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Okay so I have a boyfriend who recently hit his mom..Okay more like bruised it up.I prob wasent sippose to find out about that but his friend told me. and he might be heading for boot camp this summer if he does it again. and he threw a plazma Big screen tv at his 12 yr, brother.
he says his brother was throwing a chair at him though. few months ago he got sent to his dads cause he did somehting wrong then him and his dad got in a fist fight.. he says he "Beat the s*** out of him" which isnt all that good sense he got searched, hand cuffed and taken down to the police station.. should i be worried? hes not abbusive right? just a temper? (link)
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Just a temper my butt! He's volatile and obviously dangerous and abusive based on what you stated above. Anyone who would throw a TV set at his brother and beat the snot out of him has got a lot of things wrong with him. There's no justifying that as self-defense for he could have hollered for adults to take care of the 12-year-old.
The police hand-cuffed and charged him for a reason. Stay clear of him because if he'll beat a sibling and get arrested for it what's topping him from going after you? He has no sense of reasoning at all when angry or not. Do yourself a favor and get out while you can. Don't wait for him to hit you next to see what I'm saying is true. There's something wrong with this guy. Don't be associated with it or him.
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ok so i was curious what fingering is like so i tried it and i felt NOTHING. no pleasure no pain-nothing. granted if my bf did it his fingers are longer and bigger than mine because i have really small hands but still... i have looked up fingering but i dont even think i have a 'spot' or w/e because i really dont feel anything. is there a special way guys do it or something different about when a guy does it opposed to a girl on herself? thanks so much :)
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It has nothing to do with the length of your fingers. Perhaps you are too focused on penetration rather than clitoral stimulation. Most females don't feel much from penetration during sex or otherwise.
Beyond that we don't give how to information as it gets us and the site in trouble. Keep trying different things as eventually you'll learn what is pleasurable versus not.
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when i go to college i would like to join a sorority. But i know that feternities make the pledges do crazy stuff...But do the sororities?? And where do the pledges live?? like in the house or in a dorm?? I would just like to know as much as i can thanks (link)
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More or less it's the same for girls as it is for guys. The stunts they pull may be less racier or dangerous but it remains the same a whole lot of hazing just to be accepted. Not worth it in my opinion. Once accepted you live at their house. While pledging you are on your own. Those not in a sorority either live in dorms or places they rented during college.
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My parents are so strict! i want to be able to talk to them about things and them not freak out or at least have someone to talk with. I can not trust my parents. They dont seem to trust me either how can i gain their trust? how can i get them to let me do things like hang out at a mall without a parent there or go on a date or even hang out with a guy. Maybe even not have them on my tail all of the time! (link)
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Find an adult whose opinion they trust. This person could be a relative such as an aunt or uncle or a teacher, principal or parent's mother. Tell them what you told us and illustrate how strict they are too the point you can't hang out with friends or be a kid at all.
Have that person casually mention to your parents that you're a responsible kid who deserves freedom and the right to experience what her peers are and grow up. You need to date, be with friends and have your own life outside of the walls of your home.
These people can advocate for you and tell your parents that they're unreasonable but you yourself can't do that as it will get you nowhere if you voice it yourself.
You can only gain trust by not doing anything that would make them think you aren't deserving of it. Follow the rules in place and let a teacher or someone scold them about the rest. The last thing adults want is to be embarrassed or defending their parenting skills or lack thereof to others. You can bet on it once confronted by one of their peers that they'll loosen the reigns.
It may be in your best interest to tell them that you aren't the type of kid to just have sex, do things with boys you shouldn't and be reckless when hanging out with others but that you deserve a chance to be like other kids and not left behind. Don't argue, get defensive etc. but state your point and whatever they say accept it until others put pressure on them.
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I want a website that will tell me about the candidates. I want it to say that this person is for this, this, and this and is against that, that, and that. I am 15 and I dont completely understand politics so I need a site that will be easy to understand. It would be helpful also if they had videos of debates or something. (link)
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Try CNN.COM/ELECTION. They explain what a primary is, a caucus, party beliefs and differences and explain who Hilary Clinton is, Barack Obama and John McCain.
If you really want to know what each of them stand for bring up Google and type in their name and a list of all their official sites will come up. More or less if you type for example barackobama.com pr their first name and last name and .com you'll be taken to their page where they explain in the simplest terms what they believe.
CNN's page will also tell you when the primaries and caucuses are and how many delegates they are worth. The site gives a better explanation than I could. But basically, each candidate must reach a certain number of people from each party hat throws their support behind them to get the nomination.
The Republicans call for a candidate to get 1,191 delegates which makes John McCain their nominee because he's done that. The democrats which now consist of Hilary and Barack need 2,025 for a nomination.
As for super delegates that's extremely hard to explain but if you hit CNN.COM/Politics they break it down nicely.
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okay. just a few for you sexually educated people out there... hehe.
1) how do you know when you are having an orgasm?
2) if you masturbate frequently, is sex less likely to hurt?
3) is it illegal to finger someone if you're under eighteen?
wow. that was very awkward to type out. anyhow, thanks a zillion!
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1) Trust me, you'll know. Your muscles especially in your pubic area will tense up and then release slowly in tiny or big ripples. You'll feel a wave of pleasure throughout your entire body. That's how best to describe it.
2) The answer is no. While it makes you aware of what you respond to sexually it won't help with discomfort during intercourse. I say discomfort as it's not supposed to be painful ever. The discomfort usually comes from thrusting and friction. Make sure you are properly lubricated or get artificial lubricant as it will help with that.
3) The answer is no as it's not intercourse or considered sex. It would be illegal if you were a kid and the person doing it to you was an adult. That would be criminal let alone illegal. You're fine if you and your boyfriend are doing that. Just be damn sure he's the right person before ever considering it.
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for a while now i have been getting really horny and all i want is for someone to eat me out. like i am almost tempted to ask some random neighbor hood boy to eat me out and i dont even talk to him. so should i go for it? or should i try to fight the feeling? and also how can i fight the feeling? (link)
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It's actually the law until a person turns 18 that it's illegal to engage in any sexual activity. It's a rare fact that moderators are asking us to point out. But, it's your decision and we can't stop you, we can only advise you.
When it comes to sexual activity of any kind you definitely want it to be with someone who loves and cares for you. It's more than a physical thing it's the emotional connection that matters, your maturity and being ready.
You have your whole life to engage in this or any other sexual activity. Don't rush it and definitely don't pick someone at random. Why? Well, they have no respect for you (and vice-versa you for yourself) and may have STDs etc. You never know where people have been and what they did in the past. Don't make it your problem.
It's fine to be curious about this which in your case is really what's fueling the desire and interest to try it. You should wait until you are with the right person. The safest thing to do is decrease your sex drive, urges, tension through masturbation as that can't get you into a bad situation.
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this is my second year at this sleepaway camp and last for me] last year i was put into a bunk with my best friend, who i had known before camp started. i was better friends with the other bunk, but the bunk i was in was cooler. this year i wanted to be in the other bunk with my other friends, one girl from that bunk doesnt want me in it. the rest dont mind. my best friend from last year is still going to be in my regular bunk, but she is friends with the popular people..we kind of lost touch, she goes to a different school now. i am kind of upset that we dont talk anymore, we were supposed to be best friends forever. weve been going to school togethor for 9 years. but anyways, the bunk i want to be in, well, there is a girl that used to go to camp, and is coming back, and she is going to be in that bunk. she is supposevly really weird. but i think she is friends with one of my friends. i hate to say this but if shes going to hang around my friends its gonna piss me off a lot. i dont like to hang around reaaally weird people that no one likes..then people start to not like me. its just a whole issue dealing with what people think of me, i just have really bad self confidence and am always thinking people are saying things about me. im not sure if i should go to the other bunk and be with my friends, but have to deal with that girl and then feeling low self confidence because of her, or, staying in my old bunk, and feeling lonely..i only had 2 friends in there. one of them, my best friend one, doesnt even talk to me anymore. its all so confusing. camp was supposed to be my escape. now its just as confusing as high school. someone help me (link)
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The situation is only as good or as bad as you make it. If you want to enjoy camp go ahead and go into it wanting to enjoy it. Thinking everything is ruined for you and being determined to think so will kill your ability to enjoy yourself period!
Next, forget about cliques and who is popular and who isn't. It doesn't matter. What matters is that you be kind to everyone else, be who you are and let the chips fall where they may. You'll have a good time but only if you allow yourself.
Now, you say you have confidence issues, feel lonely and dread what others think of you. Well, how the heck do you think this so-called "weird girl" feels? Probably the same if not worse.
Don't judge her especially if you hate being judged and fear not fitting in. You know what? my hunch is you'll click and find out she's not so weird. Hell, if people you know like her they must for a valid reason. It shouldn't piss you off to meet new people or hang out with someone a little different. If we were all the same it would be a gawd awful boring world. Thank God we aren't.
I know you can handle either bunk. You may not think so but things always work out. Being exposed to new and different types of people would be good for you. Go to camp and enjoy the experience and let it unfold. That's the key to you enjoying yourself and treat everyone you meet with kindness or as a potential friend.
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Okay, my BestFriends birthday is coming up. and her like pride and joy are the two new puppies she got last year and how when there old enough she will let them mate/ well. It's her birthday and she's like my second mother basicly I love her that much so I wanna do something awesome on her birthday.
Well I know someone who paints on like placks and stuff and I wanna get one that says "Carolyns 2nd Heaven" to hang it on the door to the welping pen. I knoww she'll love it but she's like hardcore christian and i was wondering she wouldn't like it because its her 2nd heaven.., and stuff. Would you find offense to it if you were realy religios? I mean she's not like cracka whip but would appreciate it if I didn't like mak a fool of myself really.
So with Heaven in like the happiest place she can think of... just give me your opinion (link)
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It's a nice sentiment but if you think it will be taken wrong or offend you should err on the side of caution and or not do it. Ask your parents what they think of the idea and your choice for the inscription.
Also ask people close to her ie: mutual friends, siblings, her parents about what they think is appropriate versus what could be misconstrued by her and others. I think it would be extreme for her to take offense and jump all over you though. Then again if someone is offended over religious matters easily you have to tread lightly.
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what does friends with benefits mean? (link)
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It's a term for when a male and female have a friendship that includes sexual activity but that they are not romantically involved and it's a no strings attached deal. Basically, if something happened and one of them moved on their wouldn't be a messy breakup.
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do guys really care what a girl vagina looks like?
because i know everyone is different, with the size of their libias and all of that..so which do you like better...big ones, or small ones?
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Well, I'll put it to you this way. Men don't care as they are mature enough to know that everybody's bodies including genitals (female and male) look different. To a mature male size of labia, shape, length etc. etc. doesn't matter.
They care about the girl and who she is and don't care about how her body parts look. To be honest, they're probably fearful you'll be critical of the size or appearance of their genitals. It's obviously an issue both males and females have about their bodies.
Now, if we're talking teenage boys the majority of them may not have developed the maturity not to care and or know anything at all about female anatomy and what's normal based on what they heard in health class or saw medical diagrams and handouts on.
If that's what they seem to be hung up on than don't have anything to do with them and tell them that "everybody's body is a little different". As far as sex goes it's not legal until the age of 18 in all states. That's a little known law.
I want to discourage you from it but regardless of choices don't wind up with anyone who has this kind of attitudes about the female body. Vaginas come in all shapes and different sizes of labia etc. are quite common. No one person looks like they do in health classes where they hand out medical diagrams.
Regardless, your vagina is normal and there's nothing anatomically wrong with it. It should be the last thing you ever need to worry about--really. You're fine. Whatever size or look that it has is normal. Mature men know that. Most Boys, don't. But the answer to what do guys like? is simple--most don't care unless they are jerks or immature.
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My brothers girlfriends 1yo Cat is very frisky and the apartment she lives in wants her to get rid of Tigger because he's having sex with all the other cats. Well that's really sad so I sad I would take him but my parents don't know about it. I'm already cleaning my room, being a perfect angel and paying for te expenses of the cat.
I need to make a very good arguement so i can keep Tigger because I dont want him put down (link)
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Why put the animal down? It's a 1-year-old cat and perfectly healthy. If anything you should get him neutered as that may reduce his sex drive. You can't fault him for acting like a male cat would.
You should tell your parents about the cat and his possible fate. Explain that you're already forking out cash to help your brother's girlfriend care for it.
If they won't allow you to keep him I'm sure they'll help you find him a home or a shelter where he will be well cared for and find a loving home. Unless an animal is dangerous, unfriendly, unpredictable shelters and humane societies do not put them down.
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I'm 16/f
My older sister is almost 20, still living in our parents house, un-employed, and about to quit college. My dad doesn't really say anything about it, but my mom is now heck-bent on me going to a top-notch college, getting a job as soon as possible, and all the things I want to do socially with friends doesn't even matter. I understand that they don't want me to end up like my sister, but I find it unfair. They were never this hard on her, and let her decide. Heck, she didn't even get her drivers license until last year! And now it's gotten to the point where they are catering to her every need and pushing me out into the world without warning. With that said, How do I talk to my parents about this? I want to do all of these things (drive,work,etc.) but at MY own pace.
Thanks,
AngryYoungerSister (link)
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They may not say it but you can bet they feel as though they failed with your sister in some way. They are likely ashamed that she's still living at home, has no job and no desire to do a thing about that.
Therefore, they're hard on you because they want to have at least one kid that "made it" in the family. What they should be doing though is kicking your sister's butt in to gear and making sure she goes to college, gets a job and takes charge of her life. You see, their problem is with her and not you.
What do do you do? Talk to your teacher or an adult you trust that mom and dad know and respect. Have them bring up the fact that their too hard on you and that you're beyond miserable. have them point out you're level-headed want to drive, go to college, get a job when you feel ready.
Have them illustrate the fact that you're a good student and plan to work your ass off in college and afterwards to be successful but now is time to relax and not be so intense. A kid needs to be a kid. Worry about all this other stuff a year or so from now.
They'll listen to that person who tells them the above and not you. They'll feel embarrassed at being "called out" by another adult and start making changes.
Don't hate your sister for this. She's got more problems than you might think. The more you stay angry at her the more it will only hurt you. It's like drinking a jug of Draino. It will only eat away at you. Anger is poison and can kill.
Your problem is with your parents and their fears and insecurities about messing up as parents or messing you and your sister up. They just want you both to succeed but want to ensure you don't make the same mistakes your sibling has. Therefore, they're on you like a hawk.
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so dont laugh at me, im 14, i dont know much about guys (all girls school lol!)
i was sitting in this guys lap today
and then later on he started complainin
and he said that his testicles hurt and that he knew why
haha what? who wants to explain? (link)
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It's commonly referred to as blue balls. In other words he felt minor pain in his testicles after experiencing an erection and couldn't release semen.
This Discovery Health Channel Article explains it best http://health.discovery.com/centers/sex/sexpedia/blueballs.html
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I love listening to R.E.M., but I only have Reveal and Out of Time. I'm at a loss for what other albums I could get that would really satisfy my craving for true R.E.M. What would you say the 4 best albums are, for example? Thanks! (link)
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If you go here http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/3041478/ you'll see their performance from yesterday's NBC Today Show. They're performing songs off of their new album Accelerate and a few classic ones.
While I couldn't begin to tell you their best 4 albums you might want to start with Accelerate and work backwards through their catalog. A good suggestion is R.E.M. Live which is their live album that encompasses most of their catalogue.
Be aware that they are also on tour right now. Here's a list of the city's they'll be hitting http://remhq.com/live.php
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lately i've been having very smelly discharge. im 13/f. and i have irregular periods. but the discharge smells HORRID! i cant stand it. it goes in my undies clear and drys white. is there something wrong? if so, how can i fix it? i hate going to the doctors for things so please tell me an at home solution. thanks so much. i will rate back. (link)
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Vaginal discharge is normal but there are types of discharge that aren't. Anything that smells awful, looks like cottage cheese (curds) and is weird in color are signs you may have a problem and most likely an infection. If your vulva and genitals in general are burning or itching it's also a problem.
So, what to do? Tell your mother about it as she will know what to do. You'll have to see a doctor who can prescribe medication that you put inside your vagina or tell you which over-the-counter medication you can purchase at the drugstore.
As much as you hate doctors and the thought of them looking down there you need to tell your mother and get this seen to. The doctor's are professionals and will put you at ease and let your mother or another adult be present when they examine you.
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Ok well I have this S.S. Quarterly assessment thing
I have to make a 3-5min oral presentation on the 25th amendment
You have to:
•Explain the meaning of the amendment in today's english
•Explain when this amendment was ratified into the constitution
•This historical reasons why this amendment came into being
•Any historical person or persons who took an active roll in getting this amendment passed
I have a website up now about this thing when ITS SO CONFUSING
Its all in words used like 8785845 years ago
Could someone PLEASEEEE help me on this?
This counts as 200pts and if I don't get a good grade.....man I'm dead (link)
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Here you go http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Twenty-fifth_Amendment_to_the_United_States_Constitution
It's really straight-forward. If you can't understand it from that article send me a message to my private box. I'll break it down. It's about when a president can be removed from office, who replaces him when he dies or both the president and VP were to die at once. More importantly it's about how the VP can take temporary power.
Anyways, you need to read this, sum it up in your own words and do your best. Just a suggestion for the future: tell the teacher that you don't get the assignment or what things mean before getting into a last minute bind. If you had any doubt you could have resolved it there and earned a higher mark.
I'm not saying this to be mean but any time you don't understand something seek help from the teacher, classmates etc. while you can. I can't do your homework for you but I can help you get to the point that you can finish it with the right tools. See what you can do first.
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i'm a senior in high school, and recently, my periods have been getting increasingly worse and worse. i started friday, and passed out at school in the hallway. they said my blood sugar was low since i hadn't eaten breakfast or anything (it was around 11 a.m.), but i never eat breakfast and this didn't happen until three months or so ago. i get horrible cramps, to the point where i don't even want to get up from sitting. i've come very close to passing out twice before on the first few days of my period, as well. so i really would like to ask my mom about birth control for the sake of control my period's awful pains, and i know one of my friends is on it for the same thing. but how do i know if these symptoms are enough to be put on it? are these symptoms normal, something that most girls go through, or just a few? what birth controls are out there that would help my situation? thanks in advance. (link)
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There's nothing normal about passing out because of menstruation or without reason suddenly. If you feel like you are going to pass out all the time at school there's something going on that you need to get checked out. Tell your mother about this immediately as that's not normal.
It sounds like you need to see a gynecologist about your periods, cramps, pain etc. They're the only ones who can put you on birth control and figure out what the problem is. I'm no doctor but they've put people on them that were your age without what you're describing. And yes, there's loads of people placed on them because of what you describe.
The fainting is what troubles me the most. You mentioned they said there was a problem with your blood sugar being too low. Are you diabetic? If not you need to look in to that also as the fainting spells could be related. That's something not to overlook.
It won't kill you either to eat breakfast as it would seem your body could sure use it. It will give you extra energy that you appear to need. But, to sum things up tell your mother exactly what you told us and consult a doctor about it all.
The fainting and constant feeling that you are going to is something that might be dangerous unless you check it out. I doubt very seriously that it has anything to do with your period but maybe it does. See a doctor so you get answers.
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Well we're in grade 9 and two of my closest friends hate each other to the guts! They have just been confessing about it in the beginning of the year and now it's been pretty rough all around with the hating and the insults when they meet each other in the halls. And the worst part, I'm just a bystander and i don't know what to do. They always talk about each other behind their backs and talk about it to me and I just don't know what to say and sometimes they'll get mad at me for nto agreeing or not saying anything.
What can i do? (link)
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Tell them that you like them both. Then inform them that you don't want to be a bystander as they fight. Let them know it's up to them to resolve their differences. You don't want to hear about how they despise each other all the time.
Let them both know that unless something concerns you you're not there to pick sides or listen to their hatred towards the other person. You can offer to mediate the problem and help them talk it out but beyond that they either be civil in your company or don't mention their troubles with this or you stop hanging with either one until they work it out.
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15/f
okay i thought i was over my ex but im not. he cheated on me and lied to me and somehow i still want him back! he only wants me to do stuff with me...what should i do? (link)
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Move on! You deserve better than him. He's only in this for sex and obviously doesn't care about you. He cheated on you as well and cannot be trusted no to do it again. He's probably done it to lots of other girls but didn't get caught until now. If all he's after is sexual favors than he's definitely not worth it. I would cut all ties and move on unless you want to get hurt badly.
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