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camp dilema. really confused.
this is my second year at this sleepaway camp and last for me] last year i was put into a bunk with my best friend, who i had known before camp started. i was better friends with the other bunk, but the bunk i was in was cooler. this year i wanted to be in the other bunk with my other friends, one girl from that bunk doesnt want me in it. the rest dont mind. my best friend from last year is still going to be in my regular bunk, but she is friends with the popular people..we kind of lost touch, she goes to a different school now. i am kind of upset that we dont talk anymore, we were supposed to be best friends forever. weve been going to school togethor for 9 years. but anyways, the bunk i want to be in, well, there is a girl that used to go to camp, and is coming back, and she is going to be in that bunk. she is supposevly really weird. but i think she is friends with one of my friends. i hate to say this but if shes going to hang around my friends its gonna piss me off a lot. i dont like to hang around reaaally weird people that no one likes..then people start to not like me. its just a whole issue dealing with what people think of me, i just have really bad self confidence and am always thinking people are saying things about me. im not sure if i should go to the other bunk and be with my friends, but have to deal with that girl and then feeling low self confidence because of her, or, staying in my old bunk, and feeling lonely..i only had 2 friends in there. one of them, my best friend one, doesnt even talk to me anymore. its all so confusing. camp was supposed to be my escape. now its just as confusing as high school. someone help me
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The situation is only as good or as bad as you make it. If you want to enjoy camp go ahead and go into it wanting to enjoy it. Thinking everything is ruined for you and being determined to think so will kill your ability to enjoy yourself period!
Next, forget about cliques and who is popular and who isn't. It doesn't matter. What matters is that you be kind to everyone else, be who you are and let the chips fall where they may. You'll have a good time but only if you allow yourself.
Now, you say you have confidence issues, feel lonely and dread what others think of you. Well, how the heck do you think this so-called "weird girl" feels? Probably the same if not worse.
Don't judge her especially if you hate being judged and fear not fitting in. You know what? my hunch is you'll click and find out she's not so weird. Hell, if people you know like her they must for a valid reason. It shouldn't piss you off to meet new people or hang out with someone a little different. If we were all the same it would be a gawd awful boring world. Thank God we aren't.
I know you can handle either bunk. You may not think so but things always work out. Being exposed to new and different types of people would be good for you. Go to camp and enjoy the experience and let it unfold. That's the key to you enjoying yourself and treat everyone you meet with kindness or as a potential friend.
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