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Q: what is a quick way to earn money? besides ponning, stripping, or prostitution. 15/f i need money quick. I've already done work for my mom and her boyfriend, but they have run outta things for me to do. I have a good bit of money saved up, but i need hell of a lot more.. any suggestions would help. Thanks! (I'll rate high)

baby sit , bag at a store , wash cars .

Q: everytime i get out of the shower my knees are all red and parts of my legs. why is this and is this bad?

the water in the shower may be too hot and if you ave sensitive skin it may be burning your legs makeing them red .

Q: At first I didn't really understand what ADD was. When I read one of Mary-Kate's quotes in a magazine saying "They give me extra time taking tests because of my ADD". I thought to myself "it does take me a long time to take tests also..." So I researched it and I realized what ADD was. I do have a lot of the symptoms, such as not concentrating on the simplest things, it takes a long time for easy things to register (things that used to be easy to register, is now not so easy), I often lose interest in things I once did, and become inconsistent, but I also have difficulty adapting to change. I sometimes don't finish homework assignments because I don't feel like taking the challenge, and lastly, I'll start doing things without looking at directions and I think I know how to do it, when I really don't.... do I have ADD?

Also, I told some of my friends, and just because "they get bored in class and don't feel like listening to the teacher", they think they have ADD. I TRY to listen to my teacher, or follow along with stories in class, but 5 minutes later, I'm thinking about something TOTALLY different, and lately, that "something totally different" is ADD and whether I have it or not. I feel like I have no one else to tell. I've told all my friends and they say "oh yea, I have it too!!" And they'll start laughing (not at me, just with me...only I'm not laughing...). I feel like no one is taking it seriously because many people joke around about ADD, but what should I do now if I really think I have it? I've told my mom, but I don't think she believes me either...

you may verywell have ADD... , over 45% of americans have it . you should go to your guidence counsler and she can refer you to a thyripist (sp) that can give you a test ... if you do have ADD you can get medicine for it . if your ADD is really a big problem you may get iep a specialized learning plan and they may give you extra time for tests . you dont have to tell anyone about it your teacher will recive a copy of the iep and you dont have to tell he teacher anything .

Q: Ok i really want to go to the movies today with my friend today becasuse its a snowday for me and my mom was like no you cant i dont want someone else driving you that far! And then i got really mad cuz shes just an overprotective evil and i told her i hated her(i really do) and now its so annoying cuz she doesnt understand 1 thing.!

Help me!!! i rate high

you are just mad .. you dont reallly hate your mom , shes overprotective because she loves you and you should understand that . its snowing so she doesnt want you to go far because it could dangerous because of the roads . just go to the movies another time .

Q: at the end of the day this one part of my hair always get greasy and i take shhowers everyday and it still gets greasy i use a good name brand of shampoo and conditioner to but it doesnt seem to help i even leave the conditioner in for 1-2 mins like it says on te bottle but nothing seems to work please help me!!!

if yu have greasy hair only use conditioner 1-2 times a week and you may want to get a dandrif shampoo because thoughs take the oil out

Q: I have darkish olive tan skin and really...I mean REALLY dark dark brown hair. But I want to change the color. I was thinking along the lines of WHITE blonde...I am dessparate for help! I rate! Thankx!

well dont imediatly dye it blonde because it will turn out red ... trust me i know ... i have black hair ... dye your hair a medium brown ... then light brown then dirty blonde medium blonde and so on wait every 2-3 weeks before you dye your hair again so your hair wont break as much ... if you cant wait go to a salon ... they'll strip your hair of all color then dye it the color you want

Q: I think it would be considered as molestation but..what are like some signs of maybe molestation?? My dad seems to be touching me just like a little more then he ever has..I mean not in my "places" but he will just rub my shoulders or something?? The other day he also told me I have very pretty green eyes(their like a mix but blue and green but anyways..) and I was like umm thanx?? (thinking uhh wtf?) So what im asking is do you know of any signs or anything that this is the beginning of umm "molesting??" Also is this the right "catergory" for this?? I'm just a little confused sorry.

your ada is not molestion you ... if he was molesting you he would have strang physical contact . your dad isnt doing anything that unusual he complemented you and rubed your sholders ... maybe he though you wanted you sholders rubbed

Q: my friend jessica is going out with some guy that is 27 and shes only 12(shes been sleeping with him too)!!! my friends and i keep telling her that its considered rape and that he probably wants her just cuz of her body and just wants her for pleasure, cuz what would a guy that old want with her? we tried to explain it to her a lot, but she wont listen...what should we do?

if your woried for her and know that this is wrong you must tell her parents .... you'll probably save her from getting into real trouble they'll handel it ... you may not want to but you have to ... this guy could kidnaper her or kill her ... he's nuts to be with a 12 year old he has issues .

Q: I want to be homeschooled next year, and I was wondering if anyone knew anything about it and if it costs alot or not? If someone was to be homeschooled, would they still have to take gym or no?

when your homeschooled it coasts anywhere between 500-1000 $ for the books and lesson plans . you dont have to take an elective but they may make you take a typing class like an elective . you must send all your work in and you must go to a center to take all your tests .

Q: I am 14/f and don't tell me i`ve made the biggest mistake of my life...i know i've made a mistake and i`m gonna follow my responsibilities. My boyfriend, who I have been with for 11 months, has been in jail for 6... he just got out and we really like each other you know? Well, while he was in jail-i had a little side thing...with a 16 year old black male...lets call him mike..me and mike really liked each other and did it a lot..but when we did it on the first day of my period-something happened. Last night, my stomach was hurting sooo bad while talking to my boyfriend. So bad that my mom took me to the emergency room. She decided to give me a pregnancy test..and it`s positive. I`m nervous and all and 6 weeks pregnate in the 9th grade... I have the money and skills to support it..but MIKE doesn`t want anything to do with it. My dad wants it aborted but I want it...my mom does too. What would you do in my situation? And how do i explain to my boyfriend who is trying to get his life back on track?

i would go to counsiling .... you did make a mistake and if "mike" doesnt want to support his baby then who needs him ? your other boyfriend in jail doesnt sound so good either .... most likely you'll be depending on your parents and not on mike or you other boyfriend . if you go to a counslier with your parents you may come up with a good idea that will benifit you your parents and especially the well fair of the child . .. you yourself is also a child with a life infront of you .... you could posibly have your baby and the baby could be adoptied and when you turn 18 you can see your baby if the child wishes to see you .

Q: ok well my mom just went away. she goes away every january andlast year she almost drowned twice!!! so i had this dream a month ago and i woke up crying because i thought she was dead, and it took me a while, and i really mean a while, to figure out it was a dream cause i thought it really happened. and i keep having these day dreams of her dying. idk whats wrong. please help me cause i don't want to be like going up to my mom saying "can i see a psychiotrist,i keep having day dreams of u dieing." so psychiotrist is out of the question. please help!!

sry bout the length!

your haveing these dreams because your mom almost drowned and its what you think about before you go to sleep ... its also because your mom is going away and you wont know whats happening with her all the time . there is nothing wrong with you ... if these dreams are really bothering you play some music when you go to sleep or read a nice book . if you really feel you need a psychiotrist's help then request to see a counslier at your school with out your mom haveing to know because they must keep what you say private ... you may even just want to join a club or like an art class to keep your self calm and not think about the subject all the time and your dreams might not be as bad ...

Q: Is it normal to be best friends with a girl you've known for half-a year?? This girl and I met in eighth grade this year, and I've become very attached to her. We're both best friends and we tell each other everything. We're like sisters. Is that normal to be this close after a short time??

yes

Q: hey i know you all know the feeling.. im bored out of my brains! im at work at the moment im filling in for someone as a receptionist on my school holidays.. im on the computer all day and i get REAL BORED does anyone know any entertaining sites that dont involve sound or sex..?

bored.com theres lots to do when your bored

Q: I am 17, 5'11' and 103lbs. I ont know what to do. I need to gain weight. I was just wondering if anyone could recommend anything for me. I am so skinny its disguting. Help Please!

well to gain weight you should get alot of fruit which will give you health sugar and drink alot of water .

Q: I have this boyfriend, he's 17 and I'm 14. My boyfriend's home situation and law situation aren't too good. He has outworn his welcome at my house because of my dad. My dad has tried to convince both of us to break up with eachother. How do I tell my father that I'm being responsible and love my boyfriend and age doesn't matter? Or is he right?
signed,
in need of help.

well i understand you like your boyfriend but your dad is right .. if his home situation and law situation aren't good your dad's only looking out for you . your dad doesnt want you to get in trouble or get hurt ... you may be responsible but then again your only 14 this guy is going to graduate soon and leave if his homelife isn't good and you'll probaly never see him again . you dad loves you and would never want you to get hurt ... please isten to your dad .

Q: My friend and I experimented with each other. Were both 13 and are both girls also. We kissed, french kissed, nibbled and felt on each other, but nothing "below the belt." I would just like to know does that mean were lovers if we don't have boyfriends? We never had sex before and we experimented, but not "below the belt." Does that mean were not virgins anymore? Help!!

its ok your still virgins and you only experimented ... some people do it and its ok ... this doesnt make you lovers either .

Q: How do you write something on a virgin mobile k9 phone on the main screen? like where it says Virgin Mobile and the time and stuff cause i wanna put my nick name there. Thanks.

on the menu screen go to settings then banner

Q: Ok I have a question?? I was at this party... and this guy was there and he waited until I was all messed up. I fell asleep and he woke me up and all the sudden I feel an arm goin around me! He wouldn't stop touching me when I told him to. I tried to move but he wouldn't let me! I told my friend and stuff and then I talked to his girlfriend about it and she doesn't believe me!! And then a couple days later I found out he was labeled as a sex offender before!! I wouldn't let anyone call the police cuz I didn't want to get involved in that! Now,to tell you he was 20 and I am 15 and the sick part is he was like my brother, he was a family friend and was always there for me. Tell me how come I miss him and still cry about what happened. Will someone please tell me what to do and I rate high! THANKS

you trusted him and you were close thats why you miss him . if he's a sex offender though you really do need to call the police because lets say he goes to a party with 13 or 14 year olds ... imagine how they will feel or if he's alone with a really little child who has no idea whats happening to them . you could probably stop what he's doing and then no one else will have to cry like you . if you really dont want to got to the police then i suggest you tell his parents even though he's 20 ... they may persuade him to get help or meds to stop him from doing these things .

Q: hey i need your help i just saw the guy that i lost my virginity too and havent seen for 5 months. He started flirting with me again and told me he never meant the stupid shit he said in the past. He then told me that i could call him whenever i wanted and if he ever hurt me again he would let me kick him where it counts. Then he said he loved me dont call me stupid or anything but i really love this guy. do you think he was just telling me that to get down my pants or somthing please help me i really am confused and it actually hurts realyl bad!

he must just be trying to get into your pants . if he really ment all thoughs things then why didn;t he contact you earlier ... i mean he just saw you and he may have figured your an easy target because if things dont go his way he can just see you ten months from now .

Q: i have the habit of bitting my nails. =( i dont want to bit them...but i cant stop! i would do anything to stop bitting them!!! i dont want to bit them anymore and everytime i try to stop i just can't stop myself from bitting them! PLEASE...if you have any ideas on how to stop, please tell me!!!

there's a special nail polish that tastes bad when you bte your nails or you can get fake nails and you wont really be biteing your nails and you can just let your nails grow out then take of the fake nails