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Confused...
One of my best friends used to have this "thing" with this guy. They seemed perfect for each other. But he stopped talking to her and pretty much dumped her, even though they weren't dating. She still has really strong feelings for him and I was there for her throughout the entire time. Now, I'm beginning to like this guy, and well he likes me too. My friend suspects something is up and I don't know what to do because I don't want to hurt her in any way. But I think I really like this guy, and he really seems into me too, but I know my friend would be devastated if I started dating him. Like I said I don't know what to do. She's one of my best friends and I don't want to lose her as a friend. Do I tell her that I like him or not? What do I do about this guy? Do I pursue a relationship or what? I really need some advice! Please help!
*Confused*
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Guys come and go, but friends are always there. (I think there's some saying for that, but that's not the point.) You should talk about it with her and see how she feels about it. Talk to her about why she still has feelings for him and maybe even try to get her to like someone else. If she approves(which the way you described it she probably won't), then make sure she won't ever be bitter about it because girls say one thing and sometimes mean another. If she doesn't approve, then you have to decide who means more to you, your friend or this guy. Keep in mind that whatever relationship you have with this guy might not even last that long, while friendships can last forever. Sorry, if that wasn't any help.
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OK since she really liked him and it seemed llike he liked her too and then just "dumped" her i would say dont do anything with him.It seems like he's just a player.Having a friend is so much better than just have a boyfriend for a couple of months or so.You can still talk to the guy but dont go out with him.He could do the same thing to you as he did your friend and then you wouldnt have aboyfriend or that friend anymore.Seems like the risk of losing her is to great to take.There are tons of guys find two that are good friends and maybe you and your friend could double date .
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I think you should tell your friend you like him, but don't go out with the guy. Even if your friend says its ok, she's still hurting and she still likes him. So dont hurt her more. She's going through a really bad time right now.
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I think that it would be safe to tell her, but you need to find out how she feels about all of this before ANYTHING happenes between you and this guy. You just need to decide who is more important...this guy, or your friend. And just because you might not be able to go out with this guy DOESN'T mean that you have to stop being friends with him. And who knows...maybe your friend will have no problem with you likeing him...just remember that talking to your friend FIRST is VERY important!!! Good Luck!!!
-Hope I Helped *Banna*
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