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just a phase in life?
Im starting to feel very self concious around people now. Im starting to think that everyone is thinking im ugly and I get really nervous around people now. Before I wasn't so self concious and I dont know why im like this. Last year I just changed and I dont know how. Is this just a phase?
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Okay, I don't know if it's just a phase, identity crisis, or a part of your personal growth, but here is a couple of important things you need to remember if you feel that way.
First of all, you are NOT ugly! I don't care how you look, but don't ever think that way about yourself, or you will attract more of these thoughts and feelings, which can be quite destructive. The second important thing is that everybody are too concerned about themselves to notice others' flaws, and, as a self-conscious person, you probably know it very well. Right now it may seem to you that the looks are very important, but it is not completely true. Take for example some not very attractive, but pretty famous actor, which has a lot of different roles he plays very well. He or she may have a role of a looser, someone really boring, or mean, and you really hate seeing that actor on the screen. But then you see that person playing a totally different role in a great TV show that you like, where he or she is very strong, funny, witty, and charismatic. Now, when you see that person, you notice that you associate totally different (positive) feelings and emotions with him/her, because the character you fell in love with made you see him or her in a totally different light.
It's pretty much the same in the real life. If you feel unpretty, insecure, and scared in communication with people, they're going to sense it, because your behavior, your walk, the expression on your face, and the look in your eyes, just wouldn't let you hide your insecurity. But (!) the good thing is that you can change the role that you play in front of other people. In any case, you are not sharing with others everything you have in you. There are some parts you want to hide, or show only to the ones you trust the most. But there are also the parts of your nature that you want to discover, explore, and show to everyone. Maybe it's your wisdom, or courage, or something else that makes you special in your own eyes, but in any way you should learn to be proud of who you are. Allow your looks support your personality, but don't let them become more important than who you really are. Learn to feel self-confident and strong, whether you're alone or with someone. Choose who you want to be, and be it!
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This is definately a phase. At one point in every ones life, they feel self conscience like people are always judging the way they look or act, and what they say. I am currently getting out of this phase. Eventually you will realize that people arent judging you the way you think they are, and you will get over your self-conscienceness. Dont worry its nothign to be worried about
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Yes, it's a phase. It has been studied in psychology and it has a name. It's called an imaginary audience. Most people, especially girls, go through a phase in their life as a young teenager when they feel like they are being evaluated by everyone. It's a self-centered point of view. You're not the focus of everyone's attention and people don't evaluate you any more than you evaluate them. You walk in a room and you have a pimple, as devastating as it seems to you, nobody really cares. Half the people won't even notice. Don't imagine the worst about how people will react. Imagine, instead, how you would react if someone you knew had the same problem. Taking the focus off of yourself should help get you out of this. It's never fun to be overly self conscious. Remember that you haven't changed, you're just adjusting to a new part of your life. Look in the mirror less, smile more, and screw what other people think. Just have a good time and good luck! :)
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Yeah it's a phase. Don't let it bother you though. You shouldn't care what they think. Just because you don't look like them or anything.. it doesn't make you ugly. You're unique in your own way. Just remember that. If people stare.. it means you're pretty! :D Don't feel nervous. Just smile!
Yeah these things just happen.
Sadly this happened to me for years. It killed my middle school years and a part of my high school year.
You should try to forget about people and what they think. It won't make you happy. I lost many friends because I refused to be seen with them.. I thought they looked so better than me and thought they were smarter. I just felt intimated. So it's best to like the way you like because you're going to look like that for a long time XD
Great personality is the key. Just be yourself.
It enhances your looks .
I'm not sure how to explain it.
But if you're a nice, funny, etc person.. then you'll be fun to be around and yeah.
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Yes, this is a phase that every single teenager goes through during their life. Some for just awhile, some for their whole teenage experience. Every kid just has low-self esteem caused by all the pretty kids in school or all the models in magazines and everything. Everybody thinks they need to be portrayed a certain way, when really, nothing is wrong with you.
You just need to realize that. Treat yourself to a manicure or just something you really enjoy. Maybe go and get your makeup done which is always fun and ask the woman to mess around with the makeups and colors and give you some advice possibly so you can achieve the look she gives you, and what tones and colors'd go best with you. Same with clothes.
Just remember all the good qualities about you too, especially if you're feeling self-concious that day. Just remember all the compliments you've recieved before wether on your hair or what, and just be like,"Peopel call me pretty. I AM pretty. I know I am."
You just need to push it out of your mind. I have days like these all the time, but then I just think,"My hair looks fine. So-and-so said so, everyobdy likes it, it's all good." And try and push it out of my head and think of something else so sooner or later, I forget "what's on my face" "hows my hair", etc.
I hope I helped.
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