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Am i too Giving!!!!
Me and my best friend,kay have been friends for 4 years and were totally close. Around Christmas, birthdays, or special occasions i tend to get big gifts. Like on time i bought her a green flower necklace ($20) and earrings ($10). At christmas i gave her a adult make up kit ($30) and her birthday this year i got her the black eyed peas cd (monkey business)($14), a unique black shimmering purse ($50), green 7up label shirt ($6) and a black shimmering belt($3) to go with the black purse. Then for her last year birthday i got her Nordstrom pajamas ($20-$30)and a piggy bank with her name panited on it ($40). Is that too much? But thats how i share my love for her. That's just the way i am i go a little over, but there neccessary. I hate if someone else got the gift i wanted to give her before me or i see something perfect and i don't get it. I don't really look at the cost that much. Everything i gave she liked because of her personality and the way she favored them. When she buys my gifts she feel there like 5 levels under mine. She doesn't have the money like my parents do, but i love and cherrish whatever she gives me. I love everything she gives me even if it was a damn peanut. I just the thought of her thinking about me. She wants me to tone it down. It will kill me! My mom even thought to give her a coach purse ($198- $300). I said no that's no what she would like that's something i would lik so. This is just the way i amd and my family we go overboard. Basically we go to the best stores for the gifts we know won't fall apart. I never had anyone complain about me giving them too much. She always talks about the cost all the time like a she's an adult and it gets annoying and takes the fun out of a few things. What should i do should i ddown size or just stay me? HELP ME (i rate high*)!!!!!!!!
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She probably feels guilty that you give her huge presents when she can't really do that for you.
If I were you, I'd tone it down a little bit. I know you like giving, but she seems to know how much you care about her and treasure her as a friend. Remember that.
Try buying her something small, or a few small things, and then making her something, like a card or a collage of pictures of you two together. It's cool getting stuff, but it's even cooler getting something that you know that someone put their heart into making. It makes the person feel special.
You're a true friend, not caring about what she gives you, but cherishing that they came from her heart. I'm sure she cherishes what you give her because they came from your heart, too. :o)
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥Manders
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You sound very sweet and thoughtful and I'm sure your friend loves you. But when she can't reciprocate and has mentioned that she feels badly about this you need to tone it down. It's not that you are doing anything wrong, but it bothers her on the inside.
Buy her one special reasonable present... like a $25 shirt you know she loves. Then do something together like cooking something special and watching a holiday movie. I bet spending time together is more meaningful for both of you.
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i would downsize it because your making her feel bad about what she gives you give her about that same amount of money she would pay on you.
hope i helped!!
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When you say down size, you really mean, your parents downsizing right? Because technically, you arent getting the gifts, your parents are.
Yes. I do believe you should downsize. That, or save up your own money, and add to what your parents off to pay, so you can buy better stuff.
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I don't think you can ever give too much. It shows that you do care, but at the same time..I can see why she might be embarressed about what she buys you. Maybe you should tone it down a little bit. But it's up to you, if she needs the things you buy her then I would continue spending whatever you do on her. And if you have the money, I don't see why not. hope this helped?
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Wow! that a lot of stuff. Okay you dont need to buy her all of that stuff.To show that you really care about her just be there for her when she needs you. yes you can buy her stuff but not that much. If she a truee friend then she would know how much you care about her
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Aw, you're such a nice friend!! I don't thing you are giving too much even though those were pricy things. The thing that counts is that you care about her and that you don't care how much it costs but she is your best friend and you want to get her something special. Just tell her that. I think it's really sweet of you though. It's the thought of getting something special and meaning it. Just explain to her that it doesn't matter about the price and that she is your best friend so you always want to give her something nice. ♥
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hey! well if i were you i would downsize your gift to her a lot. you can still get it from an awesome place, but give her something the same size as to what she would give you. you don't want to make her uncomfortable b/c of what she gave you. have a good christmas!
xoxohelpachick
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