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Ok
I am always tiredd
And I eat more then I ever have
I am sad when I get home, but I am the same around all my friends
I cut, not all the time, but sometimes
I don't talk to anyone
I have some suicidal thoughts
I don't talk to anyone, like everr
My grades are slipping
I have NO self confidence and I feel like a burden to everyone
IS this depression?
I don't know and I don't want to tell anyone...uunless I know for sure or have a little better idea
Thanks (link)
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It may be depression or another mental health issue. We're not doctors but I've dealt with my own mental health battle with bipolar so I feel I can say the following with confidence that it's accurate and can help you greatly.
You need to be HONEST with yourself and adults here about the cutting, the suicidal thinking, inability to socialize with others or talk to people and slipping grades. Show them the scars from cutting and talk about your lack of self confidence and sadness.
Then get your butt to an emergency room. Yes, this is an emergency as you may be headed towards crisis. They'll have a psychiatrist examine you and either put you on medication and treat you under their care or hold you for 72 hours to determine the right steps to take if they think you are in danger, of danger to yourself or others.
They will find you the help you need and the support so that you can live normally and keep the mental disturbance from destroying your life any further.
I can't say you are depressed or not as that's a diagnosis that only a psychiatrist can make. I do know that none of what you are experiencing is good and it's far from normal. You need to get help and take this ultra seriously or you could wind up in the hospital in crisis.
You have an opportunity to fix this now by reaching out to adults in your life and going to the local emergency room and getting a psychiatric assessment and diagnosis. The doctor will probably just provide medication and consult with you regularly but you may need more help than that.
I know it's hard to tell someone but you have to. You've got no choice as this is your HEALTH and you can't screw around with your health and safety as it's also a safety issue as this is and can become increasingly more dangerous especially if you have random thoughts or dark thoughts on top of death, dying and killing yourself. It isn't normal hon and you know that or you wouldn't have written to confirm it.
Tell your parents and head to the hospital. This is not something a family doctor is qualified to handle and it is a medical emergency. Believe me after being in the hospital twice for manic episodes I know when someone is in trouble and needs medical attention with a mental health problem.
You owe it to your family and yourself to come clean, be truthful and get help. You should also tell a guidance counselor, teacher, friends, friends parents or anyone else who can help you too.
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Ok well my sister's in elementary school, 7th grade. My cousin of the same age moved to that school last year and has done nothing bad but my sister's friends don't like her. They've been pretty open about it but we thought it was just minor things.
Recently, my sister has found out that they've been verbally bullying her behind her (my sister's) back.
My sister came in when they were just about to give this hate note to our cousin (with sentences contributed by everyone) but someone saw her come in and said "she's coming! give it later!" and they did, after school.
Now i am VERY serious about bullying. I told her to tell her teacher or tell the principle but she told me that she doesn't want to loose friends and be lonely for her graduation for next year and that they give out these "Problem Sheets" to people. She's also scared that the parents will come talk to her then. Is there anythign my sister can do that i haven't thought about?
I didn't try to even talk to my cousin about it, she has enough troubles already.
What can I do? I have the nerve to go to school and slap their faces but I was a very well posivtively known student there before, it wouldn't look good. Please help, this is serious! (link)
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Here's what she should do: When your sister is with her friends have her confront them. Make sure she pokes one of them (not too hard) and say "I don't know if you're aware that (insert name) is my cousin or not but neither her nor I will put up with any crap whether you like her or not period when it comes to her"
"Furthermore, if you want to be seen with me or considered my friend lay off of her or you'll be sorry as I have no tolerance when it comes to anyone harassing a member of my family."
"By the way, I think it's sick anyone would pass around a hate filled letter about someone else in school. Thank God, nobody ever did it to you. If you really are my friends and care about me get to know my cousin before shooting your mouth off about someone you don't know. If you can't do that then don't talk to me."
After that both you and your cousin must never mention it again and be sure you don't react to anything they might say. Silence is deafening and once they see neither you or your cousin give a damn nor are paying attention to them they'll move on.
You OWE it to your cousin and her family to tell them what you know so they can deal with it in their own way as well. Let adults in your life know ie your parents and hers as they'll have tips and ways to handle it.
The other thing too is that most bullies are jealous of their victims and might be in envy of their talent, the fact teacher's like them or that they have more friends or positive attention than they do. The bully always has more problems than the victim period.
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so, i really love learning about Titanic. the ship, not the movie. ive already read The Diary of margeret ann brady so many times i cant remember, and i was wondering if there are any other books that you would recomend for me? i like to learn anything and everything about it. thanks alot for your help!! (link)
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You will want to read up on Robert Ballard. He is the person who discovered the wreckage in 1985. He has written many books including books for teens/kids on the subject.
His latest is Return To The Titanic as he went back down a few years ago. You should be able to get that at any bookstore. I'm not a fan of James Cameron's Titanic film from 1997. Yes, it won best picture but it's not an accurate representation of what it was like that night. It's more about fictional characters and romance not history in my opinion.
What you are really going to want to see is A Night To Remember (1958) which is historically accurate and tragic. It's a cinematic classic. be aware there's a 1943 film by the same title but it's not about the Titanic. It's based on a book by Walter Lord which you can also purchase at any bookstore or order.
In 1898 a writer named Morgan Robertson wrote a book called" Futility" which was later renamed "Wreck Of The Titan" in it a ship that was supposedly unsinkable and exactly like the real Titanic hit an iceberg and sank. We both know what happened a few years in 1912. You might want to read that one too.
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so, im a christain. i've always been, but latley, ive really been getting into it since my boyfriend started bring me to youth group. and i know that having sex before marriage is wrong, and i was just wondering, is it just what YOU yourself think sex is thats wrong? or is it just touching and stuff thats wrong. because thats what me and my boyfriend do. we just touch and stuff, but we havent actually had sex. so does it just count on your beliefs? because me, i think that if you actually have sex before marriage, its wrong. thanks alot for your help! (link)
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You're bound to get a lot of different viewpoints on this. My take is simple. Touching, kissing, caressing is not intercourse so therefore if you don't believe in sex before marriage it doesn't fall into that category. Now, let's say you did want to have sex.
Would that make you any less a Christian or ruin your relationship and commitment to God? No it wouldn't. You would still have the same beliefs and convictions as well as character. Nothing changes there and your morals, judgment and values aren't going to collapse or fade away.
So, I think touching, kissing, caressing etc is perfectly natural. It's not sex and isn't getting anyone pregnant or in to real harm. You have to have a safe release for all the tension that builds up and intense feelings.
You're fine even masturbation is okay incase you were wondering lots of religious people engage in touching etc with partners but don't go beyond until married.
Put it this way you're the one governing yourself and if you believe that this doesn't make you any less a Christian continue with it or make changes that you feel are right. Nobody else can choose for you nor do they have a right to tell you that what you're doing is wrong.
Believe me, they're all doing something in their lives not necessarily related to sex that someone else who is christian may object to. What is right/wrong here is the eye of the beholder. If I were you I'd continue doing what you are doing in this loving, committed relationship and know that there's nothing wrong with it as it's not intercourse.
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ok well how can i let a boy know that i wanna to mess around w/ him? but not being 2 clingy or give him the idea that im thinking that were going to get in a relationship.?. (link)
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The last thing you will ever want to deal with is somebody else's perception of you being promiscuous. When classmates find out through this guy's locker room stories or the grapevine that you "messed around" with him they'll lose respect for you. The same could be said about your family.
If you like him enough to want to mess around and or engage in sexual activity you might as well have a solid relationship first. Friends with benefits deals like this never work. Someone always becomes attached (usually the girl but not always) and gets severely hurt in the process.
Guys are hardwired (I'm a guy so I know) to talk about what they did and with whom in the locker room and with peers. You don't want to be that girl who he may/may not talk about. You don't need a damaged reputation.
You could tell him you're attracted to him and see what he says. There's nothing clingy about finding this out or asking about a possible relationship. I don't recommend it but if you're going to mess around regardless talk to him and set rules and boundaries about what you are comfortable with.
Tell him to be discreet and not talk about it at school. I don't encourage this kind of thing as I feel it's asking for a lot of trouble.
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I'm in 8th grade and have a crush on this boy. He is so sweet. Well I think he is. I have only one class with him though so I really want to talk to him. The thing is that I am really shy! Well I can be and I am most of the time. I am actually a really loud person but not with people I don't know very well. Well we just came back to school this week, I go to a year round school so we just came back this month so he hasn't been talking to me much. The month before we got off he would always come up and talk to me and ask me questions and stuff. I don't know what I should do. I really want to talk to him but I really need to get the confidence to go up to him. So any advice on how to talk to him and approach him or something? Also if you have any advice for what else to do. Thanks so much! (link)
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The first thing you should do is learn how not to be so loud. I'm not criticizing you but toning it down with friends and when you're around him is essential.
A loud person can sometimes be viewed incorrectly by others as obnoxious or having the potential to be. Watch what you say, who you say it to and the volume level. you cannot afford to inadvertently scare him off over a trait like this.
why isn't he talking to you so much? Well, he may be done waiting for you to approach him. You might not have a lot in common or maybe he's as shy as you are or feels the same way. Odds are if he likes you he's equally as scared of talking to you as you are of him.
You have to treat talking to him much like you would a friend, sibling, parent or another adult. It's no different. Pretend that whatever you have to say to him is vital that he hears. Then start talking and ask him about his interests, movies, sports etc and casually invite him to a party or to some place you and your friends will be hanging out.
If he sounds interested it means you are on the right track. If he doesn't than maybe it's indication he's not in to you. This is the way to fid out before asking him out. Give him your number, e-mail or IM and ask him to chat. If he's not interested you'll know.
You have to take the mystery and aura you've built up around him and forget about him being a crush. Treat him like any normal person and you'll see you'll make progress there.
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Ok, im 16/f and a virgin. I really want a guy's opinion on this, but girls, if you know, you can answer to. Does it make a difference to guys if a girl is a virgin or not? Do you guys find it appealing, sexy, unusual, gross or what? Is it true that some guys sleep with virgins just becuase the want to devirginize them? Also, what is your opinion of phone/ internet sex? Thanks! (link)
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It really depends on the guy. No matter whom you ask each will respond differently. Is it gross to have a partner that is a virgin the first time? It shouldn't be.
We all start as virgins. Guys who are mature and sensitive will not mind at all and will make their partner comfortable. There's nothing gross, wrong, unusual etc. about virginity. A lot of people guys included would applaud you for waiting for the right person.
Do some guys enjoy sex more with virgins or being a person's first? For some guys the answer would be yes and others no. Again it goes back to the individual person.
As for phone/Internet sex don't be calling numbers or using Internet services that are clearly meant meant for adults. When it comes to your own b/f it depends upon what you are comfortable with.
Don't say or do anything on the Internet you don't want to have bite you later. And do not have Internet/Phone sex with someone you never met at the other end of a computer or send them anything either. This can be very dangerous if it's someone you met online and don't know.
As far as it being just yourself and your boyfriend only you both can decide what is right or wrong for you. In my opinion I don't like the idea of it but in a way it's better than having actual sex and being pregnant.
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i like masterbating but i get tired of the same old way, any suggestions on trying new things? thanks. (link)
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Members of this site aren't allowed to give out such tips. Your question boils down to too much of the same thing. If you stop masturbating for a few days it might be so boring when you return to it. Sorry, we can't be of more assistance.
You need to use your imagination and think of ways/things that are a turn on to you. Even if people could give tips they wouldn't help you much. Everyone is different when it comes to what they respond to sexually or find pleasurable.
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has anyone heard of a place in south hackensack called school of rock? i think its a place where bands perform, and i was going to go to a concert there, but im not sure if it has a bar in it or anything..i tried calling numerous times, and left messages, but i havent gotten a call back. please help mee so i can go to the concert (link)
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It's a venue that ticketmaster provides seats for. If you go to ticketmaster.com and put in the name of the group and scroll until you hit their date at School of Rock it will come up. There's several event listed for the venue and they either say "all ages" or indicate otherwise.
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my dick stinks really bad..i dont know what this means but everytime i go to the bathroom i am overwhelmed by the stinkiest smell i have ever smelled it smells like rotten bologna..sometimes i lay on top of my friends and they pass out. WHATS WRONG!?!? (link)
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You never mentioned whether you were circumcised or not. This makes a difference in the answer. You see, males who are uncut get this gunky yellow discharge called smegma around the ridge of the glans.
If you don't pull the foreskin back and clean the glans and the ridge around it the discharge build up and can smell. Check out this article on what I'm talking about http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Smegma
Females can have the same problem as smegma can build up between the folds of the vulva.
If it's not that and you do clean your penis frequently and don't allow semen to dry on it than you should mention it to your doctor.
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I'm going to the doctor tomorrow for a virginity test. I don't want to break my mom's heart. Is there anyway I can make it seem like I'm a virgin? They are checking physically..any advice? (link)
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Like the poster said there's no such thing as a virginity test. Your mother may however be taking you to a gynecologist for a routine exam. Like the poster below said all they can tell is whether or not your hymen is broken but not by what.
A short article at GURL.COM that I just read and am enclosing the link for indicates that you MUST be truthful with the doctor and tell them about your sexual history. If you don't it can be detrimental towards your health. NEVER lie to a medical professional ever.
Will your mother find out? According to the article she won't because doctors must keep things you tell them confidential unless you are in danger or your health is.
http://www.gurl.com/findout/hmh/qa/0,,669275,00.html
Also this is helpful about what the doctor actually does so you can put your mind at ease: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/pink/your_first_gynecologist_visit
You might as well be honest with your mother. She probably already knows what's happening or suspects it. She would rather you told her the truth than hid it. Your mom would want you safe and on birth control rather than pregnant.
Nobody said this was going to be easy but I genuinely believe there should be no secrets between you and her whether it's about virginity or not. She might not be happy about it but will be about one key issue: that you had the responsibility to tell her and seek her advice to use birth control.
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My little sister is being picked on by these preps because she is a tomboy. Her and her best friend (who is goth) stand up for her. But the preps still come back. My sister is a very tough girl. When ever her birthday comes around the preps get her make up and pink butterfly shirts. She gave the make up to me and cut the butterfly shirt in half and sewed it onto a half of our dads shirt and went as half boy half girl for halloween (she makes alot of her own clothes.) What should I (or she) do about the preps they are so anoying to her. Mom and dad wont do anything about it and we dont think its serius eanough to go to the princable. So what im asking here is what should we do about this. All answers aprecated. (link)
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I would encourage your sister to celebrate who she is and embrace that. Tell her never to react to their taunts as a reaction is what they are seeking. As soon as she just brushes them off they will probably give up on targeting her.
As long as she never gives them something they can twist and use against her she's got them right where she wants them. as far as going to a teacher or principal goes it's a good idea. Just let them know that she's being harassed by these people and to monitor it and not act yet.
The flip-side is that they'll get into trouble and that the bullying will intensify. I never advocate violence but if she's ever put in a position where they hit her or provoke her to the point she can't stand it anymore dumping one of them on their butt would command respect. Only ever do that if there's no other way but that to get them off her case or they provoke it.
If they're giving her gifts etc. it suggests that they are gently mocking her and saying things to get her to conform and act like them. Maybe they want to be friends with her and have a weird way of showing it. I doubt it though.
Encourage her to stay clear of them completely and keep her nose to the grindstone and go about her business unphased. When classmates see that nobody can get to your sister they'll either leave her alone, respect her or become friends.
Bullies are almost always jealous of a talent, skill, attribute the victim has that they don't. This causes them to act out for attention the victim receives that they never get themselves. The bully always has 10 times more problems than the victim. point that out to her. These girls may be a mess with problems and horrible home life.
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I like this boy and he is so nice to me. He talks to me sometimes and walks away from me. I only have one class with me and he talks to me and asks me questions or ask me for something. None of my friends know I like him. They think I like another boy which I stopped liking him. So I'm gonna tell them I don't like that boy anymore. The boy I like now isn't popular, which I don't care about but my friends think he is weird, perverted, and all that stuff. So I really don't want to tell them I like him. I don't think he is any of that and I think he is really sweet and cute. So I just don't know what to do. Also I am pretty shy so he is the one who comes up to me and talks to me. I usually only talk to people when they talk to me. So can anyone help me with this problem of mine and also how to talk the the guy. Thanks a whole lot! (Sorry it was long) (link)
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Your friends don't need to know all the private aspects of your life. In fact it's better you don't tell them. Why? They could tease you, disapprove or go blabbing it off the highest mountain. You know how teenage girls are.
They can't keep secrets when it comes to boys and who likes whom. If you tell them it would be asking for it as they could really louse things up. Your friends and what they think of this guy should have no bearing on you liking him. they won't be dating him but you would be.
You have to treat getting to know him like you would any other friend. It's no different except you may get a relationship out of it. Talk to him like you would a sibling, parent, teacher, friend and ask about his interests. Soon you'll find yourself in an instant conversation where movies, sports, entertainment etc will come up.
A more bolder approach would be to write down your IM, E-mail, Number and other info and ask him to call or chat with you online. If it doesn't than you'll know he's either scared or not into you. If you're having a party or hanging out with a group of people try inviting him.
You have an in with this guy because he's constantly approaching you. Show him you're interested, start flirting and see what occurs. If you want him bad enough you have to show him and think to hell with what anyone else thinks or says.
He's just a guy and you're just a girl. You have to treat talking to him like you would anyone else you know. Look him in the eyes and in your mind pretend that what you have to say will change his life and spit it out. Once you do you'll be fine. Go for broke and take the risk to get what you want.
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can i use an expired ID to get into clubs..temporarily? someone stole my purse and it'll take a few weeks for them to mail me my new driver's license...so can i just use my old one that expired a few years ago?? thanks youuu! (link)
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You need valid government issued photo ID to get into those clubs or especially a casino. If a bouncer or security guard stops you going in and you have an ID with a picture that is several years old or even a year old for that matter they won't let you in.
This is to protect their liquor license and or keep minors from gambling if a casino. Now, you said you don't have your new license that might not necessarily be a problem.
Do you have a military ID card, a current passport, state/federal issued photo ID? If so, flash it if they stop you at the door and give them your birth certificate.
Birth certificates I've been told by casino security people cannot be presented without a photo ID as they're so easily counterfeited these days and easily transfered from one body to another because they lack a photo. If you present both types of ID they can't refuse it.
You should phone the club you plan to attend and ask them what types of ID they will take that will let you inside. In some states and especially Canada the liquor control board or province/state issues an age of majority ID card that you can use to prove age. Have a look into what you can do.
But yes, an ID that is old even though it contains your image will not be accepted at clubs or casinos as it's no longer valid. If worse comes to worse you may have to sit out on clubbing for a few weeks for your license to be replaced.
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I was really into this guy, Michael. He invited me to hang out and hook up, but I thought it'd just be making out. He got forceful and mean and really pressured me into giving him head. I tried to kiss him but he just rejected me and kept telling me to give him head. Well, I did. I'm so ashamed that I acted so easy. The whole time he held my head hard and wouldn't let me breath until he was finished.
I feel so ashamed and embarrassed because I really like him. And now I don't know what to do, what if this gets around school? (link)
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If this got around school they would soon know he is a creep who took advantage of and assaulted you. If you said NO repeatedly and he pushed you around and forced you it's not giving in or anything to feel ashamed of.
What he did is wrong and it is a form of sexual assault. He needs to be punished or he will keep doing it to other girls. Odds are there already are others who haven't come forward about what he did to them.
You have a responsibility to tell your parents what happened and that you said no and he forced himself on you or forced you violently to do it. They'll know how to handle this and get him charged which he should be.
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as long as i can remember ive been the really outgoing happy peppy girl. but just like last year i started to get major mood swings, and sometimes i would be super depressed an then like the next minute i could be bouncing off the walls and absolutely as happy as ever. sometimes i think about things way to much and overanalyze, and then other times i just dont care about anything and am the most optimistic person ever. ive been struggling with my grades and my love life has been a rollercoaster the past year so that might have to do with it. i also have 3 siblings all under 7 and im 16 so i was just wondering if this is normal? is there anyway i cant more control when i feel down? because i hate how it affects my friends sometimes. i feel bad about it but i cant just pretend to be myself because they notice that too haha so yea, like im happy now but on like wed and thursday this week i just wanted to cry forever and then friday was abssolutely fine again. (link)
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You *might* have a mood disorder. I'm not a doctor but being bipolar myself and knowing classic symptoms of one and having been hospitalized with tons of people who are I think I'm right in suggesting that you see your physician about this.
If you are feeling one minute depressed, the next elated and bouncing off the walls you have a problem. It's not normal to feel that way. In fact it could lead to a serious issue. You sound hypomanic.
It's not dangerous but needs to be monitored by a psychiatrist because it can launch some, not all people into a psychotic episode and bipolar disorder and sometimes delusion.
WIKIPEDIA DEFINES IT AS:
"Hypomania (literally, below mania) is a mood state characterized by persistent and pervasive elated or irritable mood, and thoughts and behaviors that are consistent with such a mood state. It is distinguished from mania by the absence of psychotic symptoms and by its lower degree of impact on functioning. Hypomania is a feature of two mood disorders: bipolar II disorder and cyclothymia.[1] Though hypomanic people are often associated with bipolar disorder, it is in this state that many creative talents are in their most productive and successful mood.
If you can't sleep, your thoughts race too much, you speak far too rapidly and moods are crashing up and down see a professional or go to an emergency room and be assessed as this can lead to a crisis like I experienced myself (twice).
Also, write down in a journal every time your moods go up and down, if your thoughts are depressing and dark and when you feel elated. Use that info when you see a doctor. BTW, family doctors are not experienced with diagnosing this kind of thing or caring for it so I would check into the emergency room because this is in fact and I know it from experience such a situation where it's better to be assessed by a psychiatrist than be sorry.
Odds are they'll assess you and prescribe medication. If you might be in crisis they can hold you for 72 hours. This only ever happens if you are in danger, of danger to yourself or others. Get this checked and let me know what happens.
The stress at home with your family, love life, school etc. definitely add to your troubles but I think that exists in spite of your mood issues.
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hey, im planning my sweet sixteen which is going to be at my house, its vampire themed and im wondering if anyone has any fun party games that we can play or like halloween games and stuff like that. i cant seem to come up with anything really good so any and all ideas are welcome though i'd prefer if they werent board game ideas. thanks so much in advance. (link)
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You might want to check out this site (see below). It gives you ideas, hints etc. on hosting a murder mystery night where everyone is assigned a character and each person could be guilty. That's always affordable, fun and easy. http://www.great-murder-mystery-games.com/
I know you dislike board games but hear me out on this one. Have you played the Scene It series of interactive games? If not it's quite entertaining. They have them on popular movies, Marvel comics characters, sports, James Bond, Friends, TV shows, Harry Potter and lord knows what else. You can read about them here http://www.screenlifegames.com/scene_it.php
Should all else fail you can always crank call some boys ;)
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f/15. I'm a Freshman, and he's a Senior. Everyone knows who he is, and everyone is in love with him because he's such an amazing actor. So myself, being the outgoing, spontaneous one in my group of friends, decides to talk to him during lunch one day. As he's walking out of the cafeteria with his tray [Our school has 2,000+ kids, so there's a seperate lunch room for the Seniors], I stand up to go talk to him. I take one step and I trip over the leg of my chair, run into him, and his food NEARLY goes tumbling out of his hands. He has this really shocked look on his face. As he keeps walking, I start talking to him ..... I wasn't really talking, more like rambling about useless topics until he says, "Uh. I gotta go" and leaves. It was absolutely humiliating, and totally brought down my self esteem quite a bit, considering I've never really messed up when it came to meeting new people. With graduation approaching, I totally want to give it a try talking to him again. But I'm extremely scared and nervous about the awkwardness. How do I start and finish a normal conversation with him? Any advice would be appreciated. (link)
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Do yourself a HUGE service and forget the fact that he's a brilliant actor and Mr. Popular. Treat him like a regular guy who has a lot of the same flaws and interests you do. Pretend he is like one of your own friends or family members.
Just talk to him like you would to any of them normally. It need not be anymore complicated than that. Introduce yourself to him and see what transpires. Try inviting him to a party or social gathering where you will be attending. Ask to be friends.
If he turns his nose up at you or brushes you off it's not your fault. It just means he's not interested and or being a jerk. There's no reason to be scared as he's just another person and a harmless one at that.
When talking to him mention you like his work and why and then quickly move on to his interests such as movies, sports, goals, hobbies etc. and sure enough before you even realize it you're in a normal conversation or have just ended one.
You have to get over the mystery, aura and popularity about this guy. Once you do that you'll be able to approach him. Also, think in your head that what you've got to tell him is important and that he needs to hear it. Then just talk as the confidence you need will be there.
If it helps think of him as an average person who belches, scratches, swears, uses the bathroom like everyone else. Just bring him down to size in your mind as a normal guy you can approach who is just like you. He's not a celebrity so don't make your mind all caught up in his image.
He's probably looking for a girl who won't suck up to him or like him only for his status. Maybe, if you're fortunate that person could be you. Just go for broke and see what transpires.
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When you put your penis inside her, does the foreskin go back over the head? (if uncurcimsised)
If it does, will it hurt?
if it does hurt, is there anyway of preventing this?
Kronix (link)
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The foreskin slides back during sex to expose the glans 9head of the penis). This should never hurt and your foreskin should retract easily.
No doubt through bathing you've learned to retract it to bathe the head of your penis. If you experienced no pain then you shouldn't during sex.
Sometimes the foreskin can be tight and cause pain if you try to retract it. If that's the case consult a urologist. This doctor will likely make what is known as a dorsil (sp?) slit to allow the foreskin to retract properly. You won't need a circumcision unless te problem can't be fixed otherwise.
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i can't get along with anyone i live with, my parents are devorced and i don't get along with either of them, then there's my sister who i can't stand, so they'll yell at me annd throw me out to later apologise and make me feel horrible for wantingto move out... how can i deal with getting thrown out all the time and then feeling bad about it? (link)
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It looks like your family needs professional assistance. Perhaps you can tell them that you don't like the way things are going and you want to fix things with a professional mediator in a group as well as individual setting.
Do you have a relative, friend's mom, favorite teacher or school counselor you can turn to? If so tell them what is happening at home and how miserable it is making you and that it's affecting academics and every aspect of life.
They will support you and present options and ideas you may never have thought of. The beauty of the situation is that your teachers, admin etc know the truth about your home life and can apply pressure on your mother/parents and siblings to work out their shit or they'll make sure to keep monitoring the situation.
Can you move out? Your mom is responsible for you until you are 18. If you had a relative or friend's family who wanted to offer you a room there's nothing legal stopping you as long as your mother knows where you are and you can pay for food and contribute something towards rent. See if this idea would fly.
If they're always throwing you out and then feeling awful maybe things will change if you do decide to move out and live with friends. That way you can work on your relationships and healing without being in a negative atmosphere all the time.
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