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Q: tonight im meeting my potential boyfriends parents!

i dont want to give them the wrong impression, but i dont want them to think im a prude or anything.

suggestions?

jeans and a t shirt.
dont try to impress them just be yourself.
if you try to impress them then theyll expect you to be that way everytime you see them and youll never show who you really are.
but do be polite. use please and thankyou.
lol

Q: ok well im a female im 5'6" and my weight is about 115.. does that make me underwieght or overweight or what? cuz personally i think im fat but my friends tell me im skinny i want to diet but im afraid i might become anerexic or somthing. Soo what do you think.
(sp?)

your in a pretty healthy weight right now. a little on the smaller side though.
id say dont go on a diet and love yourself the way you are.
your not fat. dont say you are.

Q: i rate 5

go to account settings its underneath add/edit photos
theres a red buttin that says change apssword you just ebter the new one and hit sumbit and your all set =]

Q: can you get aids from having sex on your period?

you can get AIDS from having sex with anyone whom has it.
AIDS is actually the disease form of HIV, which is a viral infection. so if you had anal sex your more likely to get it because the tissue in your butt is thinner that the tissue in your vagina so its easier to penitrate.

(extra information is always helpful)

Q: Are you supposed to put bronzer or your foundation on first?

foundation first. if you put on the bronzer first then the foundation will cover it.

Q: OK, I have a RAZR Motorola phone, a red one if that helps & I just got it for Christmas, & I love it! But every website I go to for ringtones none of them have free tunes, i have to select some weird plan thing. ughh...
anyway,
you know the little button on the side where it lets you record stuff??
well my friend's friend did it with hers and she was able to set it as her ringtone.
does anyone know how to set it as a ringtone?
thanks

yea. i ahve a similar one, you record the song and hit the save buttin and then go under options and hit apply as ringtone.
thats what its like on my cell anyway.

Q: ok so i had like a bunch of 5's after giving advice and then my rating was a 4.79
so then i got another five & it dropped right to a 4.8
what happened???

4.8 is higher than 4.79 silly goose!
haha

Q: Alright, You know on all the shows, how the guy holds the girl and tilts her backwards, and the girl wraps her arms around his neck, and they kiss. well, how do they do it? I mean, wouldnt it be rather akward for both people? how does the girl down, does she just bend back and rely on the guy not to drop her? does her foot pop up? the guy, how does he manage to get her down that low?

umm well most kisses dont happen like that, unless you have a guy thats into theater.
theyll usually be just a pop kiss or a make out

sorry but that most likely wont happen, so dont worry about it. and if it does. itll be natuuraly, you cant practice that stuff

Q: ok i have one of those badass...asshole kind of b.fs.....but i dont care what ne1 says me n him are awesome together...but lke he has a serious problem about expressing his feelings....lke he doesnt do alot of cute things lke he says i love you and sumtimes a cute comment here or there but other than that he does/says nothing cute.....n he gets all defensive when i try n tell him how i feel..wth do i do?

well alot of guys are like that. mine was too. he might just not want people to know hes nice cause he has an image to uphold at school. id say give it some time drop hints, make them obvious (boys are kinda slow) whatever you do DONT play mind games. it will confuse him desparetly hell get pissed and leave.
and make him listen. YOU have a say in the matter as well as he does. if he cant see that he needs to pay attention and listen and at least ACT like a boyfriend should, then he doesnt deserve you.

and i totally understand that you dont want to listen to people telling you to break up with him or that he isnt good ennough blah blah blah.
i had the EXACT same problem, but if he cant listen or doesnt care.
he doesnt deserve you. its plain as that.

Q: I'd like to lose a few pounds, mostly my love handles and lower tummy. I've already cut soda pop/junk food/ice cream/candy/fast food out of my diet. What excercises can I do that will target these areas and get rid of my love handles? And PLEASE tell me ones that you KNOW for SURE will work from personal experience, because I've already tried a lot of the things that people on here have said and they don't work. Thanks!

ok. dont cut all of that stuff out of your diet totally. cause eventually your gonna want it again, nad when you do youll binge and gain all the weight youve lost back. sorry but its true.

ive learned from expireince that you cant target just one area to lose weight, you have to work on your entire body.

what your gonna want to do is cardio for 1-2 hours 4-5 days a week. it can be swimming, running etc. and eat about 1200 calories a day.
i did that over the summer and dropped 3 pant sizes and like 30 pounds.
but please dont go uber strict on this. cause after you get where you want then you have to be able to let up a bit and if you got really strict with this than let up youll gain some back obver time.

it also depends on genetics and how your body gains and loses weight. but this will work a little if not really well.

Q: Hey, this is kind of a menial question, so yeah. But uh tonight I got invited to two birthday parties that start around the same time. One, is my best friend "Margaret's" birthday. We're going to Maccaroni Grill and that's it. The other is my friend from tennis, "Lucy". Lucy is pretty popular on the team and I really was happy she invited me and I want to get to know her well and stuff. But, Margaret is my best friend. At first I was like, Ok i'm defidently going to Margaret's. But.. idk. Lucy's party is we're going shopping and then spending the night at a hotel. Both are sweet 16 birthdays. My parents suggested going out to eat with Margaret and then going to spend the night with Lucy. But since me and LUcy aren't like besssttt friends, i dont' want to seem like a lot of trouble since I'm not even one of her good friends. Does that make sense? well, please reply asap! thankks!

hmm thats a tough one. you have to decide, whats more important best friend or potential friend. maybe you could ask "margerate" if you could spend the next night with her, like her own private party for the two of you. That way you can chill with "lucy" as well.

Q: I've been having sex with my boyfriend for like a month. We have been using a condom and i got my period like two weeks ago and since then we've had sex like 6 times, 4 in one day. and after we had sex one time my stomach hurt and it happened again the next day. Does anyone know why ?

he could either be going in too deep, or maybe its just a muscle cramp. from like switching around too much. it could also be totally unrelated to sex like from somekind of sport ou lay, its agrivated by the sex and it starts hurting.

Q: im a 15 year old female.
so me and my boyfriend are taking a break after 9 months. he is one of those guys who knows exactly what he wants, and its me. he always says how he want us to get married, have kids, and all of that. and me being 15(he is 15 also) am not ready to decided who im going to marry and stuff. im ready to have fun! but, he is really sweet and so nice but i needed a break and some time to catch up with my friends that i havent been hanging out with in awhile. so now he keeps saying how he wants to get back together and it hasnt been a week yet and it is driving me crazy. i dont know what to do. he keeps acting like we are still together. and freaks out with i told him that "i dont like anyone yet." so now he is complaining about how he thinks im going to get with someone else and ah! what should i do? should i give in? ignore him?

if this guy is as sweet as you say he is id say to stay with him. but make sure he knows you need your space and to chil with you friends. it cant be him ALL the time.
and if you get together with him and end up not liking him the same, then break up with him. you dont want to miss out on a great guy. and you wont if you give him another chance.

Q: like the wierdest guestion but i need to know

in a guy and i get boners uh no duh but when im tanding up talking to my friends and i start day dreaming then i realize im getting a boner how do i not let it show? well i think i that i have a big dick so it sticks out far wierd uh but please help?!?!?!?!?!?!

age= 15

umm well your probably gonna have to ask a guy for that advice lol.
since im a girl, i havent that kind of information for you.
i dont get bonerss do i wouldnt know how to hide them
sorry =[

Q: hey kelly i hav a boy friend and the other day he old me that he also likes guys. i really like him but its starting to get akward whn we are on dates what do i do stay with him or what? and he fells more comfortable matserbating to gay porn but he like still loves me im so confused.

btw im 14 hes 15

well that could be a good thing in some way.
like you could talk to him about cute guys instead of having to keep stuff away from him, cause he could agree.
and you dont really have to worry about him looking at other girls, cause as you say he loves you. and plus, if he likes guys well, theres less gay people in the world than straight people.
BUT he could lose intrest in you if he ends up being totally gay.

so just roll with it, there are downsides but alot more upsides
and if you love him nad he loves you, then it shouldnt matter.

Q: how do you get rid of hickies

you cant entirely, but rubbing a quarter on it for about an hour can get the blood flowing again.
hickies are just broken capalaries. so you want to get the blood flowing to get them to go away as soon as possible.

Q: I saw one of your answers to the school that was drug testing a whole grade, and you said it happened at your school. Im just curious, how is this legal? I highly doubt they can do this without parent or legal consent. In california, where I live, I know for a fact this is illegal. What circumstances causes the school to go crazy with drug testing?

well i dont know if its leagal.
theyre really suspicious about alot of stuff now.
our prrincipal is even banning hugging (i dunno how thats leagal either...hugs make the world go round) but i dont think they can drug test an entire grade without getting sued by someone.
lol
and i think they caught someone smoking in the bathroom. lol

Q: so sorry, didn't know what category to put this in.

my friend did drugs and now at school theyre finding out that like, alot of people are.
so now theyre testing like, the whole 8th grade.
and hes getting tested on monday.
and he wanted to know, how long it takes for it to go through your system.

hes 14, and he did purple haze, if that helps any.

thanks in advance.

well i have no clue, srry, but i wanted to know what school you go to.
cause that situation sounds oddly familier.
lol

haha the exact same thing happened at MSOA last week.

Q: when someone says "how do you drive a stick?" what does that mean? i know it's related to cars lol but what kind?

driving with a stick means using the stick shift.
instead of just puttingg it in drive and it changing gears on its own.
its like manual instead of automatic

Q: Well first off- I'm 13 and so is my boyfriend Logan*(both turning 14 soon). Well me & Logan will be going out for two months next friday and that weekend I'm going to the beach with him and his family. He really wants to have sex & I do too- but..I'm kind've scared because what if the condom breaks? I really don't want to be pregnant. & I'm not sure if it will hurt or not. Like will I be sore the next day? But I do want to do it & plus if I say no he'll probably get upset. Ahh. Help me please

ok well first off.
you 13.
and youre moving wayyyyy to fast.
in all honesty, 2 months is to soon.
if he will get upset about you not wanting to do it, then you probably shouldnt be with him.
i know in middle school everyone is all sex sex sex. but if you lose it now, you wont be respected by your peers anymore, and worse, if you do it and then end your relationship in a fight, he could start spreading rumors.
there are ALOT of terrible consiquenses for your actions, there are good ones too, like you might get closer together.
the choice is your alone to make.
but i strongly suggest not doing it, even though you want it.
it could ruin your life, especially if you get pregnant.