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how do you get away with wearing black nail polish without coming off as 'goth' ?

hey,
no worries about looking 'goth', anymore! take my word for this, everyone's wearing black nail polish. preps, punks, everyone!
if you're really worried, just make sure your clothing looks pretty colorful that day.
really, though, everyone will understand. black is a good nail color, and everyone knows it! ;)

hope i've helped at all!



xoxo
kat!

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sorry if its in the wrong catagory i have no idea what catagory it goes in.


I was wondering if the holocaust mueseum they went to in freedom writers was an actual mueseum, and where the mueseum is.


thank you in advance.

It sure is! My class took an overnight trip there, this year. It's in Washington D.C, and there are lots of other attractions around there, too!!

Check it out :)

XOXO
KAT!

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I have been going out with my girlfriend for about a year now and I do everything I can. I always get her presents and stuff like that whenever I can. I'm always with her, I make her feel special (she told me this, its not an assumption), and just make everythign better for her (she told me this to). We usually are so so so good together but there are some bad times. I screwed up and she says sorry isn't enough. It was nothing like cheating or anything just an assumption I made. She says that I have to do something or its over. I have given her many presents now and I do whatever she wants right when she says to. Except when she says to do something to make it up. I have tried something romantic, tried kissing her and telling her how much I love her and i will literally die for her. But its not enough. She now wont see me she said do something. But everything I think of means I need money and my car, but I'm completely broke and have no car right now. i told her that and she said i dont need money or a car to make it up to her. I dont have any ideas. Does anyone have any? It has to be something spectacular, I cant lose her, it would hurt to much, its just not an option. Please I need an idea, a really really good one.

Thanks.

hey,
what you've done already SHOULD be enough, but if she wont accept that, try this:
make a collage of all of your pictures. use this for the cover. then get a bunch of pages, and on each one, write these things for each page. LONG stuff, too i guess..
1-how much she means to you
2-why you love her
3-why you're sorry
4-how much you love her
5-what she's done for your life
6-how you'd be if you lost her
7,8,9 ect-your memories together

then staple together and make it a little book. put it in her mail, or ring her doorbell and put it on her doorstep.

i'd definitely fall for that, and i'm sure most other girls would, too :)

hope everything works out,

xoxo
kat!

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me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a month now, and things are great between us. but we tend to have awkward silences whenever we talk on the phone, and it's really annoying. it also makes me feel bad because it seems like he's bored when we're not talking. what are things i can talk to him about? we talk about basically everything, but i need specific things i can talk to him about.


thanks.

well, since i personally don't know the guy, i can't tell you WHAT to specifically talk about, but here's what i do:
-ask him lots of questions. i mean, relevant to the subject, but just questions are always good! they keep guys talking, because most of them will generally not strike up completly random conversations.
-be random. if you think of something that will make him talk, say it. or if you did something cool that day, let him know.
-heart to hearts are always good. if you need help, ask him! he'll be there, adn it will keep you two talking.
-if he seems bothered, ask him if he needs to talk, and tell him you're there for him.
-play music in the back of the phone, that will strike up conversation. either that, or play a movie. an interesting one :P


hope this has helped at all!

xoxo
kat!

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I work as a service clerk in a drugstore, usually in 8-hour shifts. During this time I am either running around stocking things, helping people find things, or ringing people up, so I'm obviously on my feet the entire time. I am not allowed to wear sneakers or open-toed shoes, but by the end of the day my feet are killing me. I've tried wearing flats, vans, heels, kitten heels, and boots but they all were painful. Anyone have (a) any suggestions for close-toed, comfy shoes, or (b) any ideas to stop the pain?

hm.. you know those croc shoes? to me, they look like gardening shoes, but that dosen't matter, aha. anyways, my friend's mom, who is a nurse, has said they are VERY comfortable. as weird as they may look, they'll get you through the day, they're cheap, and no one will see your feet anyways :P

you can get them at payless/walmart/basically anywhere!

hope i've helped
xoxo
kat!

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im perty sure this question is probably asked alot but im just gonna ask 1more time! im 14(and a half lol) and hes 18.he gonna be a senior and im gonna be a freshman.i like him and he likes me.i wanna go with him but if i do he told me not to tell anybody cus it might be illegal!is it illegal to be with him?!? or is it only illegl if we participate in sexual acts?i just really dont want to get him in trouble if it is illegal!

it is not illegal to date him, but if you two were to participate in sexual acts, it would be considered statuatary rape. it's all about age; not whether you wanted to participate in the acts or not.

xoxo
kat.

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Can your metabolism change? Like if you have a slow metabolism over time can it change into a fast metabolism?

Same with fast metabolisms. If you have a fast metabolism can it change into a slower metabolism?

Thank you.

yes, it is possible in both situations. it all depends on when and what you eat. also, in what quantities.
if you would like to speed up your metabolism, try eating many small meals (five or six) a day, instead of three large ones. i know there are also some foods that speed your metabolism up, but i'm not quite sure of what..
to slow your metabolism down, i'm pretty sure you just eat larger meals, all at once.

hope i've helped!

xoxo
kat.

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i have the product red motorola razr from sprint. i want to lock my phone. when i go to settings, and then security, it says "enter lock code". i don't know my lock code- is their anyway i could find this code through internet or do i have to call? i just need to find out what i have to do.

hm.. i'm not completly sure if it's the same case, but with my phone (an lg) it was the last four numbers of my phoen number. try that out. if that dosen't work, try calling a number provided in your information pamphlet for your phone, or taking it to a store at the mall, and asking them what to do :)

xoxo
kat!

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I sorta want to get my tongue pierced :]
Does anybody have theirs done? How much does it hurt, and how long does it take to heal?
I mean, is it kinda wierd, because I'm kind of known as a prep, but I want to get it done...
Also, do guys prefer tongue pericings for kissing?

okay, so since i haven't personally had this peircing done, i am not sure what the pain range is. i'm sure it's not too bad. it honestly all depends on your pain tolerance, but it should compare to getting your ears peirced.
i know my cousin who had hers done had said it wasn't too painful, but in the first week or two, it IS difficult to eat, because your tongue is swollen. that's about how long it takes to heal, if it's done properly: two or three weeks, about.
basically, the only thing you'd have to worry about would be the swollen tongue part. just drink lots of fluids, and if you have to, get yourself some nutrition drinks or supplements, because i know it is hard to eat with your tongue all swollen. as far as i know, eating at any other time when it's healed is easy, though.
don't worry about what 'clique' you belong to, or anything! i'm actually sure your friends will find it very unique. i highly doubt anyone would be like "omg, ew. she got her tongue peirced.." haha. i'd say go for it!
and, i'm not sure on the guys thing, sorry. haha, i suppose it all depends on the guy..

hope i've helped you out. good luck!

xoxo
kat!

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has anyone used an ab product such as
the ab lounge or one of those ab balls
and do they actully work

i have heard some VERY good stories about the ab lounge! my friend who had been trying to get better abs did about 100 reps a night with it, and ended up seeing results in two or three weeks.
i'd definitely reccomend that. the ab balls.. i'm sure they're better than regular curlups, but if you've got a choice between that and the ab lounge, definitely go with the lounge. :)

xoxo
kat!

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do UV rays come through windows?

umhm, they do. of course, the amount all depends on the clarity of the window, but the answer to your question is yes :)

xoxo
kat!

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how old do you have to be to get a job at a tanning bed?

it all really depends on what job you want, specifically. around here, it's sixteen or seventeen for a real job, but some hire at fifteen for jobs like cleaning up/ect.
i'd say to check around your city for ones that will hire young, and ask them about any possible job openings. :)

hope i've helped.

xoxo
kat!

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How do you break up with someone who really really loves you, without hurting them? How can you let them know that they're really great, but you just can't be with them?

this is always been a problem of mine. in fact, the reason my relationships are so long, is because i've always waited around for the guy to break up with me. but here's what i've told my friends to do in the past:
i personally think writing it out is so much easier. that way, you get your word in, and you won't forget your points (it's so much easier to forget what you want to say when you're under pressure, like that).
if writing is not for you, make sure you two are alone when you do it. that way, it's less embarassing.
make sure of two main things. let him have a say. this dosen't mean, let him get his way. but it does mean that he deserves a chance to say what's on his mine, aswell. also, make sure your reasons for breaking up are all true, and fairly straightforward. don't go around things; be completly honest! i've learned this the hard way, because you end up having to lie in the future. for example, if it's not true, don't say you don't want a boyfriend at the moment, or you don't want to date, or something like that..
you could tell him that you think he's amazing, but you two arent' exactly compadible anymore.
really, the whole thing is to be honest. try to list the reasons to yourlself, and then write out what you'd like to say in a calm, kind manner.
really, write it out as if someone else were writing it to you. think about how you would feel reading it, i guess..

i know this has been long, but i really hope it helps you out, somehow!

best of luck!!!

xoxo
kat.

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okay so i want to get a tattoo of a small butterfly on my shoulder (color: dark blue, dark purple, or black), but i'm asking for honest opinions whether people will think that it looks trashy with a wedding dress when i get married because you will be able to see it.

honest opinions please!

thanks in advance

i honestly think it would look really cool! you should be unique with it. if you want it to match with your dress better, make sure it's VERY small, like, about the size of a penny, possibly, and have it be one solid color. prefferaly black.
that way, it will match with things in the future, and will look good with your wedding dress.
i don't think a tatoo would look trashy, unless you get a large, multi colored, very intricate kind of thing.

congradulations on the wedding, and good luck wiht your tattoo! :)

xoxo
kat!

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so i`ve been dating my boyfriend since july 4th of last year, so it`s almost 1 year.
i love him alot, but we fight ALOT. is that normal? we fight over stupid things and both get pissed off super easy, and it really makes me so mad sometimes. i don`t know how much of the fighting i can take, but i don`t want to break up with him. i`ve talked to hima bout it, but he thinks we`re fine. he knows i hate it, but neither of us can help getting mad.

what should i do?

hey,
okay, you two have been together for a year. first off, congradulations on that! this would probably be easier to answer if your age were provided, but here's how i see it:
it is definitely normal for you two to fight. and it's better for it to be over the stupid things. fighting shows you're both comfortable to point out flaws in things, and you should be worried if there's NO fighting.
fighting is also a sign of maturity in your relationship, and the ability to point things out, when they're bothering you. it's ultimately a good thing, if you look at it in that perspective, but i know the feeling of a fight cannot be fun, so..
i'd say, try to be more easy going. i know, the fights cannot be all your fault, but when you feel something annoying you that he's doing, just kind of forget about it, and just give him a big hug, or just plain walk out of the room (pertend you have something to do, don't act mad). it's sometimes better to ignore the small things.. i know it will be hard, but really, try it out. if you have to, pretend you're happy, and you eventually will be. i know, it sounds horrible, but really.. try it out!!
if this seems to cause more of a problem, then, in your next fight, drop everything, and flat out ask if he thinks you two are going to be okay. really let him know what's bothering you, and dont leave anything out, or that will cause more arguements.
don't let the little things break you two up. remember to always look at the good things, and maybe let him read this, and all of the other answers you get, if you two need reassurance.

best of luck, and i hope this helps in any way!!

xoxo
kat!

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is there a website that does that .. like that exact style?

cos i went on imagechef.com and they didnt have it and i really like that one in the link

sorry, but no. there are no websites able to do that, because that picture was made personally by someone, not generated. :(

xoxo
kat!

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Hey, I just read a question on here asking how long a surf bracelet takes to shrink and I was wondering, what is a surf bracelet? Thank you!

okay, so i had one of these and didn't even realize it, but here's what it is:
it's basically like any other decorative bracelet, but it shrinks with time in the water. i guess it's to show how much you're in the water.
alot of people who are really into surfing wear them, hence the name 'surf bracelet'.
i hope this has helped, and i'm sorry if any of my information is wrong, but this is what i've learned about it. :)

xoxo
kat!

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how does society dictate who is good looking and who isn't? what do these people have in common? (skinny, high cheekbones?)

i'm not sure where the mindset started, but there's all something we see in a face that makes us think "oh, he/she's good looking."
it's all different for every person, but usually the things that stand out are:

-unique/large eyes
-symmetry between two sides of the face (features match up on each side, i guess)
-larger/fuller lips
-even, clear skin tone
-usually, higher cheek bones (you were right)
-skinny, or with healthy curves

i honestly look at uniqueness, though. remember, everyone's gorgeous in their own way, and everyone looks at people in different ways. i don't believe that there are certain features that make a person pretty or not, because anyone can be gorgeous, not depending on race, size, ect. :)

xoxo
kat!

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do people of a different race have different texture hair?

that's a yes. i'm not sure of the reason why, but some races hair differ from others :)

xoxo
kat.

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are there any asians here with dyed hair like blue, green, purple, or pink? how do i do it without looking like an anime character?

hm.. i know there used to be this girl on disney channel with the tips of her hair dyed red.. her hair looked really cool..
i say to go for it. i doubt you'll look like an anime character, unless your makeup is like, hardcore heavy and crazy, haha.

what i'd reccomend, is frosting your tips with a bright color, or just getting plain hilights. if you'd like to try with temporary dye, first, i'd say to go for it. better safe, than sorry :)

best of luck! i hope i've helped!!

xoxo
kat!

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