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15/f. I have liked this guy since last year. And he told me last week that he liked me too. I am not allowed to date until I turn 16, which is in a week or so. The thing that worries me about going out with this guy is that he has done things that I have never done. I've never made out wiht a guy and he has made out with all the girls he's gone out with, and he has fingered a girl. I wouldn't mind making out with him, but getting fingered is not what I want to do. What should i do if he tries to finger me. Thanks in advance.
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just start things slow and keep them simple. I'm sure after a few months into the relationship, things will get more complicated and you'll be ready for it. You're 16, there's no hurry
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Hm, ok.. IF he really likes you, he'll understand your boundries. Make sure your comfortable with everything he does because being unsure about anything could ruin the relationship you have.
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Simple, tell him you aren't comfortable with it when it happens. Until then, no worries.
-Farren
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Take it slow and easy -- sorry. Does he expect to "do everything" on the first date? If he is, then you'd better set the ground rules from the very beginning. Let him know, for example, that he's your first date (remember, you're just starting to date. Let him know!). If he really likes you, he'll respect and appreciate you for it. If he pushes you into anything you are not ready for, physically push him back.
You are in charge you what you want to do, not he. And NEVER FORGET THAT. There are 'way too many girls these days who let boys take advantage of them because they want to be accepted and liked. If he really and truly likes you, he will be willing to enjoy your company and take it slow and relaxed with you.
Hope I helped you.
(Sorry if I preached -- I'm a mom, too.)
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I was nervous the first time i got fingered too. I didn't really know how to act or what to do. Just let him do it, I mean it's not like you can get pregnant or anything. If you don't do it now, you'll have to do it later. I mean if you say no then the next time this situation comes along your going to be even MORE nervous. If you really don't want him to do it, then he should respect that about you and wait until your ready. But you've liked this guy for a year, why wouldn't you let him do it? obviously there is something that you REALLY like about this guy to have like him for soo long. If you loose him you might regret it. But then again, if he doesn't respect your decision, than he's not worth it.
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Hey, if you don't wanna be fingered, and that's what he tries to do, just tell him you're not ready for that yet, or that you don't feel comfortable doing that yet - you will tell him when you're ready. He will probably be respectful enough to say "All right," and not try. Realize, though, that he may not even go that far, at least not on the first date! Lol. He may not push you - or even try to go that far for awhile. Just don't let him do anything you're not comfortable with. You have to be willing to speak up and let him know you don't like something if you don't. Just be honest with him, and you should be fine. I hope this helps! -Siren =)
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It's a pretty good idea to talk these things over with him BEFORE hand. If he has a problem with it, he's not worth it.
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