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Well first off- I'm 13 and so is my boyfriend Logan*(both turning 14 soon). Well me & Logan will be going out for two months next friday and that weekend I'm going to the beach with him and his family. He really wants to have sex & I do too- but..I'm kind've scared because what if the condom breaks? I really don't want to be pregnant. & I'm not sure if it will hurt or not. Like will I be sore the next day? But I do want to do it & plus if I say no he'll probably get upset. Ahh. Help me please <33
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ok well first off.
you 13.
and youre moving wayyyyy to fast.
in all honesty, 2 months is to soon.
if he will get upset about you not wanting to do it, then you probably shouldnt be with him.
i know in middle school everyone is all sex sex sex. but if you lose it now, you wont be respected by your peers anymore, and worse, if you do it and then end your relationship in a fight, he could start spreading rumors.
there are ALOT of terrible consiquenses for your actions, there are good ones too, like you might get closer together.
the choice is your alone to make.
but i strongly suggest not doing it, even though you want it.
it could ruin your life, especially if you get pregnant.
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wow sweetheart your way to young. I am not trying to offend you because i am 16 and i am young as well. But you guys really should not do it... You said in the column above it that he hides you from his ex. Well sweety thats telling you something. I have been going out with my bf for almost 2 years and we still havnt. If you two both want to. I guess that is your choice, but if i were you i would wait. everyone says losing your virginity is a huge step. But they are not exaggerating. Need to talk more just message me.
-kaitlyn
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Well yes there is a possibility that it will break, it does happen. Personally I think your alittle young and you haven`t been going out for too long. But, since you both say your ready then you two have to live with the conseqiences. Also if he realy loves you and you tell him your not ready he should be fine with it. And probably/deffinatly you will be sore. Hope I helped.
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I wouldn't have sex at such a young age if I were you. you are worried about alot of things. If you are going to do anything make sure that you use a condom. You guys ahve been going out for two months thats not a really long time.
If you guys do have sex it will most likely hurt the next day. Don't have sex just because he want you to. have sex because you want to and remeber if he really loves you then he'll wait as long as it is going to take for you to have sex with him.
hope I helped
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i can tell you right now that you are not ready to have sex with this guy. First you sound more worried about having sex with this guy then anybody i know. Your scared the condom is going to break, your scared you may get pregnant, your scared itll hurt, And scared you will be sore.
You said that if you tell your boyfriend that you wont have sex with him he will probly be upset with you. Do you really want to have sex with him or are you just saying you do so that he wont be upset with you?
Your only 13 going on 14. think about it please.
kim:)
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If you are having any doubts about this you should not do it. You are young and have plenty of time to make these decisions and experience these things. You want your first time to be special and with someone you know you care about and feel safe with. Plus, if you say you aren't ready and your boyfriend gets mad then he isn't a very good boyfriend anyway. If he really cares about you he will respect your decision and not pressure you to do anything you aren't ready for.
However, if you still insist on going through with this you should go talk to a doctor about getting on birth control. Look up a Planned Parenthood in your neighborhood. They can help you make this decision and be safe about it. They also provide gynocological services and birth control at low cost. You can find a location near you here...
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Lastly, when you eventually do have sex it may hurt a little, but if you with someone loving it won't be too bad. If you are nervous and stressed out about it, it will only make it more painful.
Please think about this and make sure you are ready for all the responsibilities that come with this territory. You don't want to regret anything later.
Good Luck and Stay Safe!
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