scilence. I get kinda scared about what he thinks of me because hes an outgoing guy and i only wish to be outgoing enough to fit up to his standerds. How do i bring up a good conversation without it being akward, and what if i cant think of a topic to bring up what should i do?
Hmm, if he's approaching you, mention something about his clothes or something he's doing. Try and be very observant.. don't make yourself more outgoing for him.. whatever you do don't change yourself for a guy.. really, that is completely stupid because no one can ever keep that up and it will never work out. Also, if you want to lose a bit of the awkward, just a small laugh or something is enough to sort of break the ice. Offer him a pencil, breath mint (but it might send him a message if he's smart enough to get it).. just anything you think he might want. Be nice to him and try and get into some of the conversations he's in.. make a joke, if he's outgoing he'll probably like that in a girl.. hope I gave ya some helpful tips.. go get'um.. ;)
For the past 6 weeks of school, my best friend that I just met this year (let's callher Amy) has really been acting funny. I know it's because she started her period, but It seems odd that she's been so mean and nasty to everybody for the past 6 weeks in a row (usually your period doesn't last that long..). ALL of my other friends (C, A, A, C, and me) have noticed it too! She speaks for all of us when she tells people off.. telling them that we hate them, don't want to talk to them, and wish that they were dead. She tells me what I'm supposed to be and how I'm supposed to do it. She tells me all of this beauty stuffI'm supposed to do which works for her but I try it at her house and when I get home I get a bad, bad, bad allergic reaction to it (almond oil) and she KNOWS that I am dreadfully alergic to nuts. She always talks about how much her clothes cost and how she thinks that her way is always best. We try to talk to her and she still keeps doing all of these things. I've stood up for myself and my friends (all of us together) many, many times and she still won't stop being like this. What should I do?
Tell her to freaking wake up. If she is really bugging you maybe you should give her a break to realize she's being a complete ass.. Maybe she is just wanting to grow up with the makeup.. and thinks she is smarting than everyone else.. assure her that she's not the only one that's got her period, and isn't the only one growing up.. You can be what you want to be, wear what you want to wear.. and you shouldn't have to hear any bullshit about it from one of your supposed 'best friend'.
hey i have a b/f i really like him but not everyone exepts him my grandpa said that he was going to ocme thool and kill him and whenever he talks about him i feel uncofterable what should i do
What is so wrong with your boyfriend that no one likes him? If your parents and grandparents are threatening to kill him maybe you should tell them all of the good things about him.. let them meet him if it's possible.. the more comfortable they are with him, by knowing him.. the more accepting they probably will be.
Okay, well i am 13 years old, and of course i'm a girl. i go out with this boy who is 16 years old, but we really do like each other. it may sound weird ; 3 year difference, but we really do care about each other. He changed my " havent made out yet " thing, cuz now we have like so many times. We care alot about each other, but him and his friend think that i should do more stuff with him. like fingering and all that. i mean i want to, but i dont want to have sex yet and shit. and im kinda scared and all to give him like a blow job and all. they also want me to smoke weed with them . IDK. and then my friends hate the fact that i go out with him, but i really do like him. what should i do ? thanks =]
Ok first, you aren't obligated to do anything with him if you aren't comfortable. You are completely right to think that you are too young to do anything with this guy. You may think you care for him and for all I know you could actually have something.. But seriously you should think about your priorities and about if you want to waste your life as an underaged mother and a stoner..
ok i have this HUGE project due TOMRROW and my partner (we got to pick our partners) shes my friend and everything but she is so flakey!! she already has a F in that class and i didnt know that and i tryed getting together with her over x mas vacation to start it and she never could...and i talked to her about it at school and shes lkie OMG ya when is it due again? OHH tuesday...well lets do it on sunday...and then so yesterday about 2pm i called her and she was getting ready to leave and then she was like lets just do it at lunch tomrrow...YEA FINSIH A PROJECT IN 30MINS AT LUNCH TOMRROW! but the thing is IM HOMESICK TODAY!! i am throwing up and EVERYTHING...and my grade s already a low c in that class....should i just do the whole project now and 4get about her (because for all i kno shell forget to go in at lunch today) and if i did do the whole project id only write my name on it...not hers....but the thing is we signed up and the teacher nows were partners....wat should i do...its a huge project but i have all day and if worse came to worse id hand it in a day late...
Well, you should have asked what to do about this earlier, because maybe then I could have saved your grade. But, you may be able to make a decent one for the both of you if you do the project while your sick. The only problem is that your friend didn't do any of the work, and doing it for her would only make her continue a process of procrastinating.. it's a nasty habit to gain and much harder to get rid of. If I were you I would probably do the project, talk to my friend about what's going on if she has something going on at home that maybe she never has time. Or bring it to her attention that maybe she should wake up and care a little more about her grades.
I have this friend (lets call her amy) and she always gets mad at me for nothing and I dont no what to do because we do a lot of stuff together but with her I cant say the wrong this or shell FLIP i dont wanna say like stuff to make her even more mad .. Sometimes I dont even think she is my friend because she takes it ALL OUT ON ME. What should I do ? HELP!!
--confused
Have you considered that your friend has severe PMS? o_0 just give her time, she'll probably get a little better as time goes.. she'll get more mature and realize that you shouldn't make a mountain out of a molehill..
my grades are so low....and im in the highest program at my school and its too hard for me...ive always had good grades till now...im doing my homework and everything but i dont know..im not understanding ANYTHING...ive talked to my mom about and today she talked to my dad but he started yelling saying im on the computer too much and talking on the phone too late and my social life is taking over and he wont let me change out of the program...he said hes not gonna let me see my boyfriend *of 6 months* anymore..=\...wut do i do im so upset? he said hes gonna have a talk with me tonight..(hes not mean hes just strict about my grades/school
No matter what, the majority of the population will have that one class that will kick your ass in your grades. I know, I'm having mine right now. All I can say is do your best in the class and don't give up. Maybe you're just having a bad six weeks? Also, set a goal for yourself. I had like a 76 in the class and raised it 7 points to an 83. I was pretty proud of myself considering that is a significant raise in grade. All of my other grades are A's by the way and I'm in all advanced. Don't let the computer take over your life, it's nice to have every once in a while. And maybe consult friends that are on the internet about assignments you have in that class. I know that if everyone is confused, and everyone is making a bad grade, I feel a lot better because I'm not the dumb bunny in the class.
15/f. I have liked this guy since last year. And he told me last week that he liked me too. I am not allowed to date until I turn 16, which is in a week or so. The thing that worries me about going out with this guy is that he has done things that I have never done. I've never made out wiht a guy and he has made out with all the girls he's gone out with, and he has fingered a girl. I wouldn't mind making out with him, but getting fingered is not what I want to do. What should i do if he tries to finger me. Thanks in advance.
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Unsure
Hm, ok.. IF he really likes you, he'll understand your boundries. Make sure your comfortable with everything he does because being unsure about anything could ruin the relationship you have.