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Okay, last year my friend Chris was such an idiot to me because i was younger, we were never more than friends that made fun of each other and stuff like that just to have a good time. But this year he completely caught me off guard. He's so nice to me and every time i've been in a bad mood or really upset he's always been next to me asking me if i was ok and just kinda letting me know i could talk to him. We actually talk and chill together and he tells me whats going on with him and all his funny stories just to cheer me up. He knows i have some problems in my life but he's never bugged me about them and he knows when there's stuff i cant tell him. Recently i told him i was so sick of my family and friends that i didnt want to go to school and all i did was steal alcohol, but now i cant steal it bc my parents are watching now, so he says that i can meet his friends and call him or them ne time so i can get a ride away from wherever i am and drink at their houses to get my mind off things. I think i really like him now because he seems a lot like me minus my family and friend problems. I want to know what i can do now, bc im waiting for someone to ask me out, but thats also one of my problems, if anyone understands him and why he's acting like this all of a sudden, plz tell me, he's my best friend and i dont know what to do now. (link)
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Well, I don't think you should drink to get your mind off of things or steal because that's the steps to becoming an alcoholic, but you didn't ask about that. Um, I guess it depends on which one you like more. Talk to your friend to make sure that he likes you and if you like him more than forget the other guy. Your friend might just have suddenly understood your life and so he's being nice about it. I think you should just talk to your friend to make sure you know what's going on.
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my friend is quite the slut..im not being mean or anything but she is..shes had 13 boyfriends since september and had sex with 8 of them..how do i tell her what she is doing is wrong and that she should stop b/c its not helping her reputation..and how do i tell her w/o her getting pissed off and taking it the rite way x33 cOnfUsEd (link)
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You need to tell her straight up because she might not listen any other way. Don't just go out and call her a slut, but let her know that what she's doing is not right or good. She might not care and like the way she is acting or think anything is wrong with it. In that case, if you don't agree with it then you'll just have to stop being her friend. There is always a possibility of her getting upset, so it just depends on if you are willing to take the chance. Also, listen to her point of view on the whole thing. There might be something going on that you don't know about and maybe you can help her through it.
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Okay, me and my boyfriend have been going out for 3 weeks. We have gone out for the same amount of time before, and I was the one that broke it off. I didn't feel it was right to go out with him when I just wanted to be friends. Well now, I am not happy in our relationship... AGAIN. He is not supportive at all, and I am the kind of girl that likes the single life. I don't like spending time with him, and I don't feel like there is butterflies in my stomach at all when I see him. But I will feel bad for breaking up with him AGAIN, and everybody will be mad at me and call me a whore. Should I break up with him anyway, or stick with him and make myself happy?
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You need to talk to him. It is not fair for him to be in a relationship when you are not fully commmitted. It's going to go down the drain no matter what eventually so you might as well let him know. Explain to him all of your feelings and how you feel. It might be turn out better than before. People might call you a whore and get mad, but then atleast you'll know who your real friends are. In the end, these people won't matter anyways so just be fair to him. Sorry, if this isn't what you wanted to hear and if this didn't help.
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One of my best friends used to have this "thing" with this guy. They seemed perfect for each other. But he stopped talking to her and pretty much dumped her, even though they weren't dating. She still has really strong feelings for him and I was there for her throughout the entire time. Now, I'm beginning to like this guy, and well he likes me too. My friend suspects something is up and I don't know what to do because I don't want to hurt her in any way. But I think I really like this guy, and he really seems into me too, but I know my friend would be devastated if I started dating him. Like I said I don't know what to do. She's one of my best friends and I don't want to lose her as a friend. Do I tell her that I like him or not? What do I do about this guy? Do I pursue a relationship or what? I really need some advice! Please help!
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Guys come and go, but friends are always there. (I think there's some saying for that, but that's not the point.) You should talk about it with her and see how she feels about it. Talk to her about why she still has feelings for him and maybe even try to get her to like someone else. If she approves(which the way you described it she probably won't), then make sure she won't ever be bitter about it because girls say one thing and sometimes mean another. If she doesn't approve, then you have to decide who means more to you, your friend or this guy. Keep in mind that whatever relationship you have with this guy might not even last that long, while friendships can last forever. Sorry, if that wasn't any help.
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OK, there are 2 parts to this. There is this guy at my school that I really like and I know he likes me back!! But I don't know how to tell him!! I had a crush on him since last year and people say I should ask him out. But you see, I have NEVER been on a date and I'm 13 years old!! Everytime I think about him I feel like I want to kiss him so badly. He just got a haircut and now he looks even cuter, that it's driving me crazy!! OK, the 2nd part is that ever since these 2 girls found out that we liked each other they have been teasing like "So, how's your boyfriend?" He has been acting weird like we used to flirt a lot and he would always smile at me and do nice things to me now he doesn't do that anymore!! Do you think he dosn't like me no more!!?? PLEASE TELL ME!! Sorry it's so long!! (link)
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13 year old guys are confusing. He might just be shy and he might not know how to handle the whole situation. Let him make the first move so if he does like you he won't be uncomfortable and he can do it on his own terms. He also could just be a nice kid and you could be getting the wrong signals. If he doesn't like you, then he just won't ask you out and that will be the end of it. If he is just a nice kid, that might explain why he's acting weird. He might not want to be giving you the wrong signals, so he's just staying away from you all together.
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okay so .. i broke up with this guy a little while ago. But when i see him i still think about him. My friends say i should go back out with him .. but i dont want to .. i dont think im the type of girl to have a boyfriend but i also like having one too. I dont know what i should do. I dont even know if he still likes me. I think i just still have left over feelings for him but i dont think i could go back out with him. I kinda want to .. but then again im talking to another boy .. so i dont know what to do .. (link)
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If there is a hint of doubt, I don't think you should. You might just be lonely and when you go back out with this guy you might figure out that you really don't like him you just want a guy. Keep talking to the other guy and you'll figure out what you want. If you really wanted to be with him, you would know.
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Well i have a boyfriend that ive been with for almost 6 months but ive known him for 5 years. He is a very jealous guy because that is the way he was brought up he is very sweet and loves to buy me things! I have another guy who is very nice and sweet also. LIke last week i went to his house and he had a cute teddy bear for me, when i talk to him on the phone he talks to me like he's known me for ever. He says stuff like "i love you", "i want to be with you forever and i will never leave you". He's very sweet like. I dont see my boyfriend only on weekends because he works 2 jobs. Like i said everytime i talk to him he is so sweet and my boyfriend is not that sweet. well i dont want to fall i love with this guy what should i do? please reply!!! (link)
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Well, you can't stop youself from falling in love. If it happens, it happens. I think you're already starting to have feelings for this guy and it seems like you're not so into your boyfriend anymore. If you realize that you're really starting to have feelings for this other guy, you need to break up with your boyfriend because it wouldn't be fair for him to have you liking someone else. It seems like that's the way things happen, but you never know. It seems like you've had a good friendship with your boyfriend so if you do break up with him try nad keep that. It might not be possible if he is the jealous type and he sees that you dumped him for someone else, but it's worth a shot. I just think you need to stop the feelings with one guy or another before you hurt someone's feelings because it seems like you are leading them both on. I'm sorry if that's not what you wanted to hear, but that's what I'm getting from the situation.
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i used to go out with this guy. he wasnt exactly a loser but some ppl thought he was. so i got really insecure about it and stupidly dumped him. this happened about 4 weeks ago. lately i have started to regret dumping him and i miss him so much!! should i tell him this? (link)
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You don't deserve him. If you are willing to dump him because of what people think of him, then who's to say you won't do it again. I know this is harsh and maybe even mean, but it's true. It's not fair to him for you to dump him because people said he was a loser and then want to go out with him again. Sometimes you just have to live with your regrets and learn from them.
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ok there's this boy i like but i don't know what to tell him i'm only a 13 tear old girl wh's really cofussed i don't know if he likes me. How do i find out if he likes me back? My best friend asked him out for me but he said no but now me and him are becoming really really good friends an i don't want to ruein our friendship. what sould i do? (link)
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First thing, never have a friend ask someone out for you. If you really like the person, then you can do it yourself. Secondly, he might not like you back. He might just like you as a friend and you'll have to accept that. Since you already made a move and showed your feelings, he needs to make the next one to decide if you two should go out. He knows your feelings so it's kind of all on him now. Just be friends with him right now and everything else will figure itself out.
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Ok.. hi. See me & my sister are like 9 years apart, she's 23 & I'm 14. She is always talkin bout how I shouldn't be mean to her, but she used to ditch me for her friends & crap. Ok, well, she's all of a sudden wanted to be "sisters" and I'm just like, no. She's all whiny & she's babyish. It really gets on my nerves but, when I wanna spend time with her she's always "busy". Ok well we have alot in common but she wont open up to me & tell me about her problems. She goes & tells mom (BIG mistake). Then mother goes & tells daddy & they talk about her so bad. I dont know what to do! I know I don't like her sometimes but hey, she's my sister. Please help!! (link)
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Well part of it is, when you want to hang out with her she doesn't want to, and when she wants to hang out with you you don't want to. Neither of you are letting the other one in. It's kind of both of your faults. I guess you both just need to try more and you two need to talk. Maybe then she can understand how you resent how she ditched you and you can understand how she feels. Maybe this is unrealistic advice and it would be really awkward to talk to her, but the only other way to fix it would be to wait until both get older and can deal with each other better.
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Hi, I'm a girl, freshman, and I am 14.
I have been dating my boyfriend, who is 15, for about a month and three weeks. It was perfect at first and just went down. I don't know what happened. We went to the movies and had a great time, but it got worse and he stopped talking to me. I wondered what was wrong. My friends told me that he was a crack head and shouldn't go out with him, but I liked him so I didn't listen. We had tons of fun. I got tons of pictures with me and him together. I also have his sweater at home. But recently he has had a flirting problem and flirted with every girl in front of me. I got mad and sad and ended up getting my friends to talk to him for me. My friends said he was going to break up with me. I was so sad. Then they said he wanted to dump me because I'm too immature. My friend said he was cheating on me, but I wouldn't believe it. He also made me cry by joking around with me saying he would break up with me a few times and he told like a lot of people he made me cry at school.
Today my life ended and he dumped me. I ended up crying my heart out. After school I talked to him and asked why. He said I acted like a baby. I was sad. Then this girl came up and asked if he was coming to her house. I was shocked! I couldn't believe it. The next thing I knew they were walking around holding hands like lovers. I yelled FU at them, but I don't think they heard it. Then I was so pissed off. My bus came. I got on it. I was so mad and started yelling FU and flipping off everyone out of the bus window and started crying to death; thinking about that girl and the good times we had together. Then I saw him walking with the girl far away. I flipped them off, but they didn't see. After that I cried so much on the bus for about an hour and I seriously almost threw-up.
This is the worst day of my life. I can't stop thinking about him because I still love him so much. He was so nice and sweet. I don't think I will ever get over him. Can someone please just give advice how I can get over him because I don't think I ever will and just thinking about him makes me cry and feel like I'm about to get sick even more...
Thanks so much for the help....
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He is not worth your tears. If he's a crackhead, then he would be trouble even if he didn't break up with you. He was going to cause you pain no matter what. If he did that to you, he's obviously going to do that to the next girl. You need someone who will actually be in a relationship, so just remember that. It's going to be hard getting over him, but remember that you're worth more than what he gave you. Don't let him affect you anymore. Pretend he doesn't exist. Next time you get in a relationship, listen to your friends opinions and take them into consideration. Most of the time they are right.
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I'e been going out with this guy for about 1 month. My best friend and 2 guy friends say i should break up with him because he treats me like crap. He is always on other girls and every now and then he cusses me out for stupid reasons. What should I do?? (link)
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Dump his good for nothing butt. If more than one friend says the same thing, then it's probably true and you should listen to them. Trust your friends over us because they have a personal connection with you, but I agree with them you should break up with him. He has no right to cuss you out and if he is going out with you then he has no right being all over other girls. Move on to someone who is actually worth your time.
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i was @ my friends house and i stole 40$ should i give it back, because she has no idea it was in her closet. (link)
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Yeah you need to give it back. I'm sorry, but that is a stupid question. Just because she didn't know it was in there and she doesn't know you stole it, doesn't make it right. You need to be upfront with her and let her know what you did and give her back her money.
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Sry so long!!! well theres this guy that ive had a thing with for a like 3 months or so and its been off and on. Well the other night i was drunk with 2 of my friends. And this guy came over and he was sober. One of my friends was pretty much passed out and she has a bf too...well this guy decided to take advantage of her and make out with her and i think maybe even more...not so sure though...after he made out with her he would come over to me and start taking advantage of me...well i didnt know that he was doing that until my other friend the only one who didnt do anything with this guy told me the next morning what went on. I want to end this thing with this guy because of what happened, but i still like him and i cant help it. what should i do? (link)
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End it!! If he's taking advantage of you AND your friends, then he is not worth your time. You will find someone better than him and realize that he was a waste of your time. You'll probably like him still for awhile because that's just how it is, but you'll eventually get over him and find someone better.
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Ok Heres my question
My friend ×Kitty× is dating my sisters guy friend. This guy friend is 16 and Kitty is 14. She and i are in middle school and hes in high skool. My sister tells me that Kittys Boyfriend is cheating on kitty, like my sister sees him at Partys wit other girls and gets other gurls numbers and shit like that. I tell Kitty then she asks him and of course he says no he would never cheat on her. he has even told me sister after he and her have sex that he will break up wit her and i told her that and she wouldnt talk to me for a week. How do i get her to realize that he is cheating on her?! (link)
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She probably won't realize it until she witnesses it for herself. If you have already told her and she didn't believe you, then nothing is going to change her mind. She is in denial and just doesn't want to believe it. I'm sorry I couldn't really help you but that's what I think.
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Hummm, Soo for the soccer team we have to buy gifts for people and it is supposed to be secret...Hints the name Secret Santa..The girl that I picked is really stuck up and I know absolutely nothing about her.. What should I get her. (link)
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Well if you are on the same soccer team, then just give her some kind of soccer thing. Maybe a soccer necklace or charm or something like that. If it's secret santa, it doesn't HAVE to be good.
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So I'm 16 and I haven't even had my first kiss yet. I have alot of guy friends but they are all what it sounds like "guy" friends not boyfriends. I'm not a tombboy or whatever..Am I missing something here. (link)
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No, you just haven't found the right guy yet. Don't rush anything. It's not worth it.
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okay... i really like this one guy... but whenever i talk to him .. i dont know what to talk about!! i need good things to talk about!!! anything!!...helppp! (link)
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Well, talk about something you are both interested in like teachers you have or sports or music. If you have nothing in common, then you should probably move to some other guy because I don't think it will go anywhere.
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Me and my friend are going to New York this weekend. Were both 15 and we both have boyfriends that are 17. Then last night my boyfriend called me and told me that he was going to new york with my friends boyfriend and their brothers, who are in our grade. Well my boyfriend came over this afternoon and he told me he loves me (not for the first time) but we're both virgins and he talked about having sex this weekend at the hotel. I'm still not totally sure I want to, I asked a question on this before, but this is different... if i have any doubts do you think i should go for it or not? cause this is my one and only chance to be with my boyfriend for the whole weekend in a hotel.. if anyone can help please do!
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If our have doubts, then don't do it. That is something that you can not take back and you want to be sure that you want it with all of your heart, body, and soul.
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i have a friend that has recently become bi. she always tells me that i look hot, and she always comes around and slaps my ass. it's starting to bother me. what should i say to her? becuz i cant take it for much longer..! (link)
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Tell her that she needs to back off because it makes you uncomfortable. If she doesn't respect that, then just stop being her friend.
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