|
I'm planning to divorce him, but he wont let me go. Is suicide my only way out?
Okay... I am doing this for the very first time but nevertheless probably my last try at self help..this is 26 female.
I am the edge of insanity.. i am in a very troubled relationship.. married for 5 years now.. My husband doesn't earns a penny, doesn't allows me to go and fetch for myself, hes got a loan of 500000$, no child. hes constantly fighting, he rendered me homeless on 3 counts, but then took me back. right now m homeless again, living in motels of the money loaned from friends. I'm planning to divorce him, but he wont let me go. I have given him enough chances. but i am not sure what i should do next. suicide seems the most appropriate. PLZ help. ANYONE!
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Sexual Health and Reproduction category?
Maybe give some free advice about: General Sex Questions?
First, are you in the US? Is your cultural backgroun. d American? It sounds as if there are legal or cultural reasons preventing you from just walking out. If you are in the US, you don't need his permission to a divorce. If not, can you get out of the area or, better yet, the country? Are you at risk if you leave him without a divorce? I don't argue with the other posters, I just am not sure they apply to your situation. If you can, please post back with more about where you live so we can help identify resources for you.
]
I would divorce him he is not making life any better for you. You need to get out of this and get your self a job and start fresh. Talk to your friends about it, have them help you get a job and a place to live. And no suicide is never the option. You will be so much happier if you get out of this marriage and start fresh!
]
I'm guessing you don't have aany family nearby or that's willing to help. I would find a womens shelter and find a way to leave the city or even state your in and get far away from him. Get a job and start supporting yourself, make some new friends and get your own apartment. When you've settled down and saved up some money, you can hire an attorney and the proceed with the divorce. Don't let him dictate how you live your life. If he won't give you a divorce right now, screw him and stay far away. If you're really fearful of him though, you should get a restraining order before you do anything else. I really hope the best for you and good luck.
]
Hun suicide is never an option and the only reason he wants you around is you are paying his bills and you are supporting him. You deserve a man who is going to get his ALL into making you happy and he is out there for you. you just have to wait for him to come around in the mean time drop the baggage (your husband) divorce him. if he constantly bugs you harrasses you get a restraining order he breaks this restraining order hell be arrested i dont know you but i have faith in you. you can be strong and dont give into this man no matter how hard it gets.
]
Suicide is never the answer.
Hi, I'm old enough to be your father and almost old enough to be your grandfather. Hopefully the wisdom of my age will show you the right path to follow.
The first thing we need to do is to get you to a safe place. Check and see if there is a House of Ruth in your area. The House of Ruth helps battered and abused women. You are an abused women, maybe not physically but definitely you have suffered from mental anguish and abuse from your husband. If there is a House of Ruth in your area contact them and ask for help.
IF there is no House of Ruth in your area I would like you to contact an organization called RAINN. This stands for Rape,Abuse, Incest, National Network. They operate a 24/7 national hotline; 1 800-656-HOPE. Through RAINN you will be put in touch with professional in your area that can help you get out from under your husbands abuse.
With the Help of the House of Ruth or RAINN you need to do the following:
Contact a good divorce lawyer. If you did not participate in getting the $5K loan then he most likely forged or had someone stand in for you. Banks do not give out $5K loans to the unemployed. If your husband did perpetrate a fraud in obtaining a loan the lawyer will see to it you are not responsible for any repayment.
Get help for the mental abuse you have suffered. You are feeling suicidal because you are depressed from the abuse you have suffered. Suicide is not the answer. Getting the help you need to get out from under the abuse is and then getting help in understanding this is not your fault, is the answer. Talk therapy and possibly medication for a short period of time will help you get your life back on track.
If you feel you are in jeopardy, that your husband could do you physical harm if he were to find you then contact the police.
Most important and if you are feeling suicidal at this time or anytime in the future; either pick up the phone and call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room. Do not worry about the cost or if you have insurance coverage. You will be treated regardless of whether you can pay.
If for some reason you cannot get to the hospital or can't get to a phone go to the nearest fire station. Fire stations are safe havens for children and abused women.
]
first off. DO NOT COMMIT SCUICIDE! That is a big no!! Go to the cops, tell them your situation, They can most likly direct you to an agency supporting women trying to get out a abusive/threatning relationship.. Or stay at a friends house. Worst comes to worse, Go to your parents untill you can get enough money for a restarining order agenst him, then get a divorce.
]
More Questions: |