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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.



I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.





Much love, Teza

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sorry im the one from before! i meant when he looks at other girls and flirts with him! and i also meant that ive never talked to him before, i only see him on some occasions! sorry for the mixup!!

Haha, I figured you meant girls. It's fine though. ♥

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so i dont really know this guy but i think he is really hot! and i dont see him all the time, so that sucks. but then like i have never talked to him before, only when he walks by me and stuff. but ive been reading ur other advice to other people about this kinda stuff and you say just go up and talk to him. like wouldnt i look stupid if i just was like hey um yeah. i wouldnt know what to say since he doesnt even know me!! and i get really jealous when he looks and flirts with other guys. wuts ur advice on how to do this or get him to notice me?! thanks for your time!

Since he doesn't know you, you have to introduce yourself first. You won't look really stupid. Make small talk first. Do you have any classes with him? If you do talk to him there. If not, when you see him be outgoing and flirt and just say heyyy, then he won't think .. what a loser. Just be yourself & you'll be fine. The more you guys talk, the more you will get to know each other. He might even start to like you back. When he flirts with other girls, it's okay to be jelous but you could also be one of those girls. They made friends with him and it's easier for them. Talk to him. I know it might seem hard and you might feel a little embarassed, but you will regret it.

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thanks for answering my question! your really gorgeous!

No problem!! & thank you babe. ♥

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Everyday in school im really shy and dont like to talk that much in class. and everytime i get called on my face gets so red because i get really embarassed. and i would like to answer more questions and all that but im scared that it will be the wrong answer then people will think im stupid. im a really quiet one in class. wut could i do to help like speak more in class.

I hate answering questions in class but I love to talk out and just say whatever even if it's wrong. You just have to loosen up. You know that you're smart, and how will you ever learn something if you don't ask questions? You have to know when you are right and wrong. Most people might be wondering the same thing as you but aren't brave enough to ask. People won't think you're stupid!! Half of them want to know the same thing and half of them won't know the answer. Just have fun while you're learing but make sure you know your limits. No one will judge you at all. Be yourself and it's just school. Relax.

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so everytime i go to a big event or something and there are alot of guys there.. i always get so nervous and like i think to myself that oHhh im not THAT ugly like yanno!? but then i go to the events and there are SO MANY prettier girls than me and i get soo jealous. I try and boost up my confidence.. but like i would like some attention from the guys you know? i dont want to sound selfish or anything but im sick of being the one nobody notices. do you have any advice for my problem? Thank you teza!

First of all.. every girl thinks that there is someone that looks better then them and that they are just perfect. It's not like that at all though. I bet you are soo pretty, but you are the only one who notices your flaws. I also think those guys think you look good, but you should talk to them first. Guys love confidence in girls!! If you show them that you are not afraid to talk to them, it's a big plus!! Just don't think bad about yourself. Tell yourself you look STUNNING and trust me, your confidence will keep riseing!!

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So I always go to the hockey games like for high school and there are so many hott guys there! This one i like kept looking down.. like at someone and i thought it was me!! but then i didnt know if it was someone in front of me or back of me..but this happens every game! So how do i know if he is looking at ME or some other girl? =(

thanks!

I'd have to be there to tell you for sure. Is it the same guy though?? If so, then start talking to him. Just say hi and if he looks straight at you then you'll know.

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My friend is in 9th grade and she likes this kid in 11th grade. She always watches him at a distant because she is REALLY shy. she is afraid to go up and talk to him. What advice do you have for her to get up the confidence to go up and talk to him!?

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If she REALLY likes this guy, she needs to go and talk to him. She will never find out if he likes her if she doesn't say something. I know it may be hard, but she can just say heyy when she sees him. That will bulild up to longer conversations.

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ok i've been going out with this guy named Gabe, hes amazing i love him. But i also have little feelings for this guy named tim. So now i told my boyfreind gabe that i do have little feelings for tim and riht now we are on a brake. Who should i go out with becuz tim likes me too and he told me to get back at him in like 3 days/

Who ever you like more and who ever makes you happier. I can't help you decide. If you are willing to risk the relationship with your boyfriend for Tim go for it. Just take some time to think.

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What if your a freshman and you like an 11th grader..do you think that would give a bad reputation to somebody? or do you think that is bad?!

No. It's only a 2-3 year difference and that's not a lot.

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Okay...I've had my period for exactly 2 years as of December 5. I want to use tampons, and I know how to put them in and all the dangers. But I have a few other questions:

Does it hurt going in/while its in/coming out?
What is an appropriate size?
What exactly does Toxic Shock Sydrome do to your body?
How do you know that you have TSS?

I rate.

It doesn't hurt if you put it in right. If you put it in wrong and force it to go in, it will hurt. Just relax and it won't hurt. There really isn't an appropriate size. If you are heavy, use super, if not use the normal size. Toxic Shock Sydrome happens if you leave your tampon in for a very long time, so make sure you take it out. Change it every 3-4 hours. When you get TSS you might have a rash.

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okay im having a major problem right now. ive had my boyfreind for about 2 months. and you know christmas is coming up. and i have no idea what i should get him. like sereiously i want to give him something that shows him that i love him very very much. but i dont want to go too over the top becuase it has only been two months. please help. ill rate high.

Since you guys have been going out for only 2 months, you shoulnd't get him anything much. Get him his favorite cologne & a shirt or gift card. That's basiclly the best thing.

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hey whats ur fave nail polish color ?

Ah.. I have many!! It depends on the outfit lol. I love clear, hot hot pink, lime green, bright oragne and red. :)

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i am 13 years old. and i feel really self concious about my image. like everyone calls me ugly fat and everything even my family. so finally i found a boy who makes me feel beautiful. but we went out for like two months and we were fine and then we broke up. and not even a week later he was with my best friend and then they broke up and then two weeks after that he went out with my very very best friend. so we hated eachother and everything and its off and on with him...he likes me then doesnt and now hes saying he does again!? hes soo confusing can u please tell me what to do?! i love him and always will but i dont wanna get hurt again. ThankS!

If you really think you look bad (I doubt you do though) then try to change your imagine. Do something nice for yourself? Do you wear make up? If not, start wearing some if you feel that might make you feel better. Make up isn't to hide your flaws or anything, it's just to bring out your natrual beauty. Try wearing your hair different or getting it cut. Wear things you like and if you feel like you need to loose weight, go on a healthy diet or just exercise. About that guy, forget about him. I don't think that guys didn't like you because of your imagine. Do what makes you happy and if that means looking better then do it for YOURSELF, not your family or other people.

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well im really shy in the beginning when i meet someone..especially if its a guy and i think he is hot! and i always say to myself when im going to meet new people that im going to be outgoing and not care what they think..but then when i actually meet them im like really shy and dont talk alot and i think this is a reason why i dont get alot of boyfriends =( then like those people always assume that im shy all the time, but its just most when i first meet them then after that im not really.but my friends are all outgoing and i try to hard to be too its just not working. do you have any advice? because ive tried like working up my self-esteem but it doesnt seem to be working. i always freeze up and say nothing. and thats probably why im not good with guys. well sorry if this is too long but i just needed advice on this because its been really affecting me lately.. thanks alot!
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I don't know what exactly to say to make you be outgoing. You just have to do it. Make yourself be outgoing. I used to be really shy, but I kept telling myself just be outgoing & be fun & no one will think bad about you. You just think people will say something, be yourself though. If you are having fun then being outgoing will be no problem. It's really normal when people are kind of shy around people they just meet. Well, I know I am. Just talk to them, make jokes and just laugh.

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Whenever I am on the computer for more than like 10 minutes, the hand that I work the mouse with gets VERY cold. My other hand doesn't. Does anyone know what this is and why it does this? And does it happen to anyone else?

Haha, my hand always gets hold. Expecilly my fingers!! It's just because you don't move it very much and you don't really do anything with it. I had to wear gloves once because it got so cold. Haha but it's nothing bad. It happens to everyone.

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soo everyone thinks im soo pretty and stuff..but then i look in the mirror at myself and think..what the hell? im soo ugly how can i be so ugly! and then i think of all the GORGEOUS girls out there and i get so jealous of them. Im 15 and ive never had a boyfriend before, and so why does everyone say im so gorgeous when no boy likes me? i really dont get it. it makes me SUPER sad. Ugh and then there is this boy in my class and he is like SO POPULAR but he kinda flirts with me..but then im not soo popular so i think..nah he is like pushing me and like playin around with me because he hates me and thinks im stupid and annoying. i dont start talking to him unless he talks to me..and when he flirts (or i think its flirting) i do it back. i dont want to admitt to anyone that i have somethin going for him because i know for a fact that he doesnt like me because im ugly and i dont have sex and get drunk like he does and the popular girls. HIGH SCHOOL SUCKS SOO BAD i cant stand the girls =( i get so jealous wayy to easily. i dont know do you have any advice for my situation? if you do THANKS A TON!
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You probablly are so pretty, but you just see different. All girls are self concious but I mean you have some confidence. You DO NOT have to be drop dead gorgeous to have a boyfriend. It's not because you are ugly.. which I think you are the only one who thinks that. When people tell you that you are pretty, take it as a compliment. It's a good thing. Don't think so low of yourself because that's how people might start to think you are starving for attention. Just accept yourself for who you ARE and don't try to change your imagine. How do you know that this guy hates you and thinks you are annoying, or is that your imagination talking?? If he said that straight forward to you then okay, but if not then he doesn't think that way. If he flirts with you, don't start to think negative. " Why would he want to flirt with me? I'm so ugly " Maybe you should listen to those people who tell you that you are pretty. I bet you are. Just say thanks and the more you learn to love yourself and your image, the more your self-esteem will build up and you will be much happier. The reason why you might not of gotten a boyfriend isn't because of your looks! You just have to find a guy that's really nice and introduce yourself to a lot of people. Are you shy? Just be fun and flirty. Don't comare yourself with other girls though because in the end you will ALWAYS think someone is better then you. Most girls do this. Don't be jelous of what they have because you might have something better. Don't allow your high school years to be bad. Have as much fun as you can and don't worry so much!

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okay well there is this guy and he's thought i have been hott forver and yeah i think he's cute too..but like we arent going out or anything but we wanna "do stuff" or at least makeout and stuff..but then he wants to finger me..and at first i said no..but then i have been thinking about it and i thought it would be kind of fun haha! I dont know what to do if he asks me? Because does it hurt to get fingered..or what happens. HELP PLEASE =) thank you!!

oh yeah im 15 and he's 15 lol

If you want him to do that, then go for it. Make sure his fingers are clean though :) lOl anyways. If you really want to, don't be scared. It shouldn't hurt you, it should feel good. Just relax and if you think it will be fun, make it!

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I was wondering which magazines write true stories..and which ones make them up..(ex: People magazine, InTouch, Life&Style, Star, etc) How do I know which magazine would be a waste of time to read?

Well, it's hard to tell because magazines are for intertainment and for the gossip. The celeberty stuff might be true and you NEVER know when to belive it. The new trends and the beauty things you can belive. Sometimes they do make up things to get your attention. Some magazines have real life stories so those are true.

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does it hurt to have sex the 1st time for girls?
will the guy leave you?
and im to scared to wear tampons so do you think it will hurt?


dont be a bitch.
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Everyone feels different for the first time. If your hymen isn't broken, it might hurt a little but you should feel good. The guy won't leave you though. If you moan, that would be a turn on for him. All guys understand that sex for the first time might hurt a bit, but don't worry. Using tampons is not painful at all! When you get them, just read theinstructions how to put them in right. It won't hurt & you won't even feel them.

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Me and my best friend,kay have been friends for 4 years and were totally close. Around Christmas, birthdays, or special occasions i tend to get big gifts. Like on time i bought her a green flower necklace ($20) and earrings ($10). At christmas i gave her a adult make up kit ($30) and her birthday this year i got her the black eyed peas cd (monkey business)($14), a unique black shimmering purse ($50), green 7up label shirt ($6) and a black shimmering belt($3) to go with the black purse. Then for her last year birthday i got her Nordstrom pajamas ($20-$30)and a piggy bank with her name panited on it ($40). Is that too much? But thats how i share my love for her. That's just the way i am i go a little over, but there neccessary. I hate if someone else got the gift i wanted to give her before me or i see something perfect and i don't get it. I don't really look at the cost that much. Everything i gave she liked because of her personality and the way she favored them. When she buys my gifts she feel there like 5 levels under mine. She doesn't have the money like my parents do, but i love and cherrish whatever she gives me. I love everything she gives me even if it was a damn peanut. I just the thought of her thinking about me. She wants me to tone it down. It will kill me! My mom even thought to give her a coach purse ($198- $300). I said no that's no what she would like that's something i would lik so. This is just the way i amd and my family we go overboard. Basically we go to the best stores for the gifts we know won't fall apart. I never had anyone complain about me giving them too much. She always talks about the cost all the time like a she's an adult and it gets annoying and takes the fun out of a few things. What should i do should i ddown size or just stay me? HELP ME (i rate high*)!!!!!!!!

Aw, you're such a nice friend!! I don't thing you are giving too much even though those were pricy things. The thing that counts is that you care about her and that you don't care how much it costs but she is your best friend and you want to get her something special. Just tell her that. I think it's really sweet of you though. It's the thought of getting something special and meaning it. Just explain to her that it doesn't matter about the price and that she is your best friend so you always want to give her something nice. ♥

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