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My parents are strict.
My parents are so strict! i want to be able to talk to them about things and them not freak out or at least have someone to talk with. I can not trust my parents. They dont seem to trust me either how can i gain their trust? how can i get them to let me do things like hang out at a mall without a parent there or go on a date or even hang out with a guy. Maybe even not have them on my tail all of the time!
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I have a lot of friends with parents like this, and mine was too before I moved out. It's all a matter of "playing the game". It's a hard game too, because one mistake can take you straight to solitary confinement in your room till you're able to move out.
Introduce your friends to your parents. Tell them exactly who these people are (especially if they are good, honest, nice people). Little white lies, such as "he's mormon" work well so long as no one finds out they aren't. You just need to manipulate them to get exactly what you want.
If you're under 15 though, I'd have to say you're SOL. Most parents shelter their kids till about that age. If you're 16+ I recommend sitting them down and telling them that you feel that while they care, they are smothering you and stifling your independance, and that you need thier trust before you'll trust them yourself. It'll floor. Them.
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there are many things you can do like follow below on ur age limits
15-18(tell your parents that you wanna have a mature conversation and that you wanna tlk to them about your trust issues and soo on and see why they wouldnt trust you or anything.
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Find an adult whose opinion they trust. This person could be a relative such as an aunt or uncle or a teacher, principal or parent's mother. Tell them what you told us and illustrate how strict they are too the point you can't hang out with friends or be a kid at all.
Have that person casually mention to your parents that you're a responsible kid who deserves freedom and the right to experience what her peers are and grow up. You need to date, be with friends and have your own life outside of the walls of your home.
These people can advocate for you and tell your parents that they're unreasonable but you yourself can't do that as it will get you nowhere if you voice it yourself.
You can only gain trust by not doing anything that would make them think you aren't deserving of it. Follow the rules in place and let a teacher or someone scold them about the rest. The last thing adults want is to be embarrassed or defending their parenting skills or lack thereof to others. You can bet on it once confronted by one of their peers that they'll loosen the reigns.
It may be in your best interest to tell them that you aren't the type of kid to just have sex, do things with boys you shouldn't and be reckless when hanging out with others but that you deserve a chance to be like other kids and not left behind. Don't argue, get defensive etc. but state your point and whatever they say accept it until others put pressure on them.
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