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Hi. I've lived quite a life since childhood. My parents divorced when I was 14. I was married at 19 and only lasted about a year and a half. Then I really explored my sexual side because I thought I was a failure with my parents and my own love life. For a while during that time, I thought I was going to become a lesbian because I was feed up with men. I traveled around the country and stayed at different relatives homes for a while. I even tried college for a short time but always felt lost. I finally settled down at 30 with a decent, loving man, that treats me well. I hope that I can help you if you decide to come to me for advice.

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i found my grandfather Bib Overalls from when he was a kid. They are for a 4 or 5 year old and he was born in 1912, so I estimated them to be 1916 or 1917 kids Bib Overalls levi Strauss jeans. They have the old buttons from that era and also the rivets that are from the early 1900's. I would like to find similar picturs so I can see if anyone else has them and I also want to know how rare they are. If you have a starting price for an auction that would be great as well. Thank you. You can contact me via
sharkysorganicshaveice@hotmail.com

Thanks Again,

james

I know that older adult Levis can fetch some good money but I'm not sure about the kid one's. If you can't find it on e-bay, check out this website.
http://www.mademan.com/mm/how-find-value-vintage-levi-jean--0.html
If you don't want to wait, then I would suggest taking it to a local antique store and they can guide you in the right direction. I hope this helps and good luck.

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15/f
I started looking at, well I wouldn't nessicarially call it porn, but I guess you would. But I have been looking at "porn" since I was like 5....nothin ever happened...and its not a girl and guy, its 2 men...is it normal that I look at it at my age? Or am I like some weird girl pervert? I mean I have a whole collecton on my phone and computer and only my 2 friends that I know really really well and sister and brother know...and they have never told my parents...so was it normal of me to look at 2 men doing it when I was 5 and is it normal now?
P.s...this is probably in the wrong catogorie...

Kids are very impressionable at a young age, so if you were exposed to 2 men having sex at five, then that's a good reason why you're turned on by it now. My dad had a lot of lesbian porn when I was young and I would look at it and eventually masturbate to it all the time. So, everyone has their own taste as to what turns them on. When you turn 18, maybe you can find 2 men who'll let you watch and you can fulfill your fantasy. I hope this helps and good luck.

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How do you know you have reached well.....an orgasm...or that "O".........sorry little embarrassing...my sister isn't here right now so I can ask her....I'm just new to this stuff and its pretty much my first trying.....I mean I have thought of doing it...but scared that I would feel disgusted and stuff cause I go 2 catholic school...but when I tried it...I really didn't know what I was doing....so....embarrassing to ask..but...any advice on that?

15/f

Sweetie, you are perfectly fine for asking. I know that they teach you abstanance and masturbation is wrong too but every catholic girl I knew did it, so your definately not alone. When you have an orgasm, your body shakes, your face gets flushed and you feel a little weak. If you want to try to have an "O", start off slow. Rub your breasts and tease your nipples slightly. Run your hands across your body and lightly tease your clit. You'll want to rub it hard at first but resist the urge because your clit will get sore or tender and you won't be able to cum. After you've teased yourself. then you can start rubbing around your clit and then concentrate on the clit. When you feel yourself wanting to rub harder and faster, your probably close to orgasm. Close your eyes and think about something that excites you and let yourself cum. Eventually you'll feel comfortable and be able to find something around the house that you can use as a toy (dildo). If you have any other questions. please ask.

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Well.....i am a 15 year old girl...and recently I have masturbated.....but....everytime I do...I feel guitly and dirty...and I don't want to continue...I want to ask my sister, or brother, or even my parents..but I'm scared to...I keep thinking they will laugh or get mad at me....and say that I am disgusting...so I just wanna know...Is it bad or wrong? And why?

When I was your age, I was playing with myself 2 or 3 times a day....so, yes it's perfectly normal. I went to my older sister for a lot of advice and wisdom about that and other things that I was scared to ask my mom about. I just wonder if you feel guily after you've had an orgasm or just during the act. I can uderstand the guilty feelings after you "O" because your body has pleasure but your mind sometimes thinks that you didn't deserve it. Just try to let your mind relax and enjoy yourself. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask. I hope this helps and good luck

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wht does the number 11 mean? is it kind of like 69 or what!? i dont know.. anybody have an answer!?

The Kama Sutra book lists position # 11 as the crab's position. This is a highly pleasurable position that constricts the vagina around the penis. It is done by having the woman lying on her back, bending and drawing in both legs and
resting her thighs on her stomach. It somehow looks like a crab retracting its claws. The man can enter from a kneeling position. Or it may mean you have sex standing next to each other. I hope this helps and good luck.

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F/ 18.
HJ= Hand Job.
okay so i was wondering, how i could give my bf a hj?

Check out redtube.com or xhamster.com and search for handjobs. Find one that you think will work best for your situation. I hope this helps and good luck.

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I am fifteen, a sophomore in high school. So I have been dating a guy for about two months now. We are perfect for each other: amazing chemistry, a lot in common, etc. I really feel like I love him. I have known him for a long time, since August.

We have kissed several times and he loves to cuddle and hold me. He wants to go to second base but I say no when he asks, only because I am not ready. I mean, I want to, but I am still shy and a little battered from my past relationship because it was constant physical love that pushed me to the edge. He is helping me get through my insecurites. I want to make him happy and pleasure him by letting him feel me up. But he understands if I am not ready.

Truthfully I have mixed feelings. I feel like if I do, all the romance and love will fade away. But then I feel like if I don't, he'll get bored with me in time. What do I do?

I think your fear may not be about letting him go to second base but the eventuality that he'll want third base and the final home run. He's a boy and boys will always want to go further. If he respects you and he's truly the one for you, he'll wait till you think the time is right. Let him know now how you feel about it, because if you're not truthful about things now, he may leave you down the line. You should never have to give up your body when your not ready, just to keep a boy. I hope this helps and good luck.

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So one day i got in the car with my girlfriend and noticed that my set was moved. she was driving. i am normally the only one that sits there, and i noticed the broken window was moved differently then wat it was the night before. mind yu my gf goes to school, and i dnt. she droped me off at my house and the window an chair was normal. she goes to school an backand its all different. Also, i found a t-shirt that wasnt mine nor hers in her car. along with underwear (i wear boxers she wears xsmall, and the underwear were a medium. i asked her about it calmly and she fliped broke up wit me ect. accused me of accusing her for cheatin. she has already lefted me for my bestfriend. we been together 5 months...
should i be worried... what does this all mean.. help me guys!

I can totally understand your situation. When I was your age, there were a few 16 year olds I wouldn't have minded being with. But the truth is, you should probably end this relationship. She's still young and a little immature for a serious relationship. Also being young, means she wants to play the field a little and see what else is out there. The other problem that could incour, is she gets really mad at you for something, she goes to the cops and then you get to go to jail for rape because she's underage. I know you may think she's the one for you but her actions seem like she doesn't feel the same. I think it's time to let her go and find someone else and hopefully over the age of 18. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask me. I hope this helps and good luck.

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Okay... I am doing this for the very first time but nevertheless probably my last try at self help..this is 26 female.
I am the edge of insanity.. i am in a very troubled relationship.. married for 5 years now.. My husband doesn't earns a penny, doesn't allows me to go and fetch for myself, hes got a loan of 500000$, no child. hes constantly fighting, he rendered me homeless on 3 counts, but then took me back. right now m homeless again, living in motels of the money loaned from friends. I'm planning to divorce him, but he wont let me go. I have given him enough chances. but i am not sure what i should do next. suicide seems the most appropriate. PLZ help. ANYONE!

I'm guessing you don't have aany family nearby or that's willing to help. I would find a womens shelter and find a way to leave the city or even state your in and get far away from him. Get a job and start supporting yourself, make some new friends and get your own apartment. When you've settled down and saved up some money, you can hire an attorney and the proceed with the divorce. Don't let him dictate how you live your life. If he won't give you a divorce right now, screw him and stay far away. If you're really fearful of him though, you should get a restraining order before you do anything else. I really hope the best for you and good luck.

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Me and my ex husband have been divorced close to a year. I share my home with my adult (26 years old) daughter. My youngest son, 9, lives with us.

Anyway, I'm moving forward with my life and I've began dating. Nothing serious, but I enjoy spending time with this man. I have him over for dinner sometimes. Unfortunately my daughter, for some reason does not like him and is rude to him when he visits. ( I don't know why she dislikes him.) This puts my boyfriend off and I've been seeing less of him lately. One time she went ballistic when he took me out for dinner. She dates and I don't say a word! I wonder why she's acting this way. The divorce isn't entirely my fault and my ex initiated it.
Anyway, she seems to think I should be alone the rest of my life while she does her own thing. I've told her time and again I had my own life to live. Frankly, I'm getting tired of her childish behavior. What should I do or say?
Thanks for all who will post.

If she doesn't like the way things are, she can go live with her dad or anyone else that can put up with her. I'm sure you like having her around for an occasional babysitter but you have to weigh out the options of what makes you happy. If you think she won't change, you may want to lay down the law and give her those options. I hope this helps and good luck.

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ok so my mom is on facebook like all of the time and she never freaking gets off of it! every time i try to talk to her about anything, she tells me to shut up and go away. so i really dont know what to do anymore because its been like this for 2 or 3 years now and once when my dad confronted her about it she drove off and he was driven to tears (and ive never once seen him cry in my life) so that was the end of that and ive tried everything and it just never stops no matter what. please answer if u r in similar situation or if u have good advice. thanks in advance!

First thing would be to take away the modem or the ethernet cable. Then find a family friend or some other close relatives and have an intervention. Let her know how much it hurts all of you. Most people can regulate their time between real life and computer life. She seems to need this escape to a fantasy world and you need to find out why. It could be she's unhappy with your dad or work or life in general. Either way, she's going to need some outside help to make her realize what's going on. I hope this helps and good luck.

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I'm a 14 year old chick and I have a soft spot in my heart for horror movie psychos. I absolutely adore Leatherface. This can't possibly be normal, is it?

My niece loves really scary movies and she's your age. I love them too but my husband doesn't care for them very much. As long as you don't have a chainsaw under your bed or have a machete close by, you're just fine watching scary movies. I hope this helps and good luck.

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oh nice lol.are you like married? like hw do you no al of this?

I've been married for 5 yrs and I was pretty promiscuous in my younger years, which gave my a lot of sexual knowledge and I traveled around a lot also. So I've seen a lot of cultures and met a lot of interesting people in my travels. Julie

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Well everyone thinks that my 7th grade science teacher is Lesbian she talks like a man and dresses like one and her fb pages looks like it. Sheee even looks like it. Also she isn't in a relationship and she likes rock music and electric guitars and well guy stuff. Plus me and my friend just got on her profile and looked at her pictures and she looked well lesbo. So I was just wondering do u think she is? how else can u tell...?...it feels akward being around her.

You should never feel awkward being around a lesbian or a homosexual or an african american or a chinese or mexican or anyone at all. People are people, plain and simple. If she prefers the company of women, then good for her. If she prefers to be alone, good for her. It shouldn't matter her sexual preference as long as she's a good teacher and knows her subjects. You don't have to like everyone in the world or feel pressured to be friends with someone because you feel guilty about something but you should never judge a friendship by their sexuality. If you don't want to be friends or be around her that's fine but she would probably appreciate it if you didn't go around school spreading rumors or talking about her behind her back. I hope this helps and good luck.

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My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now, and I've been noticing that our sex life is getting crappier and crappier, at least for me, because its becoming more and more about him. I have tried talking to him about it, telling him what I like, etc, but it doesn't help. We don't even kiss or cuddle anymore, if he wants sex (which isn't very often, about once every two weeks) he'll just poke me with it. If he wants head he'll just nudge my head down there. I can't remember the last time he touched me in a way that would bring me pleasure.

In all other aspects of the relationship he's great. I love him, but the crappy sex life is becoming a really big issue for me, and I don't know how to get him to understand that (he has a low sex drive anyway). I don't know if bad sex is worth breaking up over, if I'm completely happy with everything else.

All I want is some attention on me during sex, because I know if that were to happen it would get a million times better. It would show me he cared about me and my pleasure as well. And don't tell me to not give him any until he starts acting right, because I don't think that would solve anything and would just create resentment on his side.


What do I do?

(I'm 20, he's 25)

There may be some underlying issues going on with him, that he's not telling you. There's a possibility that he doesn't really want to be with you anymore or that he's seeing someone else behind your back. He also sounds like he's still a bit immature to be acting this way without a good reason. If you talk to him and things don't change or they change for a short time and go back to the crappy sex, it may be time to move on and find someone that will treat you the way you deserve. I hope this helps and good luck.

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everytime we have sex he gets off and i dont the moment he is done there is no fooling around extra bit or anything. its he is done now i feel used and depressed because once again i dont feel satisfied. then it makes me not want to have sex at all. are there different tips we can try or something new we can do for both of us?

Don't let him inside of you until you're good and worked up. Make sure there's lots of foreplay. Have slow kissing and touching sessions before you even take your clothes off. Have him play with your hair a little. Don't let him just grab your breasts or stick his fingers inside. Have him caress your breasts and tease the nipples. Gentle teasing on your clit will get your juices flowing. Then when you've got your mind and body into it, you can let him inside of you slowly. When he's inside, try to control the rhythm. Don't be afraid to rub your clit while he's going. When he looks like he's ready to cum, pull it out and squeeze it a little to stop him. Give it about 10 seconds or so and let him go back inside. If he can't accommodate your needs or seem to care about your feelings, it may be time to find someone who cares enough to make sure your happy. I hope this helps and good luck.

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thanks you have helped. so how old are you anyways?

35...not 75 like after my name. That number is from the year I was born.

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ok so how do you no if u do it right?

If he moans a lot and if you can bring him to orgasm, then you've done a good job. My best advice is to not actually suck on it but use your tongue, mouth and hand on his penis. Get a good rythym going up and down and if you can tolerate it, let him cun in your mouth and let it run down the side of his penis until he's finished. He'll definately love that. If you need any other help, please feel free to ask.

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what do you think guys like more, bjs or handies? and when in a relationship would be the right time to do this?

I don't think you'll find a guy that will turn down a good bj as long as it's done right. The right time would be when you're ready to please him but not ready to have sex. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask. I hope this helps and good luck.

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If my boyfriend ask me to marry him at the age of 14 does this mean he really does love me

You're both a little to young to know what love truly is. I'm sure you care for each other and have strong feelings towards each other but not enough to be married. More than likely he's doing what he needs to, to get in your pants. Boys will do or say almost anything they can to make a girl feel good. And when a girl feels good, they'll do anything to make him feel good, which includes sex. So my advice would be to take things slowly and enjoy each others company. Let the relationship runs it's natural course and if you're still together after you graduate, then you can discuss marriage. I hope this helps and good luck.

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