Hi, my names Melanie.
I'm fifteen years old.
I love fashion, hanging out with my friends,
and drawing and writing along with a bunch of other stuff.
I used to have an old account here that was quite known for awhile,
but I sort of just lost touch with it,
so I decided to make a new one.
I'll try and help you the best I can,
just hopefully I didn't lose touch with my good advice, haha.
And feel free to IM me with your problem too.
I also put my myspace in a link down below,
if you ever want to add me & talk.
But incase you don't see it or something, it's:
www.myspace.com/themelinat0r
Website: my myspace!
E-mail: melledisko@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Pittsburgh
Occupation: student.
Age: 15
AIM: mel le disko
Member Since: July 2, 2006
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Last Update: August 9, 2008
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i heard that dogs can tell when you are on your period....is this true? (link)
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Yes, it is true. You know how whenever girls are on their period, they sometimes have an odor of some sort? Well, I'm sure the dogs can definetely smell that, just like they can pick up on female dogs whenever they have theirs.
I hope I helped.
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Do guys dig chicks with glasses? I need to get glasses I think, and I'm already short, fat, and kind of ugly. Now I need glasses. Now will the boys think I am uglier than before? (link)
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Aw.
I don't think the boys'll think you're ugly. Glasses are actually fashionable, now. There's some people who buy glasses with no perscription just for the sake of wearing them cause they look cool. Also, I think they make a person look smart.
And anyways, alot of people wear glasses, so you're not alone.
If they're going to sit there and make such a big deal of it, think of it as a compliment they're taking out all this time just to focus on a piece of metal on your eyes to help your vision and on you, and realize that they're just immature jerks.
I hope I helped.
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HI
Im 13 years old and have never had a bf. All my friends have and they have all had their first kiss i still havent . Im worried ill never get a boyfriend when i talked 2 my mate she said to try flirting more but i dont know how
please help
xx (link)
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Believe me, there's nothing wrong with you or anything. It's perfectly normal to be thirteen adn not have kissed anybody yet or dated. Really, I think kids are trying to become more and more mature as the years go on. There's kid out there who are like, 10 and are having sex. It's nuts.
You have a good, good while to get a boyfriend. Boyfriend or none, just have a great time with your friends and live life.
Plus, let me tell you something. I'm 15. I've had a few boyfriends.. all lasted, a week. Never been kissed. Nothing. So I'm practically in the same boat as you. And imagine the pressures with ME "You haven't kissed yet?" "You haven't had sex yet?" They'll get heavier, but trust me, you're going to want your first boyfriend and first kiss to be special, just like I do. Don't just date someone or kiss someone for the heck of it. That's not a very great, romantical story to tell.
Your friends right, though. Just try flirting more with guys and making yourself know. Have get togethers with friends and have their boyfriends i nvite their guy friends and talk to them and just have a great time, or hang out with your friends guy friends. You just got to get out there, show everyone how great you are, and then show your interest.
I hope I helped.
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theres this guys who i reallllly like. people also think he likes me, too, just because he always looks at me and talks to me. But, I told my friend to tell him that I like him. So, my friend told him that i like him, and now he seems to pay much more atention to me and want to talk to me more and stuff. is that normal? (link)
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Oh that's definetely normal! That usually means that a guy likes you alot whenever he does this, and now that he knows you like him back, he feels less nervous and shy around you. Because you see, before, whenever he'd flirt, he was probably worried you'd find out and reject him or not flirt back or something.
You're probably making him like you even more and who wouldn't want to hang around with thier crush and talk to them all them time, especially after they know thier crush likes them back? XD
So just keep sending those signals his way and show him just as much attention as he does you and see where it goes from there.
:D
I hope I helped.
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Okay so there is this teacher at school who I really like. Shes like punk rock-emo even though shes in her fifties. Heh. Anyways, like some days she is extremely funny and bubbly and happy and the the next day she will be totally crazy and stressed, almost to the point where she scares us. She will start yelling at us and blaming all of her problems and stuff on us. Anyways I was just wondering, could this be a sign of like bipolar disorder or some other disorder? Like, I dont want to pry into her personal life, but I want to know if we are making her mad or if it is some kind of thing she cant control. (link)
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I don't think she has any disorders or anything, she's probably just majorly stressed out.
Being a teacher IS a very tough job with all the students you have to handle, all the papers, all the lesson plans and deadlines and then they're even more of an annoyance if the kids are all talking and joking around and not paying attention.
Teachers can be very stressed at times, and not realize they're coming off so harshly to other kids. If she's usually happy and bubbly towards you guys, I'm sure she's a very friendly and happy person, she just might be having some stressful breakdowns and doesn't know how to control them, so she takes it out on students, like most teachers do.
Also whenever they're not teaching, they're living life and trying to date, have a marriage, have children, drive THEIR children places, help them with their homework. They lead very busy lifes so something could just be happening outside of school, some sort of personal issue she's having trouble dealing with.
I don't know how many kids are in your school, but if she's dealing with her own kids at home, and then the ones at school, that's basically like have hundreds of her own children, in a way, you know? Very, very, very stressful thing.
I think it's really great of you to care so much about a teacher and why she's in an upset mood. The most you can do for her and the rest of your students is just if she seems in a bad mood, cooperate with her and try and make the class and her day a little easier on her.
I hope I helped.
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Well there is this teacher...yes he's a babe...but that's besides the point...well my friend has been overly flurtatious with him and he's made hints to return them...like he always pulls her out of other classes about "projects" that don't exist...anyways...they're not havning sex or anything...but could this get my friend , the teacher or even me for knowing...in trouble? (link)
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You probably wouldn't get into trouble for knowing about it, but the teacher could seriously get into major trouble, and your friend too.
Your teacher'd most likely get fired if people were to find out that he's doing this, and his "good name", if you want to call it that, would be ruined and it'd probably be very difficult for him to get another teaching job. Basically, his life'd go down the tubes. Also, he can get arrested and thrown into jail for this also.
Your friend could get in trouble with obviously, her parents for finding out about this and also with just her feelings. I know your friend doesn't want to think this, but a student-teacher relationship isn't going to last between the two of them, if that's even the vibes he's sending towards her, so she's probably going to be crushed, which you need to be there for her to support her.
Also, she could be in trouble pyshically-wise. He's an adult, she's just a minor. He may be thinking one thing on his mind, and that's having sex with her. I'm not saying he wants to or is going to, but that's how student-teacher relations have happened before. The students usually get raped or molested by the teachers and are scarred for life, so your friend just needs to be majorly careful with this guy.
I would have a serious talk with her, and even though she'll probably get upset, be a good friend and explain to her this is wrong and all the trouble they'll both get into if they were to even start a relationship togehter. If she realyl does like him, she'll stop the flirting and stop possibly ruining his chances at a job and a future.
I hope I helped.
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I met this guy, and i liked him alot. we went to homecoming and it was pretty weird, neither of us talked much. i started to wonder if that feeling i got when i was with him was nervousness (which is good,) or being uncomfortable (which is bad.) today he asked me to go to the movies with him this weekend, and i said "sure," but now im pretty sure its a feeling of uncomfortable. when we talk online its great, but in person... there is no attraction and i think i might actually find him a bit needy and unattractive. besides, there is a age difference (im 14, hes 17)
what should i do? i think he wants to go steady, but i dont want to. i just want to be friends (link)
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I would just go to teh movies with him, have fun and have a great time. And just send him those friendly vibes and try not to flirt back, even if he IS flirting with you.
And just tell him you had alot of fun and you two should do it again soon sometime.
If he were to ask you out, just let him know you're sorry, and like you said, you had a great time on the date and everything, but you really only friendly vibes going on between the two of you, and would really like to keep it as just that.
If he's upset, let him be and let him calm down adn think about everything. And just let him talk to you whenever he's ready to talk to you. And just give him time to try and get over it and move on and find another girl.
I hope I helped.
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Im starting to feel very self concious around people now. Im starting to think that everyone is thinking im ugly and I get really nervous around people now. Before I wasn't so self concious and I dont know why im like this. Last year I just changed and I dont know how. Is this just a phase? (link)
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Yes, this is a phase that every single teenager goes through during their life. Some for just awhile, some for their whole teenage experience. Every kid just has low-self esteem caused by all the pretty kids in school or all the models in magazines and everything. Everybody thinks they need to be portrayed a certain way, when really, nothing is wrong with you.
You just need to realize that. Treat yourself to a manicure or just something you really enjoy. Maybe go and get your makeup done which is always fun and ask the woman to mess around with the makeups and colors and give you some advice possibly so you can achieve the look she gives you, and what tones and colors'd go best with you. Same with clothes.
Just remember all the good qualities about you too, especially if you're feeling self-concious that day. Just remember all the compliments you've recieved before wether on your hair or what, and just be like,"Peopel call me pretty. I AM pretty. I know I am."
You just need to push it out of your mind. I have days like these all the time, but then I just think,"My hair looks fine. So-and-so said so, everyobdy likes it, it's all good." And try and push it out of my head and think of something else so sooner or later, I forget "what's on my face" "hows my hair", etc.
I hope I helped.
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im 14 and never had boyfriend. most of my friends have. am I just a loser? I dont mind it much im happy and everything but usually when people find out their just like "OMG YOU NEVER HAD A BOYFRIEND?!" and it just makes me feel pretty dumb. i like this one boy but I know I dont have a chance with him because im not exactly pretty. (link)
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Alot of people haven't had boyfriends at this age. Trust me, if this was a few years back, everybody'd be in the same boat as you. I know I'm 15 and everything, but younger people for some reason are trying to seem older and there's kids dating who are like, 10 years old. I think it's nuts, so there's nothing to be pressured about or anytthing. You're not a loser, you're fine. I find it funny how everyone's trying to grow up so fast.
I'm 15, never been kissed, have had boyfriends yes, like three each for a week. So my "boyfriend records" aren't that wonderful either. I get joked about with my friends sometimes and I laugh, but obviously it bugs me. But I just think,"Well, when it all happens for me, it's going to be great and not wasted like they did just to get it over with or to say they have someone."
You're young. Live life and enjoy it and have a great time, boyfriend or none. The world isn't going to end if you have one, but try meeting and talking to more guys. Maybe have big hangouts and have your friends invite their guy friends or have them bring their boyfriend who can bring their guy friend along to have fun too.
And like I said, when one'll come along, he'll come along. But don't even think there's something wrong with you, or that you're a loser.
I hope I helped.
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im in a group home and its an all girls one. im straight but i really am starting to like the girls. if you know what i mean. i wanna touch them all over. i have a bf, but i want one of the girls to join in with me and him. i think that would be fun. so now am i gay? (link)
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No, I don't think you're gay.
If you were, you'd be totally uninterested in your boyfriend and just be wanting girls and wanting to date them and do other things with them, and them only. So think of your feelings for your boyfriend and see if you still like/love him and still want to be with him and everything.
I really just think you may be bi-sexual or bi-curious.
Alot of people like to try and experiment things, so who knows? You may try it ( if you ever do ), not like it, which would basically just mean you were curious, but it's just not your thing, and your boyfriend is and you're straight.
So just re-evaluate your feelings for your boyfriend and see what you think about and feel about girls and of your boyfriend and wether who you want to be with, or don't want to be with, or want to experiment with, and see what happens from there.
I hope I helped.
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Alright so, my boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year and we've started having sex. We usually use condoms, but I was wondering.. how effective is the "pull-out method" i know a lot of people think it should be shunned but, i know a lot of people who have done it a lot and have had nothing happen. What do you guys think? (link)
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Seriously, keep using the condoms.
I know you're thinking the "pull-out method" works, but believe me, your friends are just really really lucky, and it's a chance you shouldn't take.
Nobody ever can really predict whenever they're going to ejaculate, so even if he does pull out sometime before he does, there's still some sperm that can get inside you, and then get you pregnant.
Please just stick with condoms. Don't take a chance, because if you do, there's a chance you're going to have a baby bump then in a couple of months.
I hope I helped.
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I have a friend but she likes the same guy I like what do I do. (link)
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I think you guys should talk about it, and decide wether you want to go from there.
Just share with her that you have feelings for this guy, and see what she says. Sometimes friends make the pact that neither of them goes near him so the friendship doesn't get destroyed, which I may advise you both to do if you really think your friendships worth it, which it should be. "Chicks before dicks", I always say.
But sometimes friends can make the pact where if he does try to advance for one or the other, and may the best woman "win", I guess you'd say, and no hard feelings. Even though she may be fine with it, well at least SAY she's fine with it, really make sure. I'm sure she'll be hurting. And don't rub it in her face either if this is to happen. Don't kiss him or flirt with him or anything infront of her, cause it'll only make her feel worse. And if he was to choose her, she should be the same with with you.
But like I said before, chicks before dicks. Guys come and go, but friends are forever, you know hat I mean? This is going to be a good friend for awhile I bet, and I don't think you want this friendship to get ruined over one guy you're probably never going to see once High School is over. You may not even see him next year if you guys don't have anything together.
I'm sure two new crush'll come along for the both of you, and then since you two'll be friends you guys can all double date.
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I hope I helped.
So just talk to her about it and see what both your feelings are on the situation, and what you two want to do about it. Both go for him, potentially ruin the friendship you have, or leave him be and have a great friend by your side?
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Okay so there is this guy at school, Jon. Well last year Jon asked me out and I said no. This year, we got to be really good friends and I sort of liked him. So I was all flirting with him but he seemed to not notice so after a few months I started to like one of Jon's friends. Now, after I lead Jon on, he likes me and is going to ask me out really soon. So the question is, should I say yes, even though I dont have strong feelings for him, or should I say no? If I say no I know it will break his heart and I will feel really bad because I was flirting with him. By the way we are in ninth grade if that helps at all. Please help soon!!!! Thx (link)
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Well if you do like this guy still, then say yes and give it a shot. But if you're really liking someone else and you don't like him, then do him and yourself and a favor and say no.
Yes, it's going to hurt. But would you rather pity date him and basically lie to him all the time about your feelings? If he ever were to find out, it'd only hurt more in the end. He's going to have to deal with rejection some time or another, but just don't do it harshly. Just explain to him that you're sorry, and he's great and everything, but you sort of have your eyes set on somebody right now.
Also, be kind to yourself. If this kid isn't going to make you happy by being with him, and you're liking someone else, go for the guy you like. That's going to make YOU happy. I think it's really sweet you're considering the other guy's feelings and everything, but don't forget to consider your own.
Just let him down easily.
I hope I helped.
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im the girl that asked bout ripped jeans.
okay i cute some holes in them && pulled them apart some.. && i do want the one holes you mentioned but i don`t have a razor or cheese grater i looked everywhere..
so do you have another idea??
&& they or really think for some reason took awhile to cut a hole.. (link)
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Hm.
Maybe just try and other sharp objects lying around the house, but be careful with them, of course.
Here.
I just googled up how to make your own ripped jeans, or as some people call "distressing" them, so if this site doesn't help you, you can always try and search up "distressed jeans+make them yourself" or something.
http://www.cgarments.com/jeans/ripped-jeans-guide.php
It basically tells you a guide on some ways to just do it yourself in simple, easy, steps.
I hope I helped.
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ok well this is really embarressing, but whatever =/
i am 14 years old and in the 9th grade. soo obviously i've reached that puberty thing and what not. i guess you could say im "not fully developed" yet, but i have a lot of pubic hairs. i dont know if i should shave it down there or not. i dont really plan on getting fingered or having sex anytime soon, but i still dont know what to do. please write back! thanks! (link)
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Well, I know what you're going through. I'm going to be completley honest with you ; I can't give you real, true, advice. I can only tell you what I do personally and what my opinion on the matter is, but it really should be your own.
If you feel you want to try and shave down there, shave. If you don't like it, you can always stop or if you feel uncomfortable with it, don't do it.
I'm sorry I couldn't give you a true answer, but I just feel that's a tad personal and should be thought about by you and decided and told by you.
I hope I helped.
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So I see this guy a at pizzaplace across from my school. it's sorta a hangout place and i'm there a lot and friends with the owner. The new manager is 17 n is ALWAYS lookin at me n grinning when i'm in there n is just always checking me out. n i grin back n look but he hasn't said nething to me! i don't know what to say to get a nice convo going or why he hasnt talked to me? any ideas? (link)
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Well since you two are in a pizza place, why not talk of pizza? I don't mean food-wise, I mean work-wise, since he works there, it'll give you both already something to talk about that you know of, and it may give him a chance ( if he uses it ) to show off his "manager skills" and how he's "head person" around the place to try and impress you.
I would just go to him and be like,"Hey, you're the new manager, right?" And just ask him how it's going so far, and if he likes the job. Tell him you're always coming here with your friends all the time, and that you'd think it'd be great to work in a place like this. And just share a conversation about it. Then you can try and slid into other topics. Ask him what school he goes to, if he goes at all. If he goes to your school, then just ask him what teachers he has and did he have to take that horrible exam the other day, you know, small things at first.
You just have to try and slyly work into other types of topics and just try and get to know him better, and don't forget to obviously throw some flirting in there here and there so he'll know you're interested in him.
Then, whenever you have to go, just be like,"Aw man, it sucks that I have to go. I was having a great time talking with you. Hey, do you have AIM or something? Could I have your screename so we can talk some more?" And just IM him if he does, or email him, etc. And see where it goes from there.
Just keep trying to make conversation with him daily. After awhile, since it seems to me like he does like you ( :D ), he'll want to start walking over to you and trying to make conversation with you. If he doesn't, don't get discouraged, he may just be really shy, like you are nervous trying to talk to him!
I hope I helped.
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My best friend..always copies me. I HATE going shopping with her cus like ill buy something & then shell get the exact same thing! ugh & for my birthday i wanted coach shoes and shes like omg me too! and i was like ..hmm i think i wana get highlights and shes like meee tooo! and always agrees with me even when im wrong!! how do i get her to stop help me pleasee (link)
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I've had this situation before, and what I did, worked.
Whenever we'd go shopping, or anywhere for that matter, I'd point out clothes that looked good on her, that I for one wasn't interested in at all. I would just be like,"That looks so adorable on you, you should totally get it. Purple looks great on you." And just show her what styles look great on her and what color to give her her own sense of fashion and tastes.
And just keep doing this. Point out things to her that might interest her that don't necessairly interest you, and like I said, try and just veer her away from your interest and get her to try and latch onto her own.
Hopefully soon after time, like my best friend did, she found her own hobbies and interests, and styles, and now we're totally fine whenever we go shopping and she's never copying off me.
The main reason she's probably copying off you is because she looks up to you, and she finds insecurities within herself that she needs to take care of, so give her some self-esteem and point out all the great qualities about her and make her her own person. :)
I hope I helped.
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i want some ripped lookin jeans but 50 dollars boy isn`t that expensive.
actually i can`t aford clothes so expensive at the moment..
maybe 20 at the most for jeans so do you know any sites i can look at thanks.
keep in mind not expensive.. (link)
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Well do you want ripped jeans for 20 bucks or even possibly, for free?
Just take a pair of old jeans you don't want to really wear anymore ( like, covered-wise that still fit and would look good ripped up ) or just buy a new pair that you'd want to rip up, and take some scissors.
Now, don't make huge cuts, cause then they'll just look sliced and weird looking. Make little snips in the places you want them, and then put two of your fingers in the little hole, and try and rip it, but slowly of course, so you don't wind up ripping more than you want.
Now just keep doing this until you've completed all the holes and everything.
Also, if you want that ripped hole look, take a cheese grater if you have one or a razor, whichever, and just start trying to rub it on the jeans and get them to create a rough texture in sports to create a hole effect, also.
Everyone always asks me where I get mine, and I just tell them I made them myself, adn they're really impressed with it too.
I hope I helped.
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i like my bfffff brother who is only 10 and im 13 is that messed up what should i do....
this is sydneys friend not the girl in the picture (link)
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Well I can't really tell you if it's messed up or not, because you're going to have your own opinion, I'm going to have mine, and so are all the other advicenators.
I personally, wouldn't date him. I find that far too young first of all for a ten year old to be dating ; I was playing with toys and playing it tag whenever I was 10, I wasn't even really thinking about boys or boyfriends or anything of the sort.
But if you really like this guy and you want to date him, go for it. If he's going to make you happy and you're going to have a great time being with him, that's all that should matter.
I hope I helped.
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my crush found out i liked him today. (nobody likes him really...i like his personality) he says "he want's to stay single" What does this mean? does this mean he is telling me no....or that maybe later on??? (link)
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This could mean a few different things.
Usually whenever guys are saying they want to stay single, it might be he's uninterested, sorry. He probably wants to remain single and still play the field, and he's just not crushing on any girls yet. He also just might not feel he's ready for a relationship, and to make that type of commitment to only one person.
But even though he wants to remain single, that still means there's always chance for him to like you and want to date you later on. Just continue talking to him, flirt with him, and send him vibes that you're interested in him and see if he catches up on them and see where it goes from there.
I hope I helped.
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